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Heyy, just call me Tara.I've lived in Ontario all my life.Im sweet sixteen and Im just starting my junior year.I like to joke, hang out with my friends and enjoy every bit of life.My friends mean the whole world to me.You mess with them, you mess with me.Im a very dramamtic and emotional person.Im oppinionated and wont let down a good fight.Very friendly down to earth person and easy to talk to.I absolutely love psychology.In the future when I get to university Im going start my years of being a psychologist.=)



Im on a hiatus for now.Just Dealing with a break up with my long time boyfriend of 1 year.I wont be on giving advice again until im fully recovered and inspired to give advice again.Thanks for your time.Buh bye.



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advice

If a gurl is 17 in her boyfriend is in his 30s is it still rape! Dont answer if you are not sure!!

Well its not considered rape.Rape is when your forced to have sex with someone.But in cetain places her could go to jail.

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i've been goin out with my gf for about 6 months but latly she barly ever talks to me unless i talk to her first ad she never comes to be with me and i always end up haveing to go look for her how can i tell her in a nice way to be a better gf

Well you could sit down and talk to her about how shes been acting lately and how come she never does that.Im sure she'll understand.But you cant always expect someone to change that right away.Try to spend more time with her and get to know her and let her know you really care about her.Go on a little date to start get her talking =)

goodluck
xoxoxox

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after i get an orgasm 10 sec. later it dosnt feel good anymore ... is this normal?

Ya, its completely normal.Orgasms dont last forever =D Just a couple of seconds.

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me and my boyfriend had sex last sunday. we used a spermacidical condom and he pulled out right when he started to cum. 3 days later i started having a lot of dicharge. it smells and looks the same as it normally does there is just a lot more. i also am experiencing headaches and cramps. what does this mean?

Possibly because your going to have your period soon.Theres nothing to get worked up over so dont worry =)

xoxoxox
Tara

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well I do know the whole "always use a condom" thing, but every now and then its just not there right? SO I was wondering if you keep up with your birth control taking it the right time every day and you dont use a condom what are the chances of gettin pregnant?

Well using condoms while your on birth control is just basically for making sure that you dont catch any STDS from your partner if they have anything and to protect that small percentage of getting pregnant.You should always use a condom just in case but every now and then if you dont have one I mean it wouldn't hurt you.There is that chance but its your choice if you want to take that chance but I dont see a big deal in it.As long as you take your pill everyday and you are really reliable on taking your pill on time and not missing any than I dont see a problem.Oh ya and if you and your partner have been tested.

xoxoxox
Tara

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15/f. A couple of questions about birth control pills:

- Which ones work the best?

- Which have the least side effects? I would like to avoid gaining weight if possible.

- About how much does it cost?

- Is a prescription required?

- If it is, is my doctor required to keep it a secret or can he tell my parents? (If he can, he probably will.)

Only your doctor can tell you that information.If you just take any birth control that isnt perscribes to you it may not work.

Side effects I guess depends on the person.Some people gain alot of weight on birth control pills but if that does happen only about maybe 2-5 pounds maybe.Rarely do women gain alot.And sometimes women loose weight.

Well where I live its like $10 per pack or per every two packs.I got my first two packs free from my doctor just to see how everything goes and make sure I dont have any problems being on it.

Yes you do need a presciption from your doctor.You cant just go to the store and buy birth control without your doctors constent.Your doctor might even start you off on a low dose pill just for the first three months to see how it goes.

Thats what doctor patient confidentality is for.If you just talk to your doctor about it they will not tell your parents anything, if you dont want them to know about it.

good luck
hope everything goes well
xoxoxox

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I don't know what group to place it in, but it is mental I can tell you that. My boy friend was the best person you could have ever imagined. Even though he is only 14 [so am I, female] He was great. He has the potential to do anything he sets his mind to, music, school, great with kids & adults, wonderful. One of the ,main thing I was attracted to, was his childness-ish. He was funny, not in a dirty way either, didn't swear, proclaimed to be saved and was ever-so respectful.

