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how did you get a picture on here? i cant do it even if ive resized it!!! AHHH

I used a program called Photofiltre that's installed
on my labtop it's a program to edit pictures & it's free to download i shrunk the picture then i just uploaded it on here or if you've never used that program you could go to tinypic.com & upload your picture on there & click on the smallest size then
click on the picture & save it to your computer & try uploading it on here or if you'd rather not try those suggestions continue to try & resize the picture until it allows you to upload it & put it on here!

Hope i helped

So the other day i was having people over my house to chill and drink a little. It was my bestfriend,my boyfriend and his brothers and another friend of mine.I got really tired so i went up to my room and fell asleep and they all continued to chill downstairs. Yesterday,my boyfriends brother told me something went on.My boyfriend finally told me that he and my best friend were so drunk were sitting all over his lap and she was trying to get him to touch her boobs and rubbing each others legs and shit and flirting etc.I was pretty mad. He cried to me and told me to forgive him and said he loves me and etc. etc.and he felt so guilty and he told me because he cares about me blah blah.I told him i wasnt gonna break up with him because they didn't kiss and i realize accidents happen and second chances are worth it...but my best friend hasn't said a word about it to me and thinks i don't know,which is pretty horrible on her part. My boyfriend told me he'd never talk to her,look at her,etc again..but he told me to let this time go and reduce drama. what should i do? she has done this to me two times previous ! and ive kept her..maybe im the dumb one.

I think you should forgive both your best friend
and boyfriend since they were both drunk alcohol
makes you not be in control of your actions and what your doing if your boyfriend said he loves you and that he'd never talk or look at her again then i think you should believe him i don't think he'd purposely try and hurt you everybody makes mistakes & they aren't perfect make it clear to your best friend that she's not to go near your boyfriend seeing as your dating him & she's not that way she'll take you seriously

My freinds always get bf but i really want one i think im to fat or ugly, i pretty popular but i dont see what's wrong i need some adcice im so jelous of my freinds.............My freind just got a new bf and my bother freind keeps getting asked out by everybody.

You've got to have confidence without it you won't
get very far talk to boys your interested in & create conversation with them and see how it goes from there as far as being popular it's just a label and means nothing if you continue to think of yourself as ugly and fat you'll have low self esteem and you won't believe in yourself and have confidence like you need just be yourself & don't try to act or be like something you aren't boys don't like fake girls don't wait for the boy to come
to you..you make the first move & go after him(:

i am engaged to my fiancee and weve been together for 1 1/2 years almost. He recently went to jail and all our converstaions have been good up until now and hes accusing me of cheating on him and leting guys in the car and im telling him theres nobody else i want but him and i love him and he still doesnt believe that im not cheating on him and its just hurting me more cause he doesnt believe or tust me. what should i do?

You need to tell your fiance that part of being in
a relationship with someone is being able to trust them and what they say and if you say you didn't cheat on him then he should believe you unless he's got proof of you cheating but otherwise if he doesn't then he shouldn't be accusing you of doing so say by him not believing you & accusing you it's hurting you more and more maybe once he realizes what he's saying is hurting you he'll start believing you and stop with the accusations aganist you(:

my best friend was a druggie, he was practically my brother we hungout everyday. but on december 14 he was sent to jail and put in rehab across the country and got out right before my birthday but is still on house arrest. he called me twice even though he is not allowed any communication with people other than family but he snuck it. i miss him so much it feels like im broken into a million pieces still. he doesnt deserve that, i dont know what to do i feel so cold and i dont even know why or what i could do for either of us. im 16/f hes 16/m he was always the happy go lucky guy and no one could ever even be sad around him, he was proud to be bi and in love with music.

Everything happens for a reason you can't change
what has happened to him the best thing you can do
is to try and be strong for the both of you and hope for the best even though it won't be easy he would probably want that nobody deserves to be in rehab or jail but that's the price a person pays when they do drugs and break the law people change and things happen try and think positively thinking
negatively will only make things worst keep yourself
busy so you aren't focused on it as much and hope that he behaves himself so he doesn't get into more
trouble(:

Hey you guys..here's the thing,I need sum advice and I need it fast.It seems like my life as been shattered in just about every catagory..friendships,relationships,family,ect. I just don't know what to do about anything anymore.nothings going rite and I feel like it's all my fault. I try to be a picture perfect girl but it seems like I can't never be happy. My boyfriend of a year now broke my heart.. My friends live for drama and if I dont break from my parents house soom imma scream. You guys I really need sum life advice because what do you do when your clueless????

