he asked a girl and she said yes.. how do i tell her it was my brother??? i dont want to hurt her feelings.
Just tell her, it's really that simple. At the end of the day it's better to tell her the truth now rather than long it out more and more. Why did your brother even do it? If he likes her sugest he get his own account so he can speak to her on that (and advise her of the change) but if he was just playing about then by all means I think you should just tell her it was him while you wasn't around and you wanted to let her know what he had done and such. She may get hurt or upset but as I said, it'll be better in the long run to just let her know now rather than later.
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hey. um well i have a problem. a little while ago, my spacebar just kinda like, got caught on something i guess & i have to apply a lot of pressure on it for it to work. i tried
- shaking the keyboard while pressing the keyboard to move any particles
- cleaning the keyboard with a blowthing that removies dirt & dust
- pressing the spacebar in different places to put it back in its original position
can someone help me? usually i just tap it & it would work fine. it's like there's something underneath it?
As Master_Betty said just pull it off. :] With most keyboards the keys are simply pushed into sockets so if you put a flat head screwdriver under the spacebar and slowly push it up and out it will just pop out. Keep a close eye open under it because the spacebar sometimes has an extra little bit under it (a metal bit) so you'll be wanting to put that back the same way afterwards. After that just clean it properly or remove and dirt and such under there and pop the spacebar back on and it should work fine after that. You may have to open the whole keyboard up if you cant pull the keys off or it still causes you problems in which case it will mean there is something in the way between the keys and the actual microchip board inside. As long as you're careful you should be able to put it all back together again but if you've got an expensive keyboard I would suggest having someone open it who know what they are doing.
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ok there's these 3 girls. one of them is two faced so when its just me and her we're friends but when she's around the other two shes a bitch. a long time ago one of the other girls spread a rumor about me and thats how i stopped being friends with her. the third one i'll get to in a minute. alright here's a little backround on the first two. girl number one, the two faced one has made out with 3 guys in one week and doesnt realize they don't want relationships with her because, well she's easy. the second girl has never had a boyfriend...ever but she's done everything except vaginal sex with several guys. a few months ago i gave my best guy friend a hand job because we were friends with benefits i guess. the third girl is his ex girlfriend but they're still best friends i guess. this was the first time i did anything with a guy who wasn't my boyfriend. normally i won't even kiss a guy unless im going out with them. alright so i told my best friend about it. back in february this guy also felt me up and i told one of the slutty girls about it back when we were friends. she thought i lied about it because the guy denied it so she spread this huge rumor that got around to the entire school that im a liar. i lost a lot of friends because of it, but i never lied. anyway my best friend was defending me against this slutty girl who spread the rumors and she told her that i gave this guy a hand job. of course now that got around to everyone and those three girls are telling people im a whore. how do i get called a whore for being with one guy and they're just normal for being with a ton of guys? i want to say something to them that's really going to shut them up. slowly i've been telling people the real story and getting them back on my side so i've been getting more and more friends against them but i really want to say something to them. what should i say? i want it to be harsh, witty and something that says "dont mess with me", i don't have a threatening appearance so it cant be like "im gonna kick ur a$$" because they know i wouldnt be able to do it. so help me please!!!
The biggest question is why do you even care? Who cares what they think? I don't. I doubt your friends would (the real ones that is). So as I said, why's it even matter? People like this will be something you'll need to put up with all your life (sad people who have no life basically). So they need to spread and talk about other people behind their back so they have something to do. I generally ignore it and my friends do the same. At the end of the day if they do hear something they come to me and ask me about it and not judge me by something some people said who don't even like me in the first place.
You're right though that you're not a whore - far from it. They seem to not have learnt that, "He without sin cast thy first stone." Their in no position to be calling you a whore after the stuff they have done but then that's something that happens all the time. If a guy 'does stuff' with a dozen girls in a week he's looked upon as a stud but when it's a girl who does the same she's sudenly a whore. I guess it just proves people are stupid and judgemental and fail to see theirown short comings before being the first to point out everyones elses. Just ignore it. As you said you got most your friends back but even after that I would question just how much a friends they really are if they decided to believe everyone else about a pathetic rumour instead of coming to you to ask you about it. If you really need to say something then by all means point out what those two have done compared to what you did and who now seems more the whore. :] It should shut them up. Otherwise I think you should just ignore it and get on with more important things instead of worrying about pathetic people like that. :]
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This is kind of a complex problem, I'll attempt to be as concise as possible and any thoughts you might have would be really useful food for thought.
