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13/f. catholic death trap of a school. my life is so fucked up. my life is like the song shut up by blink 182. everything i hate everything but i love my friends. im so deppressed when im at home or anywhere without my friends i would kill myself without them. me and my bff were gona run away but it got messed up. i love black i just dont feel like myself in anything else. my parents are against everything i wear do and act. i just got in with all the gothic kids. my mom HATES all of them shes makin my life even more fucked up. i was in the preps but i started hating it so now im sooo deppressed. ive never had a bf and im madly in love with my bff hes a guy. but i cant have my best friend over cuz hes a guy and she found out i liked him he used to come over none of them can come over because their gothic. i can not cry i just cant not even when everyones been dieing. but im so deppressed. i only love my 5 bffs and one is a preppy guy who i love and he loves me like bf gf and hes been wearin alot of black lately so does that mean something like between us hes my bff and i want him to be my bf but i dont wana ruin being bffs. i hope it wasnt that confusing i have alot on my mind. please dont delete this question i really need help and i cant right it again. and its not just a phase.
1 is it bad i hate my family and cant stand anyone other than my bffs.
2 how do i get my parents to leave me alone about everything.
3 whats so bad about havin your best friend(s)over.
4 we both no we love eachother but i cant make the first move but im not shy around guys at all.
5 and please answer anything else i forgot
omg please help me (link)
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1. Well, yes and no. I think your parents love you and are concerned about your well-being. They're worried about the group of kids you're hanging out with, and how they're going to influence you. That may seem judgemental, but they have every right to want to protect their daughter and make sure she is hanging out with the best possible group. I would try to look at the situation from their perspective, as if this were your daughter and you were the parent. Does this change your mind at all about the way you think of them?
2. Well, I don't know how to get them to leave you alone about "everything". That would be a pretty lonely life if your parents never asked you about your day, wouldn't it? As parents, it's their responsibility to monitor the people you hang out with, so back off a little bit and let them do their job, even if you don't like it. They're not doing it to annoy you, just to protect you! But I would talk to them about it first. Say, "Mom and dad, I really don't like it when you get on my case about ____. If I do _____, will you give me a little bit more freedom with _____?" Come up with a compromise, and hear what they have to say. This will give you a time to express your frustrations with them as well.
Okay, this is getting kind of redundant so, maybe you get the idea. Also, at 13, it's easy to want to form your own identity. That's why a lot of preteens go through the "prep/goth" stage. The older you'll get, though, the more you'll realize how silly all those stereotypes are, and that it's okay to be friends with anybody, no matter what they wear or what their favorite color is. Be yourself, and don't conform to one side or the other. You'll be happiest that way. Dress in a way that is honorable to yourself and portrays you as the great person you are. What you wear says a lot about your personality, so think about what your clothes are saying about you. I know that sounds judgemental, but that's just the way it is.
Good luck! On the bright side, this is probably just a stage. We've all been there, so don't stress about it. Every teenager has a time in their life where they hate their parents, hate a certain "group", wear certain clothes, and want to rebell. If there's anything else you need advice on, just holler! :)
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This weekend at a church event, I accepted Christ. It was quite amazing, my leaders and friends helped so much, but now the weekends over and I'm not sure what to next. I talked to a few people who recommened baptism, but I don't feel like that is what I really should do, not yet anyways. I attend a church on occasion with my mom, but my family isn't religious, which makes me wanting to be a stronger Christian difficult. I havent told my parents about being saved yet, I'm unsure of their reactions.
So, what should I do now? How do I start to help my relationship with God grow? How do I explain to my parents whats going on? Is there anything I should know? (link)
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Someone has asked a question like this before ... so I am just going to c/p the answer I put. But if you have any more questions, feel free to ask me! :)
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This is a very good question. I think some people can be very overwhelmed by this thought, and sometimes it's hard to know "What's the next step?"
I don't know your background, but the first thing I would do is surround yourself with other Christians. Join a church if you haven't already. Meet other Christians your age that are dealing with the same things you are and can help hold you accountable for your actions as well as guide you in your walk with Christ by telling you the things that they've learned along the way. This is possibly the best thing you can do, because you'll be able to grow in your faith, avoid temptation in a positive environment, and you can meet new people with the same beliefs as you.
Is there anything in your past that you're ready to hand over to God? Drinking, drugs, porn, sex, cussing, lying, stealing, etc. He's ready to take those burdens away from you if you let him. When you pray, just ask God to provide you with the resources and the guidance from other Christians to start building up a new life in Christ and for him to take control of all your sin. It's so much easier to start living your life for Christ once you feel like you've laid all your struggles out in front of him and you don't have to deal with them on your own anymore.
