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He's changed
My boyfriend is moving to a new school, and ever since then, he has changed a lot...
Before, he cared about me more than anyone I have ever known... but now, he expects me to pay attention to him, understand him, call him every night, and to support him... and everytime I do what he wants me to do, he'll say that I'm too sensitive, and then he'll ignore me. I mean, he doesn't even appreciate my feelings... and he doesn't try to understand me! Why do I have to understand about everything and he doesn't?!
I really really want to break up with him, but I can't... I still love him, and I know... that no one cares about him except for me.. I'm the only person who ever cares about him and understands him, because he's a very lonely person... if I am not there for him, then no one will... and that kills him...
But now, I don't even know what to do... I'm mad at him to the greatest extend and I feel sorry for him at the same time... Because in his life, his parents are always away and I am the very first person who ever makes him happy...
Please, tell me what to do... or at least, tell me what he might be thinking by now.. because I can't stand it!! He loves me but he pays me no mind... help me!!
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First off, he is moving to a new school and is probably really nervous and stressed. Wait and things should get better. And maybe talk to him about it. Tell him you love him, but there are some times when u want to break up with him from the way he acts and stuff. Every time you critize him, make sure to say something nice otherwise he just feels hated.
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what you need to do is sit down and tlk to him 101 or on the ohone and say you have to understand my feelings 2 i mean if i am there for you, you should be there for me and if you juss cant do that then it's over!!!!! and if he loves you at all i am sure he will try to change trust me on this 1
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My advice is to see if you can just slowly give each other space. That way, you're still together but you don't really have to worry too much about pleasing just him and you can go out and do stuff for yourself. You don't want to be in a relationship where you don't feel wanted. Or maybe you guys can just be close friends, that way you're still there for him, you're just not together. Or maybe you can just explain the situation and just say "Why am I the one working on the relationship and not you?" or "Can we both try to learn about each other and support each other instead of just me supporting you?" I hope everything goes well.
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What you could do is that the next time he wants you to understand him at least pretend to so he doesn't feel that no one is on his side,try being more patient with him,he'll start to see that, and he'll also start to appreciate you for everything you done for him.As for what he may be thinking he might just be upset but of course he'll get over it,but don't you worry he'll be sorry for treating you unfairly.
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