When life gives u lemons, make lemonade. Then, throw it in the face of the person who should've gotten you the oranges you orginally asked for.
What we do is determined by what we are. What we are is determined by what we think. What we think is determined by what we experience. What we experience is determined by what we are exposed to and what we do with that exposure.
(MIKE VANCE and DIANE DEACON)
Life is like a book with many different chapters. Some tell of tragedy, others of triumph. Some chapters are dull and ordinary, others intense and exciting. The key to being a success in life is to never stop on a difficult page, to never quit on a tough chapter. Champions have the courage to keep turning the pages because they know a better chapter lies ahead.
(RICH RUFFALO)
Because you're able to do it and because you have the right to do it, doesn't mean it's right to do it.
(Dr.LAURA SCHLESSINGER)
We are born with our eyes closed and our mouths open, and we spend our whole lives trying to reverse that mistake of nature.
(DALE E.TURNER)
You can have anything you want if you want it desperately enough. You must want it with an inner exuberance that erupts through the skin and joins the energy that created the world.
(SHEILAH GRAHAM)
We all have the ability. The difference is how we use it.
(STEVIE WONDER)
Everything is a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
Every great mistake has a halfway moment, a split second when it can be recalled and perhaps remedied.
One person can make a difference and every person should try.
The one thing worse than being alone is not being alone and wishing you were.
Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.
(THEODORE N.VAIL)
The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.
(ROBERT C. DODDS)
Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not, but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.
(EPICURUS)
When you look in the mirror, you are looking at the problem, but remember, you are also looking at the solution.
Live your life, so you don't have to hide your diary.
Dream what you dare to dream. Go where you want to go. Be what you want to be.
(CALVIN COOLIDGE)
The first thing of importance is to have confidence in yourself, in your abilities.
(KATHARINE GIBBS)
Become a 'possibilitarian'. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see the possibilities-always see them, for they are always there.
(NORMAN VINCENT PEALE)
DAVID COPPERFIELD just might be the greatest magician and illusionist of all time. He is definitely a legend in his own time. Here are some of his most inspiring quotes...
'The easiest thing in the world is to come up with an excuse not to do something. I found that the most important thing in life is to stop saying,'I wish,' and to start saying,'I will.'
'Before there can be wonders, there must be wonder.'
'Whenever I pursued my dreams, I discovered something astonishing-I discovered myself. My secret has been to consider nothing impossible. Then to treat possibilities as probabilities.'
'Passion is everything.'
'I learned that there were two ways I could live my life: following my dreams or doing something else. Dreams aren't a matter of chance, but a matter of choice. When I dream, I believe I am rehearsing my future.'
Miracles do not happen in contradiction to nature, but only in contradiction to that which is known to us of nature.
(SAINT AUGUSTINE)
The world is composed of givers and takers... the takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better.
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
(ROBERT FROST)
Love is a fruit in season at all times and within reach of every hand.
(MOTHER TERESA)
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I'm the girl and I don't know when or if a boy likes me? what should I do? I'm 11 I need advice. (link)
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Hey,
For starters, i would like to clarify a point for you. You can't run after love, and you can't force it to be or to exist. Love comes when you least expect it, it comes by itself , you dont go for it.
And what i meant by this ,is that you can't go to the boy and tell him that you love him, just like that, because you could never predict his reaction.so you have to act cool and natural and let things fall to place by itself.
So first of all, you have to go up to that guy, and start a normal conversation about whatever topic comes to your mind. And day by day, you keep talking to him, and then maybe suggest that you and him could hangout together somewhere if he's free. And just treat him as a freind or a person that your getting to know. And if he gives you the reaction that he is enjoying this and that he wants to be with you, and if he agrees to hang out with you , then he does like you, and after sometime, he would ask you out and tell you that he likes you. But if he just acts in this awkward way, and if he appears to you like he's not comfortable with the situation, then i guess he doesn't really like you the way you want him to , and this relationship was not meant to be.
Try to consider what i said, and make the first move, and know for yourself if he likes you or not. Goodluck and have a nice day:)
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Hey, i Think you give really good advice!
I just have a random question.
My dad was born in Egypt (lived there till he was 7 or 8) and i always thought that was really cool.
So sometimes he teaches me Arabic. I was wondering if you knew any arabic words or websites that could gve me some pharses.
