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Wasn't sure what category to put it in, but I hope it fits...
I'm an 18 year old girl and I have an amazing relationship with my boyfriend. I believe that no one is perfect, but he is truly the closest I've seen.
However, he is in college and currently lives in the dorms which are about 45 minutes away from where I live. Not too far, but he can't drive here all the time because his parents bought his truck and are very conscious of the miles he piles on it. I completely understand that, so we've respectfully limited his visits here to only weekends. It's not always easy to go that long without seeing him, but we make it work. Also, he has to split his weekends between his mother and stepfather, his father and stepmother, and myself. So there are times that I don't get to spend time with him for two to three weeks.
Needless to say, my time with him is priceless and very important to me because I believe that a relationship needs face-to-face time, as texts and phone calls are simply second best.
I currently live at home with my mother, who works full time from 7 pm to 7 am, so I am responsible for the housework and for taking care of my younger brother who has severe ADD and ADHD. I have a car, but it doesn't run because my engine blew up, so I'm working for my neighbors for 30 dollars a week to try to buy a new engine for it.
Today my mom asked me to get a job at a convenience store about ten miles from our house to help pay *her* bills and fully pay for my engine (since she spent the money my dad had sent to pay for a new one). She lined up a ride and already got an application. I would be extremely grateful if it weren't for one thing: the job is nights and weekends only, with occasional day shifts.
I've mulled over it all day and I tried to explain to my mom the pros and cons, and also tried to explain why the cons outweighed the pros.
The pros would be that I could get my engine faster and could eventually get a higher paying job and move to town to be closer to my boyfriend and to attend college as well.
The cons would be that it would take a while to buy an engine because I would be paying for her bills as well as my own, while also saving up for an engine... and the fact that I would never, ever see my boyfriend. That's my main concern, and I know it probably sounds selfish but it doesn't feel that way. She got extremely upset with me and said "sometimes you have to make sacrifices in life to get what you want."
I don't *want* to pay her bills.
I didn't *want* her to spend the money my dad sent, because if she hadn't we wouldn't be in this situation to begin with.
I don't *want* to lose my limited time with my boyfriend.
Should I apply for this job and sacrifice my relationship so that I can help pay all the bills?
Or should I risk upsetting my mom and not take the job and be with my boyfriend? I'm so confused. I don't want to let my mom down, but I really really do not want to sacrifice my precious and seldom visits with my boyfriend. I don't want to risk losing him. Any advice is greatly appreciated.
I'm sorry for the length of the question. Thank you so much in advance :) (link)
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wow you know you shouldnt feel guilty about anything you do what you want and really if she cared she wouldnt put you through this tell her that you love her but that you are not the one thats being selfish you do enough already i mean really you take care of most things in the house and now you have to give up the most important person in your life? no way this is her fault tell her that she needs to get out of the mess not you dont feel guilty.
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Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 months and his birthday is in 12 days he will be 19 do you know what i can do or atleast get for his birthday? (link)
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a picture of you, or maybe something that he likes a gift card of 40 is perfect its not to forward and its not bad you know what i mean i believe a picture of you for his wallet and a gift card to his favorite store and spending a day with you is a great gift
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so my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 9 months.. in a couple days.. [technically 10] and i have been through so much for him.. for oever a year if you put it all together. people bullied me, i was harassed, my friends turned against me and now i have more enemies than i can count on both of my hands.. all becausehe broke up with his ex for me and i became a "home-wrecker" but she was cheating on him the entire time they were together and all this crap.
