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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
advice
15/m
I swear im depressed, i cry alot like everynight, i feel like shit and want to die sometimes...
okay well i was fine until i met sammie, then we were goin out and i really loved her and then we broke up and all and i got crushed, ever since i have no been the same... like now 2 months later(this past sat) she tells me she likes me alot but doesnt want a bf right now, and like now im crying harder cuz now tomorrow is my birthday and i want to hang out with her so so so so bad on sat. and for like the past two days after she told me how she felt she been ignoring me and when i call her she says shes in a bad mood and doesnt wanna talk to me... well i asked her to hang out with me on sat. and she said oh idk i might hangout with chris(her best friend but i thikn more) i swear if i lose her im killing myself, i know ill do it, shes everything to me... i cant lose her...
Now, answer me this: Is a girl REALLY worth all of this? Is a girl really worth wanting to die? Uh, no. No girl is worth that, my man.
Listen to me. You need to stay away from her. Stop talking to her, stop calling, stop trying to get her to hang out with you. She obviously doesn't care a lot to keep pulling you around by the nose.
Why do you want to keep torturing yourself? SHE IS NOT WORTH IT. Period.
It has been 2 months. You are still all broken. You need to get your head together and pick up your pieces and move on with your life. Try to make something better for yourself.
SHE IS NOT WORTH IT.
You need to stop and think about what you are talking about here. You really going to kill yourself over this chick? SHE IS NOT WORTH IT!
Have you stopped to think about what killing yourself would do? You feel bad now, and if you were to kill yourself, you push all of your pain and sorrow tenfold into all of those who love you, and cherish you.
SHE IS NOT WORTH IT! SHE IS NOT, SHE IS NOT! SHE. IS. NOT.
What about your family? What about your friends? How do you think they would feel? How do you think your mother would feel? By killing yourself, you kill a part of them, too.
You are 15 years old. You've only had a tiny little taste of life. I know it was bitter, but I swear to God almighty that there is way more sweet out there if you would give it a chance.
I strongly advise you go see a doctor right away.
You need to find someone you can trust to talk to right away (parent, sibling, friend, grandparent, etc.)You need someone to reach out to right away (and this person can't be Sammie).
I cannot stress enough to you the importance of you realizing that this girl is not worth your life. SHE IS NOT WORTH IT. PEROID.
what does pot go for these days?
Um... Pot is illegal.
If this is all the better you can think of to ask us then I say, Goodbye.
we're doing persuasive essays for english and i need some ideas for it. it has to be something that can be debated - that people can have different opinions about. like, no uniforms or more lineant(sp?) school board, or something like that. i already have one idea - fundraisers to raise money for school needs rather than asking for it from our parents. it's an okay topic but i would like other ideas.
greatly appreciated.
thanks!
So, does this need to be a school related topic?
Here's one. How about raising the eligibility grade requirements for participation in extra curricular activities. That will give you quite a debate if sports is a big thing at your school.
Fact: The school that I attended, and my child will be attending, only requires you to carry a D average in all classes. They want you to be able to play football and basketball. Because this school makes more money from the widely attended games compared to giving them an education.
does sunsilk anti poof 24/7 creme make your hair really straight? like is it a straightening creme? what sa good straightening shampoo & conditioner & creme.? thanks
Well, unless something magic has happened since the last time I bought shampoo, there is no shampoo or conditioner that will make your hair straight.
Now, you can get shampoo and conditioner to aid in the straightening process, but you still have to do all the work. It just helps it stay straight throughout the day.
Hi,
so i'm 17 and me n my boyfriend have been dating for a month and we've already gone well all the way..quick,i know but i don't regret it. but a week ago he went away on vacation and before he left he was completely into me and then he got back and we've hungout twice since and he told me tonight that he'd call me after work but he hasn't and we havent talked in 3 days...
what do i do?
thanks,
stupid girl
Hmmm...
Well, for starters, you aren't stupid. If anyone is in this situation, it is him for behaving in this manner.
I don't know why he is acting this way. I hate to think he was using you and isn't worried because he got what he wanted. But the sad truth is that it is a possibility. (Not saying that it's probable, just possible.) Boys are weird sometimes.
I will tell you that you need to catch that little buzzard by the tail and and let him know you need to have a conversation. And he better make time, because, no, it can't wait.
You need to talk to him about this. See if it can be worked out. Ask is he avoiding you? For what reason? Why did he say he would call but didn't? Stuff like that. If it boils down to it ask him if he was using you for a piece, or what?
Be honest about your feelings. Encourage him to do the same. Get it all out on the table. A relationship has no point without honesty and trust.
