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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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if i bleed ALOT when i urinate do i probably have UTI? (link)
It could be a UTI, It could be a kidney problem of some sort. It might be you ate beets. Whatever it is you need to see your doctor and find out for sure.
Here is a short article for you to read if you want to. :)

http://www.urologychannel.com/hematuria/index.shtml


My boyfriends ex girlfriend owns the house we are in. He doesnt know that i know the house is foreclosing. We are moving into our new home next month around the 15th. I saw the sherriff auction paper in his car and it is for the 11th. Arent i going to find out eventually??Does the winning bidder push eviction? how does that work.He says he is in a hurry to buy our new house because his ex is pushing him out. Should i be worried that he is so secretive? why wont he just tell me the truth?I wont be angry with him. (link)
I'm sure they have to give you some sort of notice to leave. Unless they have already and he hasn't told you.

Make it easy on him. Tell him you found the flier and want to know whats going on. I mean, will you have people coming in and looking at your house on the 11th, or are people going to bid on it unseen?

It may be he is afraid to upset you. I don't know why he would be so secretive about something so big.
You need to ask him about that and tell him not to keep important things from you. He can't protect you from everything. :)


Ok, 'mental health' isn't the right category, but I couldn't find anything close to my prob.

I'm terrified of human beings. Male and female. I only have around 5 close friends, no one else. Whenever it comes to ordering food, I panic, start crying and refuse to call the place to ask for delivery - even though it's on the phone! I make my friend pay for the shopping I do (i give her the money, of course) because I'm just scared to do it myself. Everytime I'm at the mall and I get lost (i get lost all the time...=() I start crying and shaking because of the crowd around me.
I live in a pretty safe and quiet country (the only war we've had was between the bedouins and camels) and I should have nothing to worry about but my case is getting really bad. Because of my fear, I'm not driving, I'm not meeting new people and going to university every day and sitting in the classroom with all those people is just so stressful...

I'll be 18 next week. I'm in deperate need of help here...am I losing it?

Note: I was kinda kidnapped when I was a child. But that was years ago, I can't even remember what happened. Could that thought still be haunting me?

How can I get over this?...

Thanks. (link)
You need to see a doctor about your problem. It could very well be you remember being "kinda" kidnapped unconsciously.

Just go to your regular doctor and get a referral to someone who can help you. Don't let this fear take over your life. Do something about it now. This isn't something I think you can fix on your own. :)


Not sure if this is the exact category. Anyway, I'm a guy and whenever I use my shampoo, once my hair dries it frizzes out quite a bit. I use Head and Shoulders to control dandruff. Whenever I use a different product like pert plus, I get dandruff like no other but then my hair is ok. Does anybody know of a product that wont freak my hair out? (link)
You might try using conditioner in your hair after
you shampoo. Head & shoulders is a little harsh and
conditioner might just put some moisture back in it. :)


okay lets say i wanted to give my boyfriend a bj.
hes never done more than just kiss another girl besides me. so basically.. hes never been in contact with anything that could possibly give him an std. except he was in the hospital a bunch of times when he was like seven and he had like surgerys and stuff for his allergies to foods or something. i dont know. but he couldnt possibly get like aids or anything from that right? and so lets say he has no stds.. then if i give him a bj i cant get anything right? except for hpv because its in the sperm. but it cant be the kind that turns into cervical cancer right?.. because the virus isnt coming into contact with the cervix. is this correct? im kinda scared of getting stuff and dying so i dont wanna take any really big risks. thanks. (link)
Here is all the info you need.

http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/std/oral/


okay. i have a new computer with windows vista on it and i want to put msn messenger on it. i dont care what version, i just want it. i have downloaded it many times and it downloads successfully but when i put my email and password it says that the service is temporarily unavailable. i think this is because it is vista, but i have seen people with msn on their vista computers. if u could please help me, thanks i need this :) (link)
This is the only helpful thing I could find. I hope this will work for you. It may not work.

http://forums.whirlpool.net.au/forum-replies-archive.cfm/679050.html



ok so there's this boy i met on vacation. we text every weekend and he's always telling me that i'm hot he misses me he wants to see me or even well im sexy. i can't tell if he means it or not. sometimes i get the feeling he likes me. what do you think? (link)
Sounds to me as if he likes you. If you are far apart it might be best just to stay friends though.
You will want to go to school dances and all that, hard to do if you start dating someone hundreds of miles away. :)


when you ask a (public) question like this is appearing right now, can everyone see your username and like who asked the question?? or is it always anonymous and all you know is that they are a user? thanks! (link)
L2 & L3 moderators can see the information should they look it up. We don't do that unless it is an awful question or something else about it doesn't seem right. There aren't many L2 or 3 moderators.