well, in the beginning, he was so used to just flirting with girls and having it be okay and normal in a relationship.. he used to call this girl baby and love and beautiful and i found out and i almost broke up with him. he didnt talk to me for 3 months over the summer and was "deciding if he wanted to break up with me or not" listening to what the girls AND HIS ex had to say. it was painful. but then things got good, but then he started talking to this girl from his church and they were flirting majorly and he would talk to her instead of me.. well, that got resolved and he doesnt talk to her anymore. then things were good again, but he started talking to his ex behind my bad [who did the majority of the bad things to me..] and that also got resolved [duh] and now his friend and him were playing xbox and they started playing with his friends "friend" lets call her.. elizabeth. and my boyfriend told me shes amazing and funny and awesome. uhm. pretty sure you shouldnt be telling your girlfriend that another girl is amazing. he doesnt say that about me to his friends.. and then i got mad at him because his friends were saying, "shes afraid of his cock" [meaning my boyfriends because i have morals.] and my brother heard them and stook up for me.. but my boyfriend didnt do anything. and then, i got mad at him because his friends are always so mean to me and he goes along with it, so we werent talking for a day or two until i forgave him, and then a couple days later i found out he hung out with elizabth at his friends aunts house with his firends "girlfriend" and girl cousin. i flipped out because ive been cheated on once before. he said nothing happened and that they werent even sitting next to eachother, but theres no way thats true. and when he was with her, he didnt text me all day until late that night.
and now hes not even trying to gain my trust back. he just gave up. and isnt even trying. when i was with him, i never gave up, ever. i love him, but i dont know if its worth it anymore. he doesnt text me unless i text him first, and im just a mess. im a mess. i was going to break up with him on thursday, but we had a snowday, so then i was gonna do it friday, but we had a snowday, and i dont know if i even want to do it on monday, but i cant because he has lab and then we have testing on tuesday wednesday and thursday. its like .. a sign that i shouldnt break up with him. but i dont know, what should i do, someone help me! please.
him: 16 me: 17 (link)
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sweetie you already know the answer your just scared to be without him or being so much of in love with him you wont take the pain but trust me your better off to tell you the truth this situation is not going to get any better for one do you even see your self with this person in the future? do you really think that this man is in love with you if he treats you like if you were what ever i mean come on be strong and when your free and you did the break up trust me you are going to feel so much better better then to wait there like a dummie waiting to get dumped and having him cheat on you all the time. but an extra advice after breaking up with him is that before even breaking up with him start talking to someone else , it will give you more courage to break up with the current and after you have broken up you wont feel the pain as much because you would be talking to some one who hopefully is someone whos going to treat you like a princess instead good l,uck
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Ughhh, I Want My Exx Boyfriendd Backk!
I Just Want To Be Withh Him Againn!
The Onlyy Problem Is HE Broke Up Withh Me Because He Didn't Feel Comfortable, Andd He Says He Reallyy Cares For Me Andd Loves Me But I'm Havingg Trouble Believingg That, Because If He Didd Thenn We'd Be Togetherr Rightt?
Last Weekendd We Hadd Sexx A Lottt. Thenn Whenn Like Mondayy Or Tuesdayy I Go To My Friendds House Andd Her Andd Herr Boyfriendd Toldd Me Angel Was Here Yesterdayy, And I Was Like Okkayyyy, Andd Adriana Was Like I Wouldd Tell Youu Somethingg But I Don't Wantt Youu To Cryy, I Was Like Just Tell Me! So Herr Boyfriendd Enrique Toldd Me, He Saidd Angel Fuckkedd Gabi Yesterdayy. Andd I Just Startedd Cryinggg! I Don't Want Him Messingg Withh Otherr Girls! He Has A Girlfriendd But Theyy Don't Evenn Talkk! It's Like I'm Jealous Whenn He Messes Withh Otherr Girls. I Want Him To Myselff, Andd That's Howw He Is Withh Me I Guess. His Friendd Enrique Andd My Friendd Adriana Toldd Me What Theyy Thinkk. Theyy Usedd Forr A Example Adriana's Mom And Her Exx Boyfriendd Mario. Mario Wantts Herr Mom To Himselff, He's In Love Withh Herr But He's Still Youngg Andd Wants To Mess Aroundd, So He's Basiclyy Like Savingg Herr. Andd I Saidd Well Wtf Angel Has Girlfriendss Alll The Time Andd They Saidd Yeahh Andd He Cheats On Themm Rightt, Andd I Was Like Yeahh Then Enrique Was Like Exactlyy He Doesn't Want To Be withh Youu Right Now Because He Doesn't Want To Hurt Youu! But He Loves Youu!
