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So my first real boyfriend.. we went out for a long time. He didn't treat me right and for some reason he didn't really notice that.
So we were friends with benefits on the verge of a relationship again cept not. <- Ex 1
I was tired of waiting ..I dated this other boy. Completely different from my first. But we didn't last because it was better off to be friends.<- Ex 2
Ex 2... knows what my first did. How he hurt me and lied to me (not about little things, about drugs and who he liked [some other girl]). Ex 1 really broke my heart a couple of times.
Ex 2 told me he wants to kick Ex 1's ass.
Of course I want to hurt him [my first] but I don't. And I'm scared because the guy who's fighting, will say something like "That's from __ my name __" when I didn't ask him to fight!
He wants a picture of Ex 1. I'm just scared I guess. He gets really pissed off because the guy hurt me.
And even though I may not give him another picture.. Ex 2 might come across Ex 1 anyway.
Even though I'm not really close with Ex 1. Should I just let this happen? I'm afraid I can't do anything to make it stop.
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i dont think that ex 1 should be jumped either but it is good that u got a man looking after you. see i am what you would cal a "ho " according to a lot of girls at school but to the guys i am perfectly fine and they all care bout me. I love them to death and i know that if anything ever happened to me they would be on that kid like no other. each and every one of them. back to the point... just be glad that you have a guy to look after you. i dont think that you should let ex.2 beat up ex.1 because it doesnt need to happen. I think that point that ex.2 is trying to get across is that he still cares 4 you and he doesnt want you to get hurt. I hope that helped. =) Amanda
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oh my gosh.. haha i thought i was the only one who had problems like that. first of all. if "ex1" hurt you dont bother with him. and tell "ex 2" not to bother with "ex1" you dont want anything to do with him. BECAUSE!! everything will get worse! You can write me back and be more specific if u need more help.. haha it was kinda confusing
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Dear u,
There is not much you can do.But you can try talking to your 2ex that its all in the past or you just let it happen.
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The first thing you could try would be to talk to your second ex. I assume he's less physical and more understanding than your 1st ex.
Talk to him and tell him that what your first ex did to you was in the past. Yes, it hurt you in ways that your -insert a negative issue - Example: (trust) is limited to people. But going through that was and experience and it made you - insert positive issue - Example: stronger. Than explain why. In the example, you could say, because I now know what to be aware of in relationships and how to defend myself.
Always bring up both negative and positive points. Because if you focus on the negativity too much, he'll get the impression that you're still nto okay and he wants to come to your rescue.
Another topic you could bring up is how it did happen in the past and you don't want to start anything new with it anymore. What's done is done.
If this doesn't work, you might have to bring up legal matters. Making a threat to anyone could be illegal and you don't want him to get into that. Words and violence can be used against him.
If none is helpful to you, get a professional to help you with it. It is very difficult to handle on your own.
Good luck!
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