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Hi, I'm Brittney, I'm a junior in college. don't ever feel hesitant to ask me a question, I will never judge you. Be completely honest and I will give you the best answer I can give, 100% of the time. A fun fact about me- I'm a triplet!

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hi, i just got an acer laptop with the crystal eye webcam attached, and it only lets me take still shots. I want to record videos on there say to facebook, but it wont let me. Any help? ps i have the arcade deluxe but it doesnt let me record videos, and i do not have SUY NB CAM under windows in my C drive, it only says SUYIN or something like that. Please help. Im desprate thanks

If you get oovoo then it will work, trust me, I had the same problem. :-)

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should you straighten your hair after your hair drys when you get out of the shower, or the day after? Which one would look better.

Honestly I have done both, and I dont see much of a difference. For me when I straighten my hair after I get into the shower and dry it, it looks better usually because I have more time, but the day after I usually need to do it before school so I dont have much time. My point being it doesnt really matter.

If you blowdry your hair to dry it after you take a shower, my hair always has more volume, even after I re-straighten it. So if you like the more volumed look, I would blow dry and then straighten.

Good luck, hope this helped :-)

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does anyone have an ipod touch? i definately want to by an ipod and im not sure whether to just save money and buy a nano, or buy the ipod touch. is the ipod the ipod touch worth the money? and do they break easily?
also do you have to have wifi access at the time to go on facebook or can you go on it whenevere because its an app?

I had the same problem deciding, but I can tell you right now I bought the new ipod touch and it was just about the best decision of my life. haha. I absolutely love my ipod touch, and the picture you get from the videos and everything is AMAZING, its crystal clear. You can play it out loud, and I have TONS of FREE apps that are really great, my friends and I enjoy playing them together, and I like playing by myself too. Yes I do have internet access to facebook, google, google earth, safari, itunes, and everything you can think of but i forgot my internet password so i have to fix it right now :-) oops. Mine has not broken and I have had it for a while, I have even dropped it a BUNCH of times. If it were up to me I would get the ipod touch, but the nano is cool too. Also, the ipod touch is very easy to use. Good luck with your decision :-)

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ok...im a girl, there is this girl and she is my friend but i think i like,like her. im not gay though.I'm a christian and everything but I can't stop liking her. idk y i like her to. I think she might like me to but im not sure. like she is always flirty around me and stuff. were both 16. also i dont want to just flat out ask her how she feels bc i would like to stay friends.

First off, its okay if your gay and your christian :-) you might be bi-sexual. I would take it slow right now, and still find out things about yourself, and try to get closer with your friends. Test the water, flirt with her like you would with a guy or just talk with her. Set up a time to just hang out with each other, just as friends, and see how far it goes. It might just be a phase, but it might be something else. Dont be afraid to explore or be ashamed in any way.
:-) Good luck, thanks for the inbox, and please let me know how this works out for you!

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i curl my hair with a curling iron but after about an hour it goes back straight, im already using hairspray. And Im using a revlon curling iron. my hair is naturally curling so i straighten it and then after a couple hours i curl it. How do i keep in the curls all day?

Theres a couple things you could do that will help:

*First spray your hair with a little hairspray BEFORE you curl it

*Dont wash your hair for a day (that is gross to me ahaha but trust me it will work better)

*Keep the curler in your hair a little longer before taking it out

*While the curler is in your hair, spray it with hairspray

*After the curler is out of you hair, spray it with some more hairspray.

*Buy hairspray in the store that says Maximum hold, or extra strength

*When buying hairspray, read the discription on the back, some hairsprays so different things

*Keep a mini hairspray bottle with you all night to re-apply

*I like using pump-bottles (not continuous spray) Its a personal choice, but In my opinion I think it actually holds my hair better, and hey, its better for the enviornment, too! :-)

Good luck, tell me how it works out for you! :-)

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Hey, what's a website where you can send free ringtones to your phone? thanks oh I have a verizon phone if that helps

Sweety, they do let verizon users use it because I have verizon, and I use it all the time. Also, tons of my friends have verizon and they use it too :-)



www.myxertones.com


they have AMAZINZG ringtones and they are all free. I have been using this forever and it never fails me :-)

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I really hate doing crunchy's and sit ups and ab workouts.. Is there any fun ways to work out your abs or different ways.. Thankss!

