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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.

I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.

Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.

Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.

I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.

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Okay I wasn't sure what catagory so I hope this one is okay. Okay so I'm 15 female and got braces when I was 13 and wore Rubber bands to help move my front teeth back, during that time I began to have troubles with my jaw, but didn't really notice too much. Now i'm 15 and have had my braces off for 5 months and now everytime I open my mouth to eat or yawn I here a snap and it hurts. But it isn't every day. But somedays it just hurts when I'm not even doing anything. So I was wondering is this something to worry about or just keep living with until it gets worse and also should I tell my dentist or my regual doctor?? Thanks so much!

I have the same problem. Your doctor can help you, but your dentist will know more about the best ways of treating it. Call your dentist. Your mouth is their job.

i was wondering can you get high from snorting pixie sticks?

Maybe some sort of weird sugar rush followed with gummed up sinuses and a headache I would presume.

Why would you want to, anyhow? Sounds quite unwise to me.

When I'm running I always get cramps. My boyfriend said i drink too much water before but i don't drink any at all. Any explanation? It could be that i don't have enough potassium. I'm not sure though, any suggestions on how to run, breathing? Anything to keep away the cramps? Thankkkyou, I'll rate.

I don't rightly care how you rate me. Rate me what I, or anyone else who gives you advice deserves...

I don't know what is causing the cramps, but I have always heard that drinking V8 is good at helping to keep them at bay.

I don't know that V8 will work for you for certain, but it is worth a shot anyhow. I know my dad swears by it.

okay i asked a question about whitening teethe and i heard about baking soda and salt. then my mom said she doesnt know why need salt its just baking soda. does it make a differentce? and if i swallow or taste baking soda will it like make me sick

I don't know why the salt either, other than I know that salt in warm water used as a mouth rinse helps aid healing in your mouth. I have always heard baking soda and peroxide.

Peroxide probably wouldn't be very good to swallow, but baking soda won't hurt you.

I was in Brownies and Girl Scouts from Kindergarden through 7th grade. My Catholic school that supported my troop was both poor and sexist, so my troop ended up the same. More money and honor went to the Boy Scouts; they were able to camp in tents during the summer. They swam, pitched tents, climbed trees, ran races, and played sports. My troop, though, stayed in a one-room cabin in winter. There were dead mice and we didn’t have enough mattresses. We learned how to arrange flowers, make macrame, and clean. Whenever we went to other troops' cabins (which had linoleum rather than cement floors), we cleaned up after them because we were told that good Catholic Girl Scouts clean up after the more priviledged.

I’ll call my troop leaders Mrs. L and Mrs. D. Mrs. L had daughters in our troop and was a housewife. Mrs. D had a daughter too and was a police officer. They fought so much that Mrs. D left. We cleaned, sewed and did our nails. Mrs. L taught her daughters’ friends to help those who, for example, spilled things. When my friends and I spilled, however, she had us clean up alone while she yelled. We were scolded when we asked if we could do the Boy Scouts’ activities; good Catholic Girl Scouts shouldn't ask for things, especially to do what boys do. We were to be like Mrs. L: quiet and pretty.

I've heard similar stories. It wasn't until reading an article in "Bitch" magazine that I realized what a problem this is. Have you had or heard of any similar experiences? I emailed Girl Scouts about it and have been to several other online message boards to ask for other experiences, but I don't know what to do next.

I don't have much to say other than how messed up that is. The Catholic religion should have nothing to do with Girl Scout activities.

Being a "good little Catholic girl" shouldn't mesh at all with being a "good little Girl Scout."

It seems your troop leader doesn't know what she is doing. Being quiet and pretty has nothing to do with being a Girl Scout, either.

