If anyone wants advice I can give it. I have delt with friends who tried to commit suicide, who were anorexic and other tough issues.
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I'm atheist and i'm just curious what christians and creationists think about dinosaurs. like where they came from, when they lived, etc. Any christians ive asked about this just kind of avoid it (link)
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This is the view that a teacher of mine expressed, and I think that it could be true. When Adam and Eve were in the Garden of Eden, they were tempted by a 'serpent'(the devil). However, it could not have been just a 'serpent' because God punished it by taking away it's legs. Therefore, the animal would have looked like a snake with legs. Which, could have been a dinosour. Hope that helps.
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I grew up in an Episcopal Church and my husband of almost 2 years grew up in Church of Christ. We are both Christians, but why does there have to be many forms of baptism? I was poured upon as a small child and my husband was emerged when he was a young teenager. He accepts my beliefs but does not accept the way I was baptized. This is a big issue for me. Why would I want to be married to a man that does not accept fully me? Why would I want my children to grow up(when or if we have any) questioning me, "mommy why weren't you baptized?" Does this make sense to anyone? Has anyone went through this to know what I am talking about? If so, please give me advice or a way to show my husband that either way can be right.
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I am sixteen, but I've been a Christian since I was twelve. I am a member of a Methodist church, and I was given a choice of which way I wanted to be baptized: emersed, poured, or sprinkled. I chose to be poured upon. My preacher told me that all three forms are derived from the Bible, and that the Bible never said that the only way to be baptised was through emersion. Did you know that the Bible says that someone can be baptised for you if you die before being baptised? Of course, that means you have to be saved. . .but I'm pretty sure that if God would allow someone to take your place being baptised, He won't care how.
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today, the kid i like said he was moving. so i started crying like crazy. (he already knows i like him) but he was just kidding. now i made an idiot out of myself and his friends will tell him and they'll laugh at me. he probably did to because he knew that i would cry. what should i do? (link)
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I went through a very similar situation three years ago when I was in seventh grade. My best guy friend(who I'd just realised that I was crazy about) was having girl problems. He really liked this girl, but she didn't feel the same way about him. He wrote me a letter saying that he was going to kill himself because of her. I guess that you probably feel the same way that I felt that day. It turns out, the next day though, that he was just kidding. At least that's what he told me. And, I had cried over him. I felt like such and idiot for believing him.
First of all, you need to ask yourself why he would do something like that.
a. he is just a jerk and wanted to make you cry
b. he wanted to know how you felt about him, he wanted to see if you really cared
c. or he likes you and wanted to make sure that you liked him
Since I don't know this guy, I cannot answer that question for you. But, just know that it was a low down thing that he did to you. And I know that you cannot help who you like. But he really sounds like a jerk. Of course, I've managed to forgive the guy that put me in a similar situation, and we are still friends. Maybe you should just talk to this guy and see what his problem is.
Hope I helped,
TeeJay
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I just found out that my best friend's dad passed away today. I knew that he had some kind of cancer and she'd been visiting him in the hospital for some time now, I also know that she did NOT get along with him. I never met him because he lived in SC and her and her mom lived in NC. (they weren't divorced, it's actually kind of confusing) Anyway, I'm just not too sure what to say to her. We've been friends longer than I can remember and I know this must be tough for her. I've had some friends pass away, but the only family I've had pass away was my great grandmother and my sister- I was young when my great grandmother passed away and I wasn't even born yet when my sister passed away, so I don't know everything she's going through.
I was just wondering if anyone here lost a parent and what others said to you that was comforting.
I plan on telling here that I'm here for her no matter where I am or what time it is, and I will be there, but somehow that just doesn't seem like enough... I don't know, I'm just looking for some advice on what I can say and what would be comforting. Thanks in advance. (link)
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One of my best friend's mothers died in a car accident last year. I knew it was really hard for her, but I wasn't sure what to say. You should know that everyone deals differently with grief. Your friend may want company and comforting words. On the other hand, she may want to be alone. But, because you've known each other for so long and are so close, you should be able to discuss with her what she's feeling like. Hope I helped,
TeeJay
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My mother and me never had a 'great' relationship...she never was around when I was growing up, etc. Anyway so my grandma got sick and we're building a relationship.
I never do that good at school but this term I really want to. I have 5 days until test and to tell you the truth I haven't opened a book! I have about 3 weeks of exams and I really want to do and make my mum and myself proud.
See my mum is really pissed at me because I don't study and I'm online as soon as I arrive home. I know this is bad and I want to change...but the more I want to change the more I can't. So I was wondering the best way to concentrate on books and not the computer. Please DON'T give me a site because it really doesn't work. Jus tell me something that works for you... (link)
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Well, everyone studies in different ways. I really don't like studying all that much, but it's a lot easier if you make it fun. Studying with another person will make it more interesting. It's also good to think of dumb ways to remember things ( my friend Betsy is a master at this), because it will make studying easier and when you go and take the test you'll see a question and think about the dumb way you make up to remember it. Some people also like to listen to music when they study. I am one of those people. It really helps shut out the outside world. Or if that's too distracting, just sit in a quiet room. . . without a computer. Hope I helped!
