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Boyfriend wants to smoke
So, me and my boyfriend have been dating for 10 months now. We're really good with one another, and he's unlike any guy I've ever met. We have a lot of differences, which is alright by me because I couldn't live without the guy. When we started dating, he was really into getting high. He does use it responsibly, but he wants to do it for the rest of his life. He claims it inspires him to write music, play guitar, and to be spiritual. I respect this. After a month of dating, I told him that him smoking bothers me (No, he didn't do it around me, I just don't support any kinds of drugs). He quit for awhile, but now it's awkward. Every time it gets brought up we get into an arguement. I'm just not sure what to do. His friends stopped talking to him because he stopped smoking, and he doesn't do what he used to anymore. It really hurts.. but I don't know if I could handle dating someone who does drugs. Can anyone please tell me what to do? Or if marijuana is really such a bad thing? Help please.
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Yes marijuana is a bad seeing as it's illegal drugs
are like alcohol in a way once you've done it..it makes you not be in control of your actions it's just not good for you even though he's doing the drugs responsibility they are still illegal & if he were to get caught with them he'd be in serious trouble you need to sit your boyfriend down & make him realize that you don't support drugs and you don't like him doing them say that you don't want him to become addicted & that he's better then that him wanting to do them for the rest of his life isn't the smartest idea say that it really hurts you make sure he knows it hopefully for both of your sakes he'll stop completely...you've got to put a end to it before it gets worst & comes in between you & him and your relationship you wouldn't want that(:
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Well think about it in the long run. Even if you can learn to live with it now will you be able to in the future? I mean sure 10 months is a long time, but years? And what happens when you have kids? Do you really want a stoner being an example of their father. Nothing against people who do use drugs but there is a reason drugs are illegal. They aren't good for you and you have no control whilst using them. If you really can't get past this and it's hurting you maybe its time to find someone who you can really share passion with in your differences. Not just learn to live with them. For example I when my boyfriend drinks and doesn't come home early to be with me. He hates fighting about me always giving him shit for hanging out with his buddies. Now he haves guys night at our house and I can come alone if I want to but I just like knowing he's in the house so I leave him alone? Do you see what I mean? there really is only a hot or cold with drugs though so maybe you should think if all this hurting and worrying is worth your boyfriend and you should think about where your relationship is going if anywhere? Hope I helped! :/ xxx
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