PRAY, PRAY, PRAY! It's awkward at first, I know, I've been there. Just have conversations with God. Start replacing time on your computer or time watching TV with a few minutes just with God. Depend on him fully, and keep your heart open for ways that he speaks to you. A relationship with God is a growing process, but you can't grow unless you're willing to. Go in a quiet place where there aren't any distractions and just talk to God like you'd talk to a friend or a parent. Read your Bible. Study verses and see what sticks out at you or what you could take from those passages and apply to your own life.
Being a Christian really is kind of a lifestyle change, but it's a good one. There's nothing better than knowing you have the smartest, most loving guy on your side 24/7 whenever you need him. :) But for me personally, praying and surrounding yourself with other Christians is the biggest one for me. I think those things will help you greatly with your walk. :) Good luck! :)
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heeyy! i reallyyyy need to know how to say "i want you" or better yet "no one will ever want you like i do" in spanish! can anyone help me! /cause babelfish messes it up/ thx"
so basically, to sum it up:
how do you say "baby, no one else can ever want you like i do" in CORRECT spanish?
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"I like you."
"Estoy enamorada con tigo (TEE-goh)."
"Nadie (NAH-dee-ay) puede desearte (des-ay-AR-tay) como yo te deseo."
"No one else can ever want you like I do."
I don't know how they say Baby in Spanish, other than bebe (bay-BAY) which is like an infant. Ha. But here are some common "pet names" in Spanish ...
Mi Angelito: my angel
Mi Corazon: my heart
Mi Amor: my love
Mi Todo: my everything
Mi novio: my boyfriend
EDIT: Don't say what nadine put ... you'll look like an idiot. :) Good luck sweetie!
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okay i know that im pretty. but it only really shows when i get back from school (like for some weird reason i look best after school then when i did in it) and in the summer. i have wavy blonde hair and blue eyes and im skinny. i have a rash thing tho on my arm that i so need to get rid of. (any ideas?) i work out so im not fat or anything but like i never had a boyfriend and im like 13. i know people havent had bfs who are older then me but still... and like i desperatly need a bf becausee people at school think im a lez. which.. im so not. im really shy at school so maybe thats why i cant get a bf? out side of school im really loud and stuff && guys lovee me from other towns and ask me out all the time (i turn them down) but in school. no. i am so quite. and im popular like with people in other schools but.. not mine. so. yeah. i wanna be popular at mine =[
adviceee!
&& you know what is they gayesttt? like girls at my school can be like ugly. but get a bf. im the what the freakkk. and like.i really picky tho. so thats probably a reason. ha (link)
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First of all, you're 13! There is no reason you need to be stressing out about not having a boyfriend. Just think about it this way: Would you rather have your first boyfriend be any old guy when you were 13, just because you were desperate, or wait a couple years and find an amazing guy instead? Who wants to look back and think, "Yeah, I definitly gave into peer pressure. I wish I would have searched a little harder for a great first boyfriend." You can only have one first BF and one first kiss, so think about how you want those memories to be!
I'm sure you're just as pretty and sweet as you say you are, so let the guys come to you! (Even if it takes a little longer.) My friend used to tell me this all the time back in middle school, because trust me, I was right in your shoes! Girls are like apples on an apple tree. All the rotten ones fall to the ground first, and all the lazy guys go for those ones first because they're easy to reach and don't take much work. But the real guys, the extra special ones, will take the time to climb to the top of the tree and find the best apples! It may sound cheesy now, but think about it! Don't rush these things, and never ever let anyone make you feel inadequate for not having a boyfriend at THIRTEEN! You've got so many more years ahead of you girl. :)
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what is the fastest way while on antibiotics to get better from strep throat? (link)
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Hmm.. well from my experience just getting a lot of rest and washing your hands often. Avoid other people who are sick. Or even who are not sick. They wouldn't appreciate getting strep throat from you. Don't eat/drink anything carbonated or acidic. Get your vitamin C. And suck on lots and lots of cough drops. Feel better! :)
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I've been contemplating becoming a Catholic missionary priest for quite some time. I'm scared to tell my friends and family that this is what I'm going to do. I'll be leaving a lot behind, but I feel called... (link)
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Absolutely! If this is what you feel God calling you to do, then you must obey Him and trust in his plan 100%, even if it becomes difficult. Pray for guidance and for him to show you His will in your life. You won't regret listening to God!
Good luck! :)
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So I have a pretty good relationship with my Lord and Savior- Jesus Christ. A strange (but not bad) thing happened to me back in september- and I have yet to figure out why He did this.