Have you tried to contact Girl Scouts of the USA about this? I sure would if you haven't. At the link below, you will find an email address and phone numbers to contact them with questions and concerns.

http://www.girlscouts.org/faqs/

I dont know what to do, it's been months and i just can't forget him.OK i was going out with this guy for about 2 years, I loved him so much. But we have broke up and im sure he's waay over me. He has had like 7 girl friends already. Now he's with one he really seems to like and she is beautiful. Meanwhile I'm here 7months later still crying as if it was the first day we broke up. I have a new boyfriend. He treats me great and I like him alot but, I could never love him. I dont think i could love anyone else. I have tried so hard to get over my ex, to fall in love with my new boyfried, but i just cant. I cant take it. Im dieing. NO matter how happy i may spend the day at night it all comes down to thoughts of him. Its like im happy with my new boyfriend but theres something missing. I feel so incomplette without my ex. I need him, i really do. But he can have who ever he wants, why would he waste his time on me. I'm probably just not worth it. I'll never be happy. Please don't think I'm some emo girl I really do try to be happy. I work hard in school, I go out all the time, Im nice to everyone. But then when im alone i cry. I usually cry myself to sleep, or pray and pray to feel better until i just knock out. I cant live like this anymore. Please guys I know this was long. But please help I dont know what to do anymore.

This isn't fair to the guy you are currently dating. You are saying to me that, he's nice and all, but you could never love him. It means you are kind of stringing him along in an empty relationship with no future.

This is something you need to be straight forward with him about. That way you give him a chance to decide on weather he wants to stick it out and hope for better, or move on and find someone who wants a real relationship with him. He deserves to be able to make that choice.

My advice to you is this: Stop dating for a while. You need to figure yourself out. You need to get over this guy and move on. You owe that to yourself.

You are obviously not happy with your current bo, or you would be happy in general. You need to get happy with yourself first, then bring another guy into your life when your truly, emotionally ready.

You need to stop thinking so negatively. Saying you will never be happy, you will never love again, you aren't worth it, etc. is crap. You need to start focusing on the good things in your life and in yourself.

Think of it this way, it has been 7 months. The guy has had 7 different girlfriends and is now in a relationship. Sounds like he didn't look back. Is he really worth all of this self loathing?

I wouldn't concern yourself on weather or not he would "waste his time" on you. What you do need to concern yourself with is how much you are currently wasting your time on him, being miserable and unhappy.

My mother is an alcholic. She wont admit this, but she drinks 3-4 times a week and gets wasted. How can I confront her about this? My stepdad agrees with me but will not do anything to stop her. What can I do?

I agree fully with the person who answered before me.

Get help as to how to set up an intervention with her, including you, your step dad, her friends, and anyone else who cares about her and wants her to see her problem.

Your step dad probably does nothing to stop her because, sadly, he can't stop her. Neither can you.

There is no one on this planet who can make your mom stop drinking other than your mom. She has to see and admit that she has a drinking problem, and she has to want to commit to stop.

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/english.html

Check out this link.

When did ya'll start having sex? What's the average age that people become sexually active?
Thankss

Uh... There is no "special age."

People become sexually active WAY too early in life. I don't think they realize what they are stepping into.

I am a firm believer that you shouldn't have sex until you are ready to raise a child. Even with birth control, pregnancy is a possibility. And having a baby is a monstrous responsibility you can't even imagine.

You should get on birth control BEFORE you plan to become sexually active.

If you don't? Imagine a screaming baby waking you every hour on the hour. Imagine having no life, no money, no time.

There is no other REAL reason for the pill. It does help with regulating periods and menstrual cramps, but those things are not the point of birth control.

Even when on birth control, ALWAYS use condoms. Condoms are the only thing to protect you against sexually transmitted diseases.

A baby is a life long commitment, AIDS is a life sentence.

please help me. I don't know what to do anymore! ok. here's the deal. My best friend has been like "doing things". Today she called me and said that last night she peirced her nose (BY HERSELF). I was SO shocked and started to think I shouldn't hang out with her anymore. She went close to s*x but didn't. And she ALWAYS says that she's fat but she isn't. One day she told me she threw up her food but only once. Should I still hang out with her?

ps. I DON'T (OR DIDN'T) DO ANYTHING SHE DOES (OR DID)

Come on, now. She is your best friend. Why bail on her because of the choices she is making? That doesn't make her a bad person. Her nose and sex life doesn't effect you in any way.

