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Trust died.
Okay, so basically my friends think that I can't keep a secret. The ironic thing is that I have NEVER told anyone about their secrets. I mean I talk a lot but it's not about things that are suppose to be hush hush. It kinda obivous stuff like tests coming up or that new tv show and stuff. Yet when it comes to telling secrets, they always exclude me saying that I'm going to tell someone about their secrets. GAh! What do I do?
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Well, you just need to show them that you can keep a secret. Maybe they need to be shown that you can trust them, in order for them to trust you. You should share one of your secrets with them. (But don't let it be TOO big, you never know if one of them will blab.) That way, they will feel like you trust them enough to tell them your secrets, so they should trust you. I know it seems hard at first, for you to give in. But if this works, you will be glad you done it.
Hope I have helped. :)
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When friends think they cant trust you, its pretty awkward. I mean, its almost like you cant be friends anymore. So first of all you should just FLAT OUT APPOLIGIZE. Say: "Look [insert friend here] im really sorry you think I cant keep a secret. But HEY! its a new year. & this year im not going to spill a secret".
now the next thing left is to not tell the secret.hard right? no way!
-try keeping a journal or a diary, So you can SPILL whats going on in your life ON PAPER! :]
{{{{if your worried that family members will read it}}}}
-try using "code names" for eeeveryone in your grade, then hide your journal in a safe place. LIKE THE MATRESS! :]
hope i helped
much love,
MOlly
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Try talking to your friends in a "serious talk"
tell them that you have -never- told a secret and ask them why they are excluding you from these. And if they still think that you are not trustworthy, ask them to give you reasons on why they hide things from you!
i hope this helps
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That's weird.
Your best bet would be to talk to them on an individual basis about this. Invite them over one at a time, or give them a call (though I think face to face is always better.) You can talk to them in a group if you so choose, but one on one is better to get each person's side.
Ask them what reason you have ever given them to mistrust you with their secrets. Be honest and open about everything.
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