My problem is in the way that I communicate myself to people I have just met. I seem to give off some kind of vibe that suggests that I want to get really close to people really fast. This happens with both men and women and I have a long history of it. It's much worse with men because of the obvious sexual aspect. Suddenly people I've just met are telling me intimate details of their lives and acting like we're life-long friends, or worse some guy I've just met figures he can start touching me or even directly asking me to sleep with him! After only an hour or so conversation! It's not everyone I meet of course, but it happens a lot-they don't seem to get that I want relationships (platonic and otherwise) to proceed at a sane pace. What's even worse is that when a misunderstanding occurs I feel awful about it and am loathe to embarrass them, so I end up playing along until I can find a way to physically escape the encounter, then I dread bumping into them. It makes me feel sneaky and dishonest.
I've given it a lot of thought and I can't seem to pinpoint an exact cause, this is what I know:
I do not dress provocatively and I am very careful not to exhibit sexually suggestive body
language.
My looks are about average, nobody's attracted to my stunning beauty.
I am a very respectful and polite communicator; always wanting people to feel at ease I am careful to listen and to not give offense, I try to show empathy to their points of view. I never put people down, I smile and accept others. When I express opposing view points I do it gently. I'm willing to discuss pretty much anything (but obviously not a lot of personal details about myself early on)
I apply a lot of social lubricant-filling silences before they become uncomfortable, telling funny stories, trying to include everyone present, that kind of thing. Also I'm
enthusiastic, so I talk animatedly and smile a lot.
I am happy that people feel at ease and want to open up to me, it makes meeting people a lot easier. Also I am a writer and there's a lot of inspiration to be had by meeting people and
talking to them, I really enjoy it. BUT somehow it ends up being more than a casual conversation and they start having expectations of me that I didn't agree to. AND because I don't want to hurt people's feelings or embarrass them, when I know it's gone too far I have trouble setting the record straight. Of course I could say "HEY! BACK THE HELL OFF!", but it's not my style and I'd feel just awful watching their reactions. The way things are though, people get hurt and disappointed anyway (when I book-it out of there), and any possibility of a mutual relationship with these people is lost.
Finally, it's bad enough on an average day, but I'm travelling alone in SE Asia, meeting people all the time, and cultural differences are a big part of it. I find that here NONE of my subtle hints (not holding a eye contact that is too intimate, slightly pulling away if a person gets too close, etc...) work at all and it's happening more than ever! Add to that a need to show proper respect as a visitor and I feel totally stuck! It potentially puts me at risk, AND gets in the way of making personal contacts.
SO how do I project an expectation of personal space without being rude and without giving up the chance to have great conversations; and once a misunderstanding has occurred, how do I diffuse the situation without making people uncomfortable? I'd really love to hear to hear your insights, especially to hear both a man and a woman's take on the situation.
Thank you so much for your help,
Girlaboutglobe, Canadian, 27
Hi.
To an extent I think it's just human nature to assume things that aren't there or to misunderstand simply being nice and polite as being a sign of some kind of atraction. It's complicated but not anything that is your fault I think. I like to be polite when meetingnew people just as you are and I show respect, try to keep them in conversations so they don't feel left out and generally try to be nice but at times it does come across as something else. I've been told by a few friends how they think I'm flirting with everyone I meet. :/ I don't think I'm flirting at all - I'm not all over them or making any inapropriate gestures or anything of that sort - I am simply being me, which is trying to be nice to that person or persons.
I think most of these people you encounter just misunderstand your friendly nature as flirting which isn't your fault at all. However, one thing you may need to do is be able to take a step back and let them know they have misunderstood your intentions. One way might be to steer the conversation away to another subject which can sometimes work but if not then all I can really say is to use your own personal judgement and try to defuse the problem by just saying they seemed to have misunderstood what you meant. The other person may feel uncomfortable but if you carry on the conversation back onto track it should be okay and wouldn't give the other person too long to dwell on their embaressment. Generally I come forward and say there's been a misunderstandingsaying that they may have misinterpreted what I had meant and then I explain myself in more detail and it generally works and from there I just carry on with the conversation and all usually goes well from there.