After about a few months af dating I allowed french kissing and holding, sorta a low quality makeout.Then it grew and grew, now, we didn't get into sex or anything and stayed on top of clothes, but I noticed a difference in him, about two months ago.He has always told me how he feel about everything, absolutely EVERYTHING, I asked him what was wrong, hios reply was always something but he never got to the point. I started telling him that there was somthing he wasn't telling me, he would always say no, there wasn't.

After a long while of thinking, praying and asking God for guidance, I realised that we should never have started the whole "kissing process" so we could regenerate our relationship, the way it was before. At first he was scared, he'd say "What?I thought everything was fine, why shouldn't we?" and My answer would alaways be "It is wrong and I believe God would rather otherwise" Then there'd be a conflict, and those always hurt the heart.

Now he gave me his msn password and I thought "I don't have anything to hide or lose" so I gave him mine. He forgot that He gave me his password and the other days I checked it.Was I ever shocked, hurt, crushed, heart broken...It just hurt so much, I was crying outloud saying "no....no, he couldn't have done this to me..." He had "porn4free!", "sexsearch", "you have received a wink from...blahdiblahblah"
PAIN CRWLS IN, I...I COULDN'T BREATH, I FELT AS IF IT WAS ALL MY FAULT AND THAT I WAS BLIND TO NOT HAVE SEEN IT COMMING.

Later to find out, He called me [after I ave him my two cents on msn, really, it wasn't much] He denied it, telling me they were spams...right.I didn't believe him, he blamed it on his computer breaking, and It was right in front of my face...all of it, his name, his way of talking, even his special password was there... the girls... the pain was Unbearable :"( ... Everytime I gave him proof, he said sorry and agreed...and He kept telling me half truths, I got him to tell his parents and they have taken the computer away form him for a month.

What could I do to help him[he said it started about after we stopped the kissing process [which was two months ago]And I want to know What can I do, how should I react? What can HE do, It is 2:30 in the morning, I couldn't sleep, I was bawling my eyes out and dind't want to bother everyone else.So I came down, wanting to ask questions to people, including you people.

I'm afraid to go near him showing my arms now, and look at my body in disproval, why did God create man to be pigs and women to be their food?

Thank you, I hope this question doesn't comfuse you, I just nee help, please.

OK.I was born to be in a Christian enviorment too.But thats one thing that you have to know that its VERY common and normal for a guy to look at porn and such.Hey my boyfriend does it, it doesnt bother me.If it started to affect our relationship and he looked at me different wishing I looked like those girls then there is a problem.

Thats wrong and you shouldn't control him like that.Its his life and hes free to do what he pleases the same as you are.Its not like hes cheating on you.So theres nothing to worry about.Your only 14 and I can tell you need to kind of break out of your shell and kind of learn waht lifes about.Not everyone is going to do the right thing and not everyone is going to do it the way of the bible.I know its sounds stupid but its something you have to deal with.

I think your overeracting on this whole thing.Its kind of a little too dramatic.Its honestly nothing bad unless hes completely obessed.And about the kissing.I dont seem any harm in it.Its another way of showing affection towards each other other than holding hands.Its completely harmless.

"I'm afraid to go near him showing my arms now, and look at my body in disproval..."

Lets take apart that.No hes not going to look at your body in disapoval.If he does then hes not the guy for you.If he loves you then he wont love you for just your body.Yes hes going to look at you a little different but in a good way.He can see now probably the beauty of the female body.Thats not a bad thing.Its the same as girls and how they get attracted to the male body.You have to get over the insecrety.

"why did God create man to be pigs and women to be their food?"

