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always getting screwed over
Okay this is a long story but i'll try and shorten it as much as i can! basically,i started a job and met a guy that i worked with and we started talking and stuff,he seemed interested and i was as well. He has a girlfriend,but we were just talking via text ,no biggie. Then we started hanging out and i started to really like him ,and his gf wasn't treating him right so he dumped her for me.After a few days,they got back together and were on and off,and i was in an awkward decision. He told me that he really likes me and thinks he'd be with me forever but that i came at the wrong time in his life and he still loves his gf. He told me he wanted me to get out of his life so he wouldn't get attached to me. I was heartbroken and he was too because the feelings were so mutual. We kept talking and basically continued hanging out and hooking up and he was cheating on his gf with me all the time,he'd even ditch her for me sometimes.I feel horrible and i never wanted it to get this serious ,but im stuck because i'm falling in love with him and he tells me he loves his gf but wants to keep me close to him because he really cares about me and whatnot.I feel stupid because he's always my first priority and i'm his second.He calls me ,texts me and wants to hangout everyday. I just get the vibe he really has feelings for me,but doesn't want to break up with her for me because he's just scared since he's been with her for a lot longer than me. I want to leave him and get him out of my life but it's so hard because I like him so much and he's becoming a routine part of my life,as i'm becoming more attached and in love. I always feel like there's this hope that one day he'll pick me over her and he tells me all the time how i'd be a perfect girlfriend and it just sucks because I know i should stop talking to him,but if i do,i want him to miss me and i just need help. He no longer works at my job so i don't HAVE to see him.
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This guy is bad news for you. He really is.
He isn't going to leave his girlfriend. Thats
obvious. He is using you and keeping you stringing along so he can have a cheat buddy is all.
You need to stay away from him because you are looking at getting your heart broken big time.
I know it will be hard to do but you have to stop
talking, texting and hanging out with him.
Don't listen when he claims to miss you. He will
try to put on the charm and get you back. But you
know what? If you ignore him, he will have another
innocent victim listening to the same stories you're hearing soon.
There are plenty of nice guys out there. Find one
who isn't using you and doesn't have a girlfriend
already. You will be much happier in the end.
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The best thing for now would be to try and move on, This guy is in a relationship. From the sound of him telling you that he wanted you out of his life...Although it probably came out wrong sounds like he doesn't want a relationship with you at this time.
Lets look at the problem: The guy has a girlfriend
If he was willing to leave her for you, What makes you think he wouldn't leave you for someone else?...Put yourself in his girlfriend's shoes for a moment how would you feel if some other girl was trying to get with your boyfriend? If he isn't happy in the relationship then HE needs to do something about it but keep in mind that if he is willing to flirt with you while he has a girlfriend...Well I would start to wonder whether or whether not he is the type that likes commitment. You wouldn't want to be the next girl he plays with and guys can tell a girl anything they want to hear...Doesn't always mean it's true in their case.
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