I would say one of the biggest ways to work out your abs while having fun is to dance!!! So hit up the parties haha, or play some music in your room and dance to it.
Running can also help.
Playing a sport helps too, or just being active in general.
Swimming
If you do gymnastics, tumbling and different routines can work out your abs.

:-) hope this helped!

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heyy i guess the title says it all.
Um personally i love america so dont get me wrong on the title =)
ive been wondering for ageessss
what does "fall" mean
sorry for sounding so stupid
just really want to know! =D
Vikki

fall can mean two different things in america. One meaning is the season. Such as spring, winter, summer, and fall. In fall, it is chilly and windy outside, it is the time when all of the leaves on the trees change to pretty colors and eventually come off.

Fall can also mean to drop. For example, if you fall off a ledge, or if you spill milk, the milk falls off the table.

Your question was not stupid, I always have questions about what different words mean in other languages. :-)

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my mom and i have a pretty good relationship. we've always had a pretty good relationship. except for maybe one minor detail that's not so minor..... she's obsessed with me! she is absolutely and totally out of control sometimes. there's one thing that REALLY bothers me. she goes on my facebook and she spies on me like if i were a little kid. i've changed my password various times, and when i do she doesnt leave me alone until i tell her what it is. she just won't leave me alone. and then, i have to tell her because i'll be studying or reading or about to leave to the gym, doing something PRODUCTIVE with my life, instead of looking at facebook, and there she is, bothering me. so, i kind of have to tell her. but, i think its going to rain on her parade soon because i'm turing 18 in two weeks. she can't continue like this! it's super annoying! it makes me feel like a kid, and i'm just not a little kid anymore. not to mention that it's super annoying! not because i'm hiding anything from her, because i'm not. but, it just makes me self-conscious, u noe what i mean? i don't like that. she's been spying on me like this every since i was 13, and today is just the last straw. it's the first thing that she does in the morning when she wakes up. she goes straight to the computer and checks my facebook. she goes on and she checks mine, and then she goes and checks my boyfriends facebook and then she checks my ex's facebook, his gilfriends, and then my boyfriend's ex. then, when i ask her why she does that she says that she has to keep tabs on people. it's like an obsession! it's NOT NORMAL! she really needs to get a grip on it. another thing is that she's EXTREMELY disorganized and she's adopted my room for her disorganization. i hate it because i am like OCD organized and she's made a mess of my room. she thinks that she's a teenager and she's turned this into a typical messy teenager's room, and i'm almost out of the teenager realm. she's been out of it for a while, and she's still at it, making messes inmy worm. what the hell/ right now, i just looked on my desk, and in everything that's thrown i find a tricky worm. obviously, it's NOT mine. i wouldn't spend money on something unecessary like that. i'm an only child, and i live with my grandparents too. it's obviously not THEIRS. you see what i mean? HELP!

I completely see your point, but we dont know why you mother is obligated to "keep tabs on people" It could be that she is overly obsessed and its not normal, or she could be a mother that is trying to act cool and keep up with what is going on. First, to get to know your situation a little better, I had a few questions:
Do you talk to your mom about your personal life (meaning bf's, stuff like that)

Did you ever have a serious conversation with your mom about how you truely feel?

