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my name is heather. i am pagan. i love to be around people and be outgoing. i'm a former cheerleader and basketball player. i go to north shore technical high school. i love to read, write, chat, play sports, you name it.

advice

16/f
I've been working at a hair salon for 6 months now, and now I'm applying at other places. I got an interview for a restaraunt and a hair/tanning salon on the same day.. one at 3:15 one at 5. I would rather work at either one of the intervviews i have. So, i have 2 questions

1) What is a good way to give my two-week notice?2) What do I do if the first place offers me a job? What do i say?

please help =]

I say talk to your boss about your two-week notice, tell him why you chose to work at the other place [but get the interviews first, make sure there's a chance you'll get the job] and give him reasons rather than just giving your two-week notice and then leaving. Even if the first place offers you a job, go to the second interview anyway, just to see what they have to offer too. And then you can choose which one you want to work at. Hope this helped!


--Heather

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16/f

So, one of my friends, let's call her June, has a huge crush on one of my guy friends, let's call him Ben. I told June, truthfully, that I was going to try and hook them up on a date, because she's desperate for his attention. And Ben and I are the kind of friends where we hug and smooch eachother on the cheek every day. So before I tell him about June yesterday morning, he leans over and kisses me on the mouth, and before I know it, his tongue's in my mouth, too. I was too surprised to react. I like Ben too, but he's such a flirt and since he's moving in december, all he wants is someone to fool around with, and that someone is me. But June really likes him. I know she deserves better, and I probably do too. I told June that he's a player and is only looking for sex, but she still likes him. Should I tell her he kissed me? What should I tell Ben? I need help!!!

If he's only looking for one thing, tell June what happened. She needs an example if you're going to tell her that she deserves better. If you tell her the whole story, starting with "oh, we were just talking and he kissed but instead of the usual way, he stuck his tongue in my mouth, etc." and if she doesn't believe you, then she obviously doesn't trust your honesty. But June doesn't need a player to break her heart. Ben needs to figure out what he's going to do by himself. Tell him that you're not interested in him "like that" and if he continues to follow you around and try to kiss you more, that's harrassment which doesn't look very good when he's looking for women. Hope this helped!


--Heather

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hey. i am looking to get into acting, but i need some answers to a couple questions as soon as possible. all help is appreciated.

-first off, as for an audition, your agent gets you those, right? what happens at an audtition?

-as for an agent, how do you get one? my friends mom said you have to write the agency a letter saying why they should represent you included with a headshot and resume. is that true?

-as for a resume, what if i have no prior experience? what do i put on the resume?

-honestly, how hard is it? like, what are your chances of getting a part?

thanks soo much, i'm hoping someone who has been through this will be able to reply, but if you haven't and know about it that works too =].

I'm going to try and answer you as best I can. I thought about becoming an actress so I had these same questions. As far as what happens at an audition, that changes everytime. This is so that you're not thinking of your answers before the audition. It also depends on what the movie/show/etc. is about and that helps them tell you what to say or do. Yes, you need to send a resume and a picture to an agency. You may have less of a chance of getting a part if you have no prior experience but if you say that you're dedicated, etc. then they may look you over. It's hard. But it depends on what you're looking into as well. It all depends on your skill and how dedicated you're willing to be. =] Hope this helped!