But Ughhh I Can't Take It Anymoree. I Don't Wanna Just Keep Beingg Fuckk Buddys! I Just Want Him To Myselff! If He Loves Me Thenn He'll Be Withh Me! What Do I Do !!!! (link)
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i know that your not going to care what i say because you are in love with him but if he really was in love with you why would he want someone else? really be smart and think about it be strong if you really want him the best thing is too just pretend like if it doesnt bother you , it will drive him insane you get me in the mean while , while waiting for this dude talk to someone else just in case he really doesnt want to do anything with you . finding someone else would be great the pain wont go away fast but it helps in these situations.
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I just recently got a new boyfriend and we were talking for about a month before we started going out. I'm already having a little issue. He doesn't seem to communicate with me enough. For example,on friday we made plans to hangout but he had to go to pickup his brother from college and he promised me he could hangout when he got back,he didn't call me or text me that whole night. On saturday,we chilled a lot of the day and all night and thats when we started going out. On sunday,he didn't text me all day and i finally texted him and he wrote back 5 hours later saying he was sleeping all day,which was understandable. Then today (monday) he just didn't come to school or tell me he wasn't coming or anything and he still hasn't texted me and it's after school. When we are together,everything is great but he just doesn't seem to think there's anything wrong with this!I figured since we are going out that things would change but he's being the same.I don't wanna seem annoying since we just started going out.Should I wait a little longer before i confront him about it? (link)
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yes wait longer trust me i had this before and i ended up with a broken heart trust me he likes you alot hes just not the type to hang out with his gf 24/7 you get me hes one of those lol dont worry wait a little longer. wait until your sure that if you guys were to break up he would miss you you get me ? make him fall for you hard then comfront him about it .
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I am 39 years old female with 3 children (ages 13, 10,& 7) from my 10 year marriage that ended about 3 years ago. I met a younger man who I really fell hard for. We had a child together. Our son is now 1. My son's father really wanted this child. This is his first child.
My ex-husband was abusive through-out our marriage, but was a good provider and he has remained very active in our children's lives after our divorce. The father of my 1 year old is unemployed and was abusive to me, so I left him. I have now seen him in 10 months. He had some problems, but he says he has changed and that he loves me and his child and that it is not right that I am keeping his child from him. My parents and my children do not like him.
I still have some feelings for him and can not seem to forget about him even though I have stayed strong and not answered the phone when he calls, but I sometimes feel I am robbing my son of his father and I would like some help in raising my son sometimes. I sometimes want my youngest child to know his father like my other 3 do. Should I continue to keep my son from his father? My family would be very upset if I allow him to see his son.
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your family is always going to love you this wont make them hate you and let him be in his sons lfe. and you know you have feeelings so let it go try again and if he lied then give it up you tryed and thats it you gave him a chance and it was the same then forget it start dating again .
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Hi, I', 15/f (16 in april)
I've been friends with this guy since we started high school 3 years ago. We went out for about 2 months in 2007-2008 but i hardly ever saw him during that time, i tried to see him but he never showed up. So i dumped him after a while and our relationship stopped. Then last year we were put in the same classes and our realtionship started up again and we became best friends. Now i've started having feelings for him again but i don't know how he feels or if i want to act on these feelings because i don't want to jeopardize our realtionship again, and i think it might be really awkward like last time.
I'm just really confused.
