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my school has websence and i was just wondering if anyone knew how to by pass it?? i rate high

My school has the same.
We did find a way to get onto meebo (a web based messenger) by typing in the following in the address bar:
216.129.112.72
we could also use this: www.pr0xy.info to get onto any site.. but unfortunately, people abused this and the teachers found out.
So if nothing like the above works, then there isn't really anything you can do about it :(!

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Okay me and my boyfriend had sex one time but i know he didnt pop my cherry cause i didnt bleed at all.. so am i still considered a virgin???

You had sex for the first time. Meaning You lost your virginity. You are not a virgin.
and not everyone bleeds first time..

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so i started a new diet 7 days ago and it says your suppose to lose 9 pounds in 11 days, i havent cheated at all and ive been exercising and all ive lost so far is maybe 1/2 a pound. i want to lose at least 15 pounds by the end of the summer but ive been working really hard and still havent lost any wieght yet! =(

9 pounds in 11 days? Wow.
When it comes to losing weight, everyone is different. But, you have lost 1/2 a pound, so you are showing some weight loss! Don't let it put you off though. Losing weight is tough and hard work. Just make sure you follow your diet and try your best and don't give up, just because you aren't impressed with the results so far.
Good luck!

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i'm going to a concert soon with my friends, but ive never been to a concert before and i dont know what to do! do people dance or just like stand there? i dont want to look like a moron so what should i do?

It depends what type of concert it is you're going to! But yes, people do normally move!
Do what you feel comfortable doing. Or if you really have no clue.. see what others are doing :)

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i need to get rid of a hickey. and i dont know how. any suggestions or ways i can get rid of it very fast? thanks for reading this :]
♥

Make up, put ice on it, brush it with a hairbrush. It might seem strange, but it helps the blood flow and makes it return to normal colour quicker. :)

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if you go to a drug store/gas station. you ask to buy a pack of cigarettes. they want to see your ID, if you are underage, can you get in trouble for adtempting to buy cigarettes?

Say you don't have ID. Don't say you are underage, cos some shop owners might be a bit.. funny.

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iv been looking for this song i heard and i cant seem to find it, iv looked on google and lyrics search engines like letssingit.com so please help
it goes like this :

i love you im not coming back
i hate you im not coming back
i kill you im not coming back

i dont know any other parts
what is the song title and artist ?

You have the words wrong. You are thinking of Nirvana - Lithium.

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I think that I might have gotten Chlamydia because I basically have all the signs but I'm so scared to go to the doctor because I will have to tell my parents and not only will i be embarrassed I'll get in trouble..i have no idea what to do please help

You should get it sorted now. Not later.
Your parents won't even have to know.

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ok, my boyfried is 18 n im 13.And we have sex, Please dont call me a slut cuz i am NOT ONE. it doesnt matter what age i am cuz im not imature. But,we have been going out for 6 months. sometimes when we do it with out a condom dont worry its safe for some reasons he says its dry in there n it hurts, any help on what that is???

He could get in serious trouble if this gets out.
and sex without a condom isn't safe at all. You run the risk of catching infections and diseases.
You could be dry because you aren't ready for something like this, even if your brain thinks you are. If you have the slightest doubts, you will tense up and hey presto, become dry as you have explained.
Use lube if it bothers you both. and tell him to rubber up. Sheesh.

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I cuss a lot, and I want to stop. How can I stop cussing so much?

The old trick of putting money in a jar doesn't seem to last very long. but you could give it a try.
Make up your own words. It's fun and not everyone will know what they mean!

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My mom never lets me leave the house. I can't convince her to, and since I have to stay around the house all day, what can I do besides watch TV and movies all day?

P.S.-I'm only allowed on the phone and computer for 30 minutes a day, and if I do one, I can't do the other.


Draw/paint, read, learn to play an instrument, have a friend over, experiment with hair/makeup/clothes.
The list is pretty endless when you think about it. :)

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I'm 13/f.My friend is 13/f too.Here's what happened:
I bought some new clothes for school.I showed my friend while she was at my house.She said my clothes were ugly.She then proceeded to go to my closet.Needless to say,she got my into giving her some pants,a nice leather jacket,a hat,and some make-up.I don't know how she does it!She just begs me for it.So,when I ask to borrow her lipgloss,she says no.I give her all this stuff(unwillingly),and she won't even let me borrow her lipgloss.and,she insults me too.She says I have no style.I want to start out fresh next year.So:Should I dump her because of this,or still be her friend?

She doesn't seem like such a nice friend..
If she asks for something next time and you don't want her to have it, say "if I supposedly have no style, why do you want it?" Don't let this girl walk all over you.
If you don't mind her borrowing your stuff but would like some in return, next time she asks for something, say "yes, but only if you let me borrow *insert whatever here*"
If she's still being rude to you, simply tell her to stop. and if she doesn't, forget her.