As for her body image, try your best to make her feel good about herself. You may let her know that throwing up her food is very bad for her, and the acids from her stomach will damage her esophagus, make her voice sound like gravel, and ruin the enamel on her teeth. The real tragedy is it can cause heart complications and death.

If it is something she does continuously, you need to get her to seek help.

And i come to Advicenators yet again for help.

Im the kind of person that likes to plan ahead.
So im already thinking about Valentines Day.
I have absolutely NO idea on what to get my boyfriend! I want to get him something really nice, but i just dont know what.

Advice would be nice.

Thanks

Since you know him and I don't, I guess you can tell me if a heart shaped box full of candy and a nice little Valentine's card would suffice?

Seriously, now.

Hmmm... Advice?

You know him. Make something for him. You don't have to be crafty do to that. Gifts that are made by the giver, always mean more to the receiver because of the simple fact that the giver has put a lot of thought, time, and effort into the gift, rather than just grabbing something from the shelf at a department store.

Okay, 2 days ago I smoked pot for my second time ever and Im STILL coughing. My throat doesnt hurt or anything. But, I know smoking pot can lead to a common cough. Is it normal to still be coughing 2 days later. By the way, I dont have a cold so dont tell me its that. If it is normal, how long will it take on average to go away?

First and foremost: Pot is an illegal drug. Don't smoke it. It is in your best interest to shy away from anything illegal.

If you have a persistent cough, you should talk to your doctor. You need to be honest with them and tell them where this cough came from. They can't treat you if they don't know what truly caused it. You won't get in trouble, because they can't tell anyone. It's called doctor/patient confidentiality.

I would say that it isn't normal. Those who have the "smoker's cough" get it from smoking pot, cigarettes, etc. It isn't something you develop the second or tenth time you smoke. It is due to smoking for quite a while.

Second time? Not normal. Talk to your doctor, because there may be something else wrong.

What is the percentage of getting pregnant without using a condom? What is the percentage of getting pregnant using a condom?what is the percantage of getting pregnant while on birthcontrol?

The percentage while using a condom or birth control is about 1%.

1% chances, is enough for me to know you can't totally trust it. Birth control sometimes fails, and condoms break. ALWAYS be expecting the possibility of pregnancy if you are having sex.

As for no protection? I don't know a factual percentage, however I can tell you that you can get pregnant the very first time you have sex. EVERY TIME you have unprotected sex, you are at great risk of becoming pregnant.

You are also at a great risk of getting a sexually transmitted disease every time you have sex without a condom. Condoms are the only protection against STDs.

I've said it before, I will say it again... A baby is a life long commitment. AIDS is a life sentence.

Does anyone out there have the sheet music to "Ordinary Day" by Vanessa Carlton, and would like to scan it into their computer and give it to me :) Greatly appreciated. I have the beginning down, but I can't get any farther then the bridge because I can't decipher the notes, cause I usually get them by ear. Please, someone help. Thank you.

I don't have the music you seek, but I do have an FYI:

From my understanding, they are trying to make it illegal for you to get free sheet music. In reality, it is a form of piracy.

The person who wrote the song gets no credit for the sale of their sheet music if some one buys it and spreads it to others at no cost, or at a cost to line their own pockets.

I don't know that it is actually illegal right now, but beware. Piracy isn't something you want to get yourself caught up in. :D

i feel like shitt right now ....i dont know what to do anymore ...just 2 hours ago my older sister asked my dad for a psp and he went out and bought it for her came home and gave it to her. i knoe what it looks like and yea im not going to deny it im jelous and mad and i have a right to be both because she did the same thing when she asked for a laptop she didnt have to begg my dad and he got it for her...thats not the only thing she has ....she also has a cell phone from cingular and a digital camera shes hooked with all the electronics...the only thing i have is a prepaid cell phone from virgin mobile and a bootleg computer (not laptop) im sick of seeing her get everything she wants and with me another story. ive tried talking to him and telling him how i feel ive tried asking for some of the stuff she has and he starts a fight with me and how i dont deserve anything when shes done worse stuff than i have shes tried weed and i havent even gotten close to a cigarrette. im so mad i really wanted some of the stuff she has but what gets me frustrated is that everytime he buys her anything she always says she'll let me use it but she NEVER does to use her laptop or digital camera i have to use it without her finding out. what should i do? ive tried everything.