If his feelings have changed for you, he needs to speak up, not pull you around by the nose.
If they haven't changed, then he needs to give you that reassurance.
You deserve to know what's going on here.
I was just wondering why on instant messaging and on this site (actually alot on the internet) people type like this:
"Heyy whatsss upp??" or "I needd advicee aboutt myy boyfrienddddd."
They usually dont add like alot of letters except on IM though. I can understand why people shorten words, so they can type less, but why would people make themselves seem dumb by adding the last letter of a word 2-10 times? Is it like a trend, or am I missing some kind of secret? Thanks.
I may be a blatant jerk for saying this, but it shows, to me, a lack of intelligence. It shows that they don't care how they present themselves to others. Period.
I shorten words and misspell and use bad grammar when I IM, but other than that, I try to use proper english and am obsessed with spell checking for mistakes.
I guess I just try to set an example, and prove that yes, english class has a point. I learned something while I was there. (Oh, Mrs. Barnhart would be so proud of me :D)
If that is some sort of trend or weird typing fashion statement, I am at a loss as to why. How cool is it to scream to others "lookit me! I am'n't 2 bryte, hows bout u?"
I'm only a freshman in high school, but today in school we got a paper to fill out what classes we're thinking of taking sophomore year. Right now I'm taking commercial design, which is an art elective, and I need to take a business or career one or something. Well, I want to take an elective that will benefit to what I want to become later. The one's that I'm into are digital photography/printmaking (that's also an art elective though so idk if I should do it until I get the other ones out of the way). I've always wanted to be a teacher, maybe an English or kindergarden/younger grades teacher, but my friends are like... you're smarter than that. Well anyway, things I'm into are: art/photography, I'm good at English (mainly writing), I love little kids... I don't know! I'm just so confused. I was thinking like a magazine editor or something along those lines. But how hard is it to get a job like that? I know I'm only a freshman, but before I know it, I'll have to be making a decision. Like I don't even know what colleges I wanna go to, like what's out there. I wanna make a decision that's right for me. Soo sorry it was extremely long. Thanks so much. =]
It's like this. Pick a career you will love. Plain and simple. Don't settle for second best, because this is the rest of your life you're talking about. Don't leave room later in life for what ifs.
I don't think you should listen to your friends who say you are too smart to be a teacher. The smart ones should be the only ones, my dear.
Is that what you would really like to do? I think it is a fine choice. We need more teachers, there are a lot of students out there and many more to come.
I would rather have you teaching my children since you love kids and you are smart, than having some one who isn't smart and is just doing it because it is a job.
If you love kids, and want to teach them because you will love to do it, then you will be a fine kindergarten teacher. Or whichever grade you prefer.
That doesn't mean you can't fill the rest of your time with art, photography, and writing. You will have most of summer free to do as you wish.
Then you have a fun career that you absolutely love, and time to do all the fun hobbies that you love as well.
I really love my boyfriend, but there is one thing that is really getting me angry! I used this product that like waxes "down there" in different shapes. I guess it makes it more fun for you and your partner. He liked it and now i'm frustrated. He refuses to do anything sexual with me unless I wax down there in like a shape. It's so dumb!! Like as soon as he sees I didn't do that he's groans and says "nevermind." I thought it was a thing I can do everys so often, cause it's annoing to do. I feel like saying "you can't freakin have sex with my just cause there isn't a freakin heart or triangle?!" What should I do?
Do you know how a man shows he cares about you?
Your pubic hair doesn't matter. Waxing or shaving isn't a big deal to him. Making your pubic hair into shapes (odd as that may sound to me :D) doesn't matter to him.
He cares about you because he likes you for you. He likes who you are, not what your pubic hair looks like.
That's what I think you should expect out of a man. Why is your pubic hair fashion statement more of a turn on than you? Why should it ever be that way?
You need to tell him that. Tell him that it was something you want to save for special occasions or nice surprises. Tell him that if that isn't good enough for him, than neither are you. He will change his tune all quick.
If it were me in your shoes, I'd also add that you will keep yours in a triangle when he keeps his in the shape of a star. Yah, right... Bet you'd like to see him pull that one off.
Darn it! There's that rotten and ornery part of me sneaking out again...
(14/f)Ok I'll attempt to make this brief. My best friend and I tried out for a more advanced program at another school. I got in, she didn't. Now whenever I talk to her she always manages to sneak in a "Your school sucks, can't believe you ditched us to go there" etc... And everytime I talk to her it's always because she wants something"Can you do this question for me, can you go to my meeting for me"etc.. (needless to say the answer tends to be no, I'll help a bit but I won't do it for you. Which causes her to throw tantrums. Anyways...).
