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Two kinds of Christian Baptism confusion

Question Posted Friday January 5 2007, 11:54 pm

I grew up in an Episcopal Church and my husband of almost 2 years grew up in Church of Christ. We are both Christians, but why does there have to be many forms of baptism? I was poured upon as a small child and my husband was emerged when he was a young teenager. He accepts my beliefs but does not accept the way I was baptized. This is a big issue for me. Why would I want to be married to a man that does not accept fully me? Why would I want my children to grow up(when or if we have any) questioning me, "mommy why weren't you baptized?" Does this make sense to anyone? Has anyone went through this to know what I am talking about? If so, please give me advice or a way to show my husband that either way can be right.

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m_howard_651 answered Wednesday July 25 2007, 11:10 am:
well, both ways are correct, it only matters what the pastor said while doing it. "in the name of jesus christ i baptise you etc...." BUT IT MUST! be in the name of jesus christ. in the name of the father and the son etc... will not work. hope this helpes.

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TiffanyCroft answered Tuesday January 23 2007, 5:35 pm:
I am sixteen, but I've been a Christian since I was twelve. I am a member of a Methodist church, and I was given a choice of which way I wanted to be baptized: emersed, poured, or sprinkled. I chose to be poured upon. My preacher told me that all three forms are derived from the Bible, and that the Bible never said that the only way to be baptised was through emersion. Did you know that the Bible says that someone can be baptised for you if you die before being baptised? Of course, that means you have to be saved. . .but I'm pretty sure that if God would allow someone to take your place being baptised, He won't care how.

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opinionated06 answered Saturday January 6 2007, 11:16 pm:
Well, I'm Episcopalian as well, and I personally find it offensive when other Christians criticize how I was baptised. I don't think that this issue should necessarily ruin your marriage, but maybe instead of focusing on the differences, you and your husband can talk about how you both believe the same basic concepts of Christianity, just execute them differently.

A few years ago, this same topic came up in my family and my dad, who had never been baptised, decided to have a fully submerged baptism along with my little brother, who had been baptized in an Episcopal church. I toyed around with the idea of being baptised a second time, just to "be safe", but then I decided against it. The Bible clearly states in Romans 10:9 that if "you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved." He doesn't mention being baptized one way or another.

I disagree with mylordwon, however. Mark 16:16 says "Anyone who believes me and is baptized will be saved." Notice the AND is baptized, not "anyone who believes me THEN is baptized."

So, do I think it's important to be baptized? Yes, it's symbolic of a Christian entering the church. Do I think it matters how it's done? I don't think so, and God wouldn't want his church divided over something like that. I truly don't believe God is going to reject me at the gates of heaven because I was baptized as a baby, in a bowl, even though I am a strong believer and have accepted him as my Savior.
Good luck. :)

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spacefem answered Saturday January 6 2007, 11:11 pm:
I think your husband is pretty close minded. God cares what's in your heart, not what you do at church. Being baptized doesn't save you, it's a ritual, a motion, a physical thing. Sure, these things can by symbolic and bring us closer to God, but they're not what really matters in the long one. You should ask him the point of baptism and why it matters so much... in my church, it's basically a naming ceremony where the people around you promise to help you follow God, and it can be done to infants or adults, it doesn't matter. Later on when you make a conscious decision to join the church and follow God that's called Confirmation, and some churches think that's when baptism should happen but seriously, who cares? We're talking about logistics.

So ask your husband why this is such a big deal. If he's got a good argument and you agree with him, get baptized! Or sit down with your pastor and ask him to help you work it out. Either way, don't let him refuse to accept you or say you're not as good a Christian because of the baptism issue, it's not the most important thing.

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mylordwon answered Saturday January 6 2007, 6:01 pm:
It sounds like there is more to this than just the issue of baptism if you're questioning the stableness of your marriage, but since baptism is what you mentioned, this is what I will address.

I understand where you're coming from; I was there myself at one time. But I have to tell you, only one way is right.

I was baptized as a baby and for years was under the illusion that the act of baptism is what would get me to heaven. I don't know if that is what you're banking on, but salvation is by faith in Christ alone. We are not made Christians in being baptized with water. A person becomes a Christian when he/she chooses Jesus as Lord and Savior of his/her life. The Holy Spirit enters the person and goes to work in that person's life. I am going to assume that you know being a Christian means a person has a personal relationship with Jesus and I will address the baptism issue from there.

Baptism is a command from God as an outward EXPRESSION of the inward faith a person has in Jesus. It says in Mark 16:16 Anyone who believes me and is baptized will be saved. But anyone who refuses to believe me will be condemned. (CEV) This passage does NOT say "get baptized then believe sometime later". Belief comes first.

In Mark 1:5 it says, "From all Judea and Jerusalem crowds of people went to John. They told how sorry they were for their sins, and he baptized them in the Jordan River." (CEV) In order to truly know Christ, there needs to be repentance. So this is how it goes...belief (understanding the need for Jesus), repentance (turning from sin), baptism (the outward expression of this inward change).

I got baptized as a young adult after I understood this concept, but it was something that the Lord had to work out in me. If you look through the bible, there were no babies or small children baptized; they were blessed, but not baptized. My prayer for you is to truly seek the Lord on this issue and find peace.

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Helpful answered Saturday January 6 2007, 3:46 pm:
I was raised in the Mormon church. We believe that a person should be baptized by immersion by a person that has the proper authority to do so, someone who has the priesthood of God. If you are curious about this, you can go to or ask some missionaries. They can help you more than I can.

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egotrippn answered Saturday January 6 2007, 11:52 am:
Well let me tell all forms of baptism, are correct,I'm a catholic....When martin luther, broke away from the catholic church, way back, in the day he started the (church of england) (protestants)he made himself a the story was told, anyways from this order alot of "sub" you can say, episcopians, lutherans, so get where I'm going...anyways..hate to say this the extreme right wing of the church is "baptists" can find all this information on line just look under "church" or "church reform", but since your married, you both are "one", and for him to "JUDGE" you is wrong, and the bible says "THOU SHALL NOT JUDGE", so I really think you need to have a Heart to Heart talk with your partner, but look up all the information first and get it writing for you have a little more to on...Hope this helps you...

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Brandi_S answered Saturday January 6 2007, 11:33 am:
I was raised Methodist. Methodist baptisms are just a little water poured on your head. But it is still a baptism.
Your husband needs to understand, it isn't the amount of water, it is the idea and the faith behind it that matters.

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kweemee answered Saturday January 6 2007, 8:19 am:
I believe that the act of getting poured over with water or submerged is essential, but alone is not enough, you must believe in it at heart. People think that getting babtised as an aware conscious human (teenager or older) makes it more "correct" because it envolves a choice. Yet if you were babtised as a baby and now have chosen the same decision as if you were babtised as an adult, there is no difference. However, I believe that if you are babtised as a baby, yet grow up to NOT believe in Jesus as the Son of God and in his Salvation, then the babtism isn't going to save you.

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clh1993clh answered Saturday January 6 2007, 2:30 am:
I was baptised as a baby in christ luthran church. It does not technacally matter HOW you were baptized as long as you were baptized. the important thing is is that you are saved by christ and are a part of him and you believe.

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