This is what happened: I was 13 over the summer- and I spent the whole time crying because I was single and I felt unloved and unworthy of having a relationship. I was praying for a boyfriend a lot too. I felt God speak to me and tell me that he would send me a nice boy who was new to my theater group (that starts in september) who would hit on me. He didn't lie- because on the first night of the class this amazingly attractive and nice 17-yr-old guy told me I was pretty and he asked for my number. I felt like I was dreaming. He called me later that night and started talking to me and we were setting up a date and then he told me how he had Asberger's Syndrome.
So, my point is- I don't see why God would send me such a perfect man exept for his mental disorder. When we figured out it wouldn't work out- it left me in the worst depressed state. I turned to alcohol as well.
I'm confused.
If anyone has any ideas- they'd be greatly appreciated. (link)
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I actually had to do a little research on what Asberger's Syndrome was-- I'd never heard of it. This is a really interesting story, I actually had something very similar happen to me last year. I admire you for opening up about your concerns -- good for you!
First of all, I'm not sure that God had a 17 year old in mind for a 13 year old girl. I'm not God, and I've yet to figure out how he works-- I never will -- but is it possible that God put this guy in your life for a reason other than to be your boyfriend? I think sometimes we have this narrow plan in our minds for what we want God to do in our lives, forgeting the whole time that God can do whatever he wants, and that our desires aren't always his will. Maybe this guy is here to be a friend to you, maybe he's here to teach you about his condition. Who knows, maybe because of him you'll go into medicine and discover the cause of Asberger's? Maybe you're the kind of person he needs to help him cope with his problems, or maybe you'll discover that he'd be a great boyfriend to one of your friends. Who knows. My advice is keep an open mind and continue praying for God to reveal his will to you and that you can do your best to follow his plans for your life. Remember that God is in control and everything he does is for a purpose-- so trust that it will end up being for the best, whether or not it is what you had in mind.
With prayer, God will give you guidance with this guy, and help you with your drinking. Pray for this guy too. I'm sure he could use it. What better way to show love for someone than to pray for them?
If you have any other problems you need advice on, please ask me. :)
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EDIT: I just wanted to correc what the poster above me said. He said that God isn't Santa, he only gives you what you need, not what you want. Psalm 37:4 says "Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart." Will God give you everything you ask for? No, it's not always good for you. But God is a loving God who likes to see his children happy, and to do whatever is in their best interest. So never hesitate to ask God for what you want-- he'll do what's best for you.
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i am 14/f and a Christian.
i am so scared right now. i believe in god and i love going to church and it makes me want to be a much better person, but when i hear people talk about their doubts of god, i get scared. i mean, what if they are right? i cry when i think what if he doesnt exist because i am just so unsure, but i love god and i want to believe that he cares about us all. i am so so scared and i could never be an atheist or whatever.. can someone please give me advice? (link)
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It's perfectly normal to be anxious about your religion or have doubts once in awhile. I have two answers for you, a more logical one and a more spiritual one. Okay, so the logical answer -- Say Christianity doesn't exist at all. Just hypothetically speaking. So you've given your life to a God that doesn't exist... no harm done right? Most other major religions require a good life and good deeds in order to go to "heaven", so as long as you're not going around killing people, you're pretty much safe. I know a lot of Christians won't like this answer, but sometimes it's the kind of comfort people need. It's hard belonging to a faith in which you don't have all the answers and you won't until you die.
But on a more spiritual level-- ask God to calm your heart and prove to you that He exists. He won't ignore your prayers. Your question is exactly what makes faith difficult, and why so many people take the easy way out and become atheists or agnostics because they're too scared to trust their souls with something so big but so mysterious. So continue praying, reading your Bible, and trusting that God will give you the answers you need in His time. Good luck! :)
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hey i'm going to middle school next yer and i'm freaking what's going to happen between me and my friends. Are boys going to start likeing me and those school dances. I can't take it i'm so scared what's going to happen to me help please. (link)
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It's completely normal to be nervous, don't worry about it! The good news is that even though you're worried about next year, your friends and every other 5th grader is too and you guys can go through it together! But there's really nothing to be worried about, you'll love middle school. You get to know yourself and other people a little better and you don't have all the stress & pressures of high school. Like the advice below me says ... just have fun with your friends, make good grades, and stay out of trouble. ;) If boys start liking you, it's okay! It's part of growing up. You don't have to do anything you don't want to. There will be 6th grade girls that think they have to have 8 boyfriends throughout the whole year, but 6th grade is a little too early to start worrying about boys, in my opinion. And school dances are a blast, so definitly go with a group of friends, even if you don't want to dance with a boy! Have fun, good luck! :)
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16/f
Firstly, I am Catholic. In the bible it says it is a sin to sleep with a man that you are not married with. I have a boyfriend, and once in awhile I will sleep over at his house and we will sleep in the same bed. WE DO NOT HAVE SEX, but we "sleep" together. So, is it considered a sin to do this because he is not my husband? I am just really confused. (link)
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Well I can't think of any specific verses that address your question, but it's very likely they're in there. There are so many Bible stories dealing with infedility and sexual temptation -- people faced this problem in biblical times too!