No,God DIDNT create man to be pigs.And no god DIDNT create women as their food.Yes there are some pretty perverted guys out there but you cant just blame the men.Women are like that too!You cant blame men for everything.But also at the same time women cant stand around and let men treat them that way.Both man and women have equal power in a relationship you just have to make it that way.It kind of ticks me off the way you say man are created to be pigs.Because I have a boyfriend and I love him very much.I have a dad and I love him very much and same with my brother.I think your not ready for a boyfriend if your going to call him a pig.I know im expressing my opinion but I know im intitled to it.You may not what I said.But all I can say is good luck =) Sorry if you found anything ofensive.

xoxoxo

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HELL0. What are some good baby names? Boy, or Girl. First, and Middle would be appreciated! Thanks! =]

Girl
--
Abagail
Allie
Cami
Cali
Nicole
Desiree
Meredith
Kimberely
Erica
Tara
Taylor
Charlie
Cheyenne


Boys
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Keegan
Darren
Tyler
Jason
Adam
Kyle
Daemon
Colton
Coal
Riley
Blair

All I can think of at the top of my head ^^

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ok me and my boy friend have been thinking about having sex and he has had sex with people befor but i am a vergin, he told me that in the past he has just pulled it out befor the came instead of using a condom... and thats what he wants to do but i dontkno if that is compleatly safe..plz tell me if this is safe i need to kno! thank you! byes

Dont believe what he says else you'll deffently get pregnant.My boyfriend said the same thing.But I insisted on using a condom.He might have caught something from sleeping around with other girls you never know.So Id advise to stick to the conomds like it or not.If he doesnt respect your decsion then tough.

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My puppy is almost 9 months and we can't potty train her! We've tried everything! We take her out every hour, or half hour. Sometimes shell go outside for three days then out-of-the-blue go on the floor! HELP!

Sometimes certain breeds are harder to train to not go inside the house.It still is a puppy and it takes time and patience.I dont know if you've already tried them but there are these things called puppy pads which is just like a mat that you lay on the floor.Its kinda like a subtitude for newspaper.It will help the puppy from going inside the house and go straight to the puppy pad instead.My dogs a shih tzu and we've been training her since she was a real young pup it took her a good two years to train her to go outside.So sometimes it just takes patience.

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i am 15 female.
one of my bestfriends just lost her virginity to her boyfriend and she'll be 15 in a couple of days. i know the guy she lost it to and he's very sweet at times. she told me that his penis was big and fat. wow.lol. she told me it hurt like hell and im really curious about if it should even hurt because i heard only when you're nervous it hurts but she claims she wasn't nervous and wanted to loose her virginity to him right away. why, i have no clue? Could anyone please tell me stories about thier first time and every feeling you had.
to be honest i kind of feel pressured to have sex because everyone around me has either lost it at 12,13,14, and 15. But i know who i am and i know that loosing my virginity won't make me a betta person than i am now..but still im curious about sex...please tell me everything i should know!! thanx in advance

Well you shouldnt feel pressured into sex just because everyone else was doing it.It should be at the time YOUR ready.

I was 15 when I lost my virginity.Im completely comfortable about talking about this.Yes it was a young age and im 16 now.Do I regret doing it?, absolutely not.I was never pressured into having sex.Actually I was the first one out of my friends to have sex and after that they kinda followed me which wasnt a good idea...You see I felt comfortable and ready.I trusted the person who I was with.Which is my still bf of a year now.My first time I was nervous but it didnt hurt at all or bleed.After we went ouside and it started snowing and it was the first snow of the starting of winter.So I guess it was kind of a magical moment for us and we always look back on it.I was so worried I was pregnant even though we used a condom.But after a year you kinda get familar with it :\ All im just saying is not to rush.I mean its not like your missing out or your being forced to.Its your choice.

well good luck
xoxox

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i recently got a pregnancy test after beng 4 days late for my period and it came out negative its now gone another 6 days and that means im 10days late on my period could i be pregnant and are the tests ever wrong???please write bak and answer my questions luv me xxxxxxxxxx

Pregnacy tests can be wrong but rarely.If your worried about to go to your doctor and they could so a more detailed pregnacy test on you.

If your not talk to your doctor about going on the pill to make your periods more regular if there known for being so late like that.

hope that helps
xoxoxo

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my friend thinks she is a few days pregnant...she keeps punching her stomach because she does not want the baby. does this hurt the baby or cause her to have a miscarriage?

