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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






advice

Around 2005 I met this guy, that is my boyfriend whom Iam with now. The problem is, i met his nephew first. Me and his nephew got to know each other and we hit it off pretty good. I met his nephew in may of 2005. We were friends and alot more. I happen to sleep with him, actually we were kind of in a relationship.when i first went over his house he introduced me to his uncle. His uncle is 22, and the nephew is 20. His uncle likes me, hes cool as ever. actually me and the uncle has alot in common, acutally more than me and the nephew as first. both were cool but i liked the uncle more actually i liked both.so i wind up messing with both of them. they both like me. However i didnt know they were related at first but later found out.Do you think they are talking about me or trying to compete over me. I am not with the uncle for 7 months, it seems the nephew wants to use me for sex. someone a strong women or man please give me advice.

A guy who wants to use you for sex is never worth your time. Why should he be? He's using you.
I would say that if the uncle is a good guy and you really like him, go for him. And if you go for him, stop messing around with the nephew. If you can't be with the uncle and maintain a 'friends only' relationship with the nephew, then steer away from both. Find another guy.

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I'm 21 and i'm engaged, my fiance is 24. I kmow you thinking that i'm to young but we have been together for almost two years. Recently we got in a fight about when we were going to get married. We originally wanted the date to be somewhere around April, but when I told him that I was thinking about waiting until I finished college he got so upset. He kept saying that us getting married wouldn't interfer with my work but I really want to wait. Planning a wedding takes up so much time. So anyways he just left afterwards and said that he would be back later. I stayed up and by 2:00 he still wasn't back and I started freaking out. I called some of his friends, but he wasn't with them. So by then I was really freaking out, then he came home around 2:30 drunk. I started yelling at him about how much he scared me, and he just blew up and started screaming at me. We've hardly ever gotten into a fight before, not like this. He started saying a lot of crap and practilly accused me of cheating on him and sleeping around, and also saying that I didn't love him. So we were fighting and then he hit me. He's never done that before.I ran into our room and locked the door. I cryed myself to sleep after that. The next morning I could tell how sorry he was when I woke up. He somehow managed to unlock the door, there were flowers and chocolate on the bed next to me and a note saying how sorry he was. When I got out of bed he was cooking breakfast and when he saw me he walked over to me and kissed me saying how sorry he was and asking for my forgiveness. He said that we could wait to get married as long as I wanted and started going on about how he could skip work and we could spend the day together. Does he honestly think that that would make everything okay? Was it supposed to? I told him I didn't want to spend the day together, and went back to our room and started packing. I din't want to be their. He tried to stop me from going but I just told him I would be gone for a while and left. I needed to think. Now it's been a week later and i'm staying with my friend who lives in Boston. (I live in New York)But I feel guilty for leaving, but why should I it's only fair. He walked out on me didn't he? And I miss him. I don't want to miss him, and I feel stupid for missing him after what he did to me. Am I being fair? He's called me a zillion times since then. I never answer the phone, but he's left a bunch of messages saying how worried he is about me and how sorry he is, and I guess part of me wants him to feel bad, even though I love him. I do still love him I just don't know what to do. I'm I being selfish in ignoring him and running away from my problems. I'v never ad to deal with anything like this and like I said I don't know how to deal with the situation. What should I do? Should I go home? Should I forgive him. I mean he just made one mistake, granted a big mistake, but everyone makes mistakes right? I'm just so confused. Please help!

Well. I'm going to tell you one thing. And not something I tend to tell many.
From my own experience, if he is a shit enough to hit you once, he will likely do it again. And he will make you feel guilty that he had to do it. You know, your fault- not his. This generally falls after "Oh, I'm so sorry, please forgive me, I'll never do it again, this was the last time, I promise, I swear I'll seek counseling, and on, and on."

The mental guilt-attack most used on me was "If you leave I will kill myself." Guess what? He isn't dead yet. It's just a head game to keep mind control over you by way of your sympathy and guilt.