Also whats the best time of year to come... i have always wanted to visit.
hey feel free to IM me on aim #pinckchica 118 i would love to talk to you.
Sorry I type so badly,lol. (link)
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Hey,
I was born in saudi arabia, but i have been living in egypt for 6 years now. Its not that cool as you think it is. I loved saudi arabia much more. Alot of foreigners though always come to egypt and are crazy about it. And i guess to you, it would be a whole new place and atmosphere. The best time to come and visit is at summer, when the weather is fine. And you could come and visit all the museums, pyramids, and sphinx and buy stuff.
I usually talk english more than arabic, thats why i am not really famous to know arabic websites or anything. But its nice that your dad teaches you words and stuff. Its a really nice language to learn.
Other than that, you can send me an email on alaa.abuali@hotmail.com, and we could talk and i could tell you all the arabic words that you want to know.
Have a nice day:)
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i love omar! do you (link)
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Hey,
I would love to answer your question and help you, but i don't know who you are talking about.
Whose omar? Is it someone that i know?
Please try to make your question clearer so that i can give you an answer that would help you.
Have a nice day:)
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I have a friend that needs major help.
He has a girlfriend and they're always off and on.
Whenever she breaks up with him he breaks down and gets drunk or high.
Recently she broke up with him and he almost committed suicide and was put in an asylum for 3 days.
He's only 14 years old. He doesn't listen to anyone when he's with her. He doesn't realize that there's other people that care about him.
And no I don't like him, we used to really good friends. He was my best guy friend, and I barely talk to him anymore. I miss the old him.
How am I supposed keep him fromhurting himself or potentially killing him self if sh breaks up with him. (link)
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Hey,
For starters,I think that you are a really good freind ,and how much you care about him and stuff, thats why I want YOU to sit and have a little talk with him, like one of the old talks you probably used to have as best freinds.
Ask him about his life and what he has been doing, tell him that you understand how he loves his girlfreind so much and that you are the only one who knows how he feels because you know him better than anyone else . But tell him that there is a bright side to everything in this life. And that we do get hurt sometimes ,especially when we are dumped by someone we truly love, but then we have to get over it. We can't just sit there drinking ,doing drugs and writing our suicidal note, when there are people out there who loves you more than your girlfriend. There is our family, friends and other people who care so much about us.
Tell him that its not the end of the life, he still has a long way to go and alot of girls to date, life doesn't stop here.
Ofcourse he can cry all he want, and scream and curse and get all mad and depressed, but never should he reach the limit of considering suicide. Because if he thinks that these couple of things he does after ever break up is the solution than he is dead wrong.
Tell him that you are there beside him and for him and that you are his friend and he could tell you all he wants.
Because sometimes, we are just too blind with tears to see the reality of the world around us. He just needs to things, someone to point out things to him and to show him what he was too blind to see, and tell him whats right and whats wrong and what should be done. And someone to be there for him and hold his hands and tell him that things would be okay. Why don't you remind him of old days when you and him where best freinds and used to hang out and do lots of fun stuff. Remind him of the old him ,and the person he used to be before he started obssessing about his girl and thinking that she's his whole life.
Try to do all that, and show him how caring and understanding you are. But don't pity him or sympathize, because he could get mad.
So try to work things out, and if you need any more advice ,please be free to contact me, and i will tell you what else to do.
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I've liked this guy for about 6-7 months. He likes me as a friend, but as far as I know, that's it. I want to get over him, I really do. But, last year, when I liked him more, I never saw him. NOW, that I wanna get over him, I have a class with him and see him in the halls a lot. That makes it even harder to get over him. Plus, I'm an optimist by nature and I guess I just keep thinking that there's some kind of hope that he could change. Anyway, what should I do? Thanks. :o] (link)
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Hey,
Look, i have just one piece of advice to give you. If the guy is not intereted in being more than friends, than don't run after someone who will not lead you to anything.Because then you will just be wasting your time. And besides, why don't you try giving all this love to someone else who could actually be interested in being with you.I mean... there are millions of optimistic people and i am a prime example but when it comes to a situation like this, then we have to know how to differentiate, there is nothing to be optimistic or hopeful about here, because we are talking about love, he either loves you or not. And he just simply doesn't , then its his loss and he doesn't deserve you. I don't want you to hurt yourself or waste your time and thoughts on him, because there is much more to do and much more people to love. And he's not the last man on earth.