It may be because she is older. It also depends on your age and hers. But it never seems fair.

Here is a possible bright side for you:

I have an older brother. When we were growing up, he got more things than I did. He had, what I thought at the time, more "luxuries" than me. It wasn't that he was spoiled, it was just that he was the older, and more "responsible" of the two of us.

It doesn't seem fair, but I promise, you will be the more responsible in life of the two of you.

My brother, I love him dearly, doesn't have his priorities straight and is not the most responsible of people. He seems to think everything should be handed to him in life. And he has nothing to show for anything. Sad, but true.

I learned how it is to work for what you get, and be thankful to even get it. I worked when I was in school. I didn't make much, but could buy small things I wanted. I learned that the material things in life aren't worth jack when compared to the needs in life, and I am a very content person.

I know it sucks, but hang in there and try not to get too worked up about it. Everyone gets what they deserve in life, eventually. And seldom does life seem fair.

Ok so does anyone know if they have a movie about the columbine shootings??? or if they are making any or even any movies about school shooting if someone could help that would be great thanks a bunch

That would be "Bowling for Columbine" a documentary by Michael Moore.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bowling_for_Columbine#Film_content

For some odd reason, he seems to think that guns are the problem with the American society, not the people who use them to shoot others.

But he is entitled to his opinion, as are you and I.

My father opening his business next week. Is there a standard procedure on how to run an opening? I've called people around my area and they are not sure. Google wasn't much help either. Invitations were already sent and food is taken care of - I'm not sure on how to actually run it in terms of the order of events, speech, etc. Does the ribbon and over-sized scissors need to be used? Thanks.

You didn't say what kind of business it is, so I can't give you much information other than the ribbon cutting ceremony isn't something you have to do.

Here is a link on how to plan a ribbon cutting ceremony that may help you out:

http://www.ehow.com/how_18038_ribbon-cutting-ceremony.html

Maybe you can do something like this:

Say, you are opening a restaurant. You could have a raffle drawing for a free dinner for 2. You could give out, say, 5 of those, and maybe 1 big give away of a dinner for 4. Depends on how big the restaurant is, and how classy, as to how many free meals you would give away.

Okay, so basically my friends think that I can't keep a secret. The ironic thing is that I have NEVER told anyone about their secrets. I mean I talk a lot but it's not about things that are suppose to be hush hush. It kinda obivous stuff like tests coming up or that new tv show and stuff. Yet when it comes to telling secrets, they always exclude me saying that I'm going to tell someone about their secrets. GAh! What do I do?

That's weird.

Your best bet would be to talk to them on an individual basis about this. Invite them over one at a time, or give them a call (though I think face to face is always better.) You can talk to them in a group if you so choose, but one on one is better to get each person's side.

Ask them what reason you have ever given them to mistrust you with their secrets. Be honest and open about everything.

is sperm dead once reaches the air?

The consensus on human sperm facts about the human sperm life span of male sperm appears to be between one and three hours outside the human body in the open air, depending on moisture, temperature and how much sperm is present. How long is the lifespan of sperm inside the female body is another matter. Sperm lifespan inside a female body can range from between five and seven days.
-- From: man-health-magazine-online.com

15/f me and my boyfriend of went on a break as of yesterday because i keep breaking promises to him. I need some way to prove to him that im not going to do that anymore.. someway to get him back. please help im desperate

Breaking promises is like breaking trust. You can't just make things better overnight. The only thing you can do is to stop breaking promises to him in order to prove you won't do it anymore.

Actions ALWAYS speak louder than words.

My armpits are really red, I'm not sure what its from but i think it might be from a shower gel I got from a friend for Christmas. So, I stopped using that, and my arm pits are less red but its still there on one pit. Also sometimes theres bumps on that armpit. What can I do to make this go away? Its really annoying.

Sounds like you have irritated skin. Stop using deodorant under the one arm for a couple days and give the rash a chance to heal. Deodorant doesn't help with the healing, and it even states not to use it on broken or irritated skin.

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