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At the moment, it seems that one of my good friends is really annoyed with me. I don't get to see them a lot, so it's not like I've really had a chance to do much. I've basically decided to leave them alone for a while and then see if I can apologize or something to that matter. Does this seem like a good plan? Or should I do something different?
Dont apologize if you dont know if she's mad.
But do keep in mind that people need space to function, if your constantly in their face, or wanting to do something, thats how they get easily annoyed. And they may not want to do everything with you, they may want to do it with different people yaknow? Try giving her a call, and talking to her, and telling her how you feel. Dont beat around the bush becasue I know that would piss me off even more. Dont use the excuse that you guys havent been hanging out a lot either beacuse that could cut in the spot of her wanting space from you.
All day my sister has been stratching me pinching me hitting me and kicking me. Everytime we have the littlest arguement which is litally every 2 seconds, she has to hurt me in some way. She even bites me! I have marks all over my skin from everytime shes ever hurt me. My arms and legs are covered in stratches blood marks and brusies from her. I know all sisters fight with eachother but sometimes I feel like it gets outta hand. Today, she got mad at me and stratched me and she wouldn't stop I kept yelling get away from me and stuff and she wouldn't stop so I pinched her so she would get the fuck away from me. One little pinch sends her into tears and she runs to my mom and of course no matter how much my sister hurts me, if my sister is in one little pain of discomfort and blames it on me my mom will always take my sisters side. I showed my mom all of the marks, and she goes good I'm glad she does that to you, if you got hit by a bus right in front of me it would be hard for me to PRETEND like I actually care. I never care what people say to me but when it's my actual mom I break down crying because I hate knowing people don't care about me. My sister pinned me down on the floor and handcuffed my hands with my dads old handcuffs (he used to be a police 20 years ago) and she started kicking me so hard and pinching me I couldn't move I felt like I was going to burst and just die. My mom was 2 feet away watching all of this happen and kept saying hit her harder, hit her harder. My mom doesn't care what happens to me. So I was still pinned down in hand cuffs so I tried to kick her with my leg to get her away from me but I was closing my eyes and by mistake I LIGHTLY kicked her "bad arm" to make her stop torturing me and she starts balling her eyes out. Of course my mom yells on the top of her lungs "GODS GOING TO GET YOU DONT YOU DARE TOUCH MY BABY YOU USELESS PEICE OF SHIT GO SLIT YOUR WRISTS." I said "mom did you see what she was doing to me she had me pinned down in hand cuffs what did you expect me to do just sit there." And she goes "I don't care what she does to you I hope you die." and she walked away. I ran up to my room crying. And then about 20 minutes ago my sister got mad because we were playing a ps2 game and she lost so she pulled my long hair so hard a huge chunk of it came out and I didn't cry but I tried to hit her but she ran away so fast so I popped her balloon that she got 3 days ago from a restaurant. My sister told my mom (but of course left out the part about her pulling me hair) and my mom started yelling at me and threw me on couch and just started beating me she hit my head so hard about 9 times it still hurts and she tried to choke me with the balloon and tried to stuff it down my throat. I managed to get away and I ran up to my room. I'm 13 and my sister is 10 so of course she never gets in trouble. My sister gets so much clothes and toys and cds and anything she wants she automatically gets no matter how stupid it is. My parents don't buy me any clothes I have to wear the same clothes from 2 years ago that don't even fit me any more. They don't buy me any nice things and when we go out to eat they don't even let me buy a drink and make me order off the kids menu when I'm 13 and I'm skinny but I eat A LOT and I finish the kids meal in 5 minutes and I'm starving while my sister 3 years YOUNGER then me is munching on a huge steak with 3 sides. I hate it!!!! My sister never gets hit and I always do. My mom throws me against walls and she even does it infront of my friends!!!! I can't stand this my sister always hurts me and I always get in trouble. I tried the police, but my mom lies so much so of course they believe my mom. My friends help me out so much and make me feel so much better but if they arn't at my house they can't see whats happening to me and its up to me not to get myself killed because no one else cares.
What do I do? I'm sick of living like this. My mom and dad won't even let me have a talk to them about it.
That is horrible,
not only is that called
child abuse, but your mom is verbally abusing you as well.
