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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo.
"i refuse to sink."

advice

My boyfriend and I REALLY want to have sex in the shower for our first time. He said his friend told him that if we use some sort of soap (like bar soap or even SHAMPOO) that we won't have to worry about me getting pregnant. That way we won't have to buy condoms or anything too. Sounds great, yeah? :D

My parents are going to be away this saturday for a little while and I thought about asking my boyfriend to come over and we could do it in the shower. ;) I'm kind of nervous about the soap thing though because I don't want to end up being a pregnant teen.

:) Is it true that you can't get pregnant if you use soap as lubrication during sex in the shower?
And, if so, what is the best soap/shampoo to use for lube in the shower? ;) ;) THANKS

are you kidding me ? hahahaa.
sweetheart, soap is NOT going to prevent you from getting pergnant. the only way you have a chance of NOT getting pregnant when having sex is using a condom and/or being on birth control.
so, with that said, get a condom. it isnt even expensive. really, would you rather take the necessary precautions and have a better chance of NOT getting pregnant.. or are you going to listen to your friend who clearly needs to take a sex education class and have a VERY high chance of getting pregnant ?
i think you know which option is best :]
good luck, have fun and please be safe. live it up without a baby bringing you down. xxo.

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hey so i think i'm falling for this guy i've been texting for a few weeks. we've only hung out once but he's really fun to talk to we have a lot in common and hes cute :) haha. but yeah my friend dated him for like a week 2 years ago and she said he's a player. his facebook says hes looking for a relationship though...and 2 years is alot to change right? all of my relationships have been 6+ months, i'm not into hookups and stuff, i like to mean something when i do stuff with a guy. i can see him as a player but i know alot of guys that were players then they starting dating a girl and have been together for quite awhile. idk should i chance this? we're suppose to go out this weekend lol thankss

yesss ! go for it ! give him a chance :] dont just go by what other people say. everyone deserves a fair game. who knows, maybe you both will end up with a happy ending.. ;]
and yes, 2 years is a long time for someone to mature and change. you cant base him off of how he was with your friend a couple years ago, everyone has the potential to change, and maybe he did.. but youll never know if you never see :] yuh know ? and if you get the feeling that he is a playaa, then let that be the only time; the one time, you guys hang out.
youll know if its right or not and if the chemistry is there. and dont go far the first time [not that i think you would] but if hes a "playaa" like your friend portrays him to be, he'll try something. thats really the only thing you have to watch out for.
but i say go ahead, have some fun :] ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbx me, good luck. xxo.

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i'm 14 years old female. i had sex with my boyfriend 4 days after my period we did it with a condom then i gave him a hand job and about a hour later we did it a little without a condom and he didn't cum in my though. is there still a chance i can get pregnant from when he cumed before the 2nd time?

always. use. a. condom.
even though the below advicenators are right, it may not be 100% effective, but you have a higher chance of NOT getting pregnant if you practce safe sex, like birth control too. but you are very young, and you have your whole life ahead of you.. sex is a very mature thing and youre still young yet.
i know youre probably freaking out, but you have a high chance of pregancy, because even if he didnt cum in you, he most likely produced pre cum and that can get you prgnant also. not wearing a condom is VERY risky.
so yes, there is a chance you could be pregnant. do go out and take a test.. and for your own sake, try to refrain from any sexual activities with your boyfriend. sweetie, youre YOUNG; live it up WITHOUT a pregnancy bringing you down.
good luck, i hope youre not pregnant.. if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.

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I don't mean to sound stupid but I'm curious if zombies are actually real to some extent. I'm not talking about the "zombies" you see in movies and on the television though that are after brains (or should I say "brraaainnsss!"). I also don't mean an actual invasion of zombies that tends to be the basis on many movies. I'm just talking about the walking dead, I suppose. Is there a such thing as the walking dead? Are there real incidences of zombies or A zombie? Any proof to back up a zombie theory? Just curious, really...

no, you dont sound stupid hahaa, dont worry :]
but there really is no proof of zombies. scientifically, it could never be possible. the only thing that comes close to it is being in a coma, like one of the columnists stated below me. but other than that, nope. hollywood just made it possible.. for movies and such haha. :]
hope i helped, xxo.

