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Why would God do this?
So I have a pretty good relationship with my Lord and Savior- Jesus Christ. A strange (but not bad) thing happened to me back in september- and I have yet to figure out why He did this.
This is what happened: I was 13 over the summer- and I spent the whole time crying because I was single and I felt unloved and unworthy of having a relationship. I was praying for a boyfriend a lot too. I felt God speak to me and tell me that he would send me a nice boy who was new to my theater group (that starts in september) who would hit on me. He didn't lie- because on the first night of the class this amazingly attractive and nice 17-yr-old guy told me I was pretty and he asked for my number. I felt like I was dreaming. He called me later that night and started talking to me and we were setting up a date and then he told me how he had Asberger's Syndrome.
So, my point is- I don't see why God would send me such a perfect man exept for his mental disorder. When we figured out it wouldn't work out- it left me in the worst depressed state. I turned to alcohol as well.
I'm confused.
If anyone has any ideas- they'd be greatly appreciated.
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God works in mysterious ways.
You thought this boy was sent by god to you, maybe he was and maybe he wasn't.God does so many things that we dont undertstand, he could of been testing your loyalty and faith - to see if you'd give the relationship a try.
Noones actually knows why God does these things.But what I do know is that something good will always come out of it, whether its in a few years time or months.
Maybe this by wasnt sent by god.Maybe he was just there.Or even satan could of sent him.We just never know.If we never try , we'll never know.
Because we dont know if god sent him, I cant fully answer your question.
Lets say he did send him, god may have sent him to try and make you learn something from this, or maybe it was a test.But in the end it didnt work out and you turned to achoal, maybe the thing he wanted you to learn could be
-Don't let evil and pain let you down and lose your faith
-Find your faith and use it, and never turn to satan objects like achoal,
-Don't always pray for the things you WANT, but the things that you NEED and what the WORLD needs.
Everything happens for a reason.
This is a true life experience for me, but my cousins were abused.We never knew this.Their mother died and their father didnt want them so they ended up living with us.The good thing that came out of it was that we have to new beautiful people who arent hurt and scared anymore and have a better life than before.Something will happen to you that is good.But dont get your hopes up the minute you get something you want.
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ok tell you something.Sometimes when you pray to god for something God doesnt fufill it for you.WHy you ask?It is beacause sometimes what you want can HARM you in a way.Like what happened to you here.You prayed for a looong time for a boyfreind and didnt get one for a long time...that was a sign that what you wanted was not good for you and to prove that...things didnt work with you and this guy.And other times God dont accept your wishes cuz hes saving you something BETTER in the future,so you have to be patient!Your only 13 and you have your whole life ahead of you.Dont rush it.And get away from alcohol cuz it will make your life worse...if you think alcohol is going to solve anything,im sorry to say itll only give you diseases and will harm you and worst of all WONT GET YOU A BOYFREIND!!Just wait and see...who knows mabey the next year youll meet a cute guy that god sent you!!
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let me tell you two stories.
Joe wants to win the lotter, every day he prays to GOD, "please let me win the lottery" this goes on for many years, and he doesnt win. one day, he asks "why wont you help me win?" and GOD replies "joe you gotta meet me half way here, buy a ticket"
a man is sitting on his house during a flood. a boat comes and offers to take him away. he says "no thanks, GOD will save me" the water rises higher, it leaves. another boat comes, but again he says "no thanks, GOD will save me". the water is rising higher. a helicopter comes, but again he says "no thanks, GOD will save me". finally, he drowns. up in heaven he asks "why didnt you save me GOD?" and GOD replies "you dummy who do you think sent the boats and helicopter?"
basically, know this. GOD does answer all our prayers, but sometimes the answer is "no" or some other answer we dont like. second, there is no one who is perfect. GOD sent you a great guy, who had a problem. it was a challenge, a test of sorts, and sorry to say, sounds like you failed. you can pray for GOD's forgiveness, and then you can ask the boy's forgiveness. perhaps theres hope.
and do i even need to get into how stupid it is for anyone, especially a 13 year old to be turning to alcohol to solve problems?