Guys like this are serious control freaks. Eventually, they try to control every aspect of your life, including not allowing you to go out and have friends. Or they disallow you to see your mother, or even talk to her on the phone without him being present. You know, don't want you saying something he don't want you to.

You aren't being selfish. HE is selfish. Don't feel guilty. That's what HE wants.

My advice as to what you should do? Go home, but not to him. Go HOME. To your family home. Get out now and get away now before you feel more tied to him and feel unable to get away.

If they live away from your school, take a break from schooling. I wouldn't under normal circumstances suggest that- education is important- but right now it's more important for you to get away from the situation you are in.

I sure wouldn't forgive him. Don't make that mistake, or you will be having to forgive him again. And again. And again.

Everyone makes mistakes, yes. But REAL men don't make mistakes like this. REAL MEN DON'T HIT, EVER! This was one big mistake that he should have never made. Being drunk is no excuse for such a lack of self control.

Sometimes we fall in love with the wrong person. But that doesn't mean we have to stay with them and put up with abuse. That is NOT love. Pick up your pieces and give your love to some one who deserves it.

I really hope and pray you absorb every word I just said to you and take your best interests into consideration with whatever decision you make.

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please only girls answer.
what types of clothes/outfits do girls like on guys?? Im not interested in things like emo style or goth, no offense to those that are, i just dont like the style. any help would be appriciated. ..thanx..

My personal preference is a guy in jeans, t-shirt and ball cap. I'm not into a guy that goes out of his way to show off by wearing a tight t-shirt. What good is that? It takes away from seeing him without it!

Tight jeans? No. Seriously, I mean gag. Baggy jeans? No. Pull your damn pants up- your crotch isn't at your knees. Loose jeans are good.
OOO! Boxers!
Not into the tank top/ wife-beater shirt look.


You know, the look that says, "Ma'am, I'm going to work on your car and get greasy under this here shade tree." That's what I'm into. :D

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So i've got blood in my stool.

it's not really in my stool. it's more like anal bleeding. the toilet bowl water wasn't red but .. yeah.

I have had hemorrhoids... is that what happened?

I'm a young teenager too!

Why is this happening to me? It's scaring me.

Is there some fiber pill to take?

I have stopped drinking soda and I only drink water now. I have for about 5-6 months and I rarely ever eat junk food.
I am rarely ever constipated.

It would probably be a good idea to see a doctor.

Here is a link to webmd on symptoms:

http://www.webmd.com/hw/hemorrhoids/hw213532.asp

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im an 18 yr old female. i have a friend angela, she was seeing this guy, brad. they broke up, but they were still having sex. 1 nite they were bout 2 get back 2getha, b4 brad hooked up wit emma, angela's friend. angela 4gave them both. on angela's 21st brad decided he didn't want 2 go out & basically ruined her bday. last week we all spent $60 on tickets to a rave. brad was suppose 2 b coming but didn't show up & didn't call. afta 5mins of being there angela decided she wanted 2 go home.i went with her. on the way out brad called her. she had a fight with him and started 2 cry. brad said he would come pick us up, when he got there she got in the car with him and drove off on me. i made my own way back 2 her house & yelled at brad as he had ruined our day yet again. then we all went out. all nite she made out with him, then when we got bak 2 hers she told me 2 sleep in the lounge so she could have sex wit him. at 1st i said no, then she cracked it saying what a bad freind i was, so i slept in da lounge. i left the next morning. as soon as i left, she started bitching bout the fact i went off at brad. then she fones me up 2 say she wants all her clothes bak, including a top she lent me 6 months ago. i took the top off & left it in my room, which i was sharing wit a girl, jess. i got kicked out the same week & wasn't allowed bak 2 get da top. a week l8r jess moved out, taking da top. then she disconnected her fone, so i cant get in contact wit her now. now angela is saying just 2 give the rest of her clothes bak & stuff the friendship. am i in the wrong?? if so how??

Are you wrong? Why would you be? For doing the right thing?

Listen, it boils down to this: You did your best to look out for her, as any true friend would. She is obviously blind to the fact this guy is using her, and you tried to look out for her. She's lucky to have you for a friend.