I think that you should first sit down with her and have a serious conversation that implies how you truely feel about her always having your password, and you think its a little too much checking it EVERY day. But when you tell her, try to tell her in a calm way, as nice as possible. This will help open up your communication with each other, and have her really listen to you (as to where an argument you will have lack of communication.) Also, I think that that you should tell her that you want to keep things private to you, like for your password, I suggest telling her that you will be happy to update her on whats going on in your life, or you will log her on, but her having your passowrd just isnt acceptable.
As for the messy room:
Do you have a guest room in your house? if you do, perhaps you could ask your mom if she would kindly move her stuff into that room, not yours.
That is also something you need to discuss with her, you need to tell her that you are very particular with how you keep things in your room, and start out by telling her that if she would like to stay in your room, to clean up the mess that she makes. That will progress into later asking her to use a different room for her mess.

Good luck with this, and please update me on how this goes!!! If you have any other questions, comments, or concerns, you can contact me on my advice site, xosodapopx3

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14/f
so, there was a sadie hawkins dance at my school. the guy that i planned on asking acted like a jerk right before i was about to ask him (long story) and i just couldn't ask him. so i asked my best guy friend. we've been like brother and sister for a little more than a year. this friend doesn't go to my school. so the dance comes and we go out to dinner, he refuses to let me pay for my own dinner, and everything is going great. when we get to the dance, we're just hanging out and i introduce him to all of my friends. when the first slow dance comes, he grabs me and pulls me reallllly close. we dance and we don't even talk while we're dancing. we just stare at each other and smile. when the song ends, we just stand there. he's holding me and i'm smiling and then one of my friends comes up and taps him on the shoulder. she says "you know the song's over right? you don't have to stand there like that..." and he just says "yeah i know." so the rest of the dance goes that way. after the dance, he says he had a really good time. after that, everything went back to normal. in school, i literally was asked 100 times 'are you going out with him?''you looked so cute together' blah blah. now, i'm thinking about him a lot more and i'm wondering...does he have a thing for me? could we be more than friends? help !

First off I think that is really cute :-) and second of all I agree with advice lady, I think he would like to be more than just friends, judging by your description of how he was acting. Take it slow, start to hang out with him more, see how you guys connect. Dont hang out as the normal friends you are, try to actually feel something, a connection that is a sign of maybe this will work. It helps that you are already comfortable with him because you have been friends for a while, maybe you guys can make a mutual decision to take it to the next level. Let me know how it goes for you, good luck!!!! hope you had a happy holiday :-)

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My mom is in her early 80‘s, I am in my early 50‘s. I have no idea how to handle her any more.

Ok this is going to sound weird but here goes. Here is the background: I go to the 99 cent store and I have purchased beautiful sweaters, blouses, pants, blazers. All top quality - Liz Claiborne , Ralph Lauren, New York & Co, to name a few, plus unknowns but in top quality. I don't buy the crap. The cashiers and customers all tell me I get the great quality stuff. My friends and relatives ask me if I purchased them at Lord & Taylor's or other expensive stores. I have tons of clothes from the 99 cent store. Also one of the blouses I purchased back in June was a pink paisley and when I showed it to my mom she held it up and said in a nasty matter-of-fact way "Oh this is not new" However, when we went to visit my Aunt (one of her remaining sisters) in Vermont I wore the blouse going up on the bus and when my aunt saw it she said to me "I love your blouse, I wish you could have gotten me the blouse you are wearing" And this was after my mom gave her vest from Kohl’s and I gave her necklace as a present.

Also at another time: I was getting ready for an interview. I put on a teal button down blazer. My mom started to criticize my blazer saying it was too big in the shoulders, but I could not see where it was big. Then I wore it for one of our religious holiday when my sister, brother-in-law, my two nephews and Anita and her husband came over to celebrate (have dinner) with my mom and me and Anita commented on how much she loved the blazer. However, before any one arrived my mom said “You look really nice”

Today I was at the computer on the Internet going thru my email. I didn't pay attention as to how this came about but somehow my mom and I were talking about a brand new winter coat I purchased at Lord & Taylor's. Actually she purchased it as a birthday present. As my mom left my room I called out to her and said “Where is it written that name brands are better than non-name brands, she then came back into my room and said “Listen you are a snob” I asked her how and she said “Well you only wanted the coat from Lord & Taylor’s, how come you did not like the one from Kohl’s” I started to tell her but she cut me off telling me why.