Tell her to stop doing that!Omg thats horrible!If she got pregnant thats her friggen problem!!God even if she had a baby.Its not an unborn childs fault!

Thats seriously a problem.She should talk to a psychologist or doctor or something.

If she thinks shes pregnant tell her to take a friggen pregnacy test there...problem solved.If she just used a condom in the first place then maybe she wouldnt have got pregnant(if she is).But If I were you id get her help.

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how do I stop sunburn that itches?

calamine lotion or goldbond medicated creme will probably stop the itch ^^

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Hello. I'm very nervous. Okay well me and my boyfriend have sex now. I'm 14 and he's 16, and he popped my cherry. We usually have sex, alot. We sometimes don't do it with protection. He pulls it out though. I'm just extremly worried. My period always changes though. It rotates, like some months I get it at the beginning of the month, and some twords the very end. Last month I got it at the beginning so I figured I would this month, I haven't. I'm scared, but I don't know what to do. I've been getting cramps, like you do from the period. Uhh, do you think I could be pregnant? What should I do!!!! Thankss. (=

Hmmm...14.Dont you think thats a little too young??Well first of all I'd take a home pregnacy test before you start getting worked up about it.Stress like that could cause your period to be really late.You should also use protection also id advise you to stick to condoms or at least see your doctor and start on th pill.

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hey guys....
okay so i did the thing with my boyfriend on sunday...with no protection....we're both fine and everything and he pulled out before anything came out but ive been reading things on the "pre" stuff if you know what that is and it is possible that you could get pregnant that way...i read that nothing really happens till after the first 5 days and today, wednesday, the third day, i feel fine i dont think anything happened....do you think i should take a pregnancy test just incase?

Before you even decided to have sex in the first place you should have got a little educated first.If I were you I would NEVER relay on the pull out method.You just asking to be a teen mother.You should take a pregnacy test just in case just to make sure.If you not, then id advise you to start using condoms or go to your doctor and see about starting on the pill.

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ok so a couple of weeks ago i was at the movies with a couple of friends. one of which i really like. so we started making out and "feeling" on each other. then he undid my belt and i sort of kicked him. and he was like "oh sorry is that too far?" and i said i dunno. so he
re-did my belt (it was the cutest thing ever) and we proceded with the "kissing and feeling". im 14. so my question is...should i have let him into my pants and such?

Obviously the kick thing was saying "im not ready".I dont think you should have unless your completely comfortable with it and you want him to.Just give it a little time until you get comfortable with it and your sure your ready =)

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ok, me and my girlfriend have decided we want to have sex, the only probleam is i am not sure how i am going to get my hands on a condom, i am 13, and don't give me stuff saying im too young or anything cause we have made up are mind, im just not sure how i can get my hand on some condoms. can i just buy them? what? and also what kind should i get?

I know you dont want to hear it and you even said.But your WAYYY to young to be having sex.Can you imagine being a father at 13??Just think about it that way.But its good you want to use protection.You could get it at any drug store or corner store.Sometimes if you go to some health clinics they'll give you them for free.

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my dog has the worst breath in the world.it is way to much $ to take her to the vet to get her teeth cleaned so i need something to get the smell gone.
thanxxx

My dog gets gets really bad breath.We ususally feed her a certain kind of bone, and it really helps her teeth and her breath.If you ask your vet or go to a pet store and ask and maybe they can let you know what kind of bone you can give your dog for its breath.

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my boyfreind are thinking about sex. and we know we are both ready for it so please dont say anything along the lines of "you might not be ready".
but anyways. we are going to be safe about it. but my boyfreind doesnt want to buy condoms, he just thinks its embarssing. and isnt that supposed to be the guys job?


Nooo its not a guys job.Either female or male can.Some people may think its there job but its not.I mean alot of guys do take responsiblity for getting condoms but it doesnt hurt for girls to buy condoms either just in case.So it doesnt really matter who gets the condoms, as long as you have them =)

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