What should i do? (link)
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well fist how did he react to the break up do you guys text alot? i mean really just get close flirt with him and maybe one day he will soon ask you out jusst give him hints that you want him . make him think about you all day be nice sweet flirt and then he will come on his own and ask you out again and dont make it awkward tell him staright out that he doesnt have to be shy around you
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Hi, I'm 15/f
At school i sit with a group of friends.On the weekends and holidays some of my friends orgaise things to do together, like going to the beach or hang out at someones house or a party and i'm hardly ever invited. I always feel left out because my friends never call me up and invite out.
What can i do to feel more accepted by my friends? Or how can i get invites without seeming desperate?
Thank you in advance :) (link)
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wow why do they act like that ? do you hang out with them alot or just sometimes? and maybe you can make the plans this time put yourself in there dont wait for someone to invite you speak out say it out loud be like hey you guys want to go to the movies ? or something like that when you guys are just hanging out get close dont wait for them to make the plans because maybe one they just dont like you and they dont want you around for some reason and 2 most likly because you seem uninterested enough
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I like this girl that already has a boyfriend, or so i think. i really like her and we know each other a little bit. We were hosts for a play for our school and we were partners. the problem is i don't know if she is interested and i don't know how to make a great impression. what do you recommend. i would like a girl's opinion, but i am glad to listen to anyone. if you need anymore details just ask. thanks for you help. and yes i'm a guy, sorry for the confusion. i thought that if i had a girl's profile name, i could get girl's to ask me for advice,so that they would take my advice and not just ignore it.
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aw :) you sound nice. but yeah i do have a couple of questions um have you ever asked her for her number? and why do you think she has a boyfriend? has she ever looked at you try to talk to you? but anyways here it goes just pretend you need help with homework or something get her number from someone else and ask hey am sorry to bother you but i need to ask you a question about homework and in minutes youll have a conversation and then maybe youll find out if she has a bf or not .
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So I basically just don't know where to turn really. One of my friends in his group really reminds me of my ex. I might add that just recently we all started hanging out a lot so it's not like i've been good friends with him for a long time. But we really got to know eachother really well and found out we have a lot in common. Even our nightly tv show line up it's crazy. Well this is how it was with my ex. We had everything in common but he had these little things he said and did that drove me completely insane! Well the boy ilike now is everything except those things. But the problem is I don't know if he likes me back. I know for a fact that he and my friend "k" like eachother but can't let it go anywhere, and also don't want it to go anywhere. He has dated someone while he liked her in the back of his mind and I understand where he's coming from with that because I have been in the same situation. Well the thing is he drops hints that he likes me but also it's easy to see he likes her too. We talk all the time and text. Well he asked me to the dance and this is what he said: "would you want to go to the sweatheart dance with me?" I said "awww yeahh of course" then he added, "like you, you know as friends." okay so he def could have asked "k" and I don't know why he didn't but then again he said "as friends" so do you think he might like me too or not at all?? On our way home from out of town we were wi eachother just talking and he told "k" I was a really great person and we had a lot in common. She made it sound like we maybe he did like me but when I asked her specifically if she had heard if he did or if he had told her he did or maybe if he just really hinted towards it and she said she hadn't heard anything from him. Please help, I'm growing attached because he reminds me of my ex but with none of the negative sides to him. Ahhhh! Oh ps. I normally would just ask him or tell him how I feel but this time I'm worried it will jepordize our friendship. (link)
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he is into you he is just really confussed and maybe doesnt want to hurt your feelings when hes thining of k you get me ? i mean i would do the same. you know what really works? putting yourself in his position and really feel how he would feel right now that always gives the answers so right now if i was him and i liked you and k i would ask you to the dance but not lead you on and cause problems and ruin everything because he knows for a fact that if he never mentioned friends then you would sooner or later rushing into thinking that he likes you and only you and would ask you out but thats why he said just as friends until he figures out what to do between you too. i think you should just hang out with him more get him jelouse make him pay attention to you not just some friend that he may have little feelings for and can easily go away make him want you more than k
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