And then she left to go into the kitchen. About five minutes later I was still annoyed so I went in to the kitchen and said “But the clothes I buy at the 99 cent store are of good quality” She said “We are not talking about used clothes we are talking about new vs. new” This got me angry and I told her that the clothes I buy from the 99 cent store do not look used” My mom said “But the clothes you buy there are not new, lets say you purchased a Ralph Lauren at the 99 cent store it is not new but it was new at one time and it would be more expensive at a department store” I said to her the red sweater I am wearing does not look used she retorted back “Yes it does, it is a little pilled” I told her it is lint that just has to be brushed off but of course she disagreed. And yes it was lint. I bushed the lint off in my room.

Then we had some fight, we both said really nasty things to one another. One of the nasty things she said to me “Well the other day you wore a sweater that is for a little girl, it was made for a little girl”

I told her that I get compliments on my wardrobe. I don’t know what to do. She is constantly putting down things I like, but then in the next breath “Oh I think you dress nicely”

Then today when we went to the movies (and at dinner) I said to her right after we purchased our tickets “you really did not mean what you said about the red sweater and the other sweater, you just said it because you were mad” Then in one of those tones that implies I didn’t mean it but I said to annoy you tone “Yes I meant it” Also this is what she added at the restaurant “As long as you ask me that is my answer”

I don’t want to fight with her but she makes me say things to her So what do you make of what she said? Do you think she just said those things about my sweaters to annoy me.

Also should I write her a detailed letter explaining how I feel, and in the letter include the dialogue we have had and then rewrite the dialogue the way it should have been to get my point across to her

I think that you and your mom need to sit down and have some "quality time together" and while you do, wear something that maybe she bought you. But lets concentrate on the important part, cloths are one of the most least important parts of life, they are simply pieces of material pulled together by string made to fit and cover our body. It should not matter where you got your cloths, how much your cloths were, or how you like your cloths to look. And you need to express that calmly to your mother. I suggest you have a serious CALM conversation with her, and tell her exactaly how you feel (in a nice way) and simply and briefly (i emphasize briefly)talk to her. Maybe having luch at a nice restaurant would be a good place to start. Either way, there is a lack of communication here, and unfortunetly, you are getting the beat for it, so you are the one that is going to have to try to fix it. Although I do not know your life, I feel as though there is something, some issue that is lingering beyond cloths in this particular situation. And I say this because sometimes, often, it is likely to occur that bad situations that are either left unsaid or unfinished will pile up and turn for the worse. Dont let this go, you need to fix things with your mom, so that things dont get worse. It might even help if you compliment your moms outfit. Ask her if there is anything else on her mind, anything at all that (might?) be bothering her.
If you think about it, and once this problem is all cleared up, you and your mom will realize that it was a silly little disagreement to have, especially over some cloths. And if your mom just doesnt seem to want to adapt to the whole used cloths for 99 cents, then let her have her own opinions, you like your cloths, and so do other people. And if your mom comments about how they are used, you dont have to hide anything (if they are used) just admit to it. say, "yeah mom, they are new, but so what, they dont look it, and they definetly do NOT cost nearly as much as new ones." but say it in a calm sort of i am confident with myself kind of way.
Hope this helps :-) let me know how it goes for you!!! ps
about the whole writing the letter thing, I find that if my mom cuts me off alot in our conversations and refuses to listen to me, then I know that writing a letter, she will take the time to read and comprehend the letter. But I would save the letter as a last resort. And if you ARE going to write the letter, be very careful with your wording because something innocent can become sarcastic veryyyyyyy easily (trust me.)
Good luck again :-)
Let me know how this goes for you, and dont hesitate to ask any more questions at my advice column: xosodapopx3