So all of this makes me want to avoid her as much as possible, the thing is that she and another one of my friends get out of school earlier than I do, and go to my house and wait outside the door for me to come home, most of the time wanting food and/or entertainment. When I come home I tend to be a nervous wreck and I tend to spend at least a good 4 hours or so on homework. Except when they come over they refuse to leave. I'm serious, even if I tell them that I'm busy and that they should go home they always say something to the effect of "We're bored, we've got nothing else to do so we'll stay here"(they're currently not talking to me because last time they did that I told them to stop harrassing me, harsh I know).
So... any ideas of how I can keep my sanity and NOT strangle them next time I see them?
hmm... attempt to make a brief question failed, it's rather long...
Oh, don't worry. This won't be brief either. :D
Well, sounds like your friend is jealous. She wanted to go there too but didn't get in. Which baffles me as to why she says your school sucks. I guess that shows her level of intelligence. And it shows what kind of friend she is, to rank you instead of praise you.
No, you are not a horrible person. Obviously your friends are, though.
Seems that when they come over, the food and entertainment is all they are after.
When they wait outside your door, you can either:
A) Tell them go be bored somewhere else. Your house is not the local hangout. You have hours of homework ahead of you. Then don't let them in. Your front yard is more boring than their own homes. They will go away.
If they come in anyway, tell them "Leave. Now. No Exceptions." If they refuse, they are breaking the law. They are now trespassing on private property. Call the police. What right do they have to invade you, your home, or your privacy? The answer is NONE. They have no right to do that.
or
B) Go to the library to study after school. They won't have any fun there. You can get your homework done in peace, and I guarantee they won't be waiting on you that long to get home.
These people are not your friends. If they were, they wouldn't disrespect you at all, let alone to this degree.
when is the best time to have sex.
Okay, well we have some comedians. :)
I'm going to assume you don't mean the time of day.
The best time to have sex is when you feel as though you are ready for the possibility of that infamous reality check- Pregnancy.
Thew is right. You need to feel ready.
Always practice safe sex. No birth control is 100%. ALWAYS use condoms. This can never be stressed enough. Condoms are the only thing that protect you from sexually transmitted diseases.
Keep in your mind that a baby is a life long job. AIDS is a life sentence.
i have not smoked pot scine december 28th. from now till january 20, if i just drink lots of water and nothing else. will it be out of my system?
Why don't you call your doctor and get a professional medical opinion.
Hope that you don't plan to hop back on the weed wagon after the 20th.
20/f
i was talking to this really sweet guy and hes like
"im glad i could make you laugh"
"it makes my day"
and i said
"how does that make your day"
and hes like
"because i enjoy makin ppl laugh....and you :-D ;-)"
what did he mean by that, "and you" ?
Obviously your laughing makes his day more so than the others he makes laugh.
Seems as though he may like you.
Ask him. Only he can tell you what he wants you to read between the lines.
I really like this guy D. He has a bestfriend, M, which is a girl and I likes him and he told me that he has a little feelings for her, which I don't believer I think he likes her alot. Well D is a big flirt and all the time with me, also he is bery nice. I really want to get with him, I gave him a note telling him how I feel about him, and he lost it. SO what do you think I should do? Tell him straight up, or give him another note, or what?
You are going to hate this answer...
First off, he has told you that he has feelings for some one else. (It happens to be his best friend, which is a big mistake, but that is his mistake to make.) That was a kind, but very subtle way of turning you down.
Second, you poured your heart into a note, and this guy lost it? I doubt seriously that he did. Yet another kind, yet very subtle way of saying "sorry, not interested." He didn't want to hurt or embarrass you by saying, that he read it, so it magically disappeared.
So yah, he seems to be a very nice guy. A very nice guy who happens to enjoy flirting. (Just because one flirts, doesn't mean one wants to date who one flirts with.)
What do I think you should do?
Wait. If he is right for you, he'll come to you. He already knows you like him, you've done everything but tattoo it to your forehead.
Give it time. His heart lies with another, you can't change that any more than you can change the past.
If you keep pursuing him, you will eventually drive him away by seeming too desperate. You will also get your feelings hurt when the words "sorry, not interested" come from his mouth.
