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my friends abusing dad
so my best friend has a really nice family. well i thought she did...one night she was sleeping over and was like i hate my house. im sorry im always sleeping over and im like its fine. she told me that she was scared to tell me and made me promise not to tell anyone, and ik im breaking the promise but ive been sick about it all week, and she told me her dad was abusing her and her siblings. she has a 4 year old sister, 12 year old brother, and shes 14. her dad throws her stuff at her or against the wall and screams at her adn im scared for her. shes never been really hurt but what do i do to help her???? thanks ):
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This is very serious, and Im glad that you are at least sharing it with the people on this site. Your friend needs to get help, and I suggest you talk with a very responsible and private adult about the situation (such as your mom?) Usually when people come out and say what is happening, it is not only a cry for attention, but in the long run it is also a way for help instead of getting it directly for themselves.
I found this answer to a girl (14) who also has two younger syblings and an abusive dad. You should read what Dr. Marie wrote, and share it with your freind. There is a number in the article that her mom can call, its toll free and there are also a bunch of anonymous numbers too, but I am pretty sure this one is anonymous.
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First, please be very, very careful about trying to take your dad on. He is barely in control of his anger and I’m concerned he could hurt you if you yell back. Instead, you and your family need to get some help. You didn’t say what your mother is doing about your father’s behavior. I can only guess that she is afraid of him too or she would be doing more to protect you. Please tell her about the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233). There are counselors available 24/7 to help families like yours figure out what to do. You could also talk privately to your school guidance counselor or school nurse, your doctor, or your pastor to get some advice about what services are available locally to help your mom and your family. Professionals know how to keep what you tell them confidential and will know where to go for practical help.
No kid should be so afraid of her father that she can’t eat and has panic attacks. No boy should be so afraid that he stays mute to stay out of the way. This is a terribly sad and totally unacceptable situation. All kids and moms deserve to feel secure in their own homes. I’m glad you wrote and I hope you and your mom get the help you need to make your home safe.
the website I found this article was:
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Good luck, and be proud of yourself, and remember, this is a very serious situation. Incourage your friend to talk to her mom about it, or get together with your parents and have a group discussion, together you can beat this.
And I dont know where you live, but here is a site with all locations (states and different countries etc) that is very inciteful and give you direct numbers to call for help.
Please look at this site, there are numbers to call for every state, it will help out the most.
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I would tell your parents and they will know what to do. I know you promised that you wouldn't say anything, but you need to do this for your friend. You need to find her help so she dosen't have to live like this. It will be for the better. Be brave. You can do it. Hope this helps!
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