But as a Christian, I don't think there's anything good about what you're doing. For one thing, this is a practice (I guess, for lack of a better word) reserved only for marriage. This kind of intimacy should be saved for you and your husband! Not only that, but sleeping with your boyfriend really will just tempt both of you to go even a step further. Just think how easy it would be to "cross the line" in that situation, so to speak. I really don't understand why you would want to jeopardize your purity like that... I just don't see any reason to sleep with your boyfriend! So my advice is enjoy each other's company - awake - and do other things together that will cause you much less sexual temptation. Good luck! :)
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why do girls, uhm dont take this the wrong way...seem to always tend to take better care of themselves than guys...seriously? (link)
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Girls naturally care about their appearance. Plus we're pretty vain. Guy's like to look bulky and muscular, girls like to look pretty and bathed. ;) Actually, I've seen this study almost 3x already that girls tend to look better / care more about their appearance when they're ovulating ... who would have known? :)
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for lent i am giving up myspace
but i dont think i will be able to keep that "promise"
yikes .
iono
so what are u all giving up ?? (link)
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I'm not Catholic but I love doing Lent anyway. I'm following the "Daniel fast" (Daniel 1) where you don't have meats or sweets during Ash Wednesday, Good Friday, and every Friday after that. It's only the first day and it's a lot harder than I thought! :) Good luck with your MySpace ... you will benefit greatly from that!
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sorry about not knowing what subject to put it under,, its kind of a random question. Ok so I am in middle school and am an OK student. I am the defintion of basic, ordinary teen. I am in the basic teen rut. Nothing special ever happens. I do,though, have one talent that sets me apart. I can write poetry. PLEASEEEE understand i am not trying to brag! In school when we have to write poetry, teachers are amazed. The thing is that i really, really like writing poetry. I feel great after i do. (My friends are not big on poetry, but they dont make fun of me for it or anything) The problem is that my life is so boring i have no inspiration for my poems. I can only write when i am inspired (I know it sounds stupid). Lately my poems have been the only things keeping me happy (I've been depressed--i dont know why) Please help me. HOw do i get out of the rut? How do i find insperation?
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Use your friends for inspiration! That's what I do when I write. :) Put yourself in their shoes for a minute and write about their life, their secrets, their goals, their drama, whatever. Because you can get kind of boring after awhile. :) Or you can pick a quality of one of your friends and write about that. This works with anything really ... celebrities, your family, your pets, who knows what you'll think of. ;)
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Sooo can any one explain to me exactly WHY Britney Spears shaved her head?
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She's a nutcase whose life is in a downward spiral...?
Well I have heard theories too that her weave/extensions were too tight and were hurting, and then there's some people that say all the hair dye and chemicals were burning her scalp and making her go bald in some spots so she just wanted to shave it all off ... but I'm going with the first one. :)
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What does the term 'Liberal' when used politically mean to you? I'm doing research for a paper and want to gather varying opinions on the subject. Any answer will be excellent. (link)
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Sick and backwards. For example -- it's perfectly ethical to kill unborn babies but not serial killers or penguins in the Arctic?
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tonight im meeting my potential boyfriends parents!
i dont want to give them the wrong impression, but i dont want them to think im a prude or anything.
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YOU DON'T WANT YOUR BOYFRIEND'S PARENTS TO THINK YOU'RE A PRUDE??? I don't know what kind of family he comes from but last time I checked a guy's parents don't want to think he's dating a slut. Look classy and be polite. Goodness.
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is there anything i can find around my house to maybe get rid of my zits and make them stay gone!!
they keep coming back and more of them then i had before. I wash my face all the time to try and stop this insane stuff!
please if you have any idea how to stop them or get rid of the majority of them tell me!!
is there anything around my house?? (link)
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Some people say toothpaste works but it hasn't really done anything for me. Red wine vinegar also works wonders -- I swear by that stuff. I put it on one time and I could notice a difference in 5 minutes. Wow that sounded really cheesy. Just use it when you're in an emergency though, it basically just dries out the zit really quickly and isn't good to use all the time. Also, ice cubes are good to decrease the redness if you hold one on there for a couple of minutes. :)
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whats difffrence between catholic and christian (link)
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I think I just got a headache from reading that post below me.