--Heather

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My dad has always had a pretty big temper. He has definentaly put me into tears from his yelling quite a few times, and when ever i stand up for my self he just gets worse. well for the most part its never gotten to bad, but lately he has been terrible. Ususally my mom is in a good mood and she gets him to let up a bit but she got mad at me a week ago and lately she hasnt been helping me out. For the past week when ever im just minding my own buisiness he comes into my room and screams at me, and when ever i make a tiny mistake he wont let me foget it and rubs it in my face. Well last night i had a friend sleep over and we wanted o play quiji board. so we got it from my room which it right next to my parents room. well when we finished up we brought the board back up and we were litterally only in my room for 2 seconds when my dad walks in and brings me down stairs and begins to scream at me. saying how i had been up stairs making noise in front of his door for 20 minutes, he brings his face super close to mine and says really scarily next time you wake me up im going to be going to jail cause im gonna hit you so hard. then he screams how stupid i am until im finally in tears, and i try to defend myself and he says do you think im a liar, do you think im stupid, and he starts walking towards me, if it weren't for my brother being home for collage i swear he would have hurt me. i went back upstairs tears all down my face, my friend had heard everything. he always yells at me and calls me stupid and blames everything on me and i dont think im strong enough to take it. and when i tell my mom what he did she just reacts how she always does "dont worry ill talk to him'. but things never get better. advice please. thanks for taking the time to read this.

Wow. Well, as long as your brother's home, you're safe. But that's verbal abuse (especially threatening you) and I think you should go to someone you trust, other than your brother. He has no right to put you down like that and your mother should do something but since she's obviously not, you should go to another adult (guidance counselor, teacher, family friend) that you trust and tell them your problem. You're not gonna want to at first but I promise that when you tell them, you'll feel a lot better. I hope this helped. Good luck!


--Heather

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I often have a stiff neck and shoulders, or if not stiff, at least they're tense. It annoys me, to say the least, and sometimes I can't resist the temptation to crack my neck (which is a Bad Habit, I know). Besides seeing a chiropractor (which I do, but not too frequently, unfortunately), are there any exercises (such as stretches) or remedies that can alleviate the tenseness?

I've been a cheerleader for 7 years and now I'm a coach and I've had this problem before. As long as you don't do it too frequently, you can crack your neck to relieve your stiff neck because that's sometimes all it needs. For stiff shoulders, I always put my arms behind me and have someone push them together for me and that helps a lot. Hopefully this helped!


--Heather

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Well.. I used to be popular, when popular was good. When it was good to be nice & smart. Well yeah I had tons of friends and I wasn't very shy.. But now I'm like really shy. (I'm going to 9th grade--highschool, 14/f) I can talk to people on the internet but in person, I turn red and stuff.. and people just know I'm shy so hardly anyone talks to me. My friends that know the real me.. I'm not at ALL shy around them.. but at school I am? I can't really explain this, but please help. How can I make myself talk to people, not blush, be more outgoing, and make more friends? Thanks!

I've been in your position before, more when I was going into 7th grade. My advice is just relax, let people see the real you. Don't be afraid to open up and be a little silly sometimes. =] People will appreciate it and talk to you. If you're only "shy" at school, it doesn't really make you shy, it just makes you uncomfortable around others that you don't know too well. Like I said, I was in the exact same position except mine was self-consciousness. So I agree with the other answers, just relax and be yourself. =]

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ok so one of my best friends told me the other day that she is not returning to our school in september because she going to a new school. I was devastated and haven't stopped crying. I know we'll still be friends but its just going to be so weird not having her there in school and i'm going to miss her soo much. I thought i was handling it well but i realized im not. I hate her family and blame them for her switch of schools and i can't help but want her to be miserable at her new school. Is that too selfish of me? I just don't know how to handle it. I've been so emotional for the past week or two and i just don't know what to do. please help!

I, unfortunately, am in your friend's position. I'm leaving for a different high school than the rest of my friends this year. But maybe it was your friend's choice. Maybe she just wanted something different. And if her parents did request a different school, maybe they gave her a choice of whether she wanted to go or not. I know it's gonna be hard but all she wants is a friend and for you guys to still be friends after all this is said and done. So just keep in touch, talk on the phone after school, get together on the weekends.. Anything to help keep in touch. She's going to make new friends at her school, there's no denying it but you're still her friend and she still wants to talk to you. So just be a friend to her and let her go to this new school. I hope this advice helped.

