|
break up or make up
so my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 9 months.. in a couple days.. [technically 10] and i have been through so much for him.. for oever a year if you put it all together. people bullied me, i was harassed, my friends turned against me and now i have more enemies than i can count on both of my hands.. all becausehe broke up with his ex for me and i became a "home-wrecker" but she was cheating on him the entire time they were together and all this crap.
well, in the beginning, he was so used to just flirting with girls and having it be okay and normal in a relationship.. he used to call this girl baby and love and beautiful and i found out and i almost broke up with him. he didnt talk to me for 3 months over the summer and was "deciding if he wanted to break up with me or not" listening to what the girls AND HIS ex had to say. it was painful. but then things got good, but then he started talking to this girl from his church and they were flirting majorly and he would talk to her instead of me.. well, that got resolved and he doesnt talk to her anymore. then things were good again, but he started talking to his ex behind my bad [who did the majority of the bad things to me..] and that also got resolved [duh] and now his friend and him were playing xbox and they started playing with his friends "friend" lets call her.. elizabeth. and my boyfriend told me shes amazing and funny and awesome. uhm. pretty sure you shouldnt be telling your girlfriend that another girl is amazing. he doesnt say that about me to his friends.. and then i got mad at him because his friends were saying, "shes afraid of his cock" [meaning my boyfriends because i have morals.] and my brother heard them and stook up for me.. but my boyfriend didnt do anything. and then, i got mad at him because his friends are always so mean to me and he goes along with it, so we werent talking for a day or two until i forgave him, and then a couple days later i found out he hung out with elizabth at his friends aunts house with his firends "girlfriend" and girl cousin. i flipped out because ive been cheated on once before. he said nothing happened and that they werent even sitting next to eachother, but theres no way thats true. and when he was with her, he didnt text me all day until late that night.
and now hes not even trying to gain my trust back. he just gave up. and isnt even trying. when i was with him, i never gave up, ever. i love him, but i dont know if its worth it anymore. he doesnt text me unless i text him first, and im just a mess. im a mess. i was going to break up with him on thursday, but we had a snowday, so then i was gonna do it friday, but we had a snowday, and i dont know if i even want to do it on monday, but i cant because he has lab and then we have testing on tuesday wednesday and thursday. its like .. a sign that i shouldnt break up with him. but i dont know, what should i do, someone help me! please.
him: 16 me: 17
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
sweetie you already know the answer your just scared to be without him or being so much of in love with him you wont take the pain but trust me your better off to tell you the truth this situation is not going to get any better for one do you even see your self with this person in the future? do you really think that this man is in love with you if he treats you like if you were what ever i mean come on be strong and when your free and you did the break up trust me you are going to feel so much better better then to wait there like a dummie waiting to get dumped and having him cheat on you all the time. but an extra advice after breaking up with him is that before even breaking up with him start talking to someone else , it will give you more courage to break up with the current and after you have broken up you wont feel the pain as much because you would be talking to some one who hopefully is someone whos going to treat you like a princess instead good l,uck
]
The guy can't be honest and faithful to you, Commit to you and only you. Which gives him all the reason why he DOESN'T DESERVE you. In my opinion he is immature and seems to like to toy with your feelings. I think by all means you should end the relationship and after you do CUT CONTACT. Do not keep taking him back because as much as you don't want to hear this...If you do, You are only telling him it's okay to cheat, flirt and show interest in other girls. The red flags are there, You need to stand your ground and let him know you aren't going to put up with it. Don't let him try to sweet talk you because if he really cared all along cheating wouldn't even cross his mind. You deserve better
]
I think you should break up with him there's no point of being in a relationship if you aren't happy & your miserable you deserve to be treated better him flirting isn't acceptable & him calling
that other girl cute names isn't either he should be
committed to you & he isn't i don't think it's worth it anymore you need a boy who's going to treat you with respect & who won't do the things he did your relationship is one big mess & even if you weren't planning on breaking up with him you'd have to work really hard to get everything good again & back to normal there's plenty of other boys out there things weren't meant to be between you two so
your best option would be to break it off before he hurts you more then you already are(:
]
More Questions: |