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I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.













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I received on 01/16/2011, i had unprteceted sex on 01/16/2011. Was i in the safe zone to receive my february period.?



No such thing as a safe zone, There is always a chance of pregnancy. Take a test


If you are not looking to become pregnant, Use protection.

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what does 143 means



143 means I love you, 1 for the world "I" 4 is for "L.O.V.E" and 3 is for "Y.O.U"

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Okay so the situation is, Me and my boyfriend have been together ON and OFF since 9th grade .. we are no longer in highschool. and We are parents now.. Let's just say since 9th grade we've been thru ALOTT, but we still managed to work things out and stay together .. Now the situation is a little bit harder we have a daughter that we both love very much ..

His attitude tho is atrocious, he has the grossest personality ever, I feel like he is only nice to me when he wants to have sex. and then if we do have sex , a couple minutes later he's back to being a jerk . Mind you we have discussed how he makes me feel and sometimes he gets mad , others he says sorry and then we're right back at it the next day. And I get it cause having a baby is stressful at first, but seriously he barely does anything ! he comes home from work tired alwayyys it never fails , and grouchy ass hell. He's always inappropriate around my friends , and to my bestfriend he is the biggest jerk to her. There's no respect for me or my mom from him , and it hurts cause I want things to work out for my daughter but a person can only take so much. And sometimes I look at him and I know he cares but then I think does he? Cause someone that cares wouldn't treat someone they love with no respect.. I don't know what to do , am I wrong for wanting to leave him ? Help me out please...



You need to leave the relationship, At this point he seems to only be using you for sex. You need to do what is best both for you and your daughter, Your boyfriend's behavior is totally unacceptable.

We can give you all the advice in the world but right here "am I wrong for wanting to leave him ?" you have already made up your mind, You know what you have to do.

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Do you get stretch marks after having sex?



Unless you are pregnant, No.

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Hey does any one know any good music sites that i can just let music play from while i do home work on the comp or what ever?



The best you'll probably find

http://www.977music.com/


I listen to it all the time, Enjoy it!

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My best friend got her wisdom teeth out and is kinda freaking out about getting a dry socket. She wanted to know how she would know if she had one and what it'd look like. Also she says her place of extraction is purple and red and i figured it was dried blood or maybe the clot but i wasn't sure so what could it be? Is the clot suppose to be purple and red?




If your friend had a dry socket, She would be in excruciating pain and would likely know there were something wrong. If your friend had a dried up socket there would be bone instead of a blood clot.


Purple and red would be the healing process of the socket and likely dried up blood. Perfectly normal when having a tooth extraction. It's hard to brush your teeth while having teeth removed, However I recommend gargling salt and warm water to help the healing process become a more speedy one.


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should i use frostwire? i used to use limewire along time ago to downlaod music to my ipod, but it screwed up my computer with a virus. Is frostwire safe, if not what are some other sites that are virus-free?



The truth?


If it is illegal, It has a virus. That is the catch


Frostwire is no different from limewire, The reason why Limewire is still up in the first place is so they can track people who steal music and share files. If you want music, Your best bet is to buy them for a buck at Itunes. Better to be safe then sorry

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im a young female my names sarah, im in middle school. And i have been going to theray for a couple months now..and nothing is changing..and i dont feel anything will ever change. I have literally been AT rock bottom. From being THE MOST funny and social butterfly to being a boring sad depressed girl. Im making some changes, but the cause of my depression and suicide thoughts will always stick with me. I just simply dont care about anyone or anything, and i dont care if i died right now. Dont get mistaken, i am NOT suicial now, i am depressed now, hoping to recover. But i feel like i never will. school, friends, sports, family that used to be a 10 now its a 0. serioulsy, i dont know what to do. those elements in my life have already gone down hill, i feel it would be a miracle if i got to the top again and stayed there, is there any hope at all?



There is always hope, You just have to believe it's out there.


You are a teenager, Being a teenager is not easy. At this point in time you deal with peer pressure from everyone and on top of school I'm sure that doesn't help the stress either. The best thing you can do right now is to get yourself out there, Hang with friends, spend time with family and go outside for awhile. Life doesn't always have to be in the shitter, There is always good things that can come out of it too. You just need to try and change your outlook on life. Therapy can takes months and months it doesn't always work in just a few months you have to give it time. If you need to talk to someone then talk anything that helps. Remember, Life is what YOU make of it.