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The idea having sex just grosses me out, it looks disgusting, I was sexually abused b4 nd luckily it did not led to anything else. could this have something to do with it, im a female

yes, because you were sexually abused, this could play a big part in you not liking the idea of sex. although this may vary on your age, it is alos the way you view sex and have viewed it since you were sexually abused.
im sorry you were sexually abused :[ that must have bee a terrible experience, and if you seek help, sex may not seem so bad or disgusting in the future and you can get help. however, everyone thinks of sex differently. even people who have never been exposed to it or were never abused may think its gross. but that can be based on maturity level and such things.
but yes, i do believe that you being sexually abused in the past has affected you with this topic. you associate sex with being sexually abused, whether you realize it or not.
and if you dont want to have sex, then dont. you dont NEED it, your body can live without it. its really just your preference in the end.
good luck, hang in there, and i hope i helped. if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.

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what are some signs that a guys into you... not just wants in your pants but actually likes you

if he is genuine and really likes you, here are some signs..

- he'll look at you and then if he catches you noticing, he'll look away really quickly.
- he blushes around you or gets really shy
- he compliments your eyes or something about your face, not your body.
- he asks you about yourself, and really tries to get to know you.
- he doesnt ask about how far youve gone or how far you're willing to go.
- he flirts with you, but he doesnt make perverted jokes that involve you.
- he smiles alot at you.. like a genuine happy smile [youll know the difference :)]
- he wont tell you about how far he's gone or what hes done or how many girls hes been with.
- he'll try to impress you in a subtle way.
- he'll try to ask if you want to hang with him or his friends.

hope i helped ! good luck, have fun, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.

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I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a full month now and he STILL wants it to be private. I want to tell my friends that I'm seeing him but he keeps saying how he doesn't want everyone knowing about our business so we should keep our relationship hidden. I, secretly, told my best friend and she said it isn't normal and that boys who don't want anybody to know about their girlfriends are ashamed of them or are seeing other girls. I really don't want to believe that but I cannot come up with any different thought about it. Why doesn't my boyfriend want anybody to know we're dating?

the only way youll find out the truth is if you ask your boyfriend straight up whats wrong. you have to ask him why its so important to him that this should be kept a secret..
you have as much say in the matter as he does. if you dont want to keep this secret, you need to tell him. communication is key.
i mean, he could just be scared of what people will say and everything, or be really insecure about it, but he shouldnt want to keep it a secret for this long.
did he just get out of a relationship ? because i know that when me and my boyfriend first got together, we started dating the day he broke up with his ex, and we kept it secret for a month.
there could be plenty of reasons why hes doing this, but my best bet is that he is scared of what people will say, but thats not fair to you. yuh know ? and maybe, he doesnt know if getting serious is what he wants, maybe that scares him or maybe he thinks it wont work out if you make it official and open to the world.
lots of reasons, one answer.. and the only person who has that answer is your boyfriend. talk to him :] youll feel better afterwards. good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.

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What are the most popular teen stores that you can think of? I want to dress more popular this year but I'm kind of stuck on what stores are considered "in" right now. We have lots of stores around here like Old Navy, Hollister, Abercrombie&Fitch, American Eagle, Fashion Bug, HotTopic, etc etc

What's the most popular stores that us teens shop at now?

- Abercrombie & Fitch
- Hollister
- American Eagle
- Aerie
- PacSun
- Victorias Secret
- Bebe
- FOSSIL
- H&M
- Express
- JCrew
- Charlotte Russe

good luck, have fun :] hope i helped, and shop on ;] xxo.

