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So I like this boy, and he told me that he's taking AP Physics next year and that's really the main reason that inspired me to take it. Am I insane for doing this? I mean, I AM smart and highly motivated...Is this a "good" thing that I've done? I mean isn't it possible that a crush can inspire you to work harder and improve yourself in life? That's how I feel when I think of him. After wasting my time on a guy that only brought misery to my life (in terms of a semi self-destructive relationship) I want something more. I have such big dreams for my future and I know it sounds silly but my crush really does inspire me. A part of me thinks that this makes me some obsessive creep and that I might be in over my head. But the more I think of the class I think about how interesting it will be. All my high school career I've been chickening out of advanced math and science mainly out of fear. So I don't know, is this a good idea?

Yes i do think that it's a good idea you being smart & being highly motivated are two advantages for you they will most likely help you i don't think
it's silly that your crush inspires you everyone needs some type of inspiration and it just so happens that your crush is yours there's nothing wrong with that if you truely want to take the class
then i say go for it..it's worth a shot things may turn out differently then your thinking you never know challenge yourself you maybe surprised at how things turn out(:

I am trying to be more healthy. I usually eat chips or chocolate whenever im in the mood for a snack and i need a new idea.

What are some quick healthy snacks i can get? Thanks !

You can eat some fruit like banana's apple's orange's Jello yogurt carrots strawberries watermelon celery pudding grapes baked chips popcorn
without butter pretzels broccoli any type of vegetables smoothies crackers those are just some suggestions of some healthy snacks you can eat if you'd like more then you should probably research it(:

I am a 25 year old female. And it's this guy I've been seeing for the past month. Ok here goes... Our first time being togeather we went out to eat. And everytime following we only went to his place. We have been intimate everytime we see each other and we only see each other like at night mainly after ten at night.

I have gained really deep feelings for this guy in such a short peiord of time. I usually go over his house because he lives alone, and my aunt lives with me until she gets her own home. And when I do go over we usually watch a movie. But what I've come to notice is he don't cuddle with me during the movie he don't put his arm around me only time he wants to cuddle is mainly when we are about to have sex. And we mainly have sex after we finish watching the movie. And another thing I notice is that he shows no emotion towards me. He's always getting phone calls late at night and he runs in the room to answer the phone.

And just the other day when I was over, I forced him to have a talk with me. I asked him how he really felt about me and I told him I tiered of just having sex and I didn't want to this time. So he told me told me thathe had to meet with his brother and I had to leave. I was hurt and really confused.

And yesterday I found out my best friend of twenty years past away. And when I got the news I was over his house. He didn't confort me he didn't hold me and I was really crying... He just took me home and he still haven't call to check up on me. It's easy to just leave a guy alone that you don't really care about but... When theres feeling involved it's always so hard for me to leave. Usually their the ones who leave me and that's how I usually move on. And it's so hard right now alot of things in my life haven't been going right. What should I do? And how can I do it?

I think you should confront him and ask him if he
truely has feeling's for you say that when he left
to go meet his brother & said you had to leave it hurt you and left you really confused also ask him why he didn't comfort you once you found out the news about your best friend tell him you deserve a explaination and say that you'd like to do more things other then having sex otherwise it will start to get boring quickly it seems to me like he's just using you for sex and doesn't do much of anything elese but your best option would be to confront him and tell him everything your feeling get it all out in the open and see how it goes from there in the end it's your choice whether or not you want to continue with the relationship(:

I'm sorry for the loss of your friend

so theres this guy i reeally like but he still likes his ex. but where quite good friends for a while but then it kinda stopped cause he knew that i like him. now since i told him that i dont anymore ( i lied :/ ; he told me that he stopped talking to me cause he didnt know how to handle the situation ) we talk again & he always gives me loads of eye contact, when we walk next to eachother we touch arms, when we have classes together he sometimes turns around to look/smile at me, he often smiles at me and everytime he sees me there's a spark in his eye. ive even been asked if we're going out so i guess im not the only one who sees it. so is there a chance that he maybe likes me back but doesnt know it cause he's so focused on liking his ex?? (he's liked her for a long time now but she has a bf and isnt interested)
is there any way to make him realise that i am likeable too? cause we have soo much in common & he really seems to like me as a person so ..
& he also often plays around with my hair haha
so is there a chance that he might like me back but doesnt know it?
& he did all those things before i told him i like him as well. he also continued keeping eyecontact when we didnt talk that much anymore. i like him soooo much & i cant get over him :/