Get help soon.
No one should deal with this,
call the police, tell someone,
tell a counsular, dont stop trying ot get help, keep trying until someone comes.
And justice is done.
I realize she is your mother
but NO ONE tells their child to die, and starves them, or physically abuses them, thats wrong.
Call 1-800-4-A-Child
Get help soon.
You'll be in my prayers.
the subject said it all
Love is patient, Love is kind
It does not envy, it does not boast,
it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs, Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices in the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes,always perseveres.
1 Corinithians 13
But if you didnt really understand that.
The meaning of love can be undescribable,
and cannot be easily defined, if can be defined at all.
Everytime I try to sign onto aim on my phone I type in my sn and password and when I click sign on something pops up and says "Timeout, Did not recieve responce from IM server. Select wait to continue waiting or Sign Off. What's wrong with my phone? Did that mean my parents blocked aim on my phone or something. This happens all the time wherever I am even when I have 5 bars of service
Make sure you are connected to the internet on your phone?
So I dated this guy for a week and 2 days and we spent every day together. we broke up a week ago tomorrow and I can't get over it. I want him to want me back. He said he wanted to whore around and then he goes and dates a Freshman and I'm a senior. It's killing me and I don't know what to do. I don't want to go to school and see him with someone else. All I've did is cried.
Oh dear.
I know this is going to be incredibly hard,
but from what you wrote it sounds like he really wants just to do "stuff" and get "stuff" you know? The fact that he wants to fool around, dont let him get to you. You are so much better then him, the freshman is going to regret it, and he is too. You will find someone better, and I know it hurts a lot now, but it gets better I promise.
First off, I'm 13/F.
I was curious as to what my BMI percentile was, and once calculated, it was 90. That puzzles me, because I am not overweight. I admit, I'm not stick thin, but I am definitely not heavier than 90% of people my age. I take a 5/6 in jeans and a medium for tops! I don't know about you, but I know for a fact that people my age are not all 0's, 2's, and 4's. I know that some of it contributes to my build, because my family's picture is in the dictionary next to the entry "big-boned". ;) But anyway, my question is: do you think that your BMI is correct? And do you think that a person that is classified as "medium" by clothes should be 90%? (yes, I made sure I entered the correct info.)
I don't need any words of encouragement- I don't feel self-conscious at all and am happy with my body. At most, I would like to loose 5-10 pounds.
Internet places that calculate your bmi sometimes arent all that accurate for instance yours.
If you really want to know for sure, when you have a check up at the doctors ask them :]
But anyways everyone's bodies are SO different, that they arent always accurate.
Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with a sibling moving out and going off to college? My sister and I are a year and half apart and she's moving out in a little over a week. We're really close and I just can't imagine her not being here.
We also have an older brother that moved out 4 years ago but I guess I didn't notice as much since I still had my sister.
Now, I'm going to be all alone (well...with my parents) and have the whole upstairs of our house to myself basically and I know it sounds kind of dumb, but it's scary. Has anyone else felt this way and had to deal with it?
Yeah I definitley have.
My sister lives in florida and I live in Michigan
I dont see her alot at all.
I miss her so much and it hurts sometimes,
but just remember yoru sister will come back to vist and you will visit her sometimes too.
I know the emptiness will be lonely but you'll get used to it, try getting out and occupying yourself.
Last night my step-dad beat me. He's done it before, but last night was the worst it has ever been. I called the police and they came to examine me, but they didn't find any marks. But TODAY my face is REALLY swollen and bruised up. What should I do to make him get in the trouble that he deserves? I can't call CPS because I've already had three cases with all of them with the same problem, but they have all been dropped. I'm tired of being hit and I want him in jail.
Get out of your house,
call 911.
I dont know why they dropped the other cases, thats horrible.
You dont deserve to be beaten at all,
talk to a counsular, talk to another adult, you need to tell someone, and get help NOW.
I'm SO SORRY THIS HAPPENED TO YOU,
thats so horrible. I will never understand how any adult can beat their child.
Its horrible.
Here are some numbers you can call specificly for abuse.