Nobody is perfect & that includes you we all make mistakes & are all human don't try & be perfect because you'll never be things weren't meant to be
between you and your ex boyfriend everything happens for a reason you can't change the fact that he broke up with you what's done is done it is what it is yes it may hurt now seeing as it just happened but evenually the hurt your feeling will fade away and you'll move on if your friends live for drama then don't hangout with them find new friends to hang with if the drama doesn't involve you then try to ignore it it's probably pointless drama anyways one way you can get away from your parents house is by getting your license with that you'll be able to go where you want & you'll have more freedom another is to volunteer somewhere or if you'd rather get paid try looking for a job in your area you could move out if your old enough & legal to do so but if your not then look into those suggestions(:

okay well in 6th grade i decided to go to this shcool with all my friends were at! i wasnt zoned to that school but my mom made some paperwork so i could go to this school! i was really happy but sometimes i wonder if i made the right choice? im in 7th grade now and all the drama and fights are driving me crazy! im not the person i used to be! i used to be fun and happy and now im the total oppisate! sometimes i just want to move to another school and just start fresh! im very stressed out right now and i dont even want to go to school anymore! i could easily go to the other school im zoned to but im not sure? i need advice! what should i do?im so confused!!! :(

I think you made the right decision i wouldn't move
to another school and try to start fresh seeing as
you've already become fimilar with the school your
at now & if you were to go to another one then you'd
be lost and have to start all over again focus on your school work & not the fights or drama otherwise you'll get caught in between them & that would just add more to you being stressed part of being in school is being a little stressed out & there's always going to be drama no matter what you can't make it go away no matter how hard you want it
too just focus on your school work & try your best to ignore the drama if it doesn't involve you then
you don't have to worry about it(:

17/f my best friend changed who she is completely. She used to be really fun and crazy. She likes to party with
me and was hilarious and we had sooo much fun. She recently went anorexic and I think that is why
she is so boring. But now she is like a goody goody. I'm not like trashy or drink a whole lot but sometimes I add a little rum to my pop. I've done this forever and it's never been a big deal to her. The other day I offered her some of my pop and she was like oh my god what's in this are you drinking rum oh my god. Why would you do that. Yeah.. She is the one who got me drinking. Oh this other time I was telling her how I accidentally hit this persons car window thing with my arm. It was already hanging off it just showed like the wires when I hit it and so I left because I was afraid they would blame me. So I tell her this and she is like really, I report people like you. She always says stuff like this and brags ALOT. It's so irritating. What do I do about this?

Your friend is her own person she could do whatever she chooses i think you should be there for her & support her seeing as she's got a eating disorder people change even though she may have drank in the past & got you into drinking things change you can't really change her she has to be willing to change herself the eating disorder is most likely consuming her life which is why she probably isn't as much fun as she once was i think you should confront her & say it was a accident that you hit the car window and you didn't purposely mean to do it..it was already broken so it wasn't entirely your fault that way she knows the truth be straight
forward with her and be honest don't sugar coat what
you say...that way hopefully she'll get the hint that what she said to you annoyed you

Does anybody know if anybody has actually ever been arrested for downloading music on LimeWire? My friend says that there have never been any arrests but with everything you hear all the time about this I can't believe there are no arrests from LimeWire music.

Can somebody just tell me the truth about this? If you download music on LimeWire will you get arrested?

Me & my family use Limewire & we haven't gotten arrested or gotten caught maybe we got lucky & others haven't i'm sure others use it too if it was
illegal there wouldn't be a offical website & it wouldn't be allowed to be downloaded we've been using it for a while i think if you try & do something with the songs your downloading or whatever elese you could possiblity get into trouble(:

hey i'm 19/f and my husband is being deployed to Afghanistan next month. I've started to notice that as each day progresses i get very emotional about everything. I think about him being gone and i cry and i cant stop. It's just odd because I've never been this emotional before. I mean i can figure out that its because its getting closer to him being gone. Is there anything i can do to make myself not cry all the time? Its hard to keep my mind off of it.

Thanks and i rate!

Keep yourself busy do different things if you just sit around you'll end up thinking about him leaving but if your busy you'll be focused on doing other things & won't have time to think about it your thoughts will be elese where try thinking from a positive prespective by him being deployed he's keeping our country safe along with all the others
who are fighting & putting their lives on the line being brave in your situation it's better to cry & let all your emotions out don't be afraid your emotional because he'll be leaving and he's not just some stranger he's your husband i think most would react the way you are it's normal(:

Hi Guys
Me & my Boyfriend have been dating for a few weeks now & at first we used to text eachother quite a lot, not LOTS but y'know. Now when I text him he replies like 4 hours later. I Mean im not acting all crazy like what is he doing, who is he with etc, I Understand he could be doing things, but its jus that he didnt take this long to reply before so I think hes purposely replying to me late on. By This time I dont have much time to talk, Its Late etc. Do Guys just do this???

