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ok, my boyfried is 18 n im 13.And we have sex, Please dont call me a slut cuz i am NOT ONE. it doesnt matter what age i am cuz im not imature. But,we have been going out for 6 months. sometimes when we do it with out a condom dont worry its safe for some reasons he says its dry in there n it hurts, any help on what that is???
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1. thats illegal
2. your not using protection and you can get pregnant.
3. "it doesnt matter what age i am cuz im not imature." even if you not imature it doesnt mean that your body has matured. your still 13 no matter what and your growing just like every other 13 year old.
4. in my opinion stop. its hurting you.
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First off...you should always use a condom or at least go on birth conrtol if your not already on it and second of all its dry because your problem not aroused enough so you need lubricant.But I dont think its a good idea for someone at thirteen to be having sex with an 18 year old.It doesnt matter how mature you are you could get in alot of trouble.I dont think I thirteen year old could take responsiblity of a child and going through pregnacy AND I dont think your educated enough to be doing that at 13 :
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"sometimes when we do it with out a condom dont worry its safe for some reasons"
SEX IS NEVER SAFE WITHOUT A CONDOM OR SOME SOURCE OF PROTECTION. Don't tell me that you're not immature because, clearly, you are. Sex is a very intimate thing and isn't something that you should be having at the age of 13. Six months is not long enough for you to be having sex, especially when you're thirteen years old. And not only is it just wrong to be having sex with him, it's illegal.
You just probably started having your period. You're NOT ready for sex. Break up with him. You can't have this relationship.
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You need to stop having sex with him. First of all its dry without a condom because you need a lubricant...but your 13 and he is 18..your body is not developed enough to have sexual intercourse yet.. No your not a slut but your uterus can turn sideways and mess up your insides if you keep on having sex at such an early age, i know from personal expierence. So stop hvaing sex with him for 1. 2- ALWAYS use a condom, you never know if he is cheating on you, your risking your chances of getting STD's, which some of them u cannot get rid of...so if you want to talk go to my advice column and IM me..
-Keosha
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I have the balls to tell you, he is using you for sex. Now dont take this too hard, but if you dont believe me, stop haveing sex with him for like a month and dont tell him why. Just be like, "I dont want to," or "I dont feel like it". He will leave you.
ONE more thing on the ballsy note: if you have to say "Please dont call me a slut cuz i am NOT ONE. it doesnt matter what age i am cuz im not imature." obviously you actually question yourself about it. At 13 are you ready to take on the responsibility of a kid. Dont say it wont happen to you, your already having sex w/o protection. You even think your too young otherwise you wouldnt have said anything about it. Somewhere in your mind you are very insecure about this. Basically that means there are issues here. Look at the situation and think about whats happening. If you dont like it, leave it all behind you and move on. (I wouldnt of said anything but you mentioned it so I had to say that.)
YET another thing, He is taking advantage of your naivity. That is bad. He is basically controlling & manipulating you (taking advantage of you) by your inexperience.
NOW, to answer your question: its not safe, It sounds like to me when he does it, your not wet and he pulls out. This means that you aren't arroused and he pulls out before he ejaculates. Not a good idea. What if sperm was already there? What if he does make it out in time? In the long run its not a good thing. Use a damn condom and for christs sake dont have sex with someone whos useing you.
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He could get in serious trouble if this gets out.
and sex without a condom isn't safe at all. You run the risk of catching infections and diseases.
You could be dry because you aren't ready for something like this, even if your brain thinks you are. If you have the slightest doubts, you will tense up and hey presto, become dry as you have explained.
Use lube if it bothers you both. and tell him to rubber up. Sheesh.
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WOW....um...ok!! well your obviously being passed sexually transmitted diseases honey.Mabey you HAVENT(mabey) done it with other guys be4 but mabey hes done it with other ppl and could be carrying the diseases and passing them down to his lil girlfriend!if you want the TRUTH youre gonna really feel bad later on when your pregnent and like i said to half the people on this website your gonna be a child WITH a child and the fathers gonna deny its his kid.
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Just an aside, as I'm sure you already know some areas would consider your boyfriend's actions to be illegal. This might be something the two of you wish to consider.
Having sex without a condom isn't safe. You run the risk of getting pregnant or contracting a sexually transmitted infection. This is heightened if your vagina is particularly dry, as your delicate skin will be more likely to get small tears. These tears would allow an infection to pass into your system.
If you are dry, it could be for emotional or physical reasons. Physically, when a female is aroused her vagina produces a natural lubricant. If you are not getting wet, it could be because you are not excited enough - or possibly that due to your age, your hormones aren't really sorted out yet.
There are two possibilities on this front. First, make sure you are fully excited before having sex. Second, have your boyfriend wear lubricated condoms. This will not only protect your health, but will also add some lubricatin to the area. If you need additional wetness, a water-based lubricant will not hurt the condom.
If the problem isn't physical, it could be emotional. This means that on some level you might not be okay with having sex. Spend some time thinking about how you really feel, and perhaps what would make you feel more confident and secure if you decide to continue having sex.
If you do decide to continue having sex, it's very important that you let your boyfriend know how you are feeling - any concerns you have, etc. Best of luck.
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