As for people who open up to you more than you'd want them to and such I think this is also the aura that you reflect about yourself. Someone who is such a nice person (from what you have described of yourself) it would be easy for people to open up to you just to talk about their personal things, mostly because they feel comfortable with you and may get the impression you won't judge them by what they tell you. This works both ways obviously as it has done with me. I can meet some people and by the end of the night will know everyhting about them, in some cases more than their best friend may know. It's daunting sometimes but I take it as a compliment because it's hard to find people you can just meet and talk to about anything.
Sorry I can't be more detailed or give more accurate answers though but good luck and try not to change who you are because from the sounds of it you do sound an awesome person albeit a little misunderstood at times by people you first meet. I think all you need to do though is just jump in to straighten any misunderstandings so the person will back off without you needing to actually say back off. Generally when the conversation becomes off topic (and you fear it may eventually lead to them saying something like you both sleeping together etc, etc) that would be a good time to steer the conversation away from there and try move it to a different subject. Some guys, as dim as they are sometimes, can see this and will get the hint. Others however wouldn't know a hint if it slapped them so you may need to be a little more direct.
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i've been molested, as a child. it happened often and i've tried so hard to block it out but now i feel like it defines me. nobody knows, i can't say anything nobody will believe me. everybody will hate me. he ruined me. i picture how my life would be if it never happened, the way i am now is horrible. i make so many mistakes just trying to make myself feel better but nothing works. i dont know what to do, i cant talk to anybody. im 16, this happened the summer going into 5th grade then into the year.
nothing makes it go away i don't know what to do i want to die so badly.
There's some pains that we can't put our hand on to sooth and rub to make it better and things we feel we can't put into words to express how much we are hurting on the inside. Unfortunently sometime all we can do is leave it to time to heal them but for the process to begin you need to lift this very heavy burden off your own shoulders which is keeping you down and stopping you from moving forward. No one is going to blame you. I've spoken to a lot of people, both strangers and friends, who have been through a similar thing and I can never blame them for what happen. No one walks around with a sign on them saying come and molest me. So don't blame yourself, no one else will. The only ones who really tend to do so are the ones who have never had it happen to them and so are ignorant. The same goes for who will and who won't believe you. You have nothing to prove to anyone so if someone doesn't believe you then be it. YOU know it happen and that's all that matters. I would suggest trying to talk to one of your friends to try and ease your mind a little because keeping all this hurt inside is doing nothing but eating away at you on the inside. Also, I can understand you wanting to try everything you can to try and make yourself feel better or to even try and forget it but as you said none of that works. You usually end up regretting things you did under the impression it may help you forget (I had a friend who would abuse her body in every way to try and forget about the pain of it and every time she did she would be at my door crying about the mistakes she made trying to make herself feel better). It was really hard to watch her do this to herself especially since I never understood why she did it until she actually told me about what had happen in her past. Talk to a trusted friend or even arrange to see a councillor at your school (every school should have one that you can see) and talk to them about this. It will seriously help you a lot in talking about it. It will not be easy to talk about it, no doubt. It takes time and councillors know this all too well so you won't feel pressured into talking about it. If that fails too then write about it in a diary. I'm guessing you had never told your parents about it either? Maybe even talking to your mom about it might help? I know it's daunting to even consider doing that but if anyone will understand it will be your mom. All I can say though is don't be going out to kill yourself thinking that's the only solution you have. It's not. It doesn't solve anything. Fair enough things in your life have changed a lot becuase of what happen to you but what happen didn't put your life on a single path. YOU have choices you can make. YOU decide how you want to live your life and where YOU want it to lead. You have a lot of potential in you regardless of what happen, none of that changes. Everyone has the potential to change as well, if you feel that you're a horrible person, for whatever reason you may think that. Give yourself a chance and give your friends and family a chance as well to try help you. You don't have to suffer alone in this pain you feel, no one who has friends and family who love and care about them should ever have to.
"What we call despair is often only the painful eagerness of unfed hope."
--George Eliot.
If you need to talk feel free to write me to my inbox (or email me directly at ammo@thedevilsoffspring.com).
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okay my friend and her bf been together for 7 months and this month she thinks shes a reboud because she thinks her bf still thinks about her ex because he said"she already forgot about me" to my friend what do you think about this?