Yes i think there's a chance that he could like you
back but doesn't know it that's a possblity him doing all those things to you is a advantage for you that probably means that he actually likes you also the both of you having things in common will make it easier for you to talk to one another and have conversations you'll have more to talk about be outgoing & continue to talk to him flirt a little it's worth a shot if you like him like you say you do who knows maybe you two will end
up being more then just friends in the future(:

Where To Start?
Ok my boyfriend broke up with me at the end of last month. I was heartbroken, although I felt it coming. We had been dating for almost 4 months, but we had been trying to get together for around 3/4 months before hand (It was quite difficult for us to be together, his friend was madly in love with me) We dated for around 2 weeks at one point, then we fell out with eachother & didn't speak again until he contacted me almost 3 months later. Throughout that time I could not get over him - as much as I wanted to. I still thought about him every day. So we've liked eachother a long time & he told me he was falling in love with me. Literally one day he was saying I was perfect, he'd never been happier with a girl, 2 days later he seemed a bit off with me. I asked if anything was wrong and he said no he's just been confused and stressed out lately. I thought I would leave him to deal with things in his own way & he'd come round again, but he didn't. I asked him whether he still wanted to be with me since he hadn't spoken to me in days & he said he likes me a lot, but he wasn't sure how he feels anymore. My personal opinion is that he didn't want a relationship anymore, he has never committed to anyone like he did with me so I think it got too much for him. His reasons were that he didn't really know what he wanted & was confused about the way he felt. When we broke up he was very persistent that we stayed friends however I told him I couldn't be friends with him because it would be too difficult for me. He was pretty angry that I didn't want to be friends, but I felt that he had chosen to end the relationship & I respected that (whether I wanted that or not) so he should respect my decision to also end the friendship. Although now I regret it, because I feel like I have lost him completely. I don't want people to say "Just move on" "Get on with your life" Yes, I am getting on with my life & eventually i'm sure I will move on, but it's going to be really hard for me, I couldn't get over him the last time. We haven't spoken at all in 2 weeks now & my thoughts were to wait another 2 weeks & if he doesn't contact me I will move forward without him. Do you think this is a good idea? Also, do you think the whole "No Contact" will make him miss/appreciate me? Thanks :-)

Yes i do think that having no contact with him will
make him miss you and appreciate you that's possible seeing as he wanted to be friends with you after the both of you broke up i think you should wait and see what happens if he doesn't contact you then yes move forward ending a relationship is never
easy so of course it's going to be tough for you seeing as you couldn't get over him the last time
but the best thing you can do is be patient and wait
things could change and not end up like how your thinking they will(:

To start it off..I know I'm Young I'm 14..8th grader. My Boyfriend is 2 years older. Yes age diffrence I know. From the day I met this guy..on fb...(my best friend added him for me) So my friend always talked about how funny, cute and sensitive he is. At first I didn't think anything would happen..but after we talked for hours, and when my best friend and him called me for the first time I realized I was falling falling hard for him..At the same time I was dating my ex..and I didn't always feel we were "right" ..I always thought "Well, he's probably not the "one" I have alot more guys to expierence and meet." Sadly I didn't think we had a conection. He would play games with other girls..he would get angry at my friends..He never called or texted me. I felt unwanted..but when I met my bf that I'm dating now..when we werent even dating..he made me feel good about myself.He made me laugh, smile..made me feel amazing. I always went to bed with a smile on my face thinking of him. When, i broke up with my ex, for my bf now. Everything felt diffrent and it was a good diffrent. Now, we went threw a lot..he had feelings for someone else..he felt so bad over it he made a sucide attempt..well I already knew he cuts himself..it was a horrible night for us. We cried for hours over it..>.< Now things are doing ok he told me the truth about everything he wants me and Only me My brother is always mad at me..my mom doesn't like me talking to my bf after school..we talk for hours because we can't see each other at all..I love my bf he is the only one who i can really talk to.My brother says its sad that im so dependent on him, but i Can't help it. My brother judges my bf before he even knows him..if they only tried to get to know him they would realize how specail my bf really is