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I've liked this guy off and on for about six years. For the past 2.5 years we have talked about a relationship, hooked up, and then hated each other. The thing is, he thinks we are friends but he always breaks my heart. When he likes me, we talk for hours everyday for about 3 weeks, and then he goes out with a different girl for the next 2 months. As soon as he breaks things off with that girl he always comes back to me. I'm not saying I still fall for it, because I don't. But I feel like empty because everytime he starts talking with me, he tells me I'm beautiful, I'm like one of his best friends, he doesn't know where he'd be without me, (one time he even said he loved me) and all that bullshit. But since he kept pushing me to the side I've lost all self esteem. One time we got into a fight because he wanted to start smoking, and I was like no thats stupid. Well he called me fat, ugly, stupid, worthless, a whore, and he said that he hated me and that he never liked me. After wasting so much time on him I thought he was telling the truth, and now I think I really am all that he said. It's not like I'm ugly because a lot of guys like me, and I am not fat AT ALL. But even though I know I'm not what he says I am... I can't take compliments, I tell people to fuck off when they try to call me pretty or something, I don't get involved with guys because I'm afraid, and I don't let anyone in. I don't know how to deal with it because I always let him back in and he damages my mind and my heart; But at the same time I want to be over him because I think he's pathetic. I just don't know how to handle it because even though i don't allow myself to talk to him, it still gets to me after all this time. Please tell me whats wrong with me, and how I can forget about this bullshit. Thanks for your time // sorry its long.

He's not worth it. From what I see, he's two-faced and you don't want someone like that in your life. Especially someone who lowers your self-esteem and hurts you because in my opinion, it's emotional abuse. He's just not worth your time.


--Heather

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Okay so basically this summer i got in a fight with all my friends and now i only have one friend which is my best friend. but i want more friends for school. how do i make friends??
I want friends that i can relate stuff too.
please help ill lovee youu forever like seriously

Well, if you and your best friend stick together, she'll be all you need. I've been in your position before, except I didn't have that one best friend. After this big fight is all over with, you'll realize not to take friendship for granted. But if you really want to make more friends, I say just be yourself. That way people will see you for who you are, not who you pretend to be. I hope this advice helped.


--Heather

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My boyfriend is moving to a new school, and ever since then, he has changed a lot...
Before, he cared about me more than anyone I have ever known... but now, he expects me to pay attention to him, understand him, call him every night, and to support him... and everytime I do what he wants me to do, he'll say that I'm too sensitive, and then he'll ignore me. I mean, he doesn't even appreciate my feelings... and he doesn't try to understand me! Why do I have to understand about everything and he doesn't?!
I really really want to break up with him, but I can't... I still love him, and I know... that no one cares about him except for me.. I'm the only person who ever cares about him and understands him, because he's a very lonely person... if I am not there for him, then no one will... and that kills him...
But now, I don't even know what to do... I'm mad at him to the greatest extend and I feel sorry for him at the same time... Because in his life, his parents are always away and I am the very first person who ever makes him happy...
Please, tell me what to do... or at least, tell me what he might be thinking by now.. because I can't stand it!! He loves me but he pays me no mind... help me!!

My advice is to see if you can just slowly give each other space. That way, you're still together but you don't really have to worry too much about pleasing just him and you can go out and do stuff for yourself. You don't want to be in a relationship where you don't feel wanted. Or maybe you guys can just be close friends, that way you're still there for him, you're just not together. Or maybe you can just explain the situation and just say "Why am I the one working on the relationship and not you?" or "Can we both try to learn about each other and support each other instead of just me supporting you?" I hope everything goes well.


--Heather

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Can anyone tell me how long it takes for all the scabbing to go away when you first get a tattoo? I got this really nice tattoo the other day & it looks pretty ugly right now. Thanx.

I'd say just put some anti-itch cream or something to put on it. A really good cream that I actually used for my bellybutton ring and I've seen used for tattoos as well is Bacitracin. It helps it heal and makes the skin soft as well. Hope it works. :)


--Heather

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