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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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There is this new kid in my school well actually not that new maybe a month or two. But I dont know how to start a conversation with him. I REALLY REALLY REALLY like him! He seems shy ish. I just want him to notice me he is kinda ok really short but not all guys care if the girl is taller then them right? please help (link)
This article might help you. Its tips on how to start a conversation with someone you don't know. :)

http://www.wikihow.com/Start-a-Conversation-With-a-Stranger


every time when i ask her she allways tell me that """you dont belive me"..is she is trying to use my trust on her,? (link)
If she has told you that she is and you keep asking then yes it is a trust issue. If she said no then you should believe her.

If however, she is just avoiding the question, then
she is probably not a virgin.


Hi, I'm 15 and a girl. I'm just wondering, how can I tell if my crush, David, likes me? We ride the same bus and go to the same bus stop. He lives only one street behind me. Every once in a while i'll see from the corner of my eye , him looking at me. Is this a sign that he likes me? I would go up and talk to him to just get to know him, but i'm really shy around people that i don't know. What should I do? Can you please help me? (link)
Here is a good website that lists ways to tell if a guy likes you. :)

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/How_do_you_tell_if_a_guy_likes_you


Hi =] My name is Steven and my girlfriend and I have been dating for 1 year and 5 months now. Things have been a little bit rocky lately. I mean i have been done some pretty romantic things like...
-played "our song" on my roof with candle light and blankets and watched the stars
-given her a vase of flowers i arranged myself and a portrait i drew of us
-when her favorite show the o.c. just finished, i bought all 3 seasons on dvd put them on her bed and covered them with rosepedals while she was showering and she comes in her rooom and sees the suprise
all of that was lately before things started to get bad but the roof guitar thing was on onr one year ;)
so anyways i was womdering if you had any romantic ideas or quick fixes that you can shere with me that i might be able to use. what have you always wanted a man to do for you or what do you think is the most romantic thing one can do for you?
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Well you certainly wouldn't have to do anything more
if you were mine. Sounds like you're doing pretty good all by yourself!

I did find a site that had some pretty good tips for relationships. Not all romantic but they are sure to help.

Good luck with your relationship, though I don't know how any girl could resist you! :)

http://www.kissmegoodnight.com/dating-guides/relationship_advice_and_dating_tips_page1.shtml


Hi there, I was told to ask you my question. I do my best to have safe sex if I'm ever presented with the opportunit but I have never found a condom that fits. They all just slide right off when I'm hard. I have tried the regular size, the petite size and every size with no evail. My penis is 3.7 inches long, 0.8 inches wide and 0.3 inches thick when erect with a circumference of 2.7 inches. Don't you think I should be able to fit into a regular sized condom? They all seem to be about 3 inches to long and way to big around. I can put my hard penis straight into a condom with out even stretching it out. What's wrong and what can I do? (link)
You should be able to fit into a regular size. To long is one thing to big around isn't so good.

Go to a pharmacy. Talk to the pharmacist. They know whats available and can help you find a good fit.
To avoid announcing it to the stores population, write down your size and just give that info to him that way. Not that your size is a big deal by the way, its just not something a lot of people want to talk about in front of strangers. :)


Hi younggrandma!
thanks for taking care of my abuse reports. I appreciate it.
sorry for the frequency of the reports... I just don't like getting bad ratings. are both from the same person? the reason I mention that is because the one where she "wanted links", they didn't rate anyone else and one other person didn't give a link and they didn't get a one. she could type in the ones i likes on youtube and gotten it- i just didn't go out of my way to copy and paste the links. I just want to know if someone just has issues with me. I think I give good advice & i love this site but if someone hates me and i'm running into their questions all the time, putting effort into them and getting a bad rating- i'm not so sure i wanna do this anymore.
any comments, advice, help is welcome and appreciated greatly! (link)
No they weren't the same people. I don't know why she didn't bother to rate the one with links.