No you aren't a bad person your age is just a number nothing more if you don't like how your family is treating your boyfriend then you should speak up and tell them exactly how you feel say that
your boyfriend makes you happy and that they should accept that and unless your boyfriend tries to hurt you or does something he's not suppose to then they shouldn't be worried even though they are your family and they probably have your best interest at heart and only want what's best for you tell your family that if they'd take the time out to listen to
what you've got to say then maybe you wouldn't be so dependent on your boyfriend(:

alright, i could write ALOT about this, so i'm going to try my best and be brief. me and my mom have always been on and off, fighting pretty good and then other times we're totally fine and happy.

but anyways, i'm going on 19 in the next couple of months, have been in college for about half a year now, have had a steady job for two years and some friends of mine (i commute) were thinking of all getting a place together and asked me (which makes me happy cause i really only get to see them when i go to school or stay after school and don't ride the bus home so i can hang with them). well i mentioned this to my mom and she was just flat-out no about it. other situations liek this have happened - i'm going to a concert a state away and she FREAKED out when she heard cause i didn't run it by her. a friend a couple hours away wants me to come visit at their college but i'd have to take a train - "no". i want tattoos/piercings, but i can't get any unless i want kicked out of the house, but i can get them when i get my own place. well i just TRIED to and i can't! i understand where she's coming from, she's my mom and everything, but i just feel like she's not realizing i'm going on 19. my brothers a couple years older and he just randomly'll go out come home at 4am sleep all day and yeah she blows up on him but it just seems like there's that "oh well that's typical him "attitude to it and when it's something i did it's like, "how could you"? the most rebellious thing i ever did was went behind her back a couple years ago and gauged my ears and they're not even that big.

i just don't know what to do. i've tried talking to her about it and it just seems like she doesn't want to listen and "she's right". it just pisses me off cause it's like i need to abide by all HER rules in her home until i get my own place, but then i TRY to and she still says no. its just driving me crazy cause i just have no idea what to do.

i don't even know if this is something anybody can really give me advice on (my mom really doesn't like hearing anything that would put HER in the wrong; she just likes her side of the story), this may have been just more of a rant type of situation but if anyone feels like they can give any input i'd much appreciate it. i can try to explain it more if there's even more to explain, really, haha.

Even though your mother only likes to hear what she wants to hear you've got to speak up for yourself and make her realize that your going to be 19 your no longer a minor your legal your able to take care of yourself she maybe your mother but she can't control your life forever your in control of it to a certain extent she can but you've got to be your own person & do your own things have your own identity be independent tell her your responsible seeing as your in college and you've had a steady job for two years at some point she's got to let go of you to allow you to experience different things and everything the world has to offer if you trying to talk to her still doesn't help you could try getting
one of your family members involved maybe that will change her mind about the situation(:

i really like this guy alot & we where sorta best friends for a while until i told him that i fancy him. after that he ignored me and we also had a few fights about him ignoring me when i was drunk at a few parties. soo we recently talked about it calmly and he said that he does want to be friends again & that he made a mistake ( i also told him i dont fancy him anymore which isnt true to be honest :/ )
so since then we said hello to eachother again in the hallway & we also say hi when we have classes together. today he even stroked my hair. but the thing is that i wanna become really good friends again which is a lil hard because he has LOADS of friends & most of them dont like me which makes it really hard to talk to him while he's talking to them. and im also really shy.so how can i become better friends again? i dont think the time is right to ask if he wants to hang after school cause we still barely talk. what should i do? smile at him more or something? cause i often pretend like i dont see him or that im not paying too much attention to him cause i get really nervouss when he's around haha but i dont want him to think that i NEED him or anything.. i might give him the impression cause i dont have a lot of friends.

You shouldn't care what his friends think or if they like you if your unable to talk to him while
he's talking to his friends then pull him aside privately and talk to him start conversation with him and see where it goes from there if you start to
get nervous then take deep breaths to calm yourself down believe in yourself and be confident otherwise your self esteem will go down you could try smiling
at him and talking to him more then maybe he'll get the hint that your wanting to be friends with him again(:

Does plagiarism apply only to copyrighted material? To what extent does plagiarism apply?