Child Abuse Childhelp USA
Phone: 800-4-A-CHILD (800-422-4453)
Who They Help: Child abuse victims, parents, concerned individuals
Youth Crisis Hotline
Phone: 800-HIT-HOME (800-448-4663)
Who They Help: Individuals reporting child abuse, youth ages 12 to 18
Be safe hun,
you will be in my prayers,
and once again you dont deserve this,
let me know what happens if you get rid of him.
my aim is kaylehmae if you ever need anymore help.
I am seriously getting stressed here! My best friend told me yesterday that she was through with life and she wanted to kill herself! I've been through this before with another one of my friends. It turned out that that friend wasn’t going to commit suicide she was just really depressed but I had told someone. Now it’s happening again with a different friend so I told my mom this time. I let her read the conversation we had and then my mom was just like "All I see here is a very angry child trying to get attention." I don’t see it that way though. My mom had said that out of the 100% of people that say there going to commit suicide, 98% don’t and 2% do. My friend said that sometime before high school is over she's going to kill herself. I have 4 years to convince her not to, but I tried a ton yesterday. She said its not helping and that I shouldn’t be her friend anymore. I love being her friend and I understand that she's trouble from home life (her mother doesn’t trust her!
Her brother doesn’t like her, and her dad abused her but has stopped). What should I do? I really don’t want my friend to kill herself but she doesn’t understand that!
Okay first of all, I think your mother is being very in-sensetive,
I mean PEOPLE WHO ARENT DEPRESSED its really hard for them to COMPREHEND and UNDERSTAND how bad a person feels when they are depressed, and how much it HURTS. Seriously, you have a very kind heart, suggest your friend talk to a counsular and get help. Tell her its for her best interest and that you love her, and you want her to get better.
because i know a lot of people when they are depressed they think theres no way out and that they are going to be depressed forever until they kill themselves or something, sometimes people want attention, but others really need help.
Try helping her get help, and jsut be there for her during the process and after.
My boyfriend is 16 years old has real bad family problems. He is often depressed and thinks about suicide a lot. He tells me that if I weren't in his life he would have already killed himself and that if we broke up he will probably kill himself. We have been dating for 3 years. How can I tell if he is being serious about killing himself? I'm afraid that if we break up that he is going to kill himself, so I feel obligated not to end the relationship. What do I do?
Your relationship with him sounds very unhealthy.
Just be flat out, but be sensetive about it. Its worse staying in a relationship with someone because your feel bad for them. You cant feel bad for them the rest of your life. Its going to hurt both of you when you tell them, but he will be okay, I mean, help him get some help for his depression, and once you've done everything you can, just let him go. And he can decide what he wants to do. Knowing you did everything you needed to help him You know?
Good luck.
I can't trust people. I have had a weird experience growing up, and I find it very difficult to trust people. It seems like everyone I get close to and trust hurts me very badly in the end. But lately it has been catching up to me and actually preventing friendships, because it hurts people's feelings when I don't trust them. My boyfriend tells me how much he cares about me and how he loves me, but I just don't believe it. I don't think he is lying, but I just can't trust him. What can I do to work on this?
Trusting is hard for some,
and easy for others.
I mean its something you need to work on,
even though your mind tells you not to beleive and trust someone, just do it.
Quit acting on the impulses to not trust.
I know its hard, but its worth a try.
And if all else fails, talk to a counsular, it helps a lot. Trust me, I do.
I dont have problems with trust, I have others, but just talking to someone who cant tell it to ANYOEN helps a lot.
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i am really good friends with this family, theres 5 kids. four sister and im friends with all of them the oldest sister is in 10th grade then 2 twins who are in my grade and a younger one whos in 6th [im going into 8th]
im really good friends with all of them
anyways so lately the oldest one has told me that she wants to start smoking/pot and stuff
she asked if i would think of her any differently/etc i said no i wouldnt think of her different although i dont think smokings the best thing.
she just messaged me that her and this guy [who i also know, not really friends with or anything] are going to meet up next week and smoke. im not sure if its pot but it might be.
i wasn't exactly invited to go with them but like if i really wanted to, i could and it wouldnt be like a big thing.
but im not really sure what i wanna do because as i look at it i know a lot of people who smoke/drink and other stuff.
i kind of do want to see what its like but im an athlete and im afraid it would mess me up too much.
i really dont know what to think anymore.
sorry, kind of long.
