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hey i'm 19/f and my husband is being deployed to Afghanistan next month. I've started to notice that as each day progresses i get very emotional about everything. I think about him being gone and i cry and i cant stop. It's just odd because I've never been this emotional before. I mean i can figure out that its because its getting closer to him being gone. Is there anything i can do to make myself not cry all the time? Its hard to keep my mind off of it.
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Dear More Emotional,
I know it is hard not to think about it. Something so 'up in your face' can never be far from your thoughts. Right now, you are scared. Not just for him and his safety in a war zone, but scared of living each day separate from him. Not knowing what he is doing, where he is going, or when. Not being able to tell him you love him whenever you want. Waiting by the phone for a scheduled call because they only get so much free time. Having that part of you missing can drive you insane.
My advice to you is to get a dog, keep waking up, and live each day as his honest, loving, and devoted wife. Wait eagerly for his calls and send him treats when you can. Think about how much you love him, not how much you miss him. Think about the next time you see him, after being apart for so long. Spend your time planning his homecoming. Think about what you will wear for him that night. Arrange something extra special for his homecoming. Remind him of how proud you are of him, how sexy you think he is, and how much you want to jump his bones.
When you are not focusing on his return, focus on yourself. It is important for you to get out and get sunlight everyday. Go to the gym and get in total shape so you are prepared for his homecoming. Being a military wife is hard work. Get involved with the ombudsman and see if there is anything you can do to help while he is gone. They can always use extra help from the spouses, if anything, they can hook you up with other spouses that feel the same way you do. If you absolutely cannot live without your husband at home, go see a base Chaplain. They can move mountains!
Cosmic Advice for More Emotional comes from The Resurrection
Let this happen naturally. Do not fight it. Fighting it will only make you more depressed. Accept that he is going to be away for a long time. Your understanding of this event will deepen, and you will accept it. You are about to embark on a new way of thinking as you enter a new cycle in your life. Do not fear this change. Good things will happen.
It seems that the Cosmic advice is telling you that you will be fine if you just accept your life right now and not to fear change. You will emerged enlightened, informed, and have a new look on life. After all, this will not be his last deployment. Get used to it!!
My biggest advice is, do not dwell on this. You will end up depressed and unhappy. You chose to marry him, he chose to join. This is the life you chose, make the most of it! I have been in your shoes, I was a Navy wife for almost 10 years. So I know where you are, and where you are going to need to be in order to live that lifestyle. You need to be his rock, his solid foundation in a world of chaos. He is getting ready to put his life on the line for you and I. How do you think he feels? Remember that the next time you start crying, and how unselfish his act is. Be proud, not depressed.
I wish you luck, and I am always here when you need me. Take care!
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Keep yourself busy do different things if you just sit around you'll end up thinking about him leaving but if your busy you'll be focused on doing other things & won't have time to think about it your thoughts will be elese where try thinking from a positive prespective by him being deployed he's keeping our country safe along with all the others
who are fighting & putting their lives on the line being brave in your situation it's better to cry & let all your emotions out don't be afraid your emotional because he'll be leaving and he's not just some stranger he's your husband i think most would react the way you are it's normal(:
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It is a very difficult situation you face. The day will come, soon enough, whether you spend your time being upset or doing something positive and proactive, the end result will be the same.
It is very hard not to have control over the most important parts of our lives. I am sure you are both scared and waiting this time out is both a blessing and purgatory.
What to do in the meantime? Make a decision to prepare your first love box to send him in Afghanistan. Work secretly, if necessary. Find ways to be excited about what you will put in it, don't let him know so he can enjoy the outcome as well. You can time your shipping of it to be as close to when he deploys as possible. (don't want it to get there too early, they may not keep it for him?!?!) I am not well educated on what types of things are allowed in packages from home, but I imagine an old fashioned envelope with some of your perfume sprayed in it, perhaps a lock of your hair tied with a ribbon and securely attached to something he can touch without it falling apart. Think like an old romantic, and I bet you can focus this nervous energy and emotion on doing something truly wonderful for you both.
Let me know how you do, if you need more ideas, I would love to brainstorm with you!!!
Dear Susie... :)
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Your feelings are completely normal!You don't have to be brave all the time. I say allow yourself to feel sad and stop worrying about it.
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