I do understand how its hard to get over it, but you must and you will. Just try not to talk to him at all, and don't look at him and totally ignore him and if you start thinking of him, occupy yourself with something else. You may find yourself dragging yourself behind him from time to time,but you'll get over it soon.
So take care and goodluck:)
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ok well one of my best friends says i can't dump my boy friend and then my other best friend says i should do what i want and sometimes i want to dump cuz he can act really stupid but then he can be a real sweety what should i do (link)
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Hey,
For starters, if your boyfreind treats you with respect and in a proper manner, and if he cares about you, defends you and stands up for you. And if you trust him and he does too. Then you have no right to dump him. There are some guys who are really naive and childish, but every person has a good side and a bad side, and i can asure you that your boyfreind has some really nice qualities that you wouldn't find in anyone else. And you shouldn't listen to your freinds for advise, when they tell you to dump him or not, because you should take this decision on your own, according to how you feel about him and what you really want and feel comfortable with doing.
So try to give your boyfriend a chance ,and think things over and don't just dump him because he has a silly kind of character that could be changed, and if it really annoys you, then try to point it out to him and ask him to change his attitude a bit , but just be cool and don't make it sound mean .
Goodluck:)
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i really need to find a job and i was wondering what kind of places could i work at? can i just look up places like markets and try calling to ask if they are hiring? lets say i want to work at Stop n Shop..will they ask me what i would like to do or do they tell me what i have to do? if i work there i just want to do baging can i tell them that cuz im horrible with math and money?when getting paid is it the minimum wage? i live in massachusetts and i'm 16 ..please help! thanks! (link)
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Hey,
For starters, if someone hires you in a market, they would never hire you to be incharge of money and stuff, because you have to be exerienced in that and you have to have gone to college to know these stuff.
Second of all, you could go to whatever place or market you want, and speak with the manager of the place, and tell him that you are looking for a part time job and if there is anything available in the market that you could give a hand with, you would be pleased to do so.
And you could also ask in pharmacies or animal shelters( if you like animals).
Other than that, usually 16 year olds work as waiters,and they serve food and stuff. So you could also ask in small fast food restaurants.
These are all the suggestions that I've got, but if nothing works out, be free to contact me again, and i will have thought of other suggestions.
Have a nice day:)
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My boyfriend and i have been going out for almost 4 months now. We both care about each other alot. His previous girlfriend and him broke up cuz she was moving to a different state. The three of us are all friends and we get along great. Well our town's home coming dance will be here soon and my bf called me and asked if he could go with her. Now at first i didn't mind. i know that they are going just as friends, and i don't really like dances anyway. But then i was thinking that how do i know if i don't like dances if i haven't actually experienced one. I didn't go as a freshman cuz i didn't have a date, but now that i am going out w/ him i would have a date. See i went to the middle school dances and they were boring, but i hear high school ones are different. So i guess i don't know what i should do. Neither of us have gotten to see bekah in a long time (the ex, my best friend, his ex) so should i tell him that i want to go with him even though they have been planing this for about a year, or should i just let them go?
Signed
~Throughly Confused. (link)
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Hey,
I read your problem and I totally understand what your going through and how confused you are and you don't know what to do.
But for starters, i have to tell you that your boyfreind really does love you and care about you,but he has other friends and people who he likes to hang out with , and even if she's his ex. Its not a big deal. Your already handling the situation perfectly from the beginning and you didn't mind. What changed your mind?
Look, i know that you should be the one going there with him, but maybe because he knows that you don't like parties and stuff ,and because you trust him and you know that he is just going with her as freinds ,then its okay and you wouldnt' mind .And he was right, because you didn't really mind at the beginning, and don't change your opinion about it, because your doing the right thing.
On the other hand, if your not satisfied with my avice or if this is what you didn't want to hear, then i have another suggestion, why don't the three of you go to the party together. You could hang out and have loads of fun ,besides, you say that the three of you get along great.
And if you have any other friends, guys or girls (which ofcourse you do have, no offense caused), then maybe someone could tag along with you to keep you company or something.
Just act natural and cool and let things fall down to place alone.
Have a nice day, and if you need any more advice or help, then please be free to contact me.
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I don't know what to do. My camera slipped out of my hands. And obviously the lens broke.