13/F
DONT EVER SMOKE,
or SMOKE POT!
I highly suggest you talk some sense into your friend, it can do a lot of damage.
Smoking pot cna make your heartbeat and pulse race, and make your eyes bloodshot, and it can impare short term memory, alter sense of time, and reduce ability to do things that require concentration - like driving, or something with details.
And research shows that when YOUNG PEOPLE start smoking pot it means that its more likely for them to start trying other drugs.
Gateway drugs, one drug leads to another and another.. etc.
Its very harmful to your body especialyl if you are an athlete, and just to anybody.
Dont use it.
Be careful.
I purchased a pair of socks for my brother's not-yet-born child and plan to give them as a gift at the baby shower, which is next month. These are really nice socks, made out of merino wool, and (for socks) they were kind of expensive.
However, I fear that if I just give a pair of socks at the baby shower, I will appear cheap and unwelcoming of the baby. Should I just give the socks but explain that they are 100% merino wool? Should I buy multiple pairs of merino wool socks? Should I buy an additional gift?
Incidentally, this baby will be the first full nephew I will have. My half-siblings have had seven children between them, but this is the first time a full sibling has had a child.
You can leave the pricetag on the socks haha, even if its not the politest thing to do, they can see how much it costs. And just buy some other thigns to go with it, like a few baby blankets and some rattles :] Stuff them in a babby bag with some tissue paper and walla:]
This might be kinda long and in depth i apreaciate it if you read all of it.
First of all im 19/f and my boyfriend is also 19. We'll call him J. Ok, so J and I have been together for 3 years, four next july. He treats me better than I could ever ask, and does things for me. We planned on getting married and probably having children together. The thing is over the past 2 years I've gotten really sick. I spend alot of time at hospitals and in doctors offices. Ever since six months ago, I've been on treatment for cervical cancer. It's working but the side affects are making me sicker than ever. Some days it's even hard for me to get out of bed. So what I'm getting at.. I always feel so guilty and upset about hurting him because of my sicknesses. I don't feel like a good girlfriend because I can't do some of the things he does for me. He tells me not to worry about it and it'll be worth the wait, but it isn't that simple for me. I feel like he deserves better, someone that can do things for him and make him happy. I know he isn't. I know how bad he wants kids, and now I might not be able to give him that. We don't get to do alot together and we LIVE together. It sucks so bad I don't even know what to do anymore. Any advice would mean alot to me.
Thanks
Its not your fault that your sick.
And your boyfriend loves you and you love him,
love will find a way to make things work.
I know you feel guilty about him always helping you and you cant do much for him. But its okay wait, and one day you might have to do the same for him. Just remind him how much he loves you and that you appreciate him, it will make him feel really good. Simple words with meaning that come from the heart really help.
And You'll be in my prayers,
I hope you get better soon.
And that you stop feeling sick.
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My oldest and best friend is moving to Ethiopia later this week. His parents had a leaving party tonight and as I am going away tomorrow it was the last time I will see him for the forseeable future.
At the party my other best friend (female) got upset and her younger sister accused the friend moving away's dad of feeling her up. My female friend's older sister then said that he had also felt her up. The man they accused is also their dad's best friend, and they were in hysterics. I heard them telling their dad and then the whole family went home.
Both my best friends were involved, so obviously I was very upset by this situation. The friend moving away is convinced that it was all just a big misunderstanding but I have no idea what to believe. I was already upset from having to say goodbye to him, and I don't know what to do.
One best friend is accusing my other best friend's dad of sexually abusing her siblings. I'm trying to stay out of it because it's none of my business, but it's not as simple as that.
What am I supposed to do?
Dont make their problems your problems,
let them sort it out, since you have no evidence or anything or dont know anything really but what they told you, stay out of it.
And if they ask you to take sides, tell them you just want to be left out of it.
And just enjoy the time you had with your friend who is moving, and try not to worry about their problems, sooner or later it will all be sorted out.
About 4 months ago, I noticed that my teenage daughter was losing some weight, but only a little. As time progressed, she wouldn't stop losing weight, and she was a size 2. I started to worry about her and made sure that she ate dinner every day. However, she constantly made excuses for not eating, so we saw a therapist (this is about a month ago from now). In our second session, she admitted that she was anorexic. She now refuses to go back to the therapist. My question is this. I'm very worried about my daughter and her weight. Forcing her to eat would cause her to possibly develop bulimia and she would start to hate me, so how do I make sure that she eats?
