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Sickness and Boyfriend..
This might be kinda long and in depth i apreaciate it if you read all of it.
First of all im 19/f and my boyfriend is also 19. We'll call him J. Ok, so J and I have been together for 3 years, four next july. He treats me better than I could ever ask, and does things for me. We planned on getting married and probably having children together. The thing is over the past 2 years I've gotten really sick. I spend alot of time at hospitals and in doctors offices. Ever since six months ago, I've been on treatment for cervical cancer. It's working but the side affects are making me sicker than ever. Some days it's even hard for me to get out of bed. So what I'm getting at.. I always feel so guilty and upset about hurting him because of my sicknesses. I don't feel like a good girlfriend because I can't do some of the things he does for me. He tells me not to worry about it and it'll be worth the wait, but it isn't that simple for me. I feel like he deserves better, someone that can do things for him and make him happy. I know he isn't. I know how bad he wants kids, and now I might not be able to give him that. We don't get to do alot together and we LIVE together. It sucks so bad I don't even know what to do anymore. Any advice would mean alot to me.
Thanks
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Its not your fault that your sick.
And your boyfriend loves you and you love him,
love will find a way to make things work.
I know you feel guilty about him always helping you and you cant do much for him. But its okay wait, and one day you might have to do the same for him. Just remind him how much he loves you and that you appreciate him, it will make him feel really good. Simple words with meaning that come from the heart really help.
And You'll be in my prayers,
I hope you get better soon.
And that you stop feeling sick.
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ok the sickness though im not sure what itt is is more then likely not your fault and your boyfriend knows that. it probably makes him unhappy to see you in painand to think that your feeling this way. just stick it out with him.hell stick it out with you.
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First I would like to say my prayers go out to you. Don't worry about any of that stuff... if he was really unhappy being with you then he wouldn't be with you. If he really wants to fullfill his dream of kids you can always adopt or you can save your eggs.
i hope you get better and hope both of your dreams come true!
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what i think you should do is just try to help, him get through this even no you r hurting more well anyways tell him if i am not able to give you kids its going to be o.k. because you can always adopt instead of giving you can help a little child who needs caring he will understand if he loves you
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First of all I am so sorry about your illness. As for your situation, I see this a lot with clients who are ill, you feel guilt because you feel less then a whole person right now, also due to your illness you may be experiencing depression.
The whole point of a relationship is the give and take as well as having someone who loves you and puts you first. You obviously have a man who loves you beyond reason, be thankful for that aspect of your life right now.
Don't make any major decsions right now, you are not in any sort of positive space right now. Wait until your health is back on track and then tackle the tough stuff.
As for your ability or inabilty to have children in the future, don't even take the time to think about this right now, yes it may become a concern in the future but medicine is making advances every day not to mention there is the always other options like adoption and suragacy (sp?).
Right now you are focusing on pretty much any serious that your mind can come up with in order not to contemplate the seriousness of your illness, I am a firm believer in the benefits of positive thinking, also for the side effects from the treatments I have seen remarkable things when patients look into alternative medicine for relief from the fatigue, and other general malaise and feelings of crappiness.
If you ever need to vent or just need an ear or a shoulder please feel free. My email is sassysara_1975@hotmail.com.
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I'm sorry to hear that your sick. You should also be really happy that you have a nice loving boyfriend as well. As long as he understands what you are going through and he is helping you the best, then everything should be going according to plan. If you want to, please e-mail me at pcdoc2@gmail.com I would like to talk to you more.
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