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severe depression
15/m
I swear im depressed, i cry alot like everynight, i feel like shit and want to die sometimes...
okay well i was fine until i met sammie, then we were goin out and i really loved her and then we broke up and all and i got crushed, ever since i have no been the same... like now 2 months later(this past sat) she tells me she likes me alot but doesnt want a bf right now, and like now im crying harder cuz now tomorrow is my birthday and i want to hang out with her so so so so bad on sat. and for like the past two days after she told me how she felt she been ignoring me and when i call her she says shes in a bad mood and doesnt wanna talk to me... well i asked her to hang out with me on sat. and she said oh idk i might hangout with chris(her best friend but i thikn more) i swear if i lose her im killing myself, i know ill do it, shes everything to me... i cant lose her...
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im only 13 but tht happened 2 me and i tried to kill myself~but my ex stopped me he just talked to me for a long time~he broke up w/ me bc he thought i didnt like him anymore~but were dating again~talk to her tell her how you really feel~or talk to chris~and maybe shes just goin though hard times~just be friends~then ask her out again ~ or ~ tell her 'with out you i would kill myeslf'BUT DONT REALLY KILL URSELF DO NOT~but i found out ur life isnt worth a person who tries to hurt u~maybe try and get back w/ her but if u dont in a week SCREW HER~forget her if you can last another week~'think' shes trying to kill you by hurtin u tht bad~you acually like sum1 who is trying to (kill)(hurt)(make you try to kill urself)shes not worth it~you thats just wrong i found out the hard way~it took a LONG time till i forgave my bf but he still kept tryin when he found out how much he hurt me
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I've felt like this before, and before we get into the details, if it ever does get to the part where you're about to kill yourself [It's come to that for me before because of a guy], just sit and think for a second. I'm not going to tell you to think about all the people that love you and care about you ect. Because at the time you won't care about them. Just think about Sammie. Did you really have an amazing time loving her? If you do kill yourself, you won't get another chance to be that happy again. If you stay alive there's still a chance both of you can be together. And I know it hurts, but if she means that much to you, then you should be willing to go through the hurt until life gets better. It might take a while, and it might seem impossible, but things eventually will work out. And they'll get screwed up again, and you'll feel like dying, and they'll get fixed again. You won't loose her, I can tell you that.
What you need to do is sit down by yourself in your room and think, cry if you need to, and just think. Then go and talk to her. Try not to cry while you're telling her how you feel, because it'll make you seem too needy, whether you are or not. Just speak your feelings, and be true. Don't just tell her what you think she'll like to get her back. tell her what you actually feel about her, and that you'd never want to loose her. See how she responds. You seem like a really nice and caring guy. I'll cross my fingers for you.
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i am told that a guy falls in love 3 times before he turns 25. sometimes it might be secret love but it doesnt sound like it. i think that you should tell her how you feel.she might come around and you wont lose her. And you cant think like that. talk to her. she might come around. I know that this prolly isnt the answer that you were looking for and i am sorry if it wasnt but i hope that i helped.=) Amanda
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I don't remember where I heard this but there is this study that an average guy will fall in love 3 times before they are 25. This is just a little speed bumb. Honestly if it took 2 months without you for this girl to realize what she had then that is too long. You two can still be friends but you should probably move on and find another girl, if this Sammie girl doesn't realize what she was missing then you need to find one who does. No one is worth dying over. If this girl won't come to your birthday and that she would rather hang out with this Chris lad then personally I say leave her.
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Happy Birthday
A girl's not worth dying over. There's millions of them around.
This sounds messed up and everything but if she's hurting your feelings with the Chris thing and you really want her to like YOU, just play the whole hard to get thing. It always works. Pretend you're over her, maybe flirt with other girls and I'm sure (like most girls would do) she'd come running back.
I really hope it all works out, good luck
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Well, first things first...HAPPY [ALMOST] BIRTHDAY!!!
Heh, okay I'm going to tell you that you're not alone and don't kill yourself and all that shit. Yes, trite, and unhelpful at times.
But death is a wonderful thing and yet a curse to many people. But when it occurs, the person who's getting death may think they [will]feel relieved (like yourself) but people around you will get the other effect: they'll mourn. Trust me and it's going to effect a lot of people in a negative way. Think of leaving your family. Do you really want them to suffer...do you want Sammie to suffer? Because you're suffering a lot form what I can tell right now but you're still living. Key thing: You're still carrying on with your life and you know that you can do it. You're proving it right now. My uncle commited suicide few months ago and it's still taking parts in our lives. If you don't want to lose Sammie, you're going to have to start a "new" life.
Forget about the past. Just forget about everything that's happened so far. Start a journal (I know, trite) Write down everything and anything you want to. Whenever you're feeling down, sad, happy, just write EVERYTHING down. Whether it's just a regular entry or a poem, lyrics, short story just whatever. I do that a lot and it really helps me. Or start a long story and get yourself lost in it for a while if you want to escape reality. Listen to music that will make you feel good..not pop preppy OMG I LOVE you songs. Drawing is also good along with kicking balls like soccer and stuff.
If you don't want to lose Sammie, you should really get yourself back together. She's still your friend and be greatful for that. You still have her in your life even if she does end up going out with Chris. She'll still be your friend no matter what but you're going to make it hard on her if you continue these thoughts and feeling sad.
If you need someone to talk to, just talk to me. I'll help you because I've been in and am in situations like this and most times worse.
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Now, answer me this: Is a girl REALLY worth all of this? Is a girl really worth wanting to die? Uh, no. No girl is worth that, my man.
Listen to me. You need to stay away from her. Stop talking to her, stop calling, stop trying to get her to hang out with you. She obviously doesn't care a lot to keep pulling you around by the nose.
Why do you want to keep torturing yourself? SHE IS NOT WORTH IT. Period.
It has been 2 months. You are still all broken. You need to get your head together and pick up your pieces and move on with your life. Try to make something better for yourself.
SHE IS NOT WORTH IT.
You need to stop and think about what you are talking about here. You really going to kill yourself over this chick? SHE IS NOT WORTH IT!
Have you stopped to think about what killing yourself would do? You feel bad now, and if you were to kill yourself, you push all of your pain and sorrow tenfold into all of those who love you, and cherish you.
SHE IS NOT WORTH IT! SHE IS NOT, SHE IS NOT! SHE. IS. NOT.
What about your family? What about your friends? How do you think they would feel? How do you think your mother would feel? By killing yourself, you kill a part of them, too.
You are 15 years old. You've only had a tiny little taste of life. I know it was bitter, but I swear to God almighty that there is way more sweet out there if you would give it a chance.
I strongly advise you go see a doctor right away.
You need to find someone you can trust to talk to right away (parent, sibling, friend, grandparent, etc.)You need someone to reach out to right away (and this person can't be Sammie).
I cannot stress enough to you the importance of you realizing that this girl is not worth your life. SHE IS NOT WORTH IT. PEROID.
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First of all, Happy Birthday. And don't let a girl get to you...I have been in a similar situation with this man, I am completely in love with him, but we are not together. I think that the best thing to do is back off a little bit. If "Sammie" is anything like me she would enjoy chasing you, don't be completely unavailable but let her come to you. This will work out if y'all are truly met to be. I hope that this helps. I know that it is probably not what you wanted to hear, hang in there. It will get better.
Jenn
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