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i am really good friends with this family, theres 5 kids. four sister and im friends with all of them the oldest sister is in 10th grade then 2 twins who are in my grade and a younger one whos in 6th [im going into 8th]
im really good friends with all of them
anyways so lately the oldest one has told me that she wants to start smoking/pot and stuff
she asked if i would think of her any differently/etc i said no i wouldnt think of her different although i dont think smokings the best thing.
she just messaged me that her and this guy [who i also know, not really friends with or anything] are going to meet up next week and smoke. im not sure if its pot but it might be.
i wasn't exactly invited to go with them but like if i really wanted to, i could and it wouldnt be like a big thing.
but im not really sure what i wanna do because as i look at it i know a lot of people who smoke/drink and other stuff.
i kind of do want to see what its like but im an athlete and im afraid it would mess me up too much.
i really dont know what to think anymore.
sorry, kind of long.
13/F
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DONT EVER SMOKE,
or SMOKE POT!
I highly suggest you talk some sense into your friend, it can do a lot of damage.
Smoking pot cna make your heartbeat and pulse race, and make your eyes bloodshot, and it can impare short term memory, alter sense of time, and reduce ability to do things that require concentration - like driving, or something with details.
And research shows that when YOUNG PEOPLE start smoking pot it means that its more likely for them to start trying other drugs.
Gateway drugs, one drug leads to another and another.. etc.
Its very harmful to your body especialyl if you are an athlete, and just to anybody.
Dont use it.
Be careful.
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i had a really abusive father who drank and got high and i was around a lot of people who did the same thing its not alife you want your friend might think its cool now wait until youget older and are still addicted its just going to lead you down a path you dont want
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If you have a feeling that it isn't right, chances are, it's not. Smoking is completely stupid and there is nothing good about it. If your friends want to smoke, let them. You can't control them, but as an athlete, it is not in your best interest to pick up smoking. It's not only illegal to have if you're under 19 (they changed the age) but it has more of a chance of damaging you at a younger age. Good luck! Make the right choice!
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ok, sorta had me confused there at first, but ah well, i got it sorted out in the end. ^_^
psh, not long at all dolly! just wait until you finish reading this. THEN you'll see what "long" is.
all right, so we'll call your 10th grade gal pal "avi" and her guy friend "benny". sorry, that's kind of what i always do to make things simpler me to write about and for you to read. ^_^
not a fun situation for you, my dear. not even really fun for avi and beeny either. i'm not gonna tell you that smoking cigarettes and smoking pot are "wrong" like in a moral sense, because that makes no sense to me. it is "wrong" in the sense that it's illegal. marijuana is illegal to have in one's possession AND it's illeagl to smoke it. it's illegal for anyone in the U.S. to smoke cigarettes, cigars, tobacco in a pipe, etc., until they are at least 18 years of age.
i can't say i've never smoked, because i'd be lying; however, i don't make a habit of it. i've smoked a puff or two and sometimes maybe half of a cigarette no more than 7 or 8 times in my entire life. i've never even smoked a whole cigarette. i once smoked part of a small cigar, too. never smoked pot, though i have been around people who have and have been in rooms where people have been smoking it. it kinda sucks. gives me a headache and stinks up my clothes.
chances are that avi has a reason she wants to go start smoking. even though i'm a bit surprised to hear it, i'm very glad to hear that she told you about it. however, you phrase it interestingly: "[she] has told me that she wants to start smoking/pot and stuff". so she hadn't really ever smoked before when she told you she wanted to start doing it? it makes me wonder about whether or not she's actually smoking at all. there's always the chance that she told you she wanted to smoke and asked you about what you'd think of her if she did, all because she wants you to see her as a cooler person. or maybe saying that she's going to smoke pot makes her feel better about herself. it's hard to say.
but of course, we must always think there might be a chance that she really is smoking. as an athlete, you know that things like that can screw up your weight, your metabolism, your muscles, your heart, etc., so i'm glad that you don't want to go do it. the bad thing is that in my research (yes, i've studied a plethora of things on drugs in my spare time ^_^ ), i've read a lot of studies that show that pot can act as a "stepping stone" to using other, more dangerous, drugs. so if she has started to smoke it, she very possibly might be going down a bad road. again, as i say in my profile, i've actually known and actually known/know people who did/do drugs; i know what can happen because of it.
while i press you to talk to avi about this and let her know that you don't think it's a very good idea, and while i don't want you to go start doing it, i can't stop either of you from doing it. both you and she have to make your own decisions. YOU have to decide that you're not going to do it. YOU have to decide that smoking of any kind is really not good for you body, and can have serious and sometimes permanent effects on your mind and on your emotional state.
if you find that this is a problem with her, keep gently reminding her that she could hurt herself, and that it's hurting you too. she's your friend; she most likely will listen to her. if it becomes too much of a problem and she won't listen to you, give her a few chances to quit it on her own, but then (i know it sucks...) you've got to go to an adult. a parent, a teacher, some adult you really know and trust. even an older girl that might know avi that might be able to knock some sense into her.
a few last thoughts... don't assume too much right away, make sure you have the facts before you do or say anything. be up front with avi about it, let her know you're a little worried and you just want to make sure she's ok. don't try and threaten her with "i'm gonna tell you/my mom if you don't stop" unless it gets to be really out of hand; it'll be harder to have her listen to you if she doesn't trust you or if she feels like you're trying to control her. tell her (especially if she pulls the "it's MY life, and i'll do what I want!" line) that even though it IS her life, and even though she has to make her own decisions, you don't want to see her hurt and you just want what's best for her.
feel free to email me directly. i would be more than happy to talk to you about it, and i'd especially love to hear feedback and updates on the situation. i love it when people tell me how things are going with them.
hope this helped. good luck!
~*kitty*~
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Your to young for that, your an athlete, which means something great is going good for you. Don't let something like that bring you far away from your good abilities. Just don't do it, it can screw you up, you can get to mentally addicted to it, blow friends off, your sport, and school. Its not a good thing. Its not something for just fun, theres always a consequence to it.
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Don't do it. Thirteen is too young for that. Physically, emotionally,and mentally, it will do you no good. Do not let your curiosity get the better of you, or feel that just because enough people that you know do those things its ok for you to. Think things through and realize that it is not worth it, especially with any consequences that might occur because of it. Hope that helped.
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im an athlete too... i dont know i really dont think you should smoke or drink or anything... espically pot... i mean i no some kids on the track team who used to be really good and fast but then they started smoking and are now slow and didnt even go out for the team... idk i just thinking any type of somking in general is bad.. not only discusting but gross... you are also only 13 i dont think you want to get messed up in that that young.... my x boyfriend did... (i didnt know till after i was going out w/ him) and he had a really hard time stoping and getting the reputation of being a druggy off... and he just smoked it every once in a while or what he said on special occasions... so i really dont think its a good idea... and i would tell your friend that you dont think she should either
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Let your friend do what she may
Just don't put yourself into that situation- you'll become addicted and you won't be able to stop.
You will mess up your athletics and will probably be kicked out if they find out you are smoking pot..
Remember- curiousity killed the cat.. and it can happen to you
smoking can lead to many health problems later in life.. like lung cancer.. and you can die
Please- whatever you do.. just don't start smoking yourself (pot or cigarettes)
Let me know how it goes!
--Jack
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