-TeeJay
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It has been over 9 months maybe more since i have cut myself.. but lately i really dont care. But see im trying to open up to my friends about this situation. I can talk about it in a journal. i can do w.e but when it come to explainning i chicken out. My moms even worried bout me being all "depressed" and "stressed" is there a good way to calms down a bit. maybe? or just opening up..please i`ll rate 5 if its a good answer and not some fuck just playing around and asking dumb. this is serious... and im tired of peoples fucking stupid remarks. (link)
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I suggest writing a letter to yourself. Tell yourself all of the things that you want to get out into the open, such as the reasons you cut, and stuff like that. When you get it written down, put it away for a few days without reading it. Then, a few days later, take out the letter and read it. It will do a lot of good, trust me. . . or if you'd like to talk to someone, I'm always looking for someone new to talk to. Just email me at teejayvortex@yahoo.com Don't worry, I won't be all adviceish if you write.
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hey..i was just wondering i know dislexia is like a disorder with numbers b/c my mom has it, but i was wondering whenever i see llike a phone number or something and i try to say the numbers out loud they come out all out off order. like they are the same numbers but in a different order, even whem im like looking right at it. is that any form of dislexia? thanks for your help!!
*~jemmy~* (link)
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A form of dislexia that is assosiated with numbers is discalculia. . . basically, it's when you get numbers mixed up. You can make an appointment with your doctor, and they may be able to help. You might ask your mother about it, also. Hope I helped!
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16/f.... this may be a stupid question, but what are those people called that you talk to about your problems and you tell them everything and then they give you advice and everything is confidential. They do it for a living. Nothing SERIOUS is going on in my life (ex. I'm not pregnant, I don't go drugs, I'm not a lesbian, etc.), but I feel like I can't talk to my parents (about guys or whatever) I never have and I probably never will. I'm an only child and I've been the center of their lives for 16 years and I hate it. I always have...I wish I can share the spotlight with someone, but thats not going to happen. Sometimes I wish they didn't care about me AS MUCH as they do. I feel like I need to go see one of those people because I've kept so much inside of me all my life and now I think I need to deal with a professional who can help me. And I'm afraid of a lot of things (I always have visions of disturbing things in my head, but thats a different story). How can I tell my parents I need one of those people without hurting them? (link)
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well, there called Psychiatrists. It's perfectly normal in today's society to go to one, most normal people do. since your 16, you would probally go to an adolecent psychiatrist. Actually, i plan on being a child/adolecent psychiatrist when i graduate college. You can just tell your parents that there is nothing wrong with you, but you feel like you need to talk to someone. you could also confide in a councilor at school.
hope i helped
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Why do the moderators delete good questions? WTF? They leave up stupid ones like "I like a guy but he doesnt know...should I tell him?", but then when someone has a serious problem like the guy and his unruley brother they delete it? Advicenators needs to get its priorities straight and need to learn what questions stay and what goes. What do you all think? (link)
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when i scroll through the questions, all i see is love life questions, well, the reason i have a column on here is because i am going to be a child and adolecent psychologist or therapist when i get older, and i figured that this was good practice, but all i see are dumb questions , and it isnt helping at all........
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Okay one of my bffs dad hits her and her mom doesnt belive her..Shes havin alot of trouble with her bf..And shes think about alot of things..like she only has 1 reason to live..and all this i really need help this is really serious.. (link)
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you should tell her that she has more than one reason to live and about the hitting thing, she should tell her mother that if she dosent believe her that she will report it to the authorities.
hope i helped
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I hate life sometimes. I really wonder if i should just run away or kill myself. Why do i hate it so much, i'm only 12 and want to die. I don't cut and do shit like that but i'm so lost and dead. What should i do? (link)
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life is to short and important to think of ending it. there is no reason in the world that you should want to kill yourself. sure, it can be rough and hard but remember that it could always be worse!
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oh and if u wanna talk to someone you can email me at samgirl22003@yahoo.com
TiffanyCroft
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is there anyone that maybe could concider becoming my pen pal?I would like to have a boy pen pal and a girl pen pal.I would like to have another one by today if you guys could get me one. (link)
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i am always looking for a penpal, just email me at samgirl122003@yahoo.com i look forward to talking with you and if yu want i will give you my address
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i feel so young all my friends are turning 15 this year and i just turned 14!! were all in the same grade though. i just want to grow up to where in 16 so i can party and drive. my parents are so protective because im there only child and they dont want to lose me with all the murders and kidnappers and shit in the world. it upsets me. they think im still a little kid still and they treat me like im a little kid. does anyone feel this way what should i do?? (link)
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this also makes me really mad.......i am about to turn 14 and i get treated that way too. you see, i am in the eight grade, but i am taking Algebra1 which is a highschool subject, and they treat me so differently. my advice to you is just ignore them, they are not that much older than you! and if they dont stop then just shrug it off!