Yes some guys do it communication is key to having a
good relationship without it the relationship won't get very far i think you should sit your boyfriend down & confront him about the fact that he takes long to respond back to you i don't think he'd purposely reply late that'd be mean to do especially
since your his girlfriend he could be busy doing other things your best option is to confront him &
hopefully he'll give you a good enough answer(:

19/f
Hi! I'm writing here because I'm having some issues with my mom. Let me tell you a little bit about myself. My parents are divorced and I live with my mom. I never really had a relationship with my dad until now. Now we are close. But, before, it was really just me and my mom. We live with my grandparents (her parents). In June 2009, the day after I graduated from high school, my parents decided to tell me I was adopted. I just met my biological family in June. When I was younger, I noticed some peculiar things. My mom was like kind of overly obsessed with me. By obsessed, I mean that since I was 13, and talking to a boy for the first time, she would sit by the computer while I was IMing and tell me what to say. Let me just make you aware that I went to an all girls school so this really WAS the first boy i talked to. It was a really big deal for me. She would make me put the phone on speaker and tell me everything to say. She checked my myspace back when that was the thing. She checked it CONSTANTLY. She would write on people's myspace's as ME! and when I changed my password, she would tell me she would never speak to me again if I changed it. She put me in a school I hated because it had high security. She wouldn't let me do my own makeup EVER. Since I was 14, she would do my make-up even just to go to the movies, and it was like a lot. It was make up for someone that's my age now, not a 14 year old. I don't know. I love her so much, but I just didn't know why she was like that. But, after she told me I was adopted, I understood some of it. All she wanted was a baby, and she got one. That was her life. She was overly protective because she was afraid I'd find out or someone would tell me. So, I understood a little bit of it. It's not that she was protective in the sense that she wouldn't let me do anything. She would let me go out and live, but, she just never gave me any privacy. For college, I wanted to leave. I wanted to go to California for college. After they told me I was adopted, I decided to stay. I wanted to be closer to home, close to my friends and family. I also wanted to be close to my dad, because we had just started getting close. So, I am in the university, but living at home. Although things are better, because my mom has given me my privacy, it seems like she still wants to run my life. She tells me who I can LIKE and who I can't. She tells me what to eat, what to do. She tells me what clubs to join at school, which ones not to. Obviously, I don't listen..... but, she just needs to stop and accept me as an adult. I honestly can't take these things seriously. I mean, I'm the furthest thing from a trouble maker that you can imagine. But, these are decisions I have to make on my own. I just need to get her to understand that. I'm very responsible. I've worked all my life. I make my own money. I'm in the University. Right now, I don't plan on going to California, because things have tied up here. My friends and I have gotten closer. I've joined cheerleading and I'm in a sorority. So, I like it. I'm happy here and I don't plan on leaving any time soon. I don't have enough money to get my own place. I LOVE my mom. She is my best friend in the whole world. But, I need her to step back and let me be an adult. Can anyone offer me any advice on how to do this?

I think you need to sit your mother down & tell her
how you feel say you'd like for her to trust you & give you more freedom to be your own person & do your own things your a adult now and your responsible you'll make the right decisions she's got to let go of you a little in order for you to be able to experience the world & everything
it has to offer tell her that it would make you very happy if she did that she needs to accept you & the fact that your a adult who's grown your no longer a child anymore tell her nicely you'd like it if she stopped controlling every aspect of your life(:

Hiya, 15, female. I have an older brother, 18 years old. There is a girl in my church who was one of my best friends, we hung out everyday and did all of this fun stuff together, I was her number one on myspace, there was an album of just me and her on her facebook, until she found out she liked my brother. Less and less we would hang out. She would come to my house to be with me but her and my brother would just ditch me and go up into his room. Even when we went to her house to hang out she would text him constantly and act like I wasn't even there. I got so mad I just stopped talking to her. Then, her mom and dad found out she was dating a "bad boy" when her mom wants her with the pastor's son. So, her mother made them break up. Now, since they have broken up I thought they stopped talking until one day my brother didn't log out of his facebook and I saw that they were talking to each other about how great their sex was!! I was shocked that from then on I realized I HATED her and that she only used me for my brother. She stopped talking to me and she said she stopped talking to my brother when in reality she didn't. In church she tries to talk to me like we're still "best friends" but I can't even look at her without wanting to strangle her. Now, I kinda got over it until my mom told me that she was messaged by this girl on facebook last night, she said she got a new phone, she doesn't know how I feel about her but I've been on her mind a lot, then she gave my mom her new cell number and told her to give it to me. I don't want this girl in my life anymore! What do I do?

