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Why didn't he want to share with me?
So I sort of like this friend of mine.. and we went to see a movie together as friends. Well you know how expensive buying food and drink from the cinema is, so I asked him whether he wanted to share a drink and some popcorn, because I thought it would cut the cost down for both of us and I'm used to sharing when I go out with people to the movies.
And he gives me a strange look and says "Nah I think I'll definitley get my own" I felt really embarassed and taken aback because it was like I had some sort of contagious disease! I don't get what was wrong with what I said.
I know I'm being OVERLY paranoid and looking into things FAR too much but I don't get what I did wrong and I guess it hurt a little bit. Was it wrong to offer to share with him? Or was he out of line? I can't understand his motives! Please help. Thankyou.
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Some people just don't like sharing drinks or food. I think that's all there was to it. In the case of popcorn, I think it's pretty silly, but then there are some pretty silly hang-ups that I have too (for instance, I absolutely can't brush my teeth with someone else in the room, even my wife of ten years!)
Let it slide. It's probably nothing and no slam against you, just his own personal quirk.
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Dont take it to personally, because I bet the guy is either right now:
-feeling really stupid for saying that
or
-has totally forgotten
Theres a lot of possibilites. He could be a germ freak and just naturally find sharing things with other people (especially spit) disgusting. Or maybe he thought you were making a move on him by asking that, because its not uncommon for a couple to share a drink. Or maybe he wanted his own food. Or maybe he had a bad experience sharing food that was totally strange (sounds weird, but I've seen it before lol). Or maybe you might have a bad rep. Have you gotten mono? Or have you ever given someone oral sex? Even if you havent, those rumours might be flying around. I knew a girl who asked a guy if he wanted a sip of her soda and hes like "No, I'd rather not get an STD, thanks." (she blew another guy.)
So whatever it is, I dont think its of any offense to you. You could try asking him, but I'd just let it go.
-Abby
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