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hiii...umm, can anyone help me? i need to train my jack russell terrier (hel be one year on the 22nd) to stay away from my dad. every time he gets close to my dad, hell kick him, or hit him, or punch him, etc. I've watched this for too long and I can absolutely take it no longer. i mean like, my little dog means the world to me! i just love him alot and i want him to be happy. last time my dad hit him he stayed in the other half of our house in the corner all day, and he was crying. it will be hard to train him to stay away and this is gonna be hard. jack russells are very active, and mine loves everyone, unfortanitly. :-\..does neone have any advice? thank you (link)
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instead of training your dog maybe you need to
talk to your dad! if he feels the need to hit
a poor defensless animal then he has serious
problems!
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There's this guy that I think is really cute. Everyday at school he always looks at me. I don't know if he looks at me because he thinks I'm wierd or ugly, or if he looks at me b/c he likes me. If he did like me, I wouldn't even know how to approach him. HELP!! (link)
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Ok heres the thing, you cant really know what a guy is thinking, so..... maybe you should give him a little smile. if he smiles a genuine smile back then he prob. thinks ur cute, if he pretends to smile then gives a strange look to his friends then.......well......
hope i helped
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This year my mom gave me a budget for school clothes, only 500 dollars. Last year I got twice as much and this money includes clothes, shoes, accesories, bras and panties! I'm spending my money wisely but what should I spend the most on and where should I go?
I spent 200 bucks today and didnt get hardly anything... I went to Buckle, Hollister, and Gadzooks! I need fashion HeLp please!! (link)
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well i hate to be rude, but that is PLENTY!!!!!
if you want to buy more then make the money yourself!!!!!!
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Does anyone know any good quotes or songs that are about saying sorry or that say sorry in them. Im in a fight with one of my friends and i need something cause just plain saying sorry and it was a mistake isnt working. Any ideas? (link)
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poem-
when hard times come upon us ,it is easy to see just how much you really mean to me.
we've always been friends and hopefully always will, but lack of understanding, friendship it kills.
at night i wonder what went wrong, and i realize it was my fault all along.
so i plead and i beg for you to forgive, but without you i must live.
for what i have done is of consequence, and you havent spoken to me since:
the day that our lives went wrong and turned rough, sometimes sorry isnt enough.
by tiffany croft
i just wrote that.
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A lot of people judge people by their looks and not by their personality. i used to do that too. i realized you arnt going to become a better person and your not going to meet people by judging other people by their looks. It makes me want to cry how i am experecing this. I realized i have been doing that too. i told some people about this person awhile back whom i liked. he wasn't the greatest looking person and the people i told knew that. when i told them, they all looked at me in discuss. that night i reconsidered liking him because of what he looked like and how dorky he was. Now i could have become really good friends with that cretin guy, but because of people and myself judging him, i am not friends with him. Everyone will not notice this, but every look you give a person, if its bad it will bring him/her down. just think about it. How would ypu fee; about it, people making fun of the way you look, or the cold looks you get every day when you walk down the halls. you see every popular boy and girl with someone, having un. Then you see yourslef looking at them wishing you were them. Christina Auhulara has inspired me to write this paragraph, Her song "Beautiful" is a great song. I hope some day you will listen to this song and think the same this i do.
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hi! i am so glad that someone has finally brought that up! People who judge people by how they look are probably insecure about themselves. I am in the same situation. I have liked this boy for 5 months. He isnt that cute and hes sort of goofy. But to me that dosent matter. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and if people cant accept that then forget them.
I have told people who judge by looks that if they were looking for someone beautiful and perfect that would make them happy that they should look deeper that outer appearences and if they didnt then they would end up old and alone and regret that they were shallow in the first place. hope this helps
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hey well my prob is...well i think im starting to like my bestfriend's ex. like she's told me that she wouldnt care who he went out with but she still would want to know whats going on with him and all. she doesnt know i like him or anything i want her to know but i dont know how id tell her. and like I have a boyfrend and i dont wanna break up with him. her ex seems to be flirting back with me and all he has a g/f but shes kinda cheating on him and he doesnt know. i wouldnt know if he would wanna go out with me, i have a boyfriend that i love till death and i dont know how to get rid of the feeling that i like my bestfriend's ex. so yeah what do i do (link)
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kinda the same problem here.
my best friend went out with this gy who was 15 they went out twice and when he asked her out for the thrid time, i got kinda jealous. maybe it was because i liked him or because she could have a boyfriend and i didnt. so you need to find out if you like him ore just want a boyfriend before you do anything else.
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k soo ..i kissed my best friend and i want to do it again but he gut a girll who is older than him ..but i dont like her that much..but still..its funn..and i think i like him..do i keep doing it? (link)
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The saying is best friends make best boyfriends.
If you really like him than tell him.
If you dont like him and just like kissing maybe you should get a boyfriend.
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