If someone made a joke and someone else told the joke is that plagiarism? Or if someone writes a story online and someone else steals the plot, characters, and main events but puts it in their own words is that plagiarism?

I have a basic understanding of plagiarism. That being when you claim someone else's work as your own. But to what extent?

Maybe I'm just thinking to hard about it but thanks in advance!

I don't think plagiarism only apply's to copyrighted
material it could apply to someone stealing another
person's work in school or even on the internet books magazines or journals there's many things it could apply too i don't think if someone elese told a joke then that'd be considered plagiarism yes i think if another person stole the plot characters & main events of a story and put it in their own words i think that'd be considered a form of plagiarism because they'd be stealing it without the authors knowledge(:

Hope i helped

hey! ok i have a friend and i guess she was just using me to get next to a guy she likes . the guy she likes is my friend and everytime i used to tell her he called me and things like that she would be calling me everyday. now that they aint together anymore she doesnt even bothers calling me..is not only that, is that a big problem happened...so i guess she hardly talks to me because of that big problem..but what bothers me is that in school she is all nice to me and is always looking for me but once she is out of school "pufff" she dissaperas..not even thru myspace she talks to me..it just pisses me off..and her cusin died and i was the one that was mostly there for her and she says am the only one that gives her good advices but now i dont even feel like talking to her..i think she is so fake towards me :( can you please help me. am sorry if this is too long . i just need some help on how to act with her.

I think you should confront her and say that she shouldn't of used you seeing as it isn't right and
that's not what friends do to one another she could
of confronted the boy herself & did whatever she needed to do she didn't need to bring you into the
situation unless she needed your help or advice yes
she is acting fake towards you seeing as she used you tell her she is going to have to gain your trust
back you can't hold a grudge aganist her seeing as
you'll go crazy doing that you'll have to forgive her sometime but talk to her about it & tell her how you feel then hopefully the situation will be
resolved(:

do oppasites really attract?
this guy i like is soo sweet and such a gentleman and a total musclehead and he does football and hunting and all, hes never been to a concert and has never played an instrument, he is totally against any type of smoking or drinking. he stays home most of the time and his parents are extremely strict though, he lives in the middle of nowhere and is a freshman. but he is extremely tall and built.
me on the other hand i live for art and music, i paint draw sculpt n all and do so much, for music i do guitar and know how to do piano n clarinet. i sing n write music and concerts are my favorite thing to go to. im always out with friends n never home and am very outgoing as he is quiet. i smoke but not cigaretts which is a battle to him. i live in the center of everyone and everything. im vegetarian and a pacifist. my parents are protective yet not strict at all and im a sophmore.
he makes me feel so important and loved and tiny compared to him which i am skinny but im tall and thats the thing i hate the most about myself but im only to his shoulders he has to bend down to hug me :)
does anyone think this would work? we both like eachother but i just got out of a bad relationship of which i was emotionally or mentally abused and also cheated on many times, so i said i dont want to date yet, also gives me time to decide. ..but i dont want to be held back like i want to go to concerts and still be able to party with my friends and not be went off on for it like my ex always did to me, so im paranoid. and i would never ever cheat or even get with a guy im not dating. help?

You both liking one another is advantage for you i think you should date him once your ready it's worth a shot if things don't work out for some reason then you'll know you know you tried trying is better then not doing anything at all even though both of you are different that doesn't mean that you won't have things in common in the future it could happen once you get to know one another better i think you should go for it just because your last boyfriend cheated on you and did other things to you doesn't exactly mean that if you date the boy you like now he will do the same thing all boys are different and aren't the same i'm sure if you date you'll still have time to do the things you want & be able to balance your boyfriend too(:

h3y h3y im realli stuck becuz well i like this gurl and shes been my best friend since forever and she has a friend who i realli like too.. and i just cannot seem to decidie who i like more..and i dont wanna hurt some1 cuz they both like me wut should i do..am i a bad person for liking both?

