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He called me the wrong name! Should I worried my boyfriend forgot my name?!
I've been dating my boyfriend for TWO MONTHS and he has called me his exgirlfriends name a few times now (on the phone AND in person face-to-face). At first I thought he just make a mistake and I let it go but now it's making me really, really mad. I keep wondering if he's doing it on purpose or if I should be worried at all about this. I know two months is no real amount of time in the scheme of things but HELLO! I don't even look like his ex!
I am too embarrassed to ask my mom or my friends about it though. Should I ask my boyfriend why he keeps calling me by his ex girlfriend's name? Should I just let it slide, ask him to apologize when he does it, or what? There's been a few times where he didn't even seem to notice(!) that he called me the WRONG NAME - should I bring it to his attention when he does it?
Or maybe I should just dump him?
I mean, if he can't remember my name...does he really care?
Ugh! What do you think?
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you really need to have a talk with him.
Example: "Okay, so what is the deal here? Why do you always call me "insert name here"? Have you been seeing her behind my back like cheating on me? How would you feel if I called you "insert your ex boyfriends name here"? What would that make you think? Don't tell me your sorry when you are going to do it again. Once I will accept but not three or four times after. It's hurting me because it feels that you only think of her and not me. Are you still in love with this girl? Look, decide what you want to do because I am not going to stick around and put up with it. It hurts me and that's not the type of relationship I want to be in." You can add more or something but you know that's just an example..
You really need to talk to him about it and you have all the right in the world to be mad..! Good luck.. you deserve respect!
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You have a right to be annoyed - anyone would.
What I'm struggling to understand is why haven't you said anything to him about it yet?
How long was he with his ex? Was it a long time? - it could just be a really bad habit and could well be accidentally slipping out without any meaning whatsoever.
Or maybe he is thinking about her a lot and isn't 100% over her...
We can't give you the exact reason, so just ask him.
A simple "*his name*, you keep calling me your ex's name without realizing and it's getting to me - what's the deal?" - even a txt message will do - just make sure he knows you're getting annoyed/upset about it.
See if it improves.
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I have to admit it would irritate me if my boyfriend kept calling me his ex-girlfriend's name. It is only natural. Two months is only a short time so you need to think about some things. How long had your boyfriend and his ex been split up when you got together? If they were only broken up for a short time before you started dating him then it could be that she is still on his subconsious mind.
HOWEVER,if this is not the case and there was a pretty good length of time from her to you (like 6 months or more), then it is possible that he still has feeling for her. Feelings have a way of not disappearing as fast as we would like. If he is doing this on purpose then he is jerk and no matter which way it goes, you need to talk to him. If it is bothering you then there is nothing wrong with asking why he consisently calls you his ex-girlfriend's name.
You don't have to be MEAN and nasty when you ask. Chances are if you are mean and nasty when confronting him he will not give you the answer you want. It may even start an even bigger fight. Certainly though you have the right to speak up. You are not his ex and shouldn't be addressed as such. Hope it all works out.
-Sending Sunshine your way,EraKay
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