My dad will kill me and yell at me. Because it was $300. He's going to make me feel like an worthless idiot who isn't responsible for a stupid little camera.
I've had the camera for like a year it was one little accident.
And I dont know what to do.
Should I try to get money and buy a new one?
Should I hide it? My dad wants to use the camera but I'm afraid he will bite my head off.
I dont know.
I'm scared of him.
Any help? (link)
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Hey,
I have read your problem,and I understand how you feel and how you are probably really scared that your dad will know about it. But you should not lie or hide it or do anything of the sort, becuase lying just puts a person in more trouble. So what you should do is that you should take your money or savings or whatever quantity of money you have and then borrow from a friend or just collect the rest of the money from anywhere, and then buy your dad a new one.
And be honest, and go tell him " Dad i did something wrong, and i know that you would be so mad at me, thats why i collected money to buy you a new camera because i broke the lens of the other by accident." And believe me, being honest and saying the truth will really help you in this situation, and your father will most probably get mad and say that you are not responsible and stuff, but he will appreciate how you are making it up for him and buying him a new one from your own money.
So take care and goodluck:)
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hi =]
okayyy so i'm 5'7 probably and i weigh 107 pounds but i want to get down to 100 before school starts and don't give me some big speech about how it's not good to loose weight because i'm doing it but alright so... i don't eat that much every now and then and i just drink a lot of water and i work out like...45 minutes every day and i started all this about a week ago so does anyone have any advice on how to lose it fast? i want to be down to 104 by sunday please and thank you =] (link)
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Hey,
I am going to tell you two things, something that you want to hear , which is:
You can wake up every morning, do lots of stretches and exercises , then go to the club, run the track twice, and then go to the gym, work out and maybe even consult a trainer their to tell you about some exercises for losing weight and keeping fit, and then you can go for some long walks and jogging and stuff, and completely quit junk food and anything that contains sugar and fats and carbohydrates.
Only eat healthy food containing the four food groups. If you have a rope too, you can jump everyday 200 jumps , it really helps.
And don't forget , drink lots and lots of water.
And then i will also tell you something you don't want to hear, i know that my job is to just answer your question, but my job is also to advise you, if i were you , i wouldn't even consider losing weight, because then you would get so thin and skinny, and you would look week and stuff, because you are underweight. So listen to me and listen to the other advice columnists which advised you, you are not fat and you are not the least bit close to thinking of losing weight. And we all know better than you and we are trying to help you.
Have a nice day.
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What are some websites that are like myspace? Like myetalk etc..
(Not facebook or xanga!)
Thanks! (link)
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Hey,
There is a website called www.mywebmate.com, its a good site.
And there is also another one, but its not that good, its called www.zebo.com
And by the way, just an extra help, there is this site called www.eatcrack.com where you could find everything you want for your myspace.
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okay, well, tomorrow is my last day of summer break. i have to stay at home all day by myself. i have a computer, tv, drums, 2 guitars, keyboard, stereo, ipod, and thats about all i have to keep myself entertained. any ideas of how i can spend my last day??!!
ps i live out in the country so i can go to friends houses....i cant drive yet. (link)
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Hey,
Well since its the last day, then you should do every FUN thing possible. Like play all the songs that you can with all the instruments and stuff you have, and listen to your stereo and ipod and play some computer games , and chat with people online and then you could maybe invite a friend to your home, and fool around together and maybe play something together with the instruments, or you could let someone pick you up and go to the mall, catch a movie, grab a hamburger, and then maybe go over to a friend's house. And then at the end of the day, just get ready and pack your bag and settle things down and thats it, i guess.
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is it normal for people to cry over nothing? like seriously! i think something is wrong with me, maybe depression or something? but i can just sit here and start crying for hours. and so many things will just run throug my head.. do i need help?! (link)
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Hey,
I read your problem and I think that what you are going through is completely normal and it happens to all people.
But its usually because there is something that is bothering you or something from inside you that you don't feel happy about, or something in your life that is just simply not right, not in place. I hope you understand what i mean.
For example, from a couple of years, i was always known as the miserable depressed freak who cries 24 hours a day, i used to cry about everything and anything whether there is a reason for it or not. And it was because my life was really dull and boring and i didn't have alot of friends and activities which i could occupy my time with, and things that i would love to do and spend all my time in.