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Personally, would you prefer to donate you own money to

a)your community and/or country
b)other countries who live in a higher poverty(kenya, chad, Haiti)

Would your donation depend on the cause.(eg. money for food.Money for shelter.Money for sanatation. money to help orphans)

i would just like to know because i am interested in holding a fundraiser at my school but am still unsure of where to give the money. Where would you care more to donate to?
(Am especially weary of Haiti because so many have donated so much there already)

Thank you for your responses:)

definetely donate money to my own community/country. alot of places need help, and so does your own community. like the other advicenators said, help your own country first before you give anywhere else.
i would donate to places like animal shelters or hospitals.. places that dont get the attention they need, but should.
good luck ! hope i helped and good for you :] xxo.

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I've been dating my boyfriend for two months now and I've come to realize that I really don't have any interest in him. I'm ready to "move on" to somebody else that interests me more and that can make me happy.

My boyfriend is good guy though. I don't want to hurt his feelings but I don't want to lie to him either. We're just not compatible, I guess, because I think he's really boring and strange. I even feel stupid for going out with him in the first place!

How do I break up with my boyfriend? THANKS!

you cant help that feelings change, its a part of life. and it happens.
when i broke up with one of my exboyfriends, it was really hard.. because i didnt want to hurt him, but eventually, you realize that if he cares about you, hes going to be hurt any way you do it. but the level of hurt he'll suffer will depend entirely on your approach to it.
dont break up with him over the internet.. no text message, no e-mail, facebook, IM, phone, nothing like that. and no notes or letters, you have to do it face to face; in person. believe it or not, it hurts more over the internet and such things, its so abrupt and not emotional at all.
with that said, meet up with him somewhere that it will only be the 2 of you and no one else. maybe your house, that way it can be really private. and when you tell him to hang out with you, dont make it sound like its going to be the "break up" day because thatll just start things off on a bad note and you want to end on a fairly good one.
so, when he comes over, act normal and after making small talk, bring it up maybe like.. "so i had something i wanted to talk about." and he'll be like, okay whats up. and you can say something like, "alright well, ive been thinking about it alot, and i care about you, but i dont think we are the right people to be together anymore. youre a great guy and i know youll find someone who will love you so much, but i want us to still be friends, im so sorry." and then, as the other advice columnist said.. let him speak.
communcication is key, and he might get mad or really upset with you, but let him. this is going to be hard for him, no matter what. but he'll get over it. dont worry.
good luck, hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. you got this. xxo.

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Im 16 male and im gay i havent told anyone yet im still nervous about what people think and i really like this guy were friends weve become close over the last few months but im nervous about telling him im worried he might reject me or he might not want to be friends im not sure what to do do i really like him do i tell him how i feel or wait awhile what should i do?

everyone is nervous about what people think, even if they dont say it or show it.
so with that said, just remember that youre not alone; we all get scared and nervous with these sorts of things :]
if you guys have grown close, and you feel like youre ready to tell him how you feel, then do it. just jump headfirst into it and just say it !
but if you still have doubts and think that telling him will ruin your friendship and the bond that you have right now, then wait a little bit before you say anything.
determine all of this by your natural instinct :] but in my oppinion, id drop some flirty hints first and see how he reacts, and then based on his reaction; tell him or wait a little longer. but id just tell him :] and go for it. youre an amazing guy and hed be stupid not to like you back.
hope i helped ! good luck, and if you need anything else, you know where to reach me :] xxo.