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hi. im a senior in my school and i will graduate pretty soon.
but i actually don't want to because i have a big crush on one of my last year's teachers who is 10 years older than me.
i dont mean to brag or anything, but i am a kind of nice looking girl and 4 guys in the school keep asking me out. but i avoid all of them just because of him :(. he is really nice to me, he always says hi to me, always hugs me, stares at me, and sometimes even winks at me. and every time he does not say hi i get depressed. but i try to run away from him, because i think it will be embarrassing if he finds out about my feelings.
do you think i should tell him about my feelings?!?
i really really like him. what should i do? helpp!




No, Keep your feelings to yourself at least until you've already graduated. It is very inappropriate to tell your teacher you have feelings for him/her. If your teacher were to show feelings back, It would cost him/her his job and you sure wouldn't want to be the reason for it would you? Wait until you are no longer a student, You are better off that way.

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does anyone know of any tottally free websites that i can use to create a website of my own without paying for it?



Are you looking for something professional?



If so this is a great website

http://www.wix.com/create/website

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hair color wont stay in past a week what can i do to make color stay



Are you using permanent hair dye? If not, That may be the problem. Temporary dye usually last about a week or two depending on what brand you use.


After dying your hair, Wait 24 hours before you wash your hair. Try using colored friendly shampoo and conditioner and see if that helps.

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I enjoy making music with my friend and we recently released a new song. I felt like it was our best song yet and was wondering what other people thought of it. It's definitely has a electronic pop-like beat to it, so if you don't like that, then you won't like the song. Here it is. Let me know what you think. Thanks!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0XUlP-ofbds




I like it, Very well done.

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My boyfriend keeps looking for an argument to break-up and once we do hes gone for a few weeks then he appears again like nothing happened or it was my fault he says Im to stubborn and I never call or text him first but when I do he always says hes busy and will get back to me later...He calls me once in a while during the day then he tells me his phone died or hes gonna go sleep and he will talk to me later. He texts me random messages and is always texting even when hes out with me but he claims he loves me and only me and he told his whole family about me and says he wants to marry me when we end things he says hes not going to chase after me anymore but re-appears in my life again just when im adjusting to the idea of being without him...I love him but im so tired of being treated like this its so stressful for me especially since my parents dont accept him but i stood up to them for him so what should I do and why is he acting like this?





Dump him


If he isn't willing to make time for you now, He probably never will. You can't make a guy commit to a relationship. Your boyfriend obviously does want to be in a relationship anymore.

It takes Trust, Honesty and Commitment to make things work in a relationship.

Now for a little tip with the cheaters: Guys sometimes will tell anything to a woman to keep them around. It gets them what they want and sometimes that is the best of both worlds.

There is always someone for everyone, You have to find them. Drop the boyfriend, Cut the contact and find yourself someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

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i'm 18 and my boyfriend will be 18 in a couple weeks. we have been going out for 3 years almost and were never allowed to sleep over, ( my mom doesnt like the idea) now i get that in her house its her rules and thats how she wins the arguments always. however, i am now 18 and i feel that i can sleep at his house. his parents find it okay becuase we have been going out for so long. his mom wanted to throw him a party for his birthday and thought it was going to get late and instead of me leaving stay at his house and sleep in the spare room just to make my mom at ease. she said she would even talk to her if she had concerns. i just want to be able to tell my mom what is going on and her not to say no. I mean i try to go about this as if you want me to lie to you fine, but i can tell you the truth and youll know what is really going on. i have talked to her about sleeping over before and she says when i have my own place i can do what i want when i want how i want. and i get that thats totally reasonable, but i dont want to move out at 18. to me if we have been going out this long and im not pregnant then its not going to happen. another reason i want to stay at his house more is its just convienent. and hes leaving at the end of the summer across the country so my chances of seeing him ever again are slim. i mean we may not work out we may stay in touch ill visit him, but i want to make the most of what we have now and not have to be treated as a 12 year old girl. i'm a over all good person i listen to my mom i rarley give her a hard time i tell her the truth i tell her where i am and what time she wants me home ill be there i keep up my grades to an 80 or above i have two jobs where i dont ever take time off from i have a car that i pay for. i mean i show all the responsibilites of a grown person and yet i feel like i cant do anything. how do i go about this? opinions please!

