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my friends are doing it
ok all of my friends are having sex (and there all around 15 and 16, and i am 15.) And I don't feel like people our age are ready to have sex yet...but all of my friends are telling me how much fun it is, and they kept telling me how i need to lose it. I kept telling them that i'm not ready, but they keep pressuring me to have it. How can I get it throgh there head that i'm not ready and I don't want to lose it untill i'm ready?
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Hey Sweetie,
my name is Haven. Yea, i totally understand how your feel. Honestly, if they were really your true friends, they would understand and stop pressuring you into doing something you dont find is right. Not that im saying that you should jus dump them because obviously they are your frineds, but you need to really talk to them, and if they dont listen then take a break away from them because i and you dont want to do something that you will soon regret. I'm sorry that all of this is happeing to you, but it's gotta happen sometime. Everything in life happens for a reason. Everything in life is a lesson to be learned. Like when a little kid puts his hand on a hot stove, he learned that its hott and he doesnt want to burn his hand again, so there u go. In your case, its a lesson about A. Who to hang out with B. What to do when you hang out with these people and C.How to get yourself out of these situations when they come down the road another time.
I would love to answer more of your questions. if you get this answer, get back to me and we can talk about anything. goodbye
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You really shouldnt waste so much time trying to convice them about your way of thinking. Just tell them once and tell them that you don't appreciate them pressuring you about it. If they keep on, just ignore them. You should stick to your values. Only you know when the time will be right for you. Don't worry about it. You will be glad that you waited.
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umm well thats your choice you choose when your time comes and tell them that you want it to be a beautiful thing you don't want to have sex just because everyone else is doing it just wait until you find that right person hope i helped =]
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that is just like me and my friends. ive never had sex but ive done other things. and well i do wnana hvae se.x haha so we're different. but just tell them to stop pressuring you, cause you really dont wanna have sex and they cant force you to do something you dont wanna do.
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simple...walk away. if they are truly your friends, they will stop pressuring you, they shouldn't even be pressuring you in the first place! Sex is not to be taken lightly, and if you don't feel like you're ready, DON'T DO IT, and DON'T LET ANYONE MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE YOU HAVE TO DO IT!! Your first time, whenever it happens, has to be on your terms, and you should tell your friends that. If they keep pressuring you, after you tell them...shout if necessary...stop hanging out with them. Or just change the subject, or simply say "I"m not ready, and I will not be pressured into it." Keeping your cool is your best bet, just coolly inform them that you are not ready, and you will not do it until you are ready, then bring in a new topic to talk about. If they are really your friends, they'll take the hint, and stop bugging you. Good Luck!
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dont have sex because your friends are doing
you want to have sex with a special person dont you?
and make it special
dont just get pressured into something you dont want to do
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I don't think anyone is quite ready until they're in love. Maybe I'm old fashioned.. but I know that when my fiance and I get married, it will be the greatest experience of our lives.
Please don't let others tell you it's "fun."
Sex is fun until you're pregnant.. or sex is fun until Jesus says "Depart from me, I never knew you"..
it's harsh, but true.
Think about it.
Make wise decisions.
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Same problem; except me and my friends are thirteen. Way too young, don't get me started. Heres what I think: They`re making you do it, not true friends. Yeah its hard, giving up friends, but I`m working thru it. I`ve gained so much self respect and confidence knowing I have the power to say no to things, and save myself.
Who wants pregnancy and STD's at such a young age anyways? Just wait until your ready, tune em out for now. Any guy that pressures you too, isn't worth it, trust me. :)
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i would say this...
what are you gonna do when you get pregnant??
what are you gonna do when you get an STD??
do you think you are old enough and responsible enough to raise a child??
i don't think i am so you can keep having sex and i'll do it when i'm ready!
lol that's a good way to tell them and...it might get them to quit having sex!!!!
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So, i say good for you. You havent given in, thats good. Dont give in. If they are your true friends they will not be pressuring you. You will enjoy sex alot better when you do it with the person you love. You can tell them that if they continue pressuring you.
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Ignore thier sex talk, also they could be lying about losing their virginity
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Tell them that you are waiting for a special guy and a special moment and that you know that they want you to have fun, but you think there are other ways to have fun. Good luck on that.
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Oh please. Tell them how much fun they'll be having if they 'accidentally' forget to use a condom and end up having a gazillion kids.
Tell them to shut up if they keep pressuring you. Nobody can make you have it. You are your own person. You make your own decisions.
If they were truly your 'friends' they wouldn't be pressuring you.
Hope I helped!
♥ SiMA
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If they can't accept you for who you and what you're personal moral convictions are, then maybe it's time to find new friends.
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First of all if they are pressuring you to do something you dont want to do it is called "Peer Pressure" and they are not your true friends. If they were they'd accept the fact that your not ready yet and move on. I wouldnt try to get it through their heads , i would make new friends..sorry to break the ice like that.
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You get a standing ovation. (you neglected to mention male or female tho, and if your friends are male or female.) There are many ways to do this.
A) Just keep telling them no.
B) Tell them they are idiots and if they keep pushing their faces will be good friends with the pavement. (Works better for drugs or alcohol pressure.)
C) Completely confuse them with higher level thoughts until they can no longer think about it.
D) Call them whores at first then say "no wait, your sluts you dont get paid" (man-whores and man-sluts if your guys)
E) Tell them that its a choice and you choose to wait.
F) Umm it involves a gun, a river, some cement, rope and im pretty sure its illegal.
G) Beat them all up.
H) Convince them you have better things to do.
I) Tell them to lay off and that you will do it when you want to.
^most of those were jokes so just relax and laugh. btw I agree 15 and 16 can be too young for most people.
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There is one thing that good friends hate to hear: "Then you must not be a real friend"
Tell them that if they can't accept the fact that your not ready and stop pressuring you, then they aren't your real friend. This will catch their attention and see your serious that its making you mad that they are pressuring you into something that your really not ready for.
hope this helps:)
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well im glad to say that your really wise.your obviously not ready because having sex means a couple hours of pleasure now that youll regret in the future when your older because youll have STDs and might even have been pregnent and trust me getting pregnent at this age is a totall disaster because youre gonna be a child WITH a child and both need mothers and youre not going to be able to be one because your just a CHILD so i think its best off that you dont do it now.youll do it one day when youre ready
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eay just tell them to screw off ofr the nicer aprouch be like listen if yall want to go and have sex thats fine ok but if and when one of you gets pregnant i am not gona tell you i told you so cus i am noice and not the kind to shuve stuff down peopels throt and in there face. cus eventualy one will mess up and end up pregnant i know my best friend is hounger than me and she is going threw the same thing and god does it suck any way ya just tell them y or tell them you don't feel you need to explain your self its your desition so they can shuve it.
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Dear virgin,
Tell them that u respect that they have lost it. However dont give into there pressure. Sex will be a beautiful thing if its with that perfect person. If they insist that much on you loosing your virginity then mabey you should find some better friends.
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Hi, the only thing you can do is simply tell them that your not ready. If they can't except that, then it's their problem. Daniel.
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