No you aren't a bad person for liking both of them
you've got to do what will make you happy because in
the end that's the main thing that truely counts choose which girls you could see yourself with & who
you'll get along with better everything happens for a reason & if you choose one girl well then for the
other girl it means that things aren't meant to be between you two do what you think is right(:

Hey,my names Alyssa.& i broke up with my boyfriend Zack in like the middle of january. and we used to sit at the same lunch table and the day i broke up with him this other kid Mark got everyone in the table to put their legs out and take up all the seats so that i couldnt sit down. so i went and sat with these girls Roni, kim cait sam and dana, that day one of the girls wernt there and so i sat in her seat.that was yesterday. and today that girl was in school so i had to find somewhere else to sit. the only place i could find was behind Zacks table. i was really embarresed because Mark kept saying stufff reallly loud like "ALYSSA HAS NO FRIENDS! IF YOUR HER FRIEND, YOU GAY TOO!" and when i started eating, they started throwing food at me! and i ran to the bathroom and started crying. and i dont know what to do! my bestfriends turned agnst me. please help me.

You should stick up for yourself you should never
allow someone to push you around & treat you badly
you don't deserve to have food thrown at you or to be called names that's mean confront Mark and say
he needs to stop being mean to you because it's not right & i'm sure he wouldn't want to be treated badly like he's treating you if your best friends turned aganist you then they don't deserve to be in your life that's not what best friends do to one another also tell Mark & his friends that they are acting childlish and they need to grow up and the things they are doing to you are stupid & that they
shouldn't be doing them just because you broke up with Zack(:

I'm an 18-year-old female and I'm really lonely. I have friends but I don't feel like they really care about me or would mind if I wasn't around. I've tried talking to them about how I feel and they don't listen. My parents are the same. I don't like my personality or how I look but I can't seem to change it. I try to be social but I just end up feeling miserable. I was diagnosed with depression and had some councilling but it just made me feel worse and when I went back to my doctor, she just sent me away with a reccomendation for more. I feel sad and isolated all the time and I don't know what to do.

You can't think negatively because if you do you'll make the situation worst & you'll make yourself feel worst also try to think positively even though it won't be easy everyone has things they don't like about themselves or they'd like to change it's normal to feel that way but you can't let it get the best of you your in control of your life and only you if you don't like something change whatever you aren't satisfied with until you are if your friends act like that then they don't deserve to be your friends you deserve better one's who will treat you better tell your parents you'd like it if they took the time out to hear what you've got to say and listen as far as feeling isolated you could get your license that way you'll have more freedom to do what you want try & be confident and believe in yourself don't let the fact that you got diagnosed with depression take over your life(:

do they put your brackets on with cedmint?(my brother told me that)

I researched it and found that yes brackets are
cemented onto a person's teeth your brother is correct(:

i don't want to annoy thid guy, but i want to text him. sometimes he doesn't answer & when he does he does a lot of smiley faces. what should i text him? hi :) hey hi hiiii heyyyyy heeeeey yo ?...

I think you should try & start a conversation with him that way he'll send you more then just smiley faces ask him questions about himself or ask if he'd
like to hangout with you sometime so you can get to
know one another better it's worth a shot there's no
harm in asking him if he'd like to hangout the worst
that can happen is he'll say no but at least you know you tried instead of doing nothing(:

i have a really close group of friends. and usually i have a lot of fun with them, sometimes i can't stand them. but today was just terrible.

i had the most problems today with one of my better friends lexi. she was just being taking me to seriously and always contradicting herself by what she was telling me. but the thing that really upset me what in social studies. i have that class with lexi, my best friend, and another close friend.

well, sometimes i say stuff and i don't know why like it's weird but i can't control what i say sometimes.. well i started making fun of deaf people and stutters because i was watching a show last night about them. i know what i said was wrong and i wish i could take it back so don't judge me too harshly.

anyways then lexi said 'you know i'm going to laugh hysterically when you go to hell.' and it was just so mean the way she said it like i saw evil in her eyes. but that really bothered me. and it didn't help that my other friend joins in and says 'yeah, me too.' (and she doesn't believe in that stuff) THEN my best friend says stuff too. i can't really recall what she said but she was definately against me.

it didn't feel nice to be ganged up on so i just ignored them and didn't talk to them the rest of the day.

if it bothered me that much that they said that, like i almost started crying and i don't cry at all, does that make me such a bad person.

i just am really upset by that so if you have any advice on what to do please help.

also, i'm sorry this is so long but if you read it all thanks.