Drop it for now. He knows you are an option for him, and that's all he needs to know at this point in time. It will come to be if it's meant to be.
i guess this goes under this category but i dont really know ok so recently we had some people come to our school and do this like play thing and it had to do with school shootings and this girl and her mom is an alchohalic and this guy who is always made fun of and he's the one who brings the gun and they had a second part of the play at this church so i went to it and all of the cast memebers are in college and very into god i dont really know another way to say it but one of the cast memebers was talking to a bunch of people and i was listening to him and he was talking about how when he was younger he got into drugs and used to sell them aat Raves and that finaly he got mono and was sober and realized he wanted to make alot of changes in his life and so he did he sobered up and stopped doing and selling drugs and then he found God and so while he was talking i was thinking that i want to make changes in my life and i would like to find God too so now i'm praying every night and trying my hardest not to get in trouble but i was wondering if you want to believe in god do you have to go to church and do you not get to have any fun or like what is it cause i know i want to do what the people from the pla do cause they travel from school to school doing the play and teaching them that if you make fun of someone in could ruin their life and if you stand up for someone it could makeyour life and that persons life so much better and make them feel loved i know this is really long but yeah please HELP i'm so confused on all of this
Why would you have to go to a church to find God? God is someone you have faith in for yourself, not as a member of any congregation.
You keep him in your mind, your heart, and your soul. THAT is finding Him. You find him in yourself, basically.
People go to church to celebrate their love of God and Jesus together. Other religions who attend church but believe in a different God or Higher Being, go to church for that same reason.
I believe, there is no specific way to live your life to get into Heaven. No one has a sure ticket to get there.
Everyone commits sin, I don't care who they are. That's why you pray to God for forgiveness. So don't beat yourself up if you think you have done something or said something you shouldn't have. Pray to God to help you be a better person next time.
I do believe that there are certain moral codes to live by, however. The Ten Commandments, my dear.
Just be the best person you can be. Treat others as you wish to be treated. Give those who are down a hand up. Spread words of truth and kindness.
Recognize that those who are made fun of are people with feelings just like the rest of us- they feel hurt, pain, and sorrow, just as you do. They feel joy and happiness, as do you. And if someone hurts their feelings, let them know you care. It makes a big difference in some one's outlook on life to know someone really does care about them.
Caring about your fellow man goes a long ways in making yourself feel good as well as those around you.
I'm not sure how you join the play. You may go to the church where they preformed and ask them how.
How long does it take for you to get addicted to taking headache powders?
I don't understand...
Are you trying to get addicted? Lord, I hope not.
My advice is if it holds the possibility of becoming habit forming, don't take it. Take aspirin or Tylenol instead, then rest in a dark quiet room.
My 4 pet birds 2 cockatiels and two budgies on opposite side of the rooms all died within half an hour of each other they were breathing hard and fell of their perches any ideas why this happened help!!!!!!!!!!!
Take them to the veterinarian asap. I know they are dead, but they can see what caused them to die. This is an odd occurrence, so it is something you definitely want to have them check into.
I agree with Xenolan, there may be something lurking in the air that you breathe. More the reason to get the situation investigated.
hey people, what is the legal age to move out of your parents house?
Eighteen years of age. That is when you are legally an adult, and can move out at will.
ok. i should be on the period like RIGHT NOW. but i'm not. i haven't had sex or anything but it's late. can someone explain why. thanks.
If you are a teen, your periods will be irregular. It's due to your body is still in the beginning stages of maturity.
The same goes with if you are taking birth control. It is a side effect of the drug. I can't accurately explain what causes this side effect, so I will not elaborate on that which I do not know for fact.
If it gets to be too late, or you just get too worried, you should call your family physician for medical advice.
My friends and i used a quiji board i didn't really want to. And without asking my friend asked when i was going to die and how. It said i would only be 36. And in a car fire. Now i'm really scared. I beleive heavily in god and jesus and i need to know thats it's all bull. I don't really beleive in it but i'm still scared. I'm 14 and i kinda wanna know what it is moving the board. Cause i really don't think it was a spirit. Did somthing ever come true for people out there. What should i do?
Now you know why it isn't a good thing to wonder too much about your future.
You believe in God and Jesus, God and Jesus don't believe in Ouija boards. So why should you?Don't believe it.
Your friend asked the question and made up the answer to scare you. For fun.
Don't allow people to talk you into things you don't want to do. You wouldn't let them talk you into jumping off a bridge, or shooting up drugs would you?
Don't dabble in that which you do not understand. Then you have nothing to fear.
Ouija boards aren't fortune tellers. That's what crystal balls are for.
why do people put fashion problems questions in the spirituality section fashion has nothing to do with religion people.
Tee hee hee... That is too funny....
Maybe they think fashion IS a religion.
"The gods of designer underwear want me to wear it so everyone can see it over the waist line of my jeans."