He even ruined her birthday. What an a**hole.

My advice? Try to get her stuff back to her. Don't give her anymore reason to be upset with you. Let her cool down about it all.

Honestly, if she's a real friend, it will blow over in time. Hopefully one day she will open her eyes to the situation with this jerk and see where you were coming from.

Sometimes we fight with our friends. Sometimes these fights are big. Sometimes our friends forget that we are the good guys and fighting for their side. And sometimes they come back to dampen our shoulders when they realize how right we were. At that point, we forget all of the tension between us and simply ask "what can I do to help you through this?"

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I really need to lose like 10 lbs. I want to do it unhealthy. I told my mom and she was like ok. So please help me. Because I need tips to resist food.

You want to lose weight in an UNhealthy fashion? And your mother is okay with this?
Hmm... Sounds like somebody should stick a foot in both of your asses, if this is the case.

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Can anyone give me a list of like all the jobs their is for like dental work. Any job that relates to teeth,smiles,whitening,putting in new teeth,strait teeth etc.. That would be awesome if you could do that =) And like how much money you could be making while on the job. And could you like tell me what degree in college you need? Thanks

This may be of some help.

This is a link that goes to a page listing US dental schools. Each school should tell you their available programs and requirements.

http://gradschool.about.com/cs/dentalschools/index.htm

This link goes to a page listing requirements.

http://naturalsciences.ucmerced.edu/2.asp?uc=1&lvl2=66&lvl3=66&lvl4=79&contentid=125

I'm not sure about how to find how much each makes. It probably varies. I do know that those in the dental field make a very comfortable income.

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what is a prick? when someone said oh, hes such a prick.. what does it mean?

It's kind of the same as saying "Oh, she's such a c*nt". Both are meant to be terribly rude.

It is a derogatory word for the male genitalia.

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Lately I have just been spending time with my brother because I am trying to get myself on the right track (in school off alchohal etc.) Am i doing the right thing by taking baby steps on bettering myself and not hanging out with friends?

I think you are doing the right thing. Sometimes it takes small steps to find the right path.

If hanging out with those friends is what puts you on the wrong track, then there is nothing wrong with finding new friends.

Look at it this way- an alcoholic who sobers up tends to not hang out with their old drinking buddies. This is because they choose to start leading a better life for themselves. It's not because they want to shun their old friends, but that they want to steer clear of the old lifestyle their friends lead.

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I really want to empress people because i have the personality but my family doesnt have alot of money to buy me new cloths. how can i put an outfit//hairstyle//makeup together to make me look like a million bucks? =]

Something I doubt you want to hear:

If a person isn't impressed by your outstanding personality because of the clothes you wear, then they aren't worth wasting your time on. You are who you are, not what you look like.

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I have been really depressed lately. ( i have clinical depression anxiety and post traumatic stress dissorder) what are things i can do to make myself feel better about myself and make myself have control over my anger?

I was diagnosed with PTS disorder. In my special situation, anti depressants made it worse. But, each person is different.

While on medication, I was one pissed off girl. I was hateful. After 2 1/2 years of being bounced from one anti depressant to another, I sought a second opinion. He took me off of the meds and was the doctor to diagnose me with PTS disorder.

It took a lot of soul searching and a couple of years, but I got passed it on my own.

When terrible things happen to us, they are sometimes hard to get over. And we can go through some serious personality changes that we feel we have no control over. I felt like an emotional roller coaster. I am assuming something terrible happened to you as well.

Like I said, it was something I had to get past on my own, in my own head. It's not easy to do- I wish it were. Once you find your own personal way to get over the bad stuff and put it in your past, you can learn to get your emotions under control. I did it, and I am a happy person again. It feels so good to not be controlled by something that somebody else did to me.

This may not be what you are looking for, but I thought I would pass to you my own experience.

And also, about the meds, each person is different. They weren't for me. I hated taking them because I felt they were making me worse instead of better. Which, happened to be the way it was in my situation.