But then i changed myself, and my life style and found some really good hobbies and took a sport and came here to work on this site to help other people who are feeling down about themselves and their lives.
And here i am, look what i have become. From a very miserable depressed person to the happiest person in this whole entire world.
And you can be just like me, because there is no difference between me and you at all. Deep inside you , you are a truly amazing person, but you are just too blind with tears to see it, and to see through your own self.
So why don't you think of looking on the bright side and meeting new people, and taking up a new sport or working online or getting a part time job or hanging out or finding an activity which you could occupy your time with .
I mean.. there is much more things in life that you don't know about or haven't experienced, and you most certainly won't ever experience as long as your sitting on a chair crying your eyes out.
Get up and live your life and have fun and mess around and do anything you want to do.
We only live one life, and we only have one chance , so take it and live your life.
I am telling you this to try and encourage you and point out things to you which you are not aware of. Haven't you ever asked yourself when you were crying, why you are crying?
Honestly, give yourself a second to think of it and you will feel silly for just sitting and crying while everyone else is having a good life. And your not different from anyone, then you should use your talents and gifts and the great personality you have and take advantage of it. You know, you could have a really really good life, only if you listened and really tired hard to work things out.
But don't repeat the same mistake i did, because i spent 6 years crying every day just like you,and i refused to hear anyone advise me, and then after all this time, i finally listened to someone, and in the blink of an eye , i became a completely different person, and i could have done this from the beginning, but only if i listened. And now i really regret all this time i wasted, while i could have had the best times of my life. So don't be like me, and listen to this advise from an experienced person.
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okay, well, i went to this one school until 5th grade, and it was really small!!, and i started going to school in a big town. i just moved back to my old school in march of 7th grade. i had changed a whole bunch!! (not to brag, but i got really pretty!!) and everybody still treats me ALMOST the same!! which is good!! so everything is ALMOST like it was, right? WRONG!! i kind of have a crush on this boy that i had known since i was 4!! we dont talk to each other that much, but i mean i had gone to his house a few times when we were little. its a weird relationship. but, i have no clue what he would say if i asked him out!! what should i do?
I will answer to questions you have about the situation!! (link)
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Hey,
Ummm... you don't have to go and ask him out ,just so suddenly and out of the blue. I think you should just go talk to him as freinds and get to know him better and maybe hang out or catch a movie or something. And then from his reaction and the way he treats you, you could know if he likes you too or not and if he is interested in dating you.
And i am telling you this ,just so he wouldn't give you the reaction your expecting or he would turn you down or hurt you or something.
Thats why , when a person comes to do something ,he takes it step by step, and knows the reaction of the opposite person first, and then you can figure out what you want to do.
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i just got a gf a week ago and i'm really shy and i really want to get over it cuz i get really shy and stuff wen i'm with her around other people and i stop talking and get akward can someone plz tell me a way to get over being shy
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Hey,
In the first couple of weeks in any relationship there is always these moments of akwardness, and its like you feel so shy and you don't know what to say or do or act around your girlfreind or boyfreind, because its just all new to you and you want to make a good impression. But then after sometime, you get used to it and you start messing around and having lots of fun and living the role of the boyfreind.
So don't worry, its always like this, its not ubnormal or something. At least, try to talk to her alot when not around people and get to know her well, and then later on, when you know her, you will be surprised to find yourself talking in public infront of everyone. Besides, there is nothing to feel shy about, your not doing something wrong or funny or humiliating, and everyone else walks around with their girlfreinds joking and fooling around ,hugging and making out. So its cool , and i am sure that she really likes you and thinks that your great, and she probably shy around you too. lol. So have some confidence in yourself, and just act cool and natural.
Goodluck:) and if you need any other advice, please be free to contact me.
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I kissed a boy today (no he's not just a random boy) haha and when we made out he didn't close his eyes. I usually close mine. Is NOT closing your eyes normal? (link)
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Usually we say that if you don't close your eyes while kissing , then its disrespectful. But usually girls close their eyes, but boys not. So its normal if he didn't close his eyes.
