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Can you get pregnant if you have sex in a shower and use soap as lube?

Question Posted Wednesday February 24 2010, 6:26 am

My boyfriend and I REALLY want to have sex in the shower for our first time. He said his friend told him that if we use some sort of soap (like bar soap or even SHAMPOO) that we won't have to worry about me getting pregnant. That way we won't have to buy condoms or anything too. Sounds great, yeah? :D

My parents are going to be away this saturday for a little while and I thought about asking my boyfriend to come over and we could do it in the shower. ;) I'm kind of nervous about the soap thing though because I don't want to end up being a pregnant teen.

:) Is it true that you can't get pregnant if you use soap as lubrication during sex in the shower?
And, if so, what is the best soap/shampoo to use for lube in the shower? ;) ;) THANKS

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SarcasticGreetings answered Sunday February 28 2010, 12:19 pm:
Whoever told you that is a complete idiot.

Not only is it NOT going to protect you from getting pregnant, but it will BURN. Soap and shampoo does not belong in your vagina.

Get a condom. Take a health class.

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khaos4ng31 answered Thursday February 25 2010, 11:18 pm:
I'm speechless. You obviously don't know the real meaning of love, if you're starting sex and thinking that using soap can be an effective anti-pregnancy method. You might get cleaner than before, but that's probably the most you're going to get out of soap.
If you are really considering soap, over condoms because you cannot "get" them or purchase them, consider this. Soap is more expensive than condoms, and have a totally different use. Soap is used to break the surface area of your skin, allowing dirt and oil to wash off. Antibacterial soap does the same, and kills off bacteria. However, sperm is NOT bacteria, and therefore cannot be killed.
Soap burns in your eyes, yes? It also burns if you have cuts, yes? So what makes you think, that having soap touch other sensitive organs (like genital organs) will not burn? Please, use common sense. Most people lack this type of logic.
Also, having sex in the shower is great foreplay, but is a horrible way to end it. an exhausted male could easily slip in all that soap (in case you are too ignorant to follow all of our advice) and fracture his skull. By the way, you need a new boyfriend, as this boyfriend is a sex addict, knows nothing about sex (other than it feels good), and deserves to take a shower and soap up his, ahem, "genitals" and see if he would rethink it.

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Hustle_Rose answered Thursday February 25 2010, 5:33 pm:
You are too young to be having sex if you don't understand the basics of contraceptives, plain and simple.
If you're ignorant to how sex works then how the hell could you possibly think you're mature enough to do it? Your friend is an idiot, and so are you.
Probably not what you wanted to hear but entirely true.

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schochie16 answered Wednesday February 24 2010, 8:15 pm:
You can get pregnant even with a condom! This friend does not know what he is talking about. Also, soap/shampoo would burn. Not a good idea.


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itdependsonyoux3 answered Wednesday February 24 2010, 8:13 pm:
are you kidding me ? hahahaa.
sweetheart, soap is NOT going to prevent you from getting pergnant. the only way you have a chance of NOT getting pregnant when having sex is using a condom and/or being on birth control.
so, with that said, get a condom. it isnt even expensive. really, would you rather take the necessary precautions and have a better chance of NOT getting pregnant.. or are you going to listen to your friend who clearly needs to take a sex education class and have a VERY high chance of getting pregnant ?
i think you know which option is best :]
good luck, have fun and please be safe. live it up without a baby bringing you down. xxo.

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thelaura answered Wednesday February 24 2010, 5:26 pm:
Your friend is a moron.
Of course you can get pregnant - sex in water can also be rather dangerous and if you use shampoo? Have fun with an infection and immense amounts of irritation.
DO NOT do it.
and BUY some freakin' condoms for when you do it in a way that's NOT harmful. If you need lube - KY jelly or another water based lubricant. It's probably cheaper than shampoo anyway!
Play it safe.

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EraKay answered Wednesday February 24 2010, 12:33 pm:
If you are not on any type of birth control (i.e. condoms, pills,nuva rings, etc), then OF COURSE you can get pregnant in the shower while using lubrication or any other time. Actually, the only way to be sure that you will not become pregnant is to not have sex and I'm not saying that because I know it's not the reality of today. Though it does sound like you probably shouldn't be haven't sex until you educate yourself a bit more on sex and sexual health. If you feel comfortable talk to your parents. If not, is there a sexual education/health teacher you can talk to at school? Go to the library, there are plenty of books on the subject. Whatever it is that you decide, please do something. I wish you luck. Take care.

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WittyUsernameHere answered Wednesday February 24 2010, 11:01 am:
As stated so eloquently below, its a dumb idea and will provide no means of contraception.

Additionally, inserting soap into your vagina could do anything from causing a yeast infection to severe skin irritation not unlike serious sunburn.

Do you want your vagina to feel like sunburn?

The best lube is lube. Water based works fine as long as you keep the shower head pointed somewhere else.

For contraception, get on birth control. Until then, use condoms and in the same aisle as condoms is VCF. Vaginal Contraceptive Film. Read the directions and use it. It can dry you out a bit, so lube is recommended. In the event of condom breakage, its quoted at like 85% effective at preventing pregnancy on its own.

Be smart, don't risk catching shit, fucking your body up, or get knocked up because you want to have fun. Cover your ass and be responsible, sex is adult and its time to start acting like it. This is why people make laws about minors and sex, because we all remember what it was like to be your age, and we all have kids your age as a current example of how fucking stupid and ignorant teens can allow themselves to be.

Educate yourself before you fuck your life up.

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Razhie answered Wednesday February 24 2010, 10:52 am:
Don't use soap or shampoo as lube.

It will not protect against pregnancy!

That is one of the stupidest things I’ve ever heard on this site. The friend who told him that should be slapped and placed into a chastity belt until they get a half a clue for their own protection. Soap is not a contraceptive. That is unprotected sex, plain and simple.

I'm sorry hun, but if you aren't ready to buy condoms, you aren't ready to have sex. You might be ready is EVERY other way, but if you are missing that one, you aren't quite there yet.

Even if you DID have condoms, you still should not use soaps as lubricants. Not only do they damage the condom and make it more likely to break, but you (the female) are practically begging for irritation and infection by shoving things inside of yourself that don't belong there. Would you fill your ear or nose up with liquid soap? Probably not, that would be uncomfortable and pointless. Same goes for your vagina.

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NinjaNeer answered Wednesday February 24 2010, 10:42 am:

First off, you CAN get pregnant this way.

Secondly, you can seriously damage yourself if you get soap forced up inside of you! You can end up with a really bad infection.

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