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Okay so in the middle of january i met this boy & we started talking he told me 1 week nd a half later that he liked me & i told him i liked him too. We decided too mess around but not tell anyone because he & my friend went out like 2 yrs ago & i went out with his friend like 2 yrs ago also. Anyways about 9 days later he stopped talking too me (he doesn't go too my school but he knows a lot of people in it). I always wondered wat was tht reason but i never even bothered my days were horrible without him! 2 days later after he stopped talking too me he got a girlfriend. He stopped talking too me the 28th & got a girlfriend the 31st. About 1 week later he wrote too me on aim saying how much he missed me & he loved me & the reason he stopped talking too me was because he heard i liked someone else (but i didn't)!. We only talked for 1 day & Then we stop talking again. That saturday we got into this huge argument where he told me i could love whoever i want & he didn't care what i did anymore & a bunch of things. Then that tuesday he wrote too me saying how much he really missed me (he broke up with his girl) & he loved me & how he wanted me too be his. I fell for it. We startd talking all luvy dubby & then next tuesday we got into this big argument & too be honest i don't even know what i did wrong. & then he canceled our plans on friday & thursday. Yesterday february 17 i decided too go on his ex's aim wich is my friend. Nd i said hey & he responded was good baby & then he goes i regret saying what i said too you the day i got mad at you. That makes me think they had something going on again! Now too the conclusion off this he said soo many nice things idk what too do. I think he's playing with my heart but then i don't want him too be playing with my heart. HELP! Please ! & thanks .

wow. im so sorry hes doing this to you, but hun, he IS playing with your heart AND your emotions. this is NOT healthy.
he is most definetley 100% a playaa.
you deserve 58607080 times better than him. hes talking to other girls, getting girlfriends, and using you and stringing you along "just in case" no one else wants him. you're pretty much his "back-up plan" and he is honestly the biggest jerk for doing that to you.
and i know that he said alot of nice things to you, but it was only to keep you hanging on. h is one of those boys who will get a reputation for being "un-dateable" since he is the bigest a-hole ever.
honestly, move on. there are soooo many other guys out there who will appreciate you and love you and treat you the way you whould be treated, and there are going to be boys out there who wont toy with your emotions. i know it doesnt seem like it now, but you will be SOOOO much happier in the long run if you just completely stop talking to him. delte him off of everything; ex him out of your life.. you dont want to fall back into his trap, hes obviously good at it. and you already know that hes being shandy and talking to his exes and such behind your back. you dont need the drama or the lies. show him that youre smart and strong.. show him who you are. you dont need him. i would definetly tell him that youre done with his games, and youre gone. one up him. if he can take you on an emotional roller coaster, then give him one too.
also, ask your friend [the ex] if theyve been talking and all of that.. just to see what she says. then go from there.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, you know how to reach me :] just keep being awesome. xxo.

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So there is this guy I really love. I've loved him for five years now. We use to be really close but we live in different countries now and I think he stopped loving me back. We use to flirt a lot and once he told me I'd be his perfect girl if only and he was about to tell me if only what but he shut his phone and he never wanted to talk about it again. I never asked him if only what again because I know him and he'd get annoyed at me and we wouldn't talk for a while. Well I've been going through some hard times and he's been ignoring me for a couple months now so I just decided to write him this really long message about what I'm going through and how I wanted to kill myself. He started talking to me a lot after that and helping me through stuff but now he's stopped replying again. I love him so much but I just want to let go but I can't because I know he'll start talking to me again soon. I feel like our relationship is so fucked up because one minute its like old times again and next he's got better people to talk to. I tried asking him what's going on really seriously in the message but he just said nothing is going on and that we're still good friends. What should I do? Deleting him is not an option, and talking to him is not an option. I'm seeing him this summer btw. Thanks so much! :/