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i read somewhere that its only healthy if you have close to 10 hairs on your nipple (girls) and any more you should contact a doctor because of some illness? i have more, is it really that bad?

"Hairy nipples
Coarse, dark hairs around the nipple are quite common. You can pull them out with tweezers, but this can cause irritation because the skin round the nipple is very sensitive. It is probably better simply to cut them off close to the skin. This is easier if you hold the end of the hair with tweezers to keep it taut. The hairs will grow again, so you will have to cut them off again from time to time.

Hairs round the nipple are nothing to worry about unless you have excess hairiness on other parts of the body and your periods are irregular. If this is the case, you may have polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) and you should see your doctor."

Don't worry. ;]

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I just saw the movie "Edward Scissorhands" with Johnny Depp and it was wonderful. For those who have seen it, I didn't get the end...when Kim as an old woman says "I don't know whether he's alive or not" and then they show Edward making an ice statue of her dancing in the snow, was she having a flashback, or was the film showing Edward at that moment she was talking?

One of my favourite films.
It wasn't a flashback :)

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I have this really good friend and I've known her for about 3 years. We're really close and all but i feel like I like her a little more then a best friend. I know im not a lesbian because i've had boyfriends and been completely comfortable with them. it's just that my friend is always there for me and always makes me feel better about myself. has anyone ever felt this way about their best friend? Or could i be bi? what do you guys think? (I'm 14/f.)

Lots of people go through this.
Some teenagers go through a stage where they think they could be bisexual. Fact is, they aren't. They're just curious/confused/have raging hormones.
You're only 14, so you have so much time to find out the true you.
You are bisexual if:
You can see yourself having a RELATIONSHIP with either a man or woman. Not just if you think they're pretty or have a little crush.

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My friend is doing drugs a lot. She smokes weed every day and does ecstacy a few times a week. I have talked to her about it a lot, and she's not going to change. I don't know if I should tell her mom or do something else. So what should I do?

You really do need to tell her mum. Ecstacy is no joke.
Your friend might not appreciate you going behind her back and telling her 'rents, but in the end, it's her who will benefit. You could be saving her life.

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Every time I go to buy jeans, my mom thinks that they are supposed to fit baggy and come up to your belly button. I've tried to tell her that they are supposed to be low rise and tight, but she just tells me not to argue with her and gets really mad.

What can I do?

P.S.-She's the only one that will buy me jeans, so I can't get them from anyone else.

Old fashioned parents. Who needs 'em eh?!
Tell her the baggy ones don't fit you very well, because they aren't as fitted and tight like the ones you want to get.
Tell her the quality is different as well. and the ones you want will last longer and you will get your wear out of them.
You could also go on about how it's affecting your image and you want stylish jeans as well as still being comfortable.
She's probably only doing this to protect you in a way. Maybe she doesn't want you to grow up and act like some girls she might see around who give off bad impressions.
She will come round eventually though!
Don't give up. :)

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If one was really thin and then put on weight, could she increase her cup size?

She most certainly could.

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sometimes..i feel uneedded...like if i died no one would care...no one loves me....my parents say they do but never show it....i think my parents think i'm useless...i wish i was loved...or had a purpose in the world...wat do i do...

I can guarantee you most people have thought this at least once in their life.
Yeah okay, your life might "suck". You have school, hormones are all over the place, might have trouble with friends, etc. But believe me. There are people out there who are far worse off than you. You should be thankful you're alive and for other things you do have.
No one has one of those perfect families where everything is great.
But they do love you. You are their child. Parents have unconditional love for their children.
You THINK they think you're useless. What's the bets they don't? How can you be useless? If you try your best at things, there's no such thing as being useless. You've tried. You might fail, but it doesn't matter. You've done your best.
Your purpose in this world at this moment in time is to do as well as you can so you will be prepared for when you are older.
You're just having a downer at this moment in time. It will pass. Don't let it get you down. Chin up.

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Alright, before I ask my question I want you guys to know that even though it's kind of funny, I'm being completely 100% serious.


Last night I was over at a friends house and we found his step mom's...dildo. Well someone thought it'd be funny if we put Icy Hot on it so that whenever she uses it...well you know. I thought it'd be funny as well so I went with it. When I got home I realized that it was a pretty immature thing to do and I was questioning whether or not I should call her and tell her about it or to tell my friend to wash it off or something before she gets to it. What do y'all think I should do? Or should I just not say anything?

...and the guilt returns!!
You seem to care, so it wouldn't hurt to tell your friend.
But if you keep schtum, you might feel bad. Even if noone ever finds out you had anything to do with it.
Do what you thinks best. Not that I'm encouraging you to lie..!
But I would just forget about it. Even if that is quite bad.. No, wait! I wouldn't have done it in the first place!

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