P.S. If you aren't seeing a councilor, it may help you to do so. It will give you some one to talk to about your situation who sees it from an outside point of view.

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im doing this research paper on the titanic
and its wayyyy harder then i thought it would be!!!
if anyone could help me think of good reasons why it changes history WITH some good evidence to go with it
you will be my hero

That's why it's called research. Use your own reasons. It is never wise to use some one else's ideas. It does nothing to increase your intelligence level. And, in all honesty, for us to give you these reasons AND evidence is us doing it for you, and for us to do it for you is cheating you out of that much of an education.

And the movie is considered historical fiction, not fact, so it doesn't count for research, so don't use it.

Sorry. Had to say it. Do your own homework.

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are there any heart condtions caused by bulimia??can you expalin them to me like symtpoms?

Heart failure or heart attack. Also, let's not forget organ failure. Death.

When you have bulimia, your body eventually starts to feed off your muscle in order to survive. What's left becomes severely over-worked. So, your heart becomes one of the over-worked muscles.

If you or some one you know has bulimia, treatment needs to be sought ASAP.

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I'm writing a story about a student-teacher crush. It's not a frivolous mood or anything but rather a serious and "heavy" mood.

Now, the teacher is the coach for the softball team and at first the teacher came onto her just a little [but not too obviously] and now she's becoming a little more agressive and flirted with him recently [basically touch his legs at a football game]. And she's very jealous of the coach's current 2-year girlfriend.

I want the story to end as the girl being the aggressive, want to make a relationship happen kind of thing (I know, not the usual teacher-bad student-victim scene but rather vice versa)

I've gotten to the point where they have flirted just very little that aren't too obvious to outsiders but obvious to each other and the girl touched his leg. And then they left and blah blah. Now I don't know how to carry on the story.

I want the next chapter to carry on the whole "little clues here and there" thing. Not a admit they like each other, go out, blah blah. Can anyone help me?

Hmm... What ever happened to creativity? You aren't being creative or writing your own story asking others to help you write it. That's why you were given a wonderful thing called an imagination...

Sorry. Had to say it.

ANSWER EDIT: Sorry you think it's mean, but I like to write too. If I can't come up with my own story in my own head, I scratch it and move on to something else I can come up with. Maybe an idea for the scratched story will come to me at a later date.

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Alright well my cousin copies me A LOT! I MEAN LIKE ALL THE TIME!
She's a year younger than me...i'm 13/f
-She wears her hair like me all the time
-She's trying to get a cell phone because I got one
-She's getting a perm because my hair is naturally curly
-She tells me im pretty all the time so she tries to look like me
-one time she came up to me and asked me if i liked the song mockingbird by eminem and i was like "no, i hate that song." so she was like "omg me too! it's so annoying." but then my other cousin nick ran up to me and said "she's lying, she told me she LOVED that song!"
It's getting to the point where I don't know her because she's trying to be me! She needs to be her own person but i dont know how to tell her cuz i've tried and it never worked. she's been copying me for years and i've confronted her about it like 3 times...
but i get jealous when she temporarily stops copying me and copies someone else
REALLY JEALOUS!
but whenever i ask her something like..."do you like the song say it right by nelly furtado?" she'll ask me if i like it first shell be like " i don't know do you?" and then if i say yes shes like "me too it's awesome." so then i change my mind a minute later and say "nah maybe not" so she says "Me neither" so i can keep changing my mind and she'll change it with me!
help! i don't know if i want her to stop!
i just need to make up my mind,

I guess you could look at it this way- she looks up to you as a role model.

I like how you think she should be her own person, because I think that is very important. Otherwise, she is a follower instead of being a unique individual.

Try to teach her that it's better to like her own things, have her own style, and develop her own opinion rather than liking things because some one else does.

This will cure you jealousy, because she isn't copying some one else, and it will cure your frustration that she's copying you.

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I have a serious hate for people where I live. They use labels constantly & it's annoying. I don't get what joy they get out of degrading someone else for their music tastes & clothing choices.