wait, correct me if im wrong.. but you both live in different countries.. which means you talk over the internet and phone and such, right ?
well, i hope thats right, because if its not im gonna give you like the wrong advice haha. ill re-do it if im wrong, just tell me :]
anyways, okay. so, long distance relationsbhips/friendships are very hard to deal with. im pretty sure when he said that youd be his perfect girl if only... he was most likely going to say, if you lived by me. and this most likely upset him, therefore he didnt talk to you for a good amount of time.
from what youve shared with me i can already tell that it takes ALOT for him to be vulnerable and accept that life will bring obstacles. im 100% positive that he cares deeply for you, but i dont think that he has the heart to talk to you all of the time and grow closer to you everyday for fear that the distance [in miles] between you two are too great.
and im betting that he wont want to talk about this if you brought it up. but since you said that talking isnt an option and deleting him isnt one either, than all you can do is wait it out.. or travel and visit him.. which probably wont happen. if he doesnt want to talk to you right now, and just needs some space, but says that everything is fine.. believe him. i know, i know. that seems ridiculous, but you seriously have to just trust him on this one, its what hes basically telling you he wants you to do.
when summer comes around, he'll talk to you befor then. i promise. just give it time.
and im sorry that you were going through a really rough time :[ i wish i could have helped you. but thankfully, he did. and him doing so proves that you mean a great deal to him. he just needs some space occasionally, and i know that it hurts you, and if i were you, id tell him that it hurts me. because you shouldnt be afraid that he wont talk to you.. he cares about you, and sharing how you feel wont stop that, trust me.
wait a few weeks to talk to him, maybe even a month. and if he doesnt talk to you by then.. try it once. and if he still doesnt, then wait until HE comes to YOU. which he will, before summer.
just keep your mind off of him right now. hang with friends, go out and have FUN ! because you deserve it girl.
good luck, hope i helped, and if you need anything else, you know where to reach me :] and by the way.. dont give up. stay strong. xxo.

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Hi!:) I'm 18f

I've always had an attraction to my good guy friend. We use to flirt more .. but not so much. We've never kissed or anything. He will only hug me once in a great while if one of us is leaving. I kind of want to give him a kiss on the cheek though, but not in a creepy way, if that makes sense. I don't kiss people on the cheek? Haha, but thats bascially the only way to kind of show my affection other than flirting. I think on the lips would be way too much, because we're just friends, and I'd like to be more, but not necessarily in a relationship with him. It's such a confusing situation, sorry its hard to follow but what do you think I should do?? I don't want to kiss him on the cheek and have him be like what the heck?? And then it be all awkward you know.

hahaa, yes :] i know EXACTLY what you mean.
alright sooo.. to make it not awkward, it cant just be spontaneous. if he doesnt see it coming, then its bound to be awkward, yuh know ? so you have to drop some hints first.
firstly: when youre talking to him, make sure, youre standing kind of off to the side of him, like, if youre facing him, dont be DIRECTLY in front of him, stand a little off to the left or right, whichever youre mor comfortable with.
secondly: when youre talking to him, smile and laugh alot, bat your eyelashes, yuh know.. do your flirting thing :] and then keep moving closer to him.
thirdly: when youre going to leave, hug him tight for more than 5 seconds, and then slowly let go, and as youre slowly letting go, turn your head slightly so your cheeks brush against eachothers, asnd then quickly kiss his cheek as your lips make contact with his cheek. it should be a quick peck, nothing like youre about to make out with his cheek haha ;]
then he'll probably be like, what was that for ? and youll just be like.. "oooooh :] yuh knooww.. just because :]"
trust me, it wont be awkward if you just follow my steps. and theres other ways to show ou care too. you can write him notes throughout the day just letting him know that youre thinking of him. but youre totally right, kissing him on the lips would probably not be the best or appropriate thing to do right now haha. youre feelings are still mixed up and youre still both on the "friend" status right now. oh and while im at it, dont kiss him on the cheek twice. if youre going to do it, either kiss him on the cheek when you first see him and hug him or when youre leaving.
good luck ! have fun :] and dont sweat it.. and dont think about it too much either, its easy 3 steps. ;] hope i helped, if you need anything else, get at me ! xxo.

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Can someone please tell me how to let a guy know you want to kiss? I don't just want to grab him and kiss him, that is what I want him to do to me! So how do I get him to know that I am ready for him to kiss me. Alot. :)

flirt. flirt. flirt. flirt.
hahaa, thats like the number one key. and then whenever youre talking to him, make sure you look at his lips for like a little while and then up to his eyes for a few seconds and then back down to his lips.
he'll get the hint. but if he doesnt do anything by then, lean into him when youre talking. lick your lips and touch his leg or arm with your hand. but not like grabbing him, just laying it there naturally. and always be close to him.. arms touching, faces close, and all of that.
hug him alot, and then kiss his cheek.. little things like that and then he'll go for it.
good luck ! have fun, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! hope i helped, xxo :]