Well, I tend to be a little idealistic with these things but I like to believe that Catholicism is just another denomination of Christianity, like Baptist or Methodist or Presbyterian or something. They have a lot of practices and traditions that aren't found in other areas of Christianity. Christians as a whole just need to believe the core concept that salvation is attained by baptism and accepting God as your savior, and whatever else they do is up to them. A lot of churchy people that I talk to get so wrapped up in denominations and who is better or more legitimate than who, and frankly, it's a bunch of crap. We just need to be tolerant of each other and our practices and live within the body of Christ and let our similarities unify us rather than get all wrapped up in our differences.
Whew I didn't mean for that to turn into a sermon. Well that's my answer. :)
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ok so after you've given your life to him, and asked for forgivness, and decided to live your life for him, WHERE DO YOU GO? what do you do? how do you start living your new life? im confused :S (link)
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This is a very good question. I think some people can be very overwhelmed by this thought, and sometimes it's hard to know "What's the next step?"
I don't know your background, but the first thing I would do is surround yourself with other Christians. Join a church if you haven't already. Meet other Christians your age that are dealing with the same things you are and can help hold you accountable for your actions as well as guide you in your walk with Christ by telling you the things that they've learned along the way. This is possibly the best thing you can do, because you'll be able to grow in your faith, avoid temptation in a positive environment, and you can meet new people with the same beliefs as you.
Is there anything in your past that you're ready to hand over to God? Drinking, drugs, porn, sex, cussing, lying, stealing, etc. He's ready to take those burdens away from you if you let him. When you pray, just ask God to provide you with the resources and the guidance from other Christians to start building up a new life in Christ and for him to take control of all your sin. It's so much easier to start living your life for Christ once you feel like you've laid all your struggles out in front of him and you don't have to deal with them on your own anymore.
PRAY, PRAY, PRAY! It's awkward at first, I know, I've been there. Just have conversations with God. Start replacing time on your computer or time watching TV with a few minutes just with God. Depend on him fully, and keep your heart open for ways that he speaks to you. A relationship with God is a growing process, but you can't grow unless you're willing to. Go in a quiet place where there aren't any distractions and just talk to God like you'd talk to a friend or a parent. Read your Bible. Study verses and see what sticks out at you or what you could take from those passages and apply to your own life.
Being a Christian really is kind of a lifestyle change, but it's a good one. There's nothing better than knowing you have the smartest, most loving guy on your side 24/7 whenever you need him. :) But for me personally, praying and surrounding yourself with other Christians is the biggest one for me. I think those things will help you greatly with your walk. :) Good luck! :)
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EDIT: I've been reading the other posts and PunkieFreak said something about keeping your prayers brief and vague .. ? There is absolutely nothing in the Bible that supports that statement. In fact, God tells us to "pray constantly". He wants to know our thoughts, our needs, and our desires and he wants to talk with us in prayer. Be specific. Pour out your heart and pray as long as you need to. Trust me, I think God has enough time to hear you pray for as long as you need to -- he's been managing the whole earth pretty well by himself for millions of years. Jeremiah 42:3 says "Pray that the LORD your God will tell us where we should go and what we should do." Prayer is YOUR OPPORTUNITY to connect with God, so take advantage of it. :)
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how would you describe a good person (in detail) because i really want to become one, but don't know where to start ?! (link)
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Well, this is an interesting question to me. I am going to try to explain it the best I can, but if my thoughts don't connect all the way, well, bear with me. :)
I don't believe that there are any "good" people out there. Yeah, there are people who donate money to charity and help little old ladies across the street, but the only truly "good" person was Jesus. People are all sinners, even though some peoples sins may seem "worse" than others. All people are wayyy below God on the "holy scale", and that's the bottom line. God doesn't care who has done more community service than the next person. Now I've put kind of a spiritual spin on this question, which I have a feeling isn't the kind of answer you were going for. But it's a different perspective. God loves all people equally, and doesn't categorize them into good and bad people. But having said that, he is pleased when people treat each other with love. Giving, receiving, and having love to me is as close to being a "good person" as you can get, and is the closest we as human beings can get to living your life as the ultimate perfect person, Jesus. Does this meet the world's standards? Maybe, maybe not. I think the world has a different definition of a good person than God does. To God, I don't believe there is any better thing you could do than demonstrating love. Loving God, loving others, and loving yourself (in that order) is God's commandment in the Bible. So if you're looking for a starting place, that's where I'd go. All you need is love. ;)
If you want to ask me more specific questions I might be able to help you a little bit more. Just let me know! :)
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