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So...I have this problem with jealousy...it's not a healthy amount either. If someone gets something I want, I get jealous. It's as simple as that. I've tried everything to get rid of it. Like, noticing the things I have right now, cherish everyone for their differences...all that stuff. But it doesn't work. I get obsessed with it and end up feeling worthless and like I have nothing. Any ideas...?

everyone has a little jealousy, but I found you some websites that help you get rid of jealousy. :-) good luck! happy holidays!

http://www.natha.net/content.aspx?item=2634&lang=EN

http://www.enotalone.com/article/2253.html

http://blog.nobleworld.org/2007/01/08/how-to-get-rid-of-jealousy.aspx

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where do i get free music videos for my ipod nano??? plz help me i surely will appreciate it

I hear limewire is pretty good, but also every week on itunes there is a free music video. Other than that all of my friends get songs, movies, and music videos and games all for free at www.limewire.com :-) enjoy!

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i'm throwing a party for my friend for her sweet sixteen. there will only be like 30 or so people there. i'm making the playlist. i've pretty much raided the internet (google, top song charts, youtube) for like techno / trance / eurodance / house / club / dance / electronic songs (cause those are the genres that people dance to -- i want everyone around and moving!), but if you guys were going to a cool upbeat party, what song / songs would you DEFINITELY want to hear? (NO COUNTRY / JAZZ / CLASSICAL / DEPRESSING SONGS)

list as many as you'd like! :)

artists i have:
katy perry, all-american rejects, basshunter, coldplay, jack's mannequin, britney spears, M.I.A., kanye west, leona lewis, onerepublic, the shins, mgmt, lady gaga, flo-rida, soulja boy, and young love (as well as other DJs who have their own remixes).

i have every song on the "top iTunes list" when you google for the list, but what were some RECENTLY popular songs? (e.g., soulja boy was a huge hit)

thank you!

well, Im glad I saw this question, because my ipod is all full of hit music upbeat!!! haha.

Christina Aguilera- keeps gettin better

Kevin Rudolf- Let it rock

Rihanna- Live your life

Finger eleven- Paralizer

Shop boyz- Party like a rock star

Pink0 So what

We the kings- Skyway Avenue

We the kings- Check yes juliet

Kanye west- stronger

Fall out boy- Dance Dance

Fall out boy- Sugar, We're goin down

(i dont know if you like the jonas brothers, im not a fan, but they have some upbeat music)

Shut up and Let me Go- the ting tings

Black kids- Im not gonna teach your boyfriend how to dance with you

Out Kast- Hey Ya!

Forever- Chris Brown

Disturbia- Rihanna

Danity Kane- Damaged

Ne-Yo Closer

Estelle- American Boy

Alicia Keys- Another way to die

The 88- GO GO Go

Rihanna- Dont stop the music

Usher- Yeah Yeah!

Usher- Caught up

Aly and Aj- Like Whoa
^more from aly and aj is good too, I just cant remember the names of the song, I think one is rush :-)



I hope this helped, have an AWESOME party! and happy holidays! Ps there are also remixes that are really upbeat, like for Cascada, and no air by jordan sparks.
have fun!

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Ok I wanted to ask you a question because I'm hoping you can give me a good answer. I'm 14/f and this might be long so I'm sorry about that. I liked this guy and like 2 weeks later I found out he liked me by my friend. So it was pretty obvious after that. He did ask me out. So we were going out, I think. Its confusing lol. We sat by each other and stuff. My friend hates him now for no reason. She said he was annoying or whatever. But that's not the problem. She passed me a note asking me if I liked him. I said yeah and why. She said because he flirts with these 2 other girls at school. (I don't go to his school) And him and his friend started passing notes, so I was like ok whatever. Later his friend asked me what my friend said to me. I said nothing. He said that the guy I liked thought she was trying to get me to stop hanging out with him. Then he asked if I liked him. So I said I don't know. Then he said well he doesn't really like you either. I was like ok...Then his other friend keeps bringing him up like, "have you given him your number?" And stuff like that. I think I should ask him whats going on because some other friends say that he never even talks to those girls that my friend says he flirting with. I think she could be lying but idk. I'm shy not really like never talk shy but its hard for me to talk to him about stuff like that. So what should I do? Thanks so much!