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im in love with my girlfriend but i dont know how to tell her what should i say? how should i say it? when should i say it?

awwww :] thats cute.
well first of all, dont say it over text or the computer. if youre gonna say "i love you" it should at least be over the phone.. but the best time to say it would be in person when you two are alone. it will mean more and really let her know that you mean it. and you dont have to think of some long thing to say, just simply telling her that you love her is enough :]
but i suggest saying, "I'm in love with you." because it might not seem like it, but theres a difference between, "i love you." and "im in love with you." both will work, but in love is more passionate.
and you should say it when you feel the time is right, but make sure youre alone ! :] thats pretty much the only thing you gotta remember. just keep it short and sweet.. leave the long "lovey dovey" stuff for AFTER the first time you say it, trust me.
and if you decide to say it in person and not over the phone, hold her hand and kiss her and hug her, and while you tell her, make sure you look her in the eyes.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.

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Hey I asked you a question a couple of days ago about being too pushy. Well that night turned out really well actually he texted me and we had a great night it was awkward at first like we were shy but then we hit it off and he was like at the end I had a really great time text me later and I was like ok. Well I waited till late the next night and I was like how was your day and he was like plain. Until now :) and the conversation continued well and we talked for like 3 hours nonstop. Anywayyy today he hasn't texted me at all yet. And I texted him yesterday so I figured he should text me. What do I do if he doesn't. Like I don't know how to handle this. And he was saying how he's really independent and wishes like girls would make the first move type thing. So I don't know. How do I handle this

hi again :]
im glad that the night went so well ! i knew it would ;] and he definetely sounds like he is waay into you, which is really good. and it seems as though hes one of those guys who wants you to chase him and when you get tired of chasing him, he'll chase you.
but if he doesnt text you, then wait at least until the next day, and then text him. because you dont want to give in EVERYTIME i mean, he has to start hauling his weight too haha. but after you wait a while, then keep texting him first until he starts to take the lead, and i promise you that soon enough, he'll start talking to you first. and when he told you that hes very independent and wishes girls would make the first move kinda thing, hes basically telling you staright up that he wants you to make the first moves and take the lead for a bit. its what hes obviously into haha and if youre up for it, then hey, why not ?
just keep doing what youre doing, because clearly youre doing great since hes been having a great time and being a major flirt. it seems like you guys have really good chemistry. so dont worry, youre handling it perfectly :]
good luck ! hope i helped, and you kow ow to reach me if you need anything else, have fun, xxo.

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so my ex is dating this girl. and he has been for months.. but he gives me signs that he "misses" me. well my feelings for him have never completely went away and for the past months he has had his gf, i kept my mouth shut, hoping that my feeling for him would just go away. i tried everything, even new people, and being single, but everything comes back to my ex ): i think in order to feel better about myself and to let it out, i need to tell him.. but i dont know how. me and my ex are extrememly close and can talk to eachother about almost anything but for some reason idk how to tell him this. give me ideas or what i should do about this situation!