So don't give up! And for sure don't worry about your rating. Those columnists who carry a 5 won't get far. They are either only answering questions they know will get them 5's or they are answering just what the questioner wants to hear. So turn in a report if you are rated low, but don't fret when you don't get a 5, OK? And don't give up! :)


my girl friend is not telling me that is she is virgin or not,becouse according to my religion a girl should be a virgin before marriage,we never have sex , i allways ask her that are you still virgin but she is telling me that my useing unappropiate style like,,,u dont belive me"" by getting mad,but she used to had a boyfriend in four year ago,i am confused please help me how to fined out that is she is realy a virgin still,?? (link)
I'm sure you know the answer already. If she can't tell you, then she probably isn't.


i read about this girl who was so skinny and she took these nutrition pills and now she has like the biggest butt and i want to know if u know the name of pills that do that and i also want an answer to this question. can someone get fatter if he or she is hiv positive for about 3 years or something please give in details. thank you (link)
There are no pills that make your butt bigger. Getting fat will make it bigger, plus the rest of you, but no pill will do it.

People with full blown HIV usually lose weight due to sickness. They do not get fat. :)


im scared cuz i use mascara and sometimes sleep with it and now i feel that my eyelashes are kinda getting less. i wanna know if eyelashes do grow back am scared help plz (link)
I guess I am bad because I never did wash it off.
I have never has a problem with eyelashes falling out or anything. Eyelashes do fallout and grow back on a regular basis. :)


to drink vinegar as a way to burn fat, when is the best time of day to drink it? (link)
I have heard of it but it doesn't work. Here is a short article written by Gabe Mirkin MD telling you why.

Drinking vinegar will not cause you to lose weight, prevent cancer or heart disease, lower high blood pressure or offer any other health benefit. Vinegar is fine for salad dressings, as a preservative or a household cleaner, but it is not a medicine. One book claims that vinegar helps you to lose weight because oil and vinegar don't mix, so vinegar and body fat won't either. I hope you don't believe that.

Vinegar is about 95 percent water and 5 percent acetic acid. Because it is acidic, it prevents the growth of bacteria in a test tube and is used as a preservative to pickle a wide variety of foods. However, it will not kill bacteria in humans, prevent infection or serve any other health function. Your stomach acid is much stronger than vinegar, so eating vinegar or any other acid food has no impact at all on the acidity of your stomach or any other organ in your body. The only way vinegar will help you lose weight is if you use it as a dressing and eat lots of salads made with fruits, vegetables, whole grains and beans.



Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Gabe_Mirkin,_M.D.

Gabe Mirkin, M.D. - EzineArticles Expert Author



I wear a pantieliner and everytime i go to throw it away there is yellow stuff in it its like an ugly yellow. i dont know how to describe it. Does anybody know what it is? (link)
Its probably normal discharge but yellow discharge could mean an infection. Here is a site that explains it all for you. :)

http://www.pamf.org/teen/health/femalehealth/discharge.html


What are some good ways to get over a guy?

I liked him for a while, but i realized that he was a jerk.
I really hate him, but at the same time, my heart still flutters everytime i see him.
I've been kind of forcing myself to read his posts on other girls walls to prove to myself that he's not a great guy. its kind of working.


what else can i do? (link)
Here is a site with some suggestions for you. :)

http://www.wikihow.com/Get-over-a-Guy-You-Liked


What exactly did Ozzy Osbourne contribute to Black Sabbath? He always gets alot of credit and people see him as the center of the band...but it kind of seems like all he did was do drugs,drink,and sing their songs. (link)
Since most people usually relate the band to the singer thats the biggest reason.

He also puts on a good show and his antics over the years makes for keeping the name in the headlines.

As for his bad habits they are shared by many. Some still around ( Steven Tyler of Aerosmith comes quickly to mind)and some long gone (Bon Scott of AC/DC).

Things change and hopefully musicians have learned from the older guys. But they probably all haven't.


