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depression
This is it. My depression this year has doubled (if that's even possible) and I really need to see my doctor about it, only that I don't like my doctor because I think that he is a dick. And most medications I've heard of requires you to be 18 and I'm only 16. I know that excercising is an alternatives but I don't have time to go out (and I'm not even loud to). I'm always busy with school work but when I'm out I tae alternatives like stairs, etc.
I don't know what I'm asking for, maybe on if you think I should talk to my doctor about it anyways. It's really hard for me to talk about because I start welling up and crying (like I am now), but I'm not talking. But if I had to, I don't think anything would come out.
And I want to keep it away from my parents but I don't know how because only they can take me to the doctors and the secretary would need to know what I need to see that doctor for. And that my parents are dumb because they think it's impossible for someone in our family to have depression and that they think that it would be something else.
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hey. so coming form my own experiences, i can only tell you to do whats right. think about it logically. i have severe depression as well, and i find it clouds my judgement a lot. i try to do the things that scares me, which is a lot, because even goign to school scares me a lot. i know you're scared of what you're doctor will think, but think about it. what does it matter what he thinks? he's a medical profesional, and they have a job to do. trust me i know its scary. my doctor is my moms friend, because my moms a doctor as well. and i know you don't want your mom to know, but what i did was ask for a doctors appointment, but not tell her why. your parent should care enough to take you. and i know you think your parents think you can't have depression. i've tried to tell my mom but she refuses to believe it, even though she's a doctor. just think about it rationally. it REALLY DOES NOT MATTER WHAT THEY THINK. DO WHATS BEST FOR YOU, trust me, it will be so much worse if you do things for others, not for yourself. also, i've spend a lot of time doing pysch, and i know that there are types depression that don't seem ovbious. there's one called Smiling Depression, where the person may not evev realise, so it's less obvious to those around them. your doctor should be competent to realise that seeing you for a short amount of time 3 times a year isn't enough to tell whether your depressed. go for it.
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In the United States, children can be described anti-depressants even if they are FDA-approved only for over 18. I'm not sure about other countries, but I was prescribed an anti depressant at 14. (And I needed one for years before then.) But you definitely need to get help; you don't need to feel like this!
If you can't get on with your doctor, see another one! There are hotlines you can call (just google "depression hotline" or "suicide hotline") that can give you referrals.
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I think I was about your age when I decided that I suffered from depression and started asking for help.
My step-father was of the opinion that depression was some made up disease... And if it wasn't, I couldn't be suffering since I wasn't orphaned or living in a third world country. I was afraid to admit that I was depressed to my mother for completely different reasons. My mother has a way of blaming herself for just about everything... And I just couldn't stand the idea of her beating herself up just because I felt sad and cried a lot.
I went to my doctor... Geared up for this long, painful discussion and wondering, like you, if he would simply sneer at me and say, "Oh, there's nothing wrong with you."
That is so not what happened. My doctor took it seriously. First, he asked my mother to leave the room. Then he gave me this speech about how I shouldn't be ashamed to admit that I was depressed, or to ask for help. He told me he was proud of me, he knew my life wasn't easy... And he was glad that I was asking him for help instead of resorting to drugs, like so many people do. Then he explained that depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain... He also explained that finding the right treatment would be a process of trial and error... But he told me not to give up. He was going to help me and we were going to find a solution.
If you don't feel comfortable talking with your doctor, talk to someone else. How about a teacher? Your school guidance counselor? Not only can you have a private discussion, without the knowledge of your parents... But these people can talk to your parents on your behalf if you do not feel comfortable doing so.
Either way... Get someone involved. Whether or not you're suffering from clinical depression or not... Something is going on with you and you need professional help. Asking for help is the first step, the hardest step... But I promise, you won't regret it.
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Do you think you have a close friend's mom to take you? Or you can go to the doctor's with a friend's mom and just say you're meeting up with your parents or something then go to the doctor and explain to him that you're depressed and next time you come to see him you're just going to tell the nurse you have a "migraine" use a specific word. Otherwise when you really have one he'll be thrown off. Doctors are really sensitive about this stuff so don't worry. It's not like he can accuse you of not being depressed. Anyways even if he doesn't think you are most doctors just say you are MILDLY depressed. And doctors don't take talk about depression lightly so he won't just be like oh she smiled! She's not depressed! LOL. :) Also try to occupy your mind. When you have time to think, is usually when you get depressed. I know cuz I've battled with depression forever now. Go on online help groups. I'm part of many. They really make you feel appreciated and not so useless. You can call suicide hotlines. I know that sounds stupid but its actually all quite professional. I hope I helped :/ Feel better. And it's ok to cry! xxx
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