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becoming a better person
how would you describe a good person (in detail) because i really want to become one, but don't know where to start ?!
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You may not suspect... But you just asked a very philosophical question.
You have just asked everyone to define what qualities make a person "good." I'm warning you... You are going to receive a million different answers. And I will also tell you that you can try... But you will not be able to live up to even one of those answers.
Why? Because... "Good people" and "bad people" do not actually exist. You, me, everyone... We all have good qualities, we all have bad qualities, and with each decision we make... We change. We are both good and bad, constantly and simultaneously.
I can promise you that in your lifetime, you will do great things... Though your great works may never be realized. But you will love someone, help someone... You will touch lives, if even only on the smallest scale. You will also screw up on a frequent basis. You will make mistakes. You will hurt other people.
Before you start to feel depressed... Hear me out. All of this is to be expected. Such behavior, both positive and negative, are part of the human condition. That's just life. No one is perfect. Instead... We are all perfectly imperfect. Our flaws are an important part of who we are... Because it is our flaws that make us all different, our flaws that allow us to make mistakes... Mistakes that are valuable, because we can learn from them.
So... My advice is... Don't get caught up in trying to be good, or trying to be bad. And never ask someone else what you should be. If you are going to try to be anything... Try being yourself. And if you let anyone tell you what you should be, let it be one person. You.
BTW... You know why I think you're asking this question? I think you're asking because you're insecure. It's okay to be insecure, everyone is to varying to degrees... And I think there is something noble to be said for being able to abmit that you aren't perfect. But don't let you're insecurity rule your life. You are a beautiful person. Believe in yourself.
So... Bottom line: Don't ask others to define what a "good person" is. Instead, ask yourself and think long and hard about your answer. And once you've found you're answer, try to be that. But even while you're trying... Don't be afraid to make mistakes. Mistakes are important. And don't beat yourself up when you do make a mistake. Instead, ask yourself what you can learn from your own actions. And know, and be proud, that you have taken one more step towards becoming what you want to be. Remember that you can be anything or anyone you want to be... And never let anyone else convince you otherwise. Never let anyone else tell you what you should be... Because if you do, you're living for them and not for yourself. And life is far too short to live for anyone else but you.
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Well, this is an interesting question to me. I am going to try to explain it the best I can, but if my thoughts don't connect all the way, well, bear with me. :)
I don't believe that there are any "good" people out there. Yeah, there are people who donate money to charity and help little old ladies across the street, but the only truly "good" person was Jesus. People are all sinners, even though some peoples sins may seem "worse" than others. All people are wayyy below God on the "holy scale", and that's the bottom line. God doesn't care who has done more community service than the next person. Now I've put kind of a spiritual spin on this question, which I have a feeling isn't the kind of answer you were going for. But it's a different perspective. God loves all people equally, and doesn't categorize them into good and bad people. But having said that, he is pleased when people treat each other with love. Giving, receiving, and having love to me is as close to being a "good person" as you can get, and is the closest we as human beings can get to living your life as the ultimate perfect person, Jesus. Does this meet the world's standards? Maybe, maybe not. I think the world has a different definition of a good person than God does. To God, I don't believe there is any better thing you could do than demonstrating love. Loving God, loving others, and loving yourself (in that order) is God's commandment in the Bible. So if you're looking for a starting place, that's where I'd go. All you need is love. ;)
If you want to ask me more specific questions I might be able to help you a little bit more. Just let me know! :)
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Everything the person said below me is great, but there's one thing I really want to stress:
Gossiping and bullying. Don't do it, no matter what. I know it seems like a given, but it's really important. I know someone who was picked on a lot and finally commited suicide. You'd think that one remark wouldn't hurt, but really, it could just be the straw that breaks the camel's back.
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Somebody who doesn't think of themselves first and makes sacrifices for others' well being,
no one is perfect but I think..
1) You should set a goal for yourself, do more nice things every day you get closer to your goal.
2) Follow the commandments, WWJD!
3) Encourage others' and what they're trying to do. Unless it's dangerous, then you need to tell someone, that can help. Don't keep bad secrets.
4) Try to keep your temper low.
5) Relax and have like 10 minutes to yourself every day, just so you can sort out your thoughts, and clear your mind to help you relax. It will help you be a little bit more low maitenence and every little bit adds up! Be forgiving and generous.
6) Do some volunteering at an animal shelter, or a soup kitchen. Or even do community service. Enter a food drive for the poor people. When you do something nice for others, your reward isn't always something done nice for you in return, but the reward is the great feeling you get.
7) Be honest, and try not to lie.
8) Be loyal.
9) When something feels wrong, that's your conscience telling you not to do it. Guilt...not a good feeling!
10) Take every day, one step at a time so you don't get discouraged.
And finally..
11) Keep a decently and reasonably high confidence with self-esteem. And don't gossip!
And don't seek revenge. Vengeance is bad.
Don't get overly jealous either...
And lastly...: Trust, the thing that makes the world go 'round. Don't trust someone you just met, but try to make it seem like somebody can trust you, and follow through with it.
Good luck, ~Remembrance~
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these go along with becoming a better person, even though thats not really your question haha
Compliment three people everyday.
Watch a sunrise.
Be the first to say "Hello."
Don't waste an opportunity to tell someone you love them.
Treat everyone as you want to be treated.
Never give up on anybody; miracles happen.
Forget the Jones's.
Remember someones name.
Pray not for things, but for wisdom and courage.
Be tough-minded, but tender hearted.
Be kinder than you have to be.
Don't forget that a persons greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated.
Keep your promises.
Learn to show cheerfulness even when you don't feel it.
Remember that overnight success usually takes 15 years.
Leave everything better than you found it.
Remember that winners do what losers don't want to do.
When you arrive at your job in the morning, let the first thing you say brighten everyone's day.
Don't rain on other peoples parades.
Live beneath your means.
Keep some things to yourself and don't promote havoc by backstabbing people you love.
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