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i think god gives us chalenges because they make us stronger. now, any problem thatis not as difficult, you will be albe to face easily. think of yourself specail that God considers you prepared enough to handle these chalanges
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I'm going to start my reply by stating that I do not believe in God - I am convinced that He does not exist. I hope that you are willing to consider advice from one who does not share your religious views.
First and foremost: you must not blame God for your difficulties, no matter whose belief system you go by. By my beliefs, you're blaming an imaginary being, which is pointless; according to the Christian belief, God's love is perfect and He does not cause your difficulties but instead gives you the strength to overcome them. Either way, the responsibility lies with you.
Second: You are 13 years old. That is too young for a serious relationship with a boy. Personally, I don't even intend to let my daughter date until she's 16, let alone have a steady boyfriend! I tend to think that if God was listening, he'd probably agree with me - and if you don't believe me, ask your minister or pastor, whomever you might turn to for spiritual guidance. Furthermore, at 17, he was definitely too old for you.
Third: Beware of the answers you think you are receiving from prayers! Even the most devout believer in God and Christ will admit that sometimes, the voice you hear in your head is wishful thinking.
Fourth: Asperger's Syndrome is not a terrible thing. Simply put, it is a descriptive diagnosis of a not-very-well-understood condition in which one has trouble understanding the subtleties of social interaction (for instance, someone with AS has a hard time understanding when people are trading playful insults or being sarcastic). More information at this link:
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It is certainly not something that makes a relationship with someone impossible, but of course it is overwhelming for a 13-year-old, which is another good sign that you are just not ready to date yet. (Incidentally, it is also probably a good indication why, as a 17-year-old who is nearly an adult, he didn't understand why it was inappropriate to ask you out.)
Fifth: Self-destruction is no way to handle a setback like this. Certainly you can be upset about it, but to start drinking will definitely not help matters - it can only make things worse. To collapse emotionally and get drunk is not only an immature and defeatist way to handle a problem, it's also a poor way to show faith in God. Fortunately, He'll forgive you.
I really have to ask this: where the hell are your PARENTS? I can't imagine that they would have been okay with this relationship even if he was a perfect guy (By the way, the "perfect guy" doesn't exist, so you may as well stop looking. We all have problems.) Furthermore, they're a little remiss in their responsibilities if they're allowing you to become a 13-year-old alcoholic. I strongly suggest that you consider turning to them for some help; if that's not possible, than please find SOMEONE, preferably a human being instead of God.
For you see, God isn't Santa Claus. He doesn't give you what you want - He gives you what you NEED. Perhaps you ought to consider that He sent this boy to you to show you that you are not yet ready for a relationship on that level. Talking to a person, an adult you can trust, can help you sort out your feelings and help you to know what to do next.
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I actually had to do a little research on what Asberger's Syndrome was-- I'd never heard of it. This is a really interesting story, I actually had something very similar happen to me last year. I admire you for opening up about your concerns -- good for you!
First of all, I'm not sure that God had a 17 year old in mind for a 13 year old girl. I'm not God, and I've yet to figure out how he works-- I never will -- but is it possible that God put this guy in your life for a reason other than to be your boyfriend? I think sometimes we have this narrow plan in our minds for what we want God to do in our lives, forgeting the whole time that God can do whatever he wants, and that our desires aren't always his will. Maybe this guy is here to be a friend to you, maybe he's here to teach you about his condition. Who knows, maybe because of him you'll go into medicine and discover the cause of Asberger's? Maybe you're the kind of person he needs to help him cope with his problems, or maybe you'll discover that he'd be a great boyfriend to one of your friends. Who knows. My advice is keep an open mind and continue praying for God to reveal his will to you and that you can do your best to follow his plans for your life. Remember that God is in control and everything he does is for a purpose-- so trust that it will end up being for the best, whether or not it is what you had in mind.
With prayer, God will give you guidance with this guy, and help you with your drinking. Pray for this guy too. I'm sure he could use it. What better way to show love for someone than to pray for them?
If you have any other problems you need advice on, please ask me. :)
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EDIT: I just wanted to correc what the poster above me said. He said that God isn't Santa, he only gives you what you need, not what you want. Psalm 37:4 says "Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart." Will God give you everything you ask for? No, it's not always good for you. But God is a loving God who likes to see his children happy, and to do whatever is in their best interest. So never hesitate to ask God for what you want-- he'll do what's best for you.
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