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Hey, My name is haven. I'm just your average ordinary girl. I love sports, guys, friends, the outdoors. I'm a risk taker. I basically do anything phiscally possible. I try everything at least once. Um, i came here so then i could have a chance to see another world, like when people are coming to you for advice, instead over being the "asker" i like it so far. But yea, get at me.
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alright well my boyfriend and i have been getting very serious about our relationship. and we havent FULLY had sex yet but i mean hes gotten to my downstairs with his without a condom. he knows how to control his cum so i trusted him. my cherry hasnt been popped yet either..so i guess im still pretty virgin...but what i was wondering was like do you think even though my cherry has not been popped (atleast i dont think so because i havent bled like everyone says you do) something could happen?
Hey, my names haven...
first of all, your boyfriends a liar beacuse you CANNOT control cum ok. thats ridiculous thing to say. and Yea, your not a virgin. And yes, something could happen. Having your cherry popped doesnt mean that nothing could happen. Once u get your period, anyting could happen. Juse be careful
love always,
..:havco:..
Is it supposed to kill?
hes not getting past the hymen because it just kills. And the hymen itself kills.
I tried getting a tampon in ...even that hurts in the same way
Is there a physical problem...i mean this is too painful for it to feel normal
Ok hun, my name is Haven.
Of course it hurts the first time. I'm pretty sure that this is NOT a physical problem because everyeone is....tight...i guess i would say. Imean you jus i dont no, keep trying and i promise nothing is wrong with you. Jus take stuff easy ok.
love always,
..:havco:..
Okay well my bf like lives in an apartment and like theres a pool outisde his apartment and like i rele want to hang out with him at his plaace but my parents wont let me go there cuz thts were all the ''smokers and druggies'' live ... does anyone know any good reasons i could tell my parents i could go there ? please...cuz if i dun go over there he mite start cheeting on me or somehing and he came swimmin at a pool neer me and everything for a long time so i wana go over to his house.....
thanks.
-xoxo Vanessa
Hey Vanessa. My name is Haven.
I would first like to say, i'm sorry about you not seeing your boyfriend. If your parents know and approve of this boyfriend, i dont no why they care if you go to his house or not. i mean they can get over the fact that theres druggies and crap there, i mean, its not like your gonna be doing it. Um, its not a good idea to lie because, you usually get caught. trust me, its happend to me SO many times. But, if he really loves you he would A. Not cheat on you or B. Come to your house or hang out somewhere else so then you dont get into trouble. So im sorry and if he does cheat on you, let me kno cause thats not right.
love always,
..:havco:..
13/f
Me and my mom have always had this sort of best-friend sort of relationship instead of a mother-daughter relationship. I didn't tell her everything, but I did tell her enough and wasn't embrassed infront of my friends with her. Infact, I kind of like to "show her off." She's really funny and basically acts like someone my age would act - only 43 and graying hair. But right now everything sort of changed.
A few weeks ago my mom went out on a date (My dad and her are divorced) and she said she would be out a few hours. Dinner, a movie, the basics. So figured it would be a perfect time to.. well, masturbate, I suppose. Only apparantly the date didn't last as long as she expected, and I didn't hear her open the door. And she kind of heard me, since I tend to get kind of loud. I have no idea what she was thinking, I just know that she opened the door to my room and saw me. Then shut the door and didn't talk to me for the rest of the night. After I got dressed I went and found her in the kitchen, and told her that that had been a little awkward, but she didn't say anything or do anything. She just kind of ignored me. And every since then it's been kind of weird, especially since my mom is one of those pre-martial-sex-and-I'm-sending-you-to-a-convent type of people. She's only had sex once, and that was when she "planned" to have me.
Now, instead of feeling all laid back when I'm around her, I keep getting this feeling like she's giving me a dirty look, like she thinks I'm some kind of skank. And actually, I know that she thinks that, because me, being the curious one, listened in on her phone call with her best friend, who my mom told that I was turning into some kind of slut ever since I started going out with my boyfriend, which really isn't true, since I was doing this long before I started going out with him.
I just don't really know how to make things cool between us again. Or how to break the ice so I don't feel like I'm being watched ever second of every day because my mom believes that I'm doing "dirty things."
Hey, My name is Haven.
Ok first of all, her freind does not need to make those kind of comments. Look, your mom needs to let it go because, your a teenager. Stuff like this happens. You can't tell me that your mom never has done it before. This is ridiculous and she needs to really get over it. I'm sorry that you got caught but thats crazy that she wont even talk to you because like why would u give up a great relationshitp over some masturbating? I mean, jus tell her that she needs to not be so upset because your a teenager. This is weird. And im sorry for you.
hope things get better.
..::havco::..
I hate even having to say this because one thing I'm terrified of is sounding self centered. My friends and people I don't even know tell me I have a good voice. I love to sing and I think it's what I want to do with my life. Alright, I admit I'm okay. But does anyone know how I can get involved in the music business or have a number I can call or anything? Thanks =]
Hey, My name is Haven.
By the way, you do not sound self-centered at all. Basically, you just need to keep putting yourself out there so people can hear you. The best way to be noticed, is to enter like competitions or jus do concerts. Yea i love singing also. Its one of my favorite things to do but, i dont have a number or anyting but jus keeping putting yourself out there. ITs good that your getting great comments. I'm proud of you. Just keep trying.
goodbye
..:havco:..
ok all of my friends are having sex (and there all around 15 and 16, and i am 15.) And I don't feel like people our age are ready to have sex yet...but all of my friends are telling me how much fun it is, and they kept telling me how i need to lose it. I kept telling them that i'm not ready, but they keep pressuring me to have it. How can I get it throgh there head that i'm not ready and I don't want to lose it untill i'm ready?
Hey Sweetie,
my name is Haven. Yea, i totally understand how your feel. Honestly, if they were really your true friends, they would understand and stop pressuring you into doing something you dont find is right. Not that im saying that you should jus dump them because obviously they are your frineds, but you need to really talk to them, and if they dont listen then take a break away from them because i and you dont want to do something that you will soon regret. I'm sorry that all of this is happeing to you, but it's gotta happen sometime. Everything in life happens for a reason. Everything in life is a lesson to be learned. Like when a little kid puts his hand on a hot stove, he learned that its hott and he doesnt want to burn his hand again, so there u go. In your case, its a lesson about A. Who to hang out with B. What to do when you hang out with these people and C.How to get yourself out of these situations when they come down the road another time.
I would love to answer more of your questions. if you get this answer, get back to me and we can talk about anything. goodbye
..:havco:..