I can see your tricky situation, and as I was reading about it, I realized that there are WAY too many people involved in your relationship with this kid. I know it can be confusing, getting information from lots of people at once, which is why you should form your own opinion for now, and not listen to what anyone else says. I was like you, very outgoing but I was very embarassed in a way to talk to my bf about that sort of thing too. But it has to happen. To start off, you need to set up a date and time that you can hang out with him, and have a serious talk, just with you two. You need to tell him that there are wayyy too many rumors going around and too many people involved, you should ask him some personal questions too. I think right now it needs to be all about communication between the two of you directly, not from his or your friends. Its like playing telephone, (if you have ever played) when word gets to one person to another things start to get twisted.

As for your friend who thinks he is annoying, you need to re-assure her that your relationship will not interfere with your friendship, and you guys will spend plenty of best friend time too. But she also needs to understand that he is your boyfriend, and she needs to be willing to accept that at times. If things work out with you and that boy, she may come around, just give it some time.
Please let me know how this works out for you, I really want to help you! And thanks for the inbox :-) have a happy holiday, if you have anything else or any questions, you can always feel free to inbox me anytime. :-)

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What is the slime on slime time made out of ?

I got slimed at a mini-slime time place when I was little and I asked them what the real slime was made out of at slime time and they men said that it was a concauction of baby food (peas) and thick liquid mixed together.
Ps even though it lookes fun, On the way home I wanted to vomit because I remember how bad I smelled, it was absolutely disgusting!

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so my best friend has a really nice family. well i thought she did...one night she was sleeping over and was like i hate my house. im sorry im always sleeping over and im like its fine. she told me that she was scared to tell me and made me promise not to tell anyone, and ik im breaking the promise but ive been sick about it all week, and she told me her dad was abusing her and her siblings. she has a 4 year old sister, 12 year old brother, and shes 14. her dad throws her stuff at her or against the wall and screams at her adn im scared for her. shes never been really hurt but what do i do to help her???? thanks ):

This is very serious, and Im glad that you are at least sharing it with the people on this site. Your friend needs to get help, and I suggest you talk with a very responsible and private adult about the situation (such as your mom?) Usually when people come out and say what is happening, it is not only a cry for attention, but in the long run it is also a way for help instead of getting it directly for themselves.

I found this answer to a girl (14) who also has two younger syblings and an abusive dad. You should read what Dr. Marie wrote, and share it with your freind. There is a number in the article that her mom can call, its toll free and there are also a bunch of anonymous numbers too, but I am pretty sure this one is anonymous.

Answer:
First, please be very, very careful about trying to take your dad on. He is barely in control of his anger and I’m concerned he could hurt you if you yell back. Instead, you and your family need to get some help. You didn’t say what your mother is doing about your father’s behavior. I can only guess that she is afraid of him too or she would be doing more to protect you. Please tell her about the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233). There are counselors available 24/7 to help families like yours figure out what to do. You could also talk privately to your school guidance counselor or school nurse, your doctor, or your pastor to get some advice about what services are available locally to help your mom and your family. Professionals know how to keep what you tell them confidential and will know where to go for practical help.

No kid should be so afraid of her father that she can’t eat and has panic attacks. No boy should be so afraid that he stays mute to stay out of the way. This is a terribly sad and totally unacceptable situation. All kids and moms deserve to feel secure in their own homes. I’m glad you wrote and I hope you and your mom get the help you need to make your home safe.


the website I found this article was:

http://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2008/03/04/where-can-i-get-help-about-abusive-dad/

Good luck, and be proud of yourself, and remember, this is a very serious situation. Incourage your friend to talk to her mom about it, or get together with your parents and have a group discussion, together you can beat this.

