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help!
last night i went to a friends and my best friends boyfriend was there he cheated on her with me, i realy really regret it and im so worried shes going to find out. I feel so bad!!???
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If i were you i would tell your friend. Its better for her to hear it from you then for her to hear it from someone else! I know its going to be hard but just sit her down and explain to her that it meant nothing, you're really sorry. And you wanted to tell her before she heard it from anybody else. I think that would be the best thing for this situation right now. She would be more furious i think if she heard it from somebody else! Good luck
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I agree with sodapop that you need to tell your friend. However, you also need to evaluate what kind of friendship you two have. If you do not have a strong friendship, you may have to face the fact that you two will not be friends anymore. Sometimes, a friend who loves her boyfriend will find it easier to pin the whole affair on you, and leave her boyfriend blameless--in that case, you will have worse than no friendship; you will more than likely become enemies. Some friendships, however, can weather it. Determine what kind of friendship you have to figure out how to tell her. If she's going to be jealous, don't put the blame on the guy. If you think she will dump you as a friend, you could ask if there is anything you could do to win her trust back. Hopefully you guys can work it out, but realize she will have trust issues with you for a while. However, all of that is better than someone else telling her--leaving you with no chance to regain her trust ever. Good luck and much love.
~TD
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If i were you, i would just go ahead and tell her yourself. I admit, it will be really hard, but you need to tell her before her boyfriend does. She will think of you as a better friend if you tell her than keep it from her. Just say that you are really sorry and you understand if she can't be your friend still but say you hope you can stay friends and that you deeply regret it. Hope this helps! It will all work out in the end.
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This is going to be the hardest thing to do in the world, but you need to tell your best friend before someone else does. You need to be very calm, tell her in person, and let her know how sorry you are. Also, if he came on to you, you can try to make the situation better, by telling your friend he was the one flirting, but you just need to be honest, at this point she will not want anymore lies, and I guarantee you she will find out one way or another, so you need to talk with her asap. Dont overwhelm her with sorrow, but you need to express with deep gratitude how sorry you are, and clearly you made a mistake, and that it was not worth it, an in the moment thing. Let me know how this goes for you, inbox me on my column, xosodapopx3 . And after you appologize, just own up to it from there on, never make an excuse, it HAS to be about honesty. When you tell her, just let her have her space for a couple days or so. She will come around. good luck again, update me!
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