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I was wondering if you know that deleting questions that you got rated 4's or 3's or whatever just so you can be in the top rated column is against the rules and I could so have you blocked permanently, if you like. I asked a question, you answered and I gave you a 4, which would take you off of the list of top rated columnists. But then today I see you're back on the top of the list, hmm suspicious. You're in trouble, so stop doing it. If I see you doing it again, I'm going to contact Dangernerd and tell him what you're up to. Have a nice day! (link)
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Hey,
I am sorry, i swear i didn't know that it was against the rules. And just a couple of days ago, there was this question posted, and someone was asking how to delete questions,so someone else replied and said that you can click on edit answer, and delete your answer, then click submit. And that would delete your answer, so i did that, in the questions that people were not satisfied with its answers, but i didn't really mean to change the rating to better, or try to be top columnist. But thanks alot for the warning and i will not do that again.
Thanks for your cooperation
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lately i have been so depressed. i dont get along with my mom that much anymore & we were soo close. i just cant stop crying & i like cant stand being around certain people that i used to be so close with. i know your gonna say its growing up but this isnt normal. i have tried talking to my mom about getting me pills or something but she just throws in my face how bad her life is which makes it worse. at this point i hate just about everything about me. i think im fat; ugly; worthless; loney; friendless & i cant do anything right. idk what to do anymore. i used to cut but i dont as much anymore and i dont want to but thats the only thing i can think of doing this point. also im getting quite suicidial. i cant see myself going threw with it but i have been thinking. my best friend is the same as me; same problem & everything. we both have very messed up families. also with me thinking im fat it makes me think of becoming anorexic again. i have been threw that also. im 5'1 - 100 pounds. telling me im not fat makes everything worse. i just dont know what to do anymore with myself. i need happy pills or something but idk what to say to my mom. please help. this is outta hand. (link)
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hey,
Sometimes, life gets really tough and hard and we just go through alot ,that we do nothing but weep and cry and feel all depressed and miserable. I ,personally ,go through that alot, but i never actually reached the limit of even considering cutting or commiting suicide or anything of this shit.
Every single problem you wrote down, i thought about an answer for it in less than a second.
I was exactly in the same position as you are, and exactly 51 people gave me advice and things to do to change and be happy, either if its someone from my family, a friend, a teacher, a neighbour, a complete stranger..etc.
but i never actually listened, and i stayed so depressed for 6 whole years, i actually wasted 6 whole years in my life in shit and misery, and then after that, i realized that the solutions to every single one of my problems was just right infront of my eyes but i was just to blind, by crying and feelind depressed, I didn't listen to anyone and its just like people were trying to help me but i didn't listen, i enjoyed being in that state of misery that i was in. But then i took all the advice, considered it ,and did it, and now you could call me the happiest person in this whole entire world. I work on his advice column and i am going to be in championships soon and my family loves me so much ,i have lots of freinds and i am going to a whole new school to start a new life.
Number 1, you say that you and your mother were very very close to each other, will what happened? Probably each on of you was busy with his on life, and you just simply drifted apart, will is definitely not to late to be friends again. I mean.. you say that your keeps telling you how bad her life is, why don't YOU try to help her, maybe your mom wants to talk with someone ,and since you have always been the closest one to her, why don't you sit with her and just let her talk, and you listen and advise her and tell her what to do. Make her feel that for once its all about her ,and its not about you wanting to take pills or do this or that.Your mom feels bad and has problems, then its your responsibility to fix.
Number 2,You think your fat, consult a doctor to make you a healthy food plan consisting of only the four food groups, quit junk food. Wake up every morning, go the club, run the track, go the gym, make exercises and stretches and work out for a while. Eat alot of proteins and healthy things, no sugar or fats. Go for long walks and maybe invite your mom to accompany you for awhile ,and spend some quality time with her and listen to her, so that it would help you lose weight and in the same time make things better with your mother. You can also think of taking up sports or something fun, and if you improve, you could be in championships.Its not impossible.
Number 3, you think your ugly, let me tell you think. there are millions of pretty girls with blonde her and blue eyes and great figure, what do they do with it? They hook up with guys and lose their virginity when they are only 11 years old. They go around showing off their beauty and boyfreinds ,and everyone worships them, but actually, they have such a cold heart and are the meanest people you could ever meet. But then you could find someone just plain and normal ,and seems to be the kindest person you could ever know. so looks aren't everything, and appearances should be the last thing that you should think of. And let me tell you something.
Everyone of us which thinks that he is ugly, is actually so beautiful from inside and has the warmest heart. And your one of these people, your not really ugly as you think you are, and at the same time, you are so beautiful from the inside.
