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Family doesnt want me dating the boy im in love with
To start it off..I know I'm Young I'm 14..8th grader. My Boyfriend is 2 years older. Yes age diffrence I know. From the day I met this guy..on fb...(my best friend added him for me) So my friend always talked about how funny, cute and sensitive he is. At first I didn't think anything would happen..but after we talked for hours, and when my best friend and him called me for the first time I realized I was falling falling hard for him..At the same time I was dating my ex..and I didn't always feel we were "right" ..I always thought "Well, he's probably not the "one" I have alot more guys to expierence and meet." Sadly I didn't think we had a conection. He would play games with other girls..he would get angry at my friends..He never called or texted me. I felt unwanted..but when I met my bf that I'm dating now..when we werent even dating..he made me feel good about myself.He made me laugh, smile..made me feel amazing. I always went to bed with a smile on my face thinking of him. When, i broke up with my ex, for my bf now. Everything felt diffrent and it was a good diffrent. Now, we went threw a lot..he had feelings for someone else..he felt so bad over it he made a sucide attempt..well I already knew he cuts himself..it was a horrible night for us. We cried for hours over it..>.< Now things are doing ok he told me the truth about everything he wants me and Only me My brother is always mad at me..my mom doesn't like me talking to my bf after school..we talk for hours because we can't see each other at all..I love my bf he is the only one who i can really talk to.My brother says its sad that im so dependent on him, but i Can't help it. My brother judges my bf before he even knows him..if they only tried to get to know him they would realize how specail my bf really is <3 I love him and I don't want to lose him..I don't feel like im making any mistakes..and I'm just liseing to what my heart says.. Just how do I keep calm about all of this..and keep strong? I'm not a strong person..my bf knows that. All i need is a person to listen..but i dont feel like i get that from anyone in my family? Just My bf..and my two best friends..am i really bad of a person here? I try my best..
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No you aren't a bad person your age is just a number nothing more if you don't like how your family is treating your boyfriend then you should speak up and tell them exactly how you feel say that
your boyfriend makes you happy and that they should accept that and unless your boyfriend tries to hurt you or does something he's not suppose to then they shouldn't be worried even though they are your family and they probably have your best interest at heart and only want what's best for you tell your family that if they'd take the time out to listen to
what you've got to say then maybe you wouldn't be so dependent on your boyfriend(:
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You are not a bad person at all, you cannot help you love just as you can't help who you don't. Your family doesn't know how you feel or how your boyfriend is with you, they are probably just worried about you and because he made a suicide attempt they may fear that he may convince you to do the same with him(unreasonable yes, but parents often panic about small things). I think the best thing for you to do is sit down and talk to your family about how you feel about him, tell them WHY you feel this way about him. Its very difficult when the people around you do not understand your feelings and try to take away the thing that you care about, but in the end you have to do what makes you happy and what is best for you. If you really love him, then I say stay with him, yes you will get lots of crap from your family, but if you really love him they will start to see.
Its great that you found someone that really makes you happy, but keep this in mind you ARE young and you have your whole life ahead of you. Trust me on this, I have been a serious relationship for the past almost 7 years(2 different relationships totaling in 7 years) and I married my husband when I was 18, we have been married for almost 8 months. Now I love my husband more than anyone in this world, and he is always there for me and understands me, but I really missed out on some crucial things in the relationship before this one, I don't regret it. I just think you need to think about all of this, you are 14 years old, you don't need to be tied down right now. Be a kid, go to parties, have a good time, spend time with your friends, because you are going to turn around and its all going to be gone and it will be too late for any of this. You don't have to find 'the One' right now, in fact very few high school sweethears stay together, not saying its impossible but unlikely. Don't limit yourself :) Think about everything and make your own decision.
Now as for your boyfriends suicide attempt and cutting, I know you didn't ask about it but I feel like I must address it, this is very very dangerous and I think that if he isn't/hasn't spoken to a professional that he definatly needs to. It seems like he has some emotions that he needs to get out in the open and sort through, a counselor will be able to help him find a way to sort through them in a healthy way.
Good Luck, I know being a teen sucks, but trust me you'll get through it :)
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First off your not a bad person at all. your in love and thats fine. Maybe talk to your family and tell them how you really feel about this whole thing. Honestly your 14, you shouldnt be so dependent on one person because you are so young. you might think he is the only one but honestly you really dont know what else is out there for you. there could be another guy that treats you as good or better than your current boyfriend does now. and im not saying for you to leave him but you have to see where your family is coming from too. give them hope and tell them that you wont be with him forever and im sure they will start to like him a little more. Talk to your boyfriend about this too. and help him understand.
Hope i heleped (: if you need anything else just ask!
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