And I dont know where you live, but here is a site with all locations (states and different countries etc) that is very inciteful and give you direct numbers to call for help.
Please look at this site, there are numbers to call for every state, it will help out the most.

http://www.childhelp.org/get_help/local-phone-numbers

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Hey im 17/f and my boyfriend is 18/m. We've been dating for about 2 months now. I want to let him know that im in control. Cuz it seems like sometimes he thinks that he is. I know its suppose to be "mutual" control bla blah bla and what are some ways to let him know that i am in control? Any ideas? please and thank you so much!

Well you can do certain things in situations: For example, if you guys want to hang out, and he says lets go to the movies, you can turn around and say, well I really kind of feel like going ice skating or bowling.
Although I (think) I give good advice, I found you a VERY straight forward site that can definetly can help you alot better than I can :-)so check out the link below :-)

http://www.yintegrity.com/blog/how-to-get-your-controlling-boyfriend-to-stop-being-so-damn-controlling





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I'm extremely behind in my studies, my exams are just around the corner, and I don't have any motivation to study. I've tried many things to stay motivated , but nothing works.
I'm also extremely slow.When i have off, and do study, i wind up spending the whole day having studied just one lecture. With this rate , I'm not going to be able to pass the year. I've alreay lost many years due to switching majors, so I really don't need to lose anymore.
I think my problem is that anything ,and I mean anything distracts me. Say i'm studying. Then after a while, i'll stop studying and just stare at the page and re-read the lines over and over without actually absorbing what I've read. I even just stop studying for long periods of time so that I can sleep longer or eat more.
My questions are, what should I do to stay motivated to study ? What should I do to stop staring at the pages ? How can I quit getting distracted so easily and avoid sleeping so much?

Thanks for taking the time to read my question. Sorry if it's long.

Trust me, I am having the sammeeee problem, especially with only TWO days left of school before winter break, and these two days are going to be FILLED with tests! My advice to you is to reward yourself when you study, and study a little at a time. For example: set the rule and stick to it, if you want to go on the computer, or eat that chocolate chip cookie downstairs in your kitchen, tell yourself NOT until you study for say 15 minutes. If you actually study, then you can reward yourself with say 20 minutes of computer or going to eat that cookie. I like to make the deal with myself sweeter by saying if I study for 15 minutes, then I get a 25 minute break :-) Seriously do this. And to help you concentrate, find all the key points in the material you are studying, and write it down, this way you are reading all of the material, and you are getting into it. If you actually read the stuff that your looking at, instead of just looking at the words, it can actually be (somewhat) interesting. Also, I find it easier to actually comprehend what i am reading when I follow the lines with my pen, and read it semi-outloud (you know, when your lips are moving and just some of the sentence is coming out in a whisper from your mouth.) And after you read a chunk of a section or a paragraph or whatever it is, stop for a moment and think about what you just learned/read, do you remember it? this will help you be more aware of how your acting at that moment.
Good luck, i really hope this helps, because Im feeling the same pain you are haha, dont you just wish that you knew the whole book sor study guide sometimes? happy holidays, let me know how this works out for you! :-)

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last night i went to a friends and my best friends boyfriend was there he cheated on her with me, i realy really regret it and im so worried shes going to find out. I feel so bad!!???

This is going to be the hardest thing to do in the world, but you need to tell your best friend before someone else does. You need to be very calm, tell her in person, and let her know how sorry you are. Also, if he came on to you, you can try to make the situation better, by telling your friend he was the one flirting, but you just need to be honest, at this point she will not want anymore lies, and I guarantee you she will find out one way or another, so you need to talk with her asap. Dont overwhelm her with sorrow, but you need to express with deep gratitude how sorry you are, and clearly you made a mistake, and that it was not worth it, an in the moment thing. Let me know how this goes for you, inbox me on my column, xosodapopx3 . And after you appologize, just own up to it from there on, never make an excuse, it HAS to be about honesty. When you tell her, just let her have her space for a couple days or so. She will come around. good luck again, update me!

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