What's the deal with labels? And why do people use them? I don't get it. But labels should die & so should the people who use them. Nobody's a soup can.

I agree with MikeCFT. They are everywhere you go. Yah, they suck. But people put labels on each other at every age and in every walk of life. There is no escaping it, you just have to learn to let it roll off your back.

When I was in highschool, I was labeled too. Want to know what? I didn't care what people thought of me then, and I sure as hell don't care what people think of me now. Go ahead. Label me. I don't rightly care.

I look at it this way, I am who I am. Don't like it? That's your own too bad. Don't like me? Buzz off, you're not worth a lick of my time anyway.

Really, you have to be that way too keep them from getting to you. You say those who label others should die. They are getting to you, which is their point. That's letting them win. They only make you feel like a soup can if you let them.

Remember this- though we aren't above anyone, we CAN strive to be above their actions. And hate does nothing for you other than make you feel ugly inside, and there's no point in that.

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hi
i am house wife from india . actually i want to know wht r all the symtoms of prganancy after how many days v should check how v know tht v r prganent .nw i get back ache my friend say this also symtom of preganent hw can i confirm it. i never get any vomiting bt my period dates extended pls help me and answer i am vry eagar my husband also is vry eagar to know it pls reply me clearly as quick as possible


http://www.coolnurse.com/pregnancy_signs.htm

This link to pregnancy symptoms at coolnurse.com should give you the information you seek.

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In my opinion, I don't think I have a bad personality. I'm not stuck up, I don't cause any drama, I'm honest, I can keep secrets, and I'm nice unless someone gives me a reason not to be. I mean, I can be "mean" sometimes with guys except I'm kidding and they know it. I'm not shy, but I'm not incredibly outgoing -- I'm just normal there. Plus, all of my friends say I'm hilarious. Most of my friends, who are girls tell, me I'm pretty and I've had some of my guy friends tell me I'm "hot". I'm not stupid, but I'm not a genius. Since pretty much everyone but me cares about this at my school...people say I'm popular (I hate that word and I don't care about "popularity" just to make that clear). The thing is, I've never had a boyfriend -- NOT ONCE. I don't get it. Every single one of my friends has at least had ONE boyfriend sometime in their life, but me. No, I don't only want one cause "everyone" has one. In your opinion, does it sound like I'm doing something wrong? Why can't I get a boyfriend?

Sounds like a guy would be lucky to have you. Sounds like your personality is pretty tops. It may be that more guys see you as the friend-type.

There's nothing wrong with that at all, but you need to make a statement to the ones you want to go out with that you can be more than just a great friend, because you can be a great girlfriend.

Of course there is flirting, and then there is outright asking them on a date. From the way you present yourself, I think guys would accept a date more often than not.

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Well im best friends with this girl.. lets call her Lily, well me and lily are best friends and im also really good friends, with this girl we can call Wendy
Well me and Wendy have been friends since like 3 grade
Well me and Lily been best friends since 6
Well Lily sometimes bothers me and trys to act cool but like doesnt try to, idkk its weird
well me and Lily are always laughing at her for stuff.
But do you think its mean? bcuz when we are we these certain people she will make me feel like a retard and stuff
but me and Wendy will make fun of her but then she ends up getting really made sometimes but gets over it.. like soon
its so stupid and confusing
i dont know whats going on
shoud i stop with the jokes??

I would stop, because yes, it IS mean. I never understood the point of belittling others for fun. It hurts the other person, and, really, what's the point in that?

She is your friend, yet you treat her this way. Tisk, tisk on you.

It's sad that she allows you to make her the butt of your jokes. It's sad that she still calls YOU friend. It's sad she doesn't think enough of herself to not put up with you and your other friend treating her like a rug to wipe your feet on.

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http://www.fantasticfiction.co.uk/l/lois-lowry/anastasia-absolutely.htm
what type of dog is in this picture?
thankyou!

Looks to me like it could be a shih tzu.

http://www.pingxiangshihtzu.com/archivio/immagini/shih%20tzu%20p.jpg

There's a picture of one at that link.

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