Your Mother is being your Mother..


I know you said you get it, But as long as you live under her roof you have to follow her rules. It is not about how much or little she trust you, In her mind you are her daughter and she is looking out for your best interest. Sometimes we have to except things that aren't fair, You may be 18 years old but again you are under her roof. Until you are out on your own...She makes the rules.

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why does he always bring up his ex when we talk?




Assuming you are his girlfriend...



Sometimes exes bring up their exes because they have not fully moved on, If someone was completely over their ex they wouldn't find nor have the need to continue to talk about them.

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I am in one of the best relationships I have ever been in. I am 43 yrs old and finally found the one guys that i have so much in common with. He makes me laugh, we talk about anything, the * is great. He is truly my prince. But he has a lot or baggage. Huge baggage. He has 3 kids and he is the sole provider of these kids. He has 2 twin boys that are only 5 and one 12 yr old. The twins were born as premies and they have all sorts of health issues, along with ADHD and the mother was on crack when she had them. His 12 yr old is ADHD and a introvert. Me and this guy have been dating for a yr. He so desperately wants me to move in and get married. I have a son 22 and a daughter 9. I simply do not want to start over raising kids. And I feel kinda weird with the thought of my daughter growing up in a house with these many boys. I have plenty of baby sitters so everytime I see this guys (mostly weekends) I don't have my daughter. Its much harder for him. He is trying to blend the family. I keep telling him I don't want that. I am not equipped to take this on, but it so hard for me to just walk away. I have not spend any time with his kids and that is ok with him, but not with me. I feel like he is living this fantasy life when were together. I am honest with him and tell him all the time. Stop getting serious, I do not want to be anyones step mom. I think it's more the health issues. They stay sick and in the hospital. I want to support him and love him but this is more then I can handle. I think I just scarred of being alone. Not to many people are knocking down the door to take out 43 yr old women these day. I have been divorced for 5 yrs therfore I have gotten a chance to know myself. I am very good with kids, but after a while I need my peace and space. I am wondering should I just walk away? I think i know the answer but sometimes it good to hear it from others.


This is a tough situation


Some people will look at this in 2 terms


However, My advice is sometimes when we want to be with someone we have to learn to except the children as well. As you stated you two have been dating for a year and sometimes in the process it takes awhile to adjust. This is something you need to sit down and discuss with your partner.

Now for the part you may not want to hear:

To lay out you don't want his kids may really shoot your boyfriend down to his knees, If you feel hard on the fact that you don't want his kids in your life I would start to realize it may not go the way you want it too. Nobody is expected to choose their spouse over their own kids.


I believe you are looking at the situation negatively try to look at the positive outcome, It could be one big happy family. However, I have to say if you honestly feel you can't do it then you need to tell him. I'm glad you are honest with yourself and aren't one to be blinded by love.

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I know, what you're sayin is true.. but i didn't mean to do all that.. Do you like have any ideas for what i can do at the moment ?.. Or atleast to try and get him back? Or should i just not talk to him and see if he will months later and stuff?



Hello there,



If you could give me details on exactly what question this is, I would gladly give you my best advice!

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There is this girl at work that i really like. She's my age, 18, and she doesnt go to school yet. About a month ago i sent her a friend request on facebook, she accepted it, but she seems to ignore my messages and chat messages. I keep having dreams about her, where we are together. Everyone i talked tell me to just ask her out. But, im a shy guy and i think that going up to someone who i dont really know and asking them out is wierd or rude. We dont really talk much, and there really isnt much time to talk at work, and work is the only place that i see her. What should i do?




The first step to getting to know someone is by starting off a conversation, Even if it's small talk.


She could very well be the type that doesn't like to talk online, Some woman prefer a guy to approach them in person as they find it more flattering that way. It is not rude or weird to ask someone out you don't really know, As long as she isn't a stranger from out of the blue I don't see anything abnormal about it. Just be yourself, Start off a small conversation and work your way up. If you are a real shy guy...Small talk with body action should give it away. Smiling and complimenting her will give her the hint.