I need help ASAP!!!! My track meet begins at 5:30, and my hamstrings are really bothering. I had shorts on becasue it was sort of warm, but my coach told me to put on some long pants. I now have them on, what eles can I do to get them right, they feel tight. pLEASE Help! thank u in advance. (link)
Scroll down the page on this site a bit and it has a link to some exercises that might help loosen you up. Good luck at the track meet! :)

http://www.sportsinjuryclinic.net/cybertherapist/back/hamstrings/tighthamstrings.htm


what were some popular artists in 1973?
i'm doing a project on 1973 and i really need to know. thanks! (link)
If you mean musical artists her is the top 20 for the year 1973. :)

http://www.hotpopsongs.com/Music/Billboard/1973.html


How can you tell if a guy likes you? (link)
Here is a wonderful list for you! :)

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/How_do_you_tell_if_a_guy_likes_you


i'd say i have normal size but i want them a little smaller. i know usually s want them bigger but im different. im a 34B and i want them to either A. stay the same and stop growing or B. get them a little smaller. is that possible in any way other than taking medication or something? (link)
Its the same as if they are to small. The only way to make them smaller is surgery too.

Your size will be determined by genetics and you can't do anything to stop them growing, or make them grow more. you will get used to them. :)


I have a little 11 year old shih tzu, who is in still, very good health. The only problem is her teeth and breath. Her breath is so bad right now and her teeth will fall out very soon unless they are taking care of. Today, I went out and bought toothpaste, toothbrushes, and mints for dogs. I tried to brush her teeth but she just wasn't having it. She rarely opened her mouth and she went into this physicall fit. Turn her head every direction possible so that I could not brush her teeth. I tried to keep her head and body in place while trying to keep the brush steady but she was starting to fight with me. I didn't want to be too forceful because I felt like she'd get hurt, so I stopped. How can I get her to stay calm or at least let me brush her teeth? I don't want her to lose teeth because of this. (link)
I had a Shih Tzu myself. They are very bull headed
and I really doubt you will get her to hold still for a tooth brushing. :)

Dog biscuits help clean dogs teeth if she can eat those. If you can get her to eat the dog mints then hopefully they will help her breath.

One day you may notice she starts stinking in general. Unfortunately they are prone to get a
skin disorder that can cause them to smell really bad when they get older. She won't notice at all
but you will! Hopefully she won't get that, but thought I would let you know so you don't panic should it happen. You can get shampoo for it should she get it that will help a little.

If her teeth get really bad just buy her some softer dog food. I have an older dog with some bad
teeth and I feed him that moist and meaty dog food. It isn't canned but is soft.



Sorry my question is so long, it's just alot to explain to help you understand; so thank you for your time. I am 20 years old and my ex boyfiend will be 24 this month. I hung out out with my ex over the summer for a few months before we started dating. When we finally did things got really serious real fast,he was unlike anyone I had ever met. Then he broke up with me after three months. He just quit calling me. About three weeks later I found out I was pregnate by him. I told him and he wanted to work things out. I said we'd see. After about two months we got back together and things were great. One night he invited me over, cooked dinner and we ate by candle light. He told me he was in love with me and gave me roses. It was the most perfect night of my life and I had the perfect guy. Two days later I lost the baby. After that things started to changed so I asked him if he still wanted to be with me. He said alot had happened in the last weeek and he didn't even know what to think. Loosing the baby was hard on both of us, so I understood because I felt the same way. thats why I was asking, but later on that night he said he had bad feelings about me and about us. The next day I broke up with him because it was easier than him hurting me again. Now been two months and I've thought about him every day I've never felt this way before and I don't want to lose him. Can you please help? (link)

About all you can do now is talk to him and see if time has changed anything. Grief can make people say and do things they may not mean, then its hard to take it back.

The best thing to do may be to write it all out. How you feel about him, what you miss because he is not there. Let him read it then give him a couple of days and see what happens. Don't be afraid to open up and tell him exactly how you feel.

There is a chance that he doesn't feel the same way you do anymore. You need to let him know your feelings though because if you don't say anything you may never know. It deserves a shot.

Good luck. :)


whats a valedictorian and how/when do you become one?
thanks. (link)
The student with the highest academic rank in a class who delivers the valedictory at graduation from high school or college.




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