You need to confront your friends & say you didn't mean what you said everybody says things they don't really mean once in a while you aren't perfect you make mistakes and your human tell your one friend Lexi she could of worded what she said differently
so it wasn't like it sounded so harsh that's a mean thing to say to someone also your other friend too since she agreed with her you need to tell them that
what they said really affected you to the point where you were on the verge of tears & that's rare for you seeing as you never cry say you'd like it if they apologized to you..you deserve a apology if i were in your situation i'd feel the same way & no you aren't a bad person for saying what you did you
didn't mean that & they need to know that(:

I want to break up with my long distance relationship. There's no real reason..I honestly just don't feel like being in a relationship anymore. I live in the US, he in the Uk. I'm 19, he's 21. We've never met yet, been dating 8 months. He wants me to visit this summer.

I like him, but I don't love him. He LOVES me, he's actually obsessed. It freaks me out in a way. I tried breaking up with him earlier this week by using excuses about school, and he started crying for about 2 hours. So, I gave in. He told me he couldn't breathe, and that he'd come down here immediately and such. I don't WANT that, I'm scared if I break up with him that he'll show up at my door.

He's a very fragile guy, it took him 2 years to get over his ex, and he still talks about how he never thought he'd love again, blah blah, but then he found me. :/ I do like him, but I want to be free. I hate staying inside all day on the computer to talk to him, I want my life back. I know if I tell him this that he'll have some solution, like: you can go with your friends, or spend less time with me!

Basically, I don't want to be sucked in again. I want to break up with him, not lead him on with false hopes. Can you PLEASE tell me how to go about this? I've been struggling with it for about a month. I want to end it, cut all contact. But, what do I do when he starts crying? I'm not a heartless person, I don't know if I can just hang up on him. Ahh, please help!!!

I think you should tell him that things weren't meant to be between you two and even though things aren't meant to be that doesn't mean he should give up on love completely he'll always have plenty of chances to date and there's plenty of other girls out there besides you he can't force something that isn't meant to be make him realize that even though you don't want to be harsh he needs to hear the truth i don't think he'll show up at your door seeing as he's in the UK & your in the US only way that is possible is if he knows your exact location of where you live if your that scared alert the police in your area tell the boy long distance relationships usually don't work out & it's better to see someone in person face to face there's no point in staying in a relationship if you aren't happy & your miserable(:

Just out of curiosity if u run away from home before your eighteen and they dnt find you but when you turn eighteen you sort of let it known where you are,can you get in trouble for running away by the law?

Yes i think you can get into trouble seeing as you
ran away before your eighteen a person being seventeen is still considered a minor & not legal yet but if you were to runaway when your eighteen i don't think that'd be a problem because you'd be legal and your parents can't say much(:

Me-21/M Her-19/F

So I have been dating this girl for two years. We have been in an on-again-off-again relationship for the past few months. But things were looking up. I had my issues with commitment but things were turning around and in a very good way. But most relationships go that way don't they? Things get tough, but they turn around again and in this case were getting to be much better than they'd ever been. But we had an argument over something stupid. And it's not like it was something that could not be fixed or worked with. But I guess she was tired of it (and I can't blame her we had been coming out of a rough time) and so she left. Just like that she was gone. And so I've been living with an intense emptiness in me for about a week or more now. And I just want to know. How can i win her back? Or if not how can i move on?

Just a side note. I love this girl with all that I am, always have, and it's terrible going without.

She should of given you both the chance to try & make things work instead of leaving so quickly she
should of thought of you & not only herself even though she was tired of it i think you should contact her and say that you love her very much & you always have and you'd like it if she gave you another chance to try and work things out for both of your sakes i think you deserve another chance if contacting her doesn't work then that just means things weren't meant to be between you two you can't force it & you can't beat yourself up over it if they weren't meant to be there's plenty of other girls out there and you'll always have many chances to date that's if you choose to yes it may hurt now because it just happened but evenually the hurt your feeling will fade away & you'll move on(:

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