I mean I'm around her age,
and sure I would like to be skinnier than I am,
but the main thing is self control,
if she has the ability to control herself to lose weight, she can easily gain weight too.
In my opinion if I were in her situation, I would need to see the consequences of what can happen. Talk to the therapist about it and ask if you can find a movie based on eating disorders or something like that or pictures of people who go too far with the disease. Scare her back into eating, and making sure that she does eat. Thats what I would want someone to do in my opnion. or you could even google annorexia and click pictures, they are horrifying. And since your daughter isnt legal you can force her to go to counsuling, and even if she hates you, I would say its a risk worth taking especially if it saves her life. The sooner she gets better, the sooner you can mend the relationship, but if you dont, she might not be around long enough to do so.
I hope I helped,
good luck & you will be in my prayers.
I had only been dating my bf for a couple of weeks. Normally he is pretty nice to me; but this one time he yelled at me and said I wasnt listening to him. He was really good for about a month after that. Well a couple of nights ago it was one of his friends birthdays. We all went out for drinks. His friends were all being really crude and disgusting so I left the table. My bf followed me and I told him I wanted to go home because his friends made me uncomfortable. Well he got mad; stuck his face inches from mine and slowly but loudly said in an angry voice "I"M SO SORRY". It kind of freaked me out. Do you think my bf has potential to be violent with me?
Yes.
Anyone has the potential to be violent in a relationship, when they think they can yell at you or boss you around in anyway, or act like they can control you in some situation.
I would be careful, and stand your ground,
remind him you are your own person and you have feelings, and that if he's not going to treat you nicely and the way you should be, then its over.
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I am growing lots of cucumbers. Been getting bored of just eating them in salads and so are our neighbours!
Was hoping someone out theres got some interesting recipes?
Here are some good sandwhiches you can make with cucumbers, and they are delcious.
Spread humas on a tortilla, with some green onion, cucumber, sherred carrots, lettuce. Yum!
or
2 slices of ciabatta bread with tomatoe, red onion, cucumber, grilled porabellas, mozzaerella cheese, humas and ranch, then toast it. vry goood:]
Or
Use ciabatta bread with turkey, cheddar cheese, red onions, cucumber, guacamole... and toast it. its really good.
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I hope I helped,
those sandwhiches taste amazing by the wya
and the things on it are optional :]
I've completely given up junk food. I don't eat fast food, candy, sodas, french fries, pizza, ice cream, potato chips, donuts, all that stuff. So anyways, today my dad, my brother and I went to McDonalds for lunch and I didn't get anything, I said I'd wait to eat lunch when we got home. Then my bro said "You're just afraid of getting fat. And he waved a french fry in my face." I didn't know what to say... and it was embarassing. I'm not afraid of getting fat. I eat plenty!! Just not junky stuff. I want to live a healthy life. And some of my friends joke that I'm anorexic cause I won't eat popcorn at the movies or drink sodas with them. What do I say when they do that??
Just be honest with them.
Tell them that you gave up junk food to be healthier. Its simmple as that. And be like "please respect that" :]
thanks in advance sorry if its long.
okay so me and this kid lets call him jack. we got into a fight and he was like i dont care dont talk to me.
then my friend brooke was talking to him and she was telling him about how she got into a fight with this kid chester. and he was like well you should talk to him. cause he was giving her advice. and then brooke told jack that she called chester and he got mad and said i dont care dont talk to me. and then jack said he'll regret it. and brooke was like why do you think that? and he was like "he'll see dont worry" so yeah..
does that mean jack regrets saying it to me? or did he just say chester would regret saying that to brooke randomlyy.
thanks in advance..
It sounds so, and aww thats pretty cute :]
yeah when people say "I dont care dont talk to me" that usually means they do care and it hurts them really bad.
So if you can take that as an apology or find it in your heart, you can start talking to Jack again, no questions ask, just say you got over what ever the problem was, and I think things will be okay :] He probably feels really bad about whatever it was.