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Why do I continue to let myself down!
I am a 25 year old female. And it's this guy I've been seeing for the past month. Ok here goes... Our first time being togeather we went out to eat. And everytime following we only went to his place. We have been intimate everytime we see each other and we only see each other like at night mainly after ten at night.
I have gained really deep feelings for this guy in such a short peiord of time. I usually go over his house because he lives alone, and my aunt lives with me until she gets her own home. And when I do go over we usually watch a movie. But what I've come to notice is he don't cuddle with me during the movie he don't put his arm around me only time he wants to cuddle is mainly when we are about to have sex. And we mainly have sex after we finish watching the movie. And another thing I notice is that he shows no emotion towards me. He's always getting phone calls late at night and he runs in the room to answer the phone.
And just the other day when I was over, I forced him to have a talk with me. I asked him how he really felt about me and I told him I tiered of just having sex and I didn't want to this time. So he told me told me thathe had to meet with his brother and I had to leave. I was hurt and really confused.
And yesterday I found out my best friend of twenty years past away. And when I got the news I was over his house. He didn't confort me he didn't hold me and I was really crying... He just took me home and he still haven't call to check up on me. It's easy to just leave a guy alone that you don't really care about but... When theres feeling involved it's always so hard for me to leave. Usually their the ones who leave me and that's how I usually move on. And it's so hard right now alot of things in my life haven't been going right. What should I do? And how can I do it?
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Are you kidding me? When I was reading this I thought he might have an explantion or he is just a strange guy in general.
But when I got to the middle till the end. Well, What can I say besides I am completely unbelievably shocked.
The dude is a jerk (i'm sorry for you friend) and he should be comforting you even if he has no feelings for you at a situation such.
You are right, maybe a lot has been going in your life and that's why you don't need drama and you need to let him go.
If you don't do it now, then you will get attached more and soon, it will become harder to let go.
But it's alright, the world isn't over, there is other fish in the sea and plus you got the mean fish.
A person who makes you get hurt and confused, then he is most definitely not worth your time.
But if you or myself misjudged him then I guess he will call and explain his behavior.
Good Luck =]
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Very Sory about your friend passing... And I hope you will learn from her life and apply the postive to yours...
You're in a bad siuation that you must leave. And by your friend passing it should really be a wake up call for you to want to move on...
This guy cleary doesn't have respect for you, he's using you for his own sexual needs... And he proably is in a relationship or have others tucked on the side...
He's clearly using you for sex... And it shows so much in your words that you want so much more... But you are only playing yourself short if you expect more out of someone who's clearly unwilling to give you what you want...
He's not honest with you and I believe he knows you want more... But he's a user type of guy someone who prey on women such as yourself and uses you up until he fills he's had enough...
It's very clear, look at his reaction... When you found out your friend has passed... Any normal human being would have comfort you and adleast checked up on you... And heres a guy that you have been giving your body and soul to... and he doesn't have the least bit of care concerning you...
It seems as if he's cold and he turned his feelings off when it concerns you... You know why because his main agenda was to bed you.. Not grow close to you... And I'm sure that you are a beautiful amazing girl... And at a time like this you need to surround yourself with friends and family... People who care deeply for you not the likes of this guy...
Your way better than someone's roll in the hay.. And I don't mean to come off so direct but what you seek is advice... And you've already been lied to enough... Leave him alone for your own sake... And please learn the to tell signs of someone who care and someone who don't...
The best of luck to you and always....
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Sorry to hear about your friend.
This guy has gotta go! You should never have to force someone who cares about you to talk to you.
Its obvious this guy is emotionally just not there.
He just wants sex not a relationship. You can do a lot better than him. All you have to do is tell him its not working out for you, then don't go out with him again. Don't even bother talking to him again since he doesn't have a lot to say anyway.
It will be hard to do but waiting will only make it harder on you. Dump him and find someone who really cares about you.
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First of all, about your best friend, I am so sorry for your loss, there is nothing you can do about it but remember her with the good, and pray for her to be in heaven.
Second of all, about the guy, from what he said, he doesn't love you, this is not love, but it could be several things. It could be him wasting time, or it could be him only using you for the sex but indirectly, covering his act up by watching a movie or doing anything else so he wouldn't look like he just wants you for the sex, or he could be involved in another complicated relationship maybe where he isn't satisfied sexually or it could be a long distance relationship or something like that.
Either ways, he doesn't love you, but apart from that, he doesn't even have humanity enough to care for you when something like your friend dying happens. Any human being, even if he doesn't love you or care for you, a stranger would still comfort you in a situation like that, and apparently he's some freak who just spends with you time to get laid and to cum or something and be satisfied.
I advise you to leave him completely and to lose complete contact with him, and do not talk to him or go over to his house again, and don't even confront him about it, cause obviously he'll hide from your confrontment like how he did last time, when he was probably not going over to his brother. And i mean, the phonecalls he gets, and how he leaves to go answer them, then its obvious he's doing something wrong or is involved with someone else.
I know its hard letting go, but its amazing and a great feeling to be with someone else who loves you and would cherish you and respect you and cuddle you while watching a movie, and care for you, and be the shoulder you want when something bad happens to you like your friend passing away. See the bad in him and what a horrible freak person he is, and please back out and leave him for good. Try to take a break from everything, especially after your friend passing away and everything, if you can just sit alone for a while, not in a depressed suicidal way, but in a way to figure things out. Don't rush into relationships and intentionally look for love, but let love come on its own and find you, because then that would be true love, you can't force love out of someone.
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I think you should confront him and ask him if he
truely has feeling's for you say that when he left
to go meet his brother & said you had to leave it hurt you and left you really confused also ask him why he didn't comfort you once you found out the news about your best friend tell him you deserve a explaination and say that you'd like to do more things other then having sex otherwise it will start to get boring quickly it seems to me like he's just using you for sex and doesn't do much of anything elese but your best option would be to confront him and tell him everything your feeling get it all out in the open and see how it goes from there in the end it's your choice whether or not you want to continue with the relationship(:
I'm sorry for the loss of your friend
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I can understand that it's hard to leave somebody. Even if you should. It's great to have somebody to be with. Based upon what you have said, it would appear that your guy is just using you for sex. Hate to be so blunt, but I would doubt your relationship with him progresses much past what it is now. Unless you are ok with the arrangement you have, I would suggest moving on. There are plenty of people out there that will treat you right, they are just harder to find.
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