I think it's a very vague thing to go by to decide on whether she's a rebound or not. Generally rebounds hardly last that long at all (and they've been together for 7 months). He may just be annoyed or upset that after everything his ex just totally forgot about him now. I've been there myself too when I was with someone for about half a year or so and suddenly nothing. I didn't like her after the break up but it was a little upsetting how she had simply just completely forgot after everything we had gone thorough. It might be nothing and what hesaid certainly isn't grounds enough to think he might have just used your friend as a rebound. As I said, for starters they have been together for 7 months and it's a rare thing to see a rebound last so long.
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Well, I started the pill just over a week ago now.
Microgynon 30 - Which is the normal pill first given to most as its the most trusted and suitable.
Ive taken the pill correctly everyday at 5:30 but I seem to be spotting blood even tho this pill is ''spose to make your periods lighter & decrease the length which you have a period''
Also, the last couple of days, Ive cooked a pizza for dinner , I start eating it and I instantly feel sick, but I carry on eating without even realising, as if my minds telling me eat and my stomachs telling me dont eat.
Ive woken up with bad stomach aches, and have had them since I started the pill. I dont get headaches or anything like that. I dont particuarly want to phone the doctors incase im over worrying. Im a very paranoid person and make a cut seem like death.
Could someone please give me an idea as to whether this is problem enough to ring the doctors? I dont want any ''I think'' ''Maybe'', if your not sure then dont answer my question!
Many thanks :)
I would suggest a visit to your doctor to see if there's anything else he can prescribe you if the effects you're feeling are the side effects of the Microgynon. Microgynon 30 is said to have strong side effects so all the things you're feeling could very well be linked to the pill. On the other hand it might be nothing and your body may just need time to adjust to the pill. Personally, I would suggest speaking to your doctor and letting him/her know about how you've been feeling and he will be able to advise you further. Headaches, nausea and mood swings are a part of the side effects some can get with taking the pill so the way you're feeling could very well just be side effects. They may subside or they won't (in which case the doctor may want to move you onto a different pill) but either way I think speaking to your doctor would be a wise choice. :]
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Hey. I don't have a question I just wanted to compliment you on your advice and for getting columnist of the day. You answered one of my questions before and your advice is just really good. Keep it up! ♥ fabulous
Hi. :) Thank you for that, was really nice of to have your message to log on to, so thank you very much for that. Hope whatever advice I had given you had worked out alright for you, lol. :D
-Ammo-
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i was wondering, can you track people through myspace or instant messaging? like pedophiles? or is their software or something you can buy to do it? or just track the computer? if possible, how much money does it cost to buy the software to do so? i was just wondering because my friend said that people can track where you are and stuff like that but i don't believe her.
Interesting question actually because I was asked this exact same question by a number of people at a small meeting where I was discussing the company I work for (AI Services). I was talking with a few young teens as well as their parents about how easy it is to track people using web sites such as myspace and they wouldn't believe that it was possible from only basic information provided in a myspace profile (I was using a real profile as an example). I used a UK based person and was able to actively show step by step how I could trace the person back to their doorstep. This was using normalInternet web sites for research and that was it. No special secret web sites or any software. It's very possible which is generally why a lot of parents are against their kids using myspace or any sites like that as well as those who do use it, hide their profile content from anyone who isn't on their friends/approved list.
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Okay i asked another question about my friends boyfriend and how he hit on me and all that and how Eric kicked the crap out've him. Well last night Eric told me that he liked me and that everything his friends told me about him liking me was true. And I didn't know what to say so I was a idiot and said Okay. I think i hurt his feelings cuz he left sortly after.. well the a couple hours ago I was talking to rachel and she was like omfggg are u serious you should soo go out with him. And I love him. And i like him and I loved the fact he kicked kiles ass for grabbing mine and I was soo flattered but I thought he did it because were best friends not because he liked he.(even tho thats good too):) but is there a time when you cant go out with your best friend?? I want to but what if we broke up it would ruin our friendship and I dont want that to happen i mean everyone has said were ment to be together but is that true?