ive been on both sides of this equation and i know this might not be what you want to hear, but put yourself in his girlfriends shoes.. how would YOU feel if his ex girlfriend was still wanting him and planning on telling him and maybe getting him back ?
and you probably dont know how to tell him this because in the back of your mind you know that it wouldnt be right to interfere with his relationship [if he is truly happy.] yeah, you might still have feelings for him or you might just want what you cant have. whatever the case, i know how you feel, and it sucks.
i told my ex how i felt, and it worked out in my favor. i didnt mean for it to go anywhere, or for him to eventually break up with his girlfriend, but by telling him that i still cared about him and liked him, he told me how unhappy he was and how much he missed me and how his girlfriend was cheating on him and flirting with his best friends.. and this was his escape, i was basically his way out, yuh know ?
but if you REALLLLLLY are set on telling him how you feel, than just be straight up about it. i learned that beating around the bush basically gets you no where. so just tell him something like, "you know that i trust you and that i feel like i can tell you anything, right? well, i kinda wanted to get something off my chest.." and then he'll be like, okay go for it.. or something hahaa, and then continue and be like, "i still really like you, and ive tried EVERYTHING to stop because you have a girlfriend, but its so hard and i didnt know how to tell you sooner."
just breathe and really consider the pros and cons of telling him. if you tell him how you still feel, will that jeopardize your friendship ? and whatever you do, either do it in person or TALKING on the phone, not texting or anything over the computer, if you have video chat, that would be fine too, but make sure its not written out, thats key.
oh, and you could also ask him before you tell him how you feel if he would change something about the past.. and see if he hints anything about the relationship you guys had. :]
you have a lot to think about girl, and if you need anything else feel free to inbox me, good luck :] sleep on it ! hope i helped, xxo.

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well,there is this guy who is a year older then me who keep checking me out and his locker is right across from mine, so he added me on facebook and now we have a poke war (which i started) so i inboxed him saying "you know ill win this pokewar" and he said "no i think you are mistaken i will not give up" etc.But know when he sees me in person he still stares but look super nervous and akward.So i was wondering if i should talk to him person for the first time and what should i say?

awww thats cute :]
okay well, i definetley think you should take the initiative and talk to him in person ! i think he wants you too because hes acting shy and nervous, maybe he doesnt know how to approach you, so you should break the ice ! guys like that.
if you decide you want to talk to him in person, go up to him, and be like, "yuh know, i never lose pokewars. :] so yeah, im gonna win..you have no chance, youre messin with a champ right here ;]" then laugh and he'll flirt back with you. then start having a conversation and maybe even get his number. just be cute about it. make sure you seem interested in him and ask lots of questions about himself. then poke him before you leave or poke him right when you approach him, or both ! he'll love it.
good luck ! relax, and have fun. hes definetley into you so just breathe :] hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo.

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so i met this guy at a party. actually, i didn't even meet him. we didn't really even speak a word to each other hah but he was only there for a little. somehow he ended up getting on my camera, i guess someone took a picture of him so i added him on facebook. he messaged me and then we exchanged numbers and starting texting alot. he's kinda been flirting a little and we're supposed to hang out soon. are there any ways to not make things awkward? we've never talked in person and i'm not a real "meet someone online kinda person" if you know what i mean so i don't really know how to play it lol so i would loovee any help or advice

okay welll, i know all of these people are saying talk on the phone and call him and stuff, and yeah, thats a good idea, but if you dont want to and you just want to hang out then heres some tips for it to not be awkward..

- go someplace thats not totally isolated but pretty low key that way it wont be totally silent.
- no parties, because that can just get awkward right away with either all people you know or he knows or both.
- when you first see him, dont hug him unless he leans in and looks like he wants to hug you. [watch his body language.. arms crossed or in his pockets or behind his back signal that hes still not comfortable with hugging and stuff like that]
- if you hang out anywhere that you have to pay for something, always bring your own money because youll never know if he'll offer to pay for you or not.
- good conversation topics to start off with would be what he likes to do, favorite things like movies and food and such. if hes ever worked for and where.. just stuff like that :] im sure he'll contribute just as much, so dont worry.
- just laugh alot and joke around. it lightnes the mood, like when you first see him break the ice and say something funny.. like, "hey :] youre pretty tall in person ;] hahaa" just something that applies to him and seems funny but corny. guys get a kick out of it.
- dont get too dressed up either. jeans and a nice shirt [not like dressy nice] will do. you want to impress him but not go overboard, yuh know ?
youll be fine :] if you think its awkward, it will be. so just dont think about it and NEVER say "this is awkwardd" or "awkwaaaaard" because if it wasnt already awkward before, it sure will be after you say that haha.
hope i helped and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] good luck ! dont sweat it or overthink, just go with the flow. xxo.

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