I think you should confront her & say that you'd like it if she gave you some space be truthful & honest with her and hopefully she'll get the hint
that you don't want to be bothered by her or say if she was a real friend she wouldn't of used you for your brother friends don't do that to one another do
whatever you need to get your point across & for her to leave you alone you have every right to dislike her seeing as she used you & if she asks about the cell number lie & say your mother didn't
give it to you karma what comes around goes around(:

ok i'm a female, 18 years old..so theirs this guy, and he is asian. He is kinda short and i'm taller then him. i know that relationships shouldn't matter on physical elements but i just don't know if that is weird or wrong.. i mean i don't know if i like him..but would it be wrong not to like him because of the fact he is shorter then me. He is also one year older then me . i just don't know what to think. Please give me your opinion! thx

Yes i do think that would be wrong not to like him
because of the fact that he's shorter then you in a
sense you'd be judging him your age is simply a number nothing more him being one year old older isn't that big of a difference but yes i think it would be wrong for you to not like him because of how he's shorter then you he could be a nice boy if
you spoke to him & gave him a chance(:

Recently, whenever my boyfriend and I are around his friends, I tend to get ignored by him. He has a lot of female friends, and they flirt with him, but he doesn't stop them; he kind of does it back. I don't know what to do! It makes me feel very unappreciated and not important.

You need to tell your boyfriend sit him down & tell him exactly how you feel communication is key in a relationship he won't know unless you tell him say that whenever you & him are around his friends you tend to get ignored by him and he flirts with his female friends say that you'd like for him to stop & when he does those things it affects you & makes you feel very unappreciated & not important hopefully for your sake once he realizes it's affecting you he'll stop(:

okay, so my friend isnt eating much. she's at home by herself all the time. her boyfriend doesnt get to see her much so all she really has is her pets. her mum also goes on expencive holidays when they need the money for food. how can i help her and what could i suggest to her? she's just started cutting herself and i dont know what to do to help. ive already done the usual; talk to her, tell her to go see someone about it. she looks so unhappy whenever i see her. what can she do?

She could go walk around her neighborhood get some fresh air clear her head volunteer somewhere for a few hours to get herself out of the house tell her to search on the internet or in the newspaper to see if there are any jobs available in her area she could try & get her permit once she does she'll be able to get her license & she'll have more freedom to do what she wants cutting herself isn't going to help her it will just make the situation worst you need to make her realize what she's doing to herself is very dangerous she could possiblity bleed to death if she's cutting on her wrists since there's veins there especially if she's home alone & she cuts she won't be able to call for help she needs to
see a therapist talking is better then keeping everything bottled up inside to herself it isn't healthy to do that

hey,
this guy i really like has told me he likes me to my face but then he goes and tells his friends he doesnt..but they think he does. so my xboyfriend always tells him bad things about me and after a while hes starting to believe him. so i got very fed up with this and i just asked the kid out for myself and he said he had to think about it, hes been thinking about it for like 4 days now and everyday i ask him are u done thinking? n hes like i promise ill tell u tomorrow but he never does, i just dont know what to do...

-sincerely,
confused

Give him time & be patient if you continue to ask him whether or not he's made a decision then he'll
feel rushed and pressured once he's ready to tell i'm sure he will you'll drive yourself crazy continuing to ask him i'm sure he wouldn't give you a answer seeing as he said he was going too you've got to be patient & wait as far as your ex telling him bad things about you...you should tell him that he shouldn't believe what he hears because he doesn't know what's true & what's not only you know the truth & if he's curious about whether or not the things he's saying are true then he should confront you about it and ask you that way he'll know the truth(:

So, me and my boyfriend have been dating for 10 months now. We're really good with one another, and he's unlike any guy I've ever met. We have a lot of differences, which is alright by me because I couldn't live without the guy. When we started dating, he was really into getting high. He does use it responsibly, but he wants to do it for the rest of his life. He claims it inspires him to write music, play guitar, and to be spiritual. I respect this. After a month of dating, I told him that him smoking bothers me (No, he didn't do it around me, I just don't support any kinds of drugs). He quit for awhile, but now it's awkward. Every time it gets brought up we get into an arguement. I'm just not sure what to do. His friends stopped talking to him because he stopped smoking, and he doesn't do what he used to anymore. It really hurts.. but I don't know if I could handle dating someone who does drugs. Can anyone please tell me what to do? Or if marijuana is really such a bad thing? Help please.