Hi. I remember your other question actually. :] Hmm, well I can understand you only said okay, lol. You were obviously quite unprepared for that and if you explain that to him I'm sure he will understand so don't worry about it. :]
The hardest part about two friends starting to see each other as a couple is that they could lose the friendship aspects of things especially when/if there's a break up. And sometimes no matter how much you tell each other that you will try work it out and stay friends it just doesn't work that way be it jealousy later on (when one or the other starts seeing someone else) or from just the pain of being around each other if the breakup was only one sided. It can put a big strain on the friendship afterwards. Saying that though you have to remember no relationship is a guarantee thing, every relationship has a 50:50 chance of going well or not going well. It will either work out or it won't, the best you or anyone can really do is give it their best shot. He cares about you obviously and you said yourself it's not a bad thing so by all means I'd say go for it and see how things go. Take things slowly and see how things are as a couple instead of as just friends and see if things work out. If you are scared of what could happen to your friendships though as a result then I think the best thing to do is sit down with Eric and talk to him about it. Ask him about it and what would happen to the friendship if you both ever ended up breaking up on bad terms (to say it would never happen is ignorance because it can happen no matter how much you convince yourself it won't). As long as you both are friends enough to be able to say if things don't work out either can back out without any hard feelings then by all means go for it. It's either that or do nothing and forever wonder what might have been. I don't think there's any rule to say friends can't go out, in a way it's not such a bad thing at all because friends often know each other well enough to be able to connect in that way but obviously the only downside is what happens if things don't work out. As for people being meant for each other - I can't really comment on that but I will leave you a quote that says what I think when it comes to who is meant for who. :] Goodluck on things with you and Eric and if you both do decide to see each other as a couple then good luck and I really hope things work out with you both. :]
"I just wonder how many people never get the one they want, but end up with the one they're supposed to have."
--Author Unknown.
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ok hi im jenny
im 15 years old and i have been having a terrible 5 months.
ok so i dated this kid who is 2 years older than me for 2 years. He also lives across the street from me. I also would like to believe that we were in love once or so I thought. He really seemed to love me and i sure as hell loved him. Then after about a year and a half of dating i felt like i was kind of getting tired of him and so were my friends, so i broke it off. I dated another guy that was his age and it made him terribly jealous. He would still call me every night and I would talk to him. Every night he would tell me he loved me, even when i was dating someone else. But the bad part about that was i told him "i love you" back, because I really did. Your probably wondering why I did'nt just break up with the boyfriend I had then and go back to dating the one that I really loved. Well, I thought he wouldn't take me back and that he was just messing with me. So I dated that one guy for a few months making my ex jealous and then I finally broke it off. When i told the guy that i like that I broke up with that one guy he seemed happy, but that was it. After that we didn't hangout as much as I would have liked to and he didn't call me every night like he used to. I was so depressed. We kept talking occasionally and sometimes we would hangout, but rarley. Then one night I was going to introuduce my friend to him so we went outside and met up. He was acting VERY strange..he didn't give me a hug or even say hi to me, he was in a terrible mood. So my friend and I were not going to stand for it so we went back inside. I was SO MAD! I stayed up all night waiting for him to call me, but he never did. Then the next day he called, but being stubborn I did not answer thinking that i would call him back later. And yes i did call him back way later that night, but no answer. I kept trying and he never answered, so then i knew something was wrong. Now on this very day I still love him and want him back, and it has been 4-5 months. Oh by the way he has a new girlfriend that he is in LOVE with and he wont talk or even look at me. I REALLY NEED ADVICE and im sorry if this is confusing or too long but please read it all.. i want advice. just answer me back or email me if you have any questions. BUT PLEASE DONT TELL ME TO MOVE ON..TRUST ME I HAVE BEEN TRYING BUT HE LIVES RIGHT ACROSS THE STREET I SEE HIM EVERY DAY!
I know you said you didn't want this as an answer but it seems the only thing you really can do is move on - as hard as it might be. The thing is I'm not saying to forget about him or forget how you feel about him becuase that's not really something that can happen over night but you do need to move on.
I'm not sure why he was acting the way you described since I don't know all the details but it might have been because at that time he was already dating this other girl? Which is why he avoided the hugging you and such. Or it could just be he has finally decided it's time to get over you and has moved on which is why he just plain ignores you. He probably doesn't want you getting in the way of his new relationship so has just decided to blank you out completely. I'm honestly not sure but I would suspect it's one or both those reasons.
If he has decided to be this way though then there may not be any way to change his mind since he has decided to move on. All you can really do is try and push forward and move on and more importantly, get on with things instead of waiting on him. I know it's hard to believe now because of how strong your feelings are still for him but you will find someone else and they may well even be better. You won't know until you actually decