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My friends in trouble
I have a friend that needs major help.
He has a girlfriend and they're always off and on.
Whenever she breaks up with him he breaks down and gets drunk or high.
Recently she broke up with him and he almost committed suicide and was put in an asylum for 3 days.
He's only 14 years old. He doesn't listen to anyone when he's with her. He doesn't realize that there's other people that care about him.
And no I don't like him, we used to really good friends. He was my best guy friend, and I barely talk to him anymore. I miss the old him.
How am I supposed keep him fromhurting himself or potentially killing him self if sh breaks up with him.
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this is dangerous im sure your friends a nice person just into deep and tooken advantage of. he needs to realize that hes only 14 and theres will be plenty of girls out there maybe you could help him meet other people. or cultivate a hobby with him that you both enjoy. although he may be hurting be realistic no ones twisting his arm to get drunk,high,or comit suicide. i dont know the full situation or how this girl is and i doubt shes innocent but no matter how awful she is ,she cant be blamed for his decisions. not saying you are. maybe you and your friends should make more effort in showing how much you care. im not say you guys dont but he seems like a dramatic person who make big impressions and need others to do the same for him in a positive way. especially when hes down. hes just confused because hes young and just figuring out things
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OKay, you need to really need to sit him down and explain how important this is!! Cry to him if you need to, but he needs to see that what he's going through is un needed.
Maybe have HIM break up with her??
Get all the people who care about him to talk to him, maybe just not all together, it would seem too much like an intervention, and might be too overwhelming.
Have you tried talking to his girlfriend?? Explain what she's doing to him.
If he really wont listen, you probably wont like this idea, but you should tell an adult, because it's not being mean to him by telling, it's showing you care, and if he gets proper help, he'll see that!!
Please, feel free to email me xo_graziano_ox@hotmail.com
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Hey,
For starters,I think that you are a really good freind ,and how much you care about him and stuff, thats why I want YOU to sit and have a little talk with him, like one of the old talks you probably used to have as best freinds.
Ask him about his life and what he has been doing, tell him that you understand how he loves his girlfreind so much and that you are the only one who knows how he feels because you know him better than anyone else . But tell him that there is a bright side to everything in this life. And that we do get hurt sometimes ,especially when we are dumped by someone we truly love, but then we have to get over it. We can't just sit there drinking ,doing drugs and writing our suicidal note, when there are people out there who loves you more than your girlfriend. There is our family, friends and other people who care so much about us.
Tell him that its not the end of the life, he still has a long way to go and alot of girls to date, life doesn't stop here.
Ofcourse he can cry all he want, and scream and curse and get all mad and depressed, but never should he reach the limit of considering suicide. Because if he thinks that these couple of things he does after ever break up is the solution than he is dead wrong.
Tell him that you are there beside him and for him and that you are his friend and he could tell you all he wants.
Because sometimes, we are just too blind with tears to see the reality of the world around us. He just needs to things, someone to point out things to him and to show him what he was too blind to see, and tell him whats right and whats wrong and what should be done. And someone to be there for him and hold his hands and tell him that things would be okay. Why don't you remind him of old days when you and him where best freinds and used to hang out and do lots of fun stuff. Remind him of the old him ,and the person he used to be before he started obssessing about his girl and thinking that she's his whole life.
Try to do all that, and show him how caring and understanding you are. But don't pity him or sympathize, because he could get mad.
So try to work things out, and if you need any more advice ,please be free to contact me, and i will tell you what else to do.
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Unfortunatly theres nothing you can really do about the way he acts when his girlfriend hurts him. All you can really do is remind him that him and his girlfriend go off and on and that nothing is going to change no matter how hard he tries.
I don't think he will kill himself. I think maybe he's going through a very hard time and he thinks that he's not going to make it through without her. These feelings are normal, and soon he'll come to realize that getting high or drunk every few weeks when the relationship dies down again is no way to live anymore. It may take up to a year or more to realize this, but soon enough it will get old for either one of them and theu'll call it quits. But sadly theres no way for you to make him call it quits. Tons of relationships go on and on and soon they'll understand that it's not going to work.
So your best bet is to always be his friend and let him know that the sooner he decides to try someone else, the sooner he'll get to feeling better that there are other girls that want him.
-TheTeenGirl
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wow that is very dramatic if this girl hurts him she ain't worth it i think maybe yuu shud go tell him all the fun tymes yu guyz had and yur memories and say do yu want to throw our frendship awai and hurt yur best frend who's been by ur side for a gurl..telll him how yuu feel abt wut he is doin..
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