Number 4, you think your worthless. If you weren't born or ever existed in this life, things wouldn't have been the same. Think of how much your family loves you and cares about you. And about your mother, she may be a little mad these days, but actually, your her daughter and best freind, and i wouldn't even want to imagine how she would feel without you. And your freind with the messed up family and similar life as yours, who would accompany her if you weren't there.There are alot of people who love you and care so much about you. So think of it, and then tell me, do you still think that you are worthless?
Number 5, lonely and friendless ,why? Because you think that you are fat and ugly and worthless and that you have a messed up family, so you can't gather up your courage to go out there and make freinds. Freinds are everywhere ,they come and go every second in our life. And the person who wants freinds, doesn't just sit around and say " i don't have friends', no, he goes out there and he makes freinds , he hangs around, he jokes, he laughs and he has the greatest fun he can have. Just exactly as the person who sits and complains about all these are things, that he doesn't even have time to think of solutions to all the things that he complaions about .
But now , i have pointed out things for you and solutions for your problems, so listen to me, and believe in your self. For that, you are an incredibly amazing person, and you could be a talented person if you go out there and know your talent, and make freinds, and hang around , and always look at the bright side, and think differently and take up sports or instuments to play, and have fun. Just have fun and live your life, but if you keep sitting here and repeating your problems on and on, then you will never do anything, move on or have a life. So think straight and think right, but don't ever think that committing suicide or cutting yourself will lead you to anything.
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there was this guy that saw my picture on myspace and messaged me for my screename. he would say dirty things to me, and tell me i was sooo sexy and he wanted to hang out with me and that he wanted to see me and all this stuff. he also left this message on my phonee saying how hot i was and stuff. he went to my school but i never really talked to him before this - he just saw my myspace pictures and kept messaging me and IMing me every time i got on. after he kept IMing me for a couple days saying i was sexy and crap, he started saying really gross stuff like he wants to have sex with me and that i could touch his penis and stuff. then he told me he smokes marijuana, which i find really pathetic. why do guys act like this? he hasn't even talked to me in real life, just seen my pictures. what should i do? (link)
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hey,
Just send him a message and tell him that he is acting in a very pathetic, and naive childish way and that you just don't like it, and that you are not one of those slutty girls who goes around hooking up with any boy she meets. And then block him and make your profile viewed by friends only. Thats usually done to block out freaks like this guy.
And then if he keeps calling and saying all these stuff,you can tell your friends or guyfreinds to call and yell at him and tell him not to call you ever again. Because he is just simply going to far and crossing the line.
And don't worry, there are some pathetic losers who have no lives so they keep annoying others by saying all this shit and gross stuff.
So just do what i said,and believe me , you won't hear from him again. He is just a loser.
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My boyfriend has a friend thats a girl, and theyve been friends for a couple of years. They have pet names for each other and talk all the time. He doesnt talk about her all the time, but, when he does I just get mad. I dont know why, I just do. Hes always concerned or worried about her. I really dont like it when he talks about her but I want to help him because hes always worried about her. Am I just being jelous? What should I do? I'm so confused. (link)
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Hey,
I do have a point of view in this situation, but i hope you just don't get mad, because i am saying the right thing.
You say that your boyfreind has this freind of his for a couple of years now, and they are really good friends and like to spend time together. So not just because he started dating you means that you just come and keep feeling jealous and annoyed when he talks about it and stuff. He likes her and cares about her and worries if she has a problem or something. But then that doesn't mean that he loves her more than you or cares about her or anything. These are two different levels, and you got the higher one, his girlfreind, but she's just his friend,these are two different things and two different feelings.
And i have read lots of similar problems before, and i never took any of their sides, because i can't find a real reason to be jealous or do anything of these annoyed and upset actions.
And aslong as he loves you, and cares about you and is there for you and spends more time with you than with her, then i am sorry, but you don't have a right to complain. because he just can't give up his friends for his girlfriend. and to make you feel better, try to imagine if she was a boy, a regular friend of his, and he used to hang out with his friend and worry if anything about to him and such stuff ,you won't be annoyed, and he wouldn't ever give his friend up for you. So just think of this girl as a normal freind. Act cool and natural and don't show him that your jealous or annoyed. Besides, he's right there for you and he loves you so much and he's your boyfreind ,for heaven sake , so enjoy the moment.
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