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Okay this is a long story but i'll try and shorten it as much as i can! basically,i started a job and met a guy that i worked with and we started talking and stuff,he seemed interested and i was as well. He has a girlfriend,but we were just talking via text ,no biggie. Then we started hanging out and i started to really like him ,and his gf wasn't treating him right so he dumped her for me.After a few days,they got back together and were on and off,and i was in an awkward decision. He told me that he really likes me and thinks he'd be with me forever but that i came at the wrong time in his life and he still loves his gf. He told me he wanted me to get out of his life so he wouldn't get attached to me. I was heartbroken and he was too because the feelings were so mutual. We kept talking and basically continued hanging out and hooking up and he was cheating on his gf with me all the time,he'd even ditch her for me sometimes.I feel horrible and i never wanted it to get this serious ,but im stuck because i'm falling in love with him and he tells me he loves his gf but wants to keep me close to him because he really cares about me and whatnot.I feel stupid because he's always my first priority and i'm his second.He calls me ,texts me and wants to hangout everyday. I just get the vibe he really has feelings for me,but doesn't want to break up with her for me because he's just scared since he's been with her for a lot longer than me. I want to leave him and get him out of my life but it's so hard because I like him so much and he's becoming a routine part of my life,as i'm becoming more attached and in love. I always feel like there's this hope that one day he'll pick me over her and he tells me all the time how i'd be a perfect girlfriend and it just sucks because I know i should stop talking to him,but if i do,i want him to miss me and i just need help. He no longer works at my job so i don't HAVE to see him.



The best thing for now would be to try and move on, This guy is in a relationship. From the sound of him telling you that he wanted you out of his life...Although it probably came out wrong sounds like he doesn't want a relationship with you at this time.

Lets look at the problem: The guy has a girlfriend

If he was willing to leave her for you, What makes you think he wouldn't leave you for someone else?...Put yourself in his girlfriend's shoes for a moment how would you feel if some other girl was trying to get with your boyfriend? If he isn't happy in the relationship then HE needs to do something about it but keep in mind that if he is willing to flirt with you while he has a girlfriend...Well I would start to wonder whether or whether not he is the type that likes commitment. You wouldn't want to be the next girl he plays with and guys can tell a girl anything they want to hear...Doesn't always mean it's true in their case.

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There's this guy i dated and i cheated on him.. its a long story.. he knew i didnt love him and that i stayed with him cause he really loved me and he wanted me to give it a try. i liked his best friend and he knew. but his best friend played me before.. any how so i sort of cheated on him with his best friend.. and another guy.. which was a friend of his too. He loved me a lot so he gave me another chance to be with him.. later on i really loved him.. But he broke up with me like 4 months later cause he got bored. Well now its been 6 months since we broke up and i dont usually see him a lot, but i love him soo much. Then recently now i sent him dirty pics of me.. But i also sent them to his best friend.. me and his best friend always were "that way" together.. but things went wrong and they both found out i had sent them to both.. his best friend ddnt care.. but my ex told me that he was gonna tk me into concideration again but i blew it! i feel horrible now.. these pictures spread everywhere! And my ex kept calling me a whore and stuff :( it feels horrible.. I have no idea what i should do! I just wanna change.. and become a better person and i want my ex to love me again.. i miss him soo much!! He was actually my first serious relationship and i miss him.. he was different and special.. How can i get him back after all this that ive done to him??


People can only be hurt so many times before they put their foot down and move on, Nobody wants to be with someone who is going to cheat on them. I'm going to be honest with you, I'd be surprised if he took you back you broke his heart on several occasions. If you want to change, Then you need to recognize what you did was wrong and don't do it again. You made poor judgement, If you keep going down this road I hate to tell you...Your ex won't be the first to walk out the door.


Now a hard lesson learned: For the future don't ever send what you don't want to be seen.


The first step towards moving on is excepting the consequences, Your ex may not want you back and if he did, Know that there will likely be major trust issues between the two of you...As trust is what makes a relationship without it there is no relationship. If you want commitment you need to be willing to do your part.

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