Nobody is chosen to be an upper level moderator if they were the type to blab your info to everyone else. It doesn't just show your name either, we have to look it up.

The average user of the site cannot see your information at all. :)


what are love handles? i have been hearing it a lot lately.. from some not so skinny people.. ? (link)
"Love handles" is a slang term for a layer of fat that is deposited around a person's waist, especially visible on the sides, which is believed to have some resemblance to handles.


i lost my virginity to my boyfriend last night.
i have been on birth control for 3 months now but i took yesterday's pill a lot later than i ususally do, and it was a little before we had sex so i am not sure if it had time to kick in.
we were having a little difficulty with the condom so we didn't use it and he accidently cummed in me.

do you think i could be pregnant? (link)
No, I don't think you are pregnant. One pill taken late is not going to make a big difference. You are told to take them at the same time every day because it is easier to remember to take them when you do.

Unless of course you are me. :)


OK well I asked you guys for pictures today..and I got my haircut...and its way too short. I hate it. & I dont have any money for extensions. Help!?! What can I DO!! (link)
Wear a very cool hat. Thats what I do. :)


Hi, I'm 18 and own several dogs. I was just wondering, for my own curiosity and not for the reason that it happened but why can't dogs eat chocolate? I know that they will get hyper and the theory is that they will die if they eat chocolate but can someone explain to me why EXACTLY they cannoy eat chocolate- the side affects and evertyhign.

No links to sites please:) (link)
Most of the dogs who die from eating chocolate die from heart problems. It speeds up their heart rate.
Because you have dogs, you know if they get into chocolate they won't stop until it is gone!

Other dogs die from pancreatitis.

You have been give the symptoms already so I won't repeat. Never read anything about worms. :)


What are the STDs that you can never get rid of and the ones you can?
I know AIDs is permanent, and I think ghonorrea (sp?) is not.
THANKS! (link)
Besides AIDs there are genital warts, Herpes, & Hepatitis B.

Even some of those that can be cured, like gonorrhea
can cause permenant problems.

Here is a chart of STDs and their symptoms.

http://www.coolnurse.com/std.htm


Okay, so I pierced my lower right lip yesterday and I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions for keeping it clean and stuff. I have a plastic retainer in there right now and it's a little swollen but I know the swelling part is normal. Also, if I go to a piercing place, will they have ring suitable for new piercings? Thanks very much! (link)
Here are a couple of sites you should read.

Cleaning:

http://www.ritualistics-bodyart.com/aftercare-tips/oral-piercings.htm#piercing2

Rejecting causes ugly scarring. Here is a site to help prevent that.

http://www.wikihow.com/Keep-a-Piercing-from-Rejecting


Once you've deleted everything to the trash can on your computer, and then deleted everything from the trash can, is it PERMINATLY gone from your computer? Like, people can't find it after you've deleted it from the trash and everything? Please let me know ASAP! (link)
No it isn't. Lots of information remains on your hard drive. That is why it is never a good idea to just toss a computer. Read this one page article for more information.

http://www.whitecanyon.com/deleted-files-let-10-2003.php


Should you take ibuprofen if you have oral thrush?? (link)
If it is painful you can take ibuprofen. If you haven't been to the doctor about it you really should. They will give you some nystatin to swish around in your mouth. It will clear it up and help the pain too. :)


made from chocolate or coconut? (link)
I guess neither really. Its a fat used IN chocolate though.

cocoa butter
n.

A yellowish-white fatty solid obtained from cacao seeds and used as an ingredient in cosmetics, tanning oils, chocolate, and soap. Also called cacao butter.


to get birth control, do you have to go to the gynocologist first? (link)
Yes. I'm afraid so. And every year before its renewed. You have to have a pelvic exam. Here is a site that will tell you what goes on.

http://www.coolnurse.com/pelvic_exams.htm


how do you become a level two moderator? (link)
http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?f=69

You need to know the Help/FAQ info well. Even as a L1. :)


I just had surgery and one of my cuts isn't fully closed on the outside. the inside is, of course. I have a green pus/gunk on the incission. It's near my bellybotton because i had liproscopic (sp) surgery. anyways, when i put an obsorbant on it, (fyi, toliet paper, cottonball, stuff like that) it obsorbs green stuff. i'm not sure if my other 2 incission are infected, and connot use them to detirmine if my one is, because they still have the tape my doc put on them on them. yes, she just taped me up, my mom assumes she just sewed the inner part. Do you think it's infected? (link)
It could be. It could just be drainage from your incision but it really shouldn't be green.

Your best plan of action is going to be to call your doctor and ask him/her how to treat it. You might check your discharge papers and see if they have info on what to do too. Most doctors have an answering service that will pass on a message to have them call you on weekends.

Triple antibiotic (like Neosporin) would probably help, but really, with an incision like that always check with your doctor. :)




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