Yes marijuana is a bad seeing as it's illegal drugs
are like alcohol in a way once you've done it..it makes you not be in control of your actions it's just not good for you even though he's doing the drugs responsibility they are still illegal & if he were to get caught with them he'd be in serious trouble you need to sit your boyfriend down & make him realize that you don't support drugs and you don't like him doing them say that you don't want him to become addicted & that he's better then that him wanting to do them for the rest of his life isn't the smartest idea say that it really hurts you make sure he knows it hopefully for both of your sakes he'll stop completely...you've got to put a end to it before it gets worst & comes in between you & him and your relationship you wouldn't want that(:

so my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 9 months.. in a couple days.. [technically 10] and i have been through so much for him.. for oever a year if you put it all together. people bullied me, i was harassed, my friends turned against me and now i have more enemies than i can count on both of my hands.. all becausehe broke up with his ex for me and i became a "home-wrecker" but she was cheating on him the entire time they were together and all this crap.
well, in the beginning, he was so used to just flirting with girls and having it be okay and normal in a relationship.. he used to call this girl baby and love and beautiful and i found out and i almost broke up with him. he didnt talk to me for 3 months over the summer and was "deciding if he wanted to break up with me or not" listening to what the girls AND HIS ex had to say. it was painful. but then things got good, but then he started talking to this girl from his church and they were flirting majorly and he would talk to her instead of me.. well, that got resolved and he doesnt talk to her anymore. then things were good again, but he started talking to his ex behind my bad [who did the majority of the bad things to me..] and that also got resolved [duh] and now his friend and him were playing xbox and they started playing with his friends "friend" lets call her.. elizabeth. and my boyfriend told me shes amazing and funny and awesome. uhm. pretty sure you shouldnt be telling your girlfriend that another girl is amazing. he doesnt say that about me to his friends.. and then i got mad at him because his friends were saying, "shes afraid of his cock" [meaning my boyfriends because i have morals.] and my brother heard them and stook up for me.. but my boyfriend didnt do anything. and then, i got mad at him because his friends are always so mean to me and he goes along with it, so we werent talking for a day or two until i forgave him, and then a couple days later i found out he hung out with elizabth at his friends aunts house with his firends "girlfriend" and girl cousin. i flipped out because ive been cheated on once before. he said nothing happened and that they werent even sitting next to eachother, but theres no way thats true. and when he was with her, he didnt text me all day until late that night.
and now hes not even trying to gain my trust back. he just gave up. and isnt even trying. when i was with him, i never gave up, ever. i love him, but i dont know if its worth it anymore. he doesnt text me unless i text him first, and im just a mess. im a mess. i was going to break up with him on thursday, but we had a snowday, so then i was gonna do it friday, but we had a snowday, and i dont know if i even want to do it on monday, but i cant because he has lab and then we have testing on tuesday wednesday and thursday. its like .. a sign that i shouldnt break up with him. but i dont know, what should i do, someone help me! please.
him: 16 me: 17

I think you should break up with him there's no point of being in a relationship if you aren't happy & your miserable you deserve to be treated better him flirting isn't acceptable & him calling
that other girl cute names isn't either he should be
committed to you & he isn't i don't think it's worth it anymore you need a boy who's going to treat you with respect & who won't do the things he did your relationship is one big mess & even if you weren't planning on breaking up with him you'd have to work really hard to get everything good again & back to normal there's plenty of other boys out there things weren't meant to be between you two so
your best option would be to break it off before he hurts you more then you already are(:

so i have this crush who's obviously not into me at all but i kept having this hope that maybe one day he would be. but anywaytoday my friend was like do you still want to go out with him and i was like not as much as he used to. i would if he wanted to go out with me first and she said sorry but i really doubt that would happen. it kind of hurt my feeings for some reason. am i right to feel this way? thanks for the help :)

Yes you have every right to feel that way your friend made a negative comment towards you she could
of worded it differently so it came out nicer she should of thought before she spoke it was rude what she said she needs to apologize to you..you deserve a apology so confront her & say that the comment she made towards you was very rude and you'd like for her to apologize & also say that what she said to you hurt your feelings that way she'll know that it did affect you don't allow her to stop you she can't tell you who can & can't date only your in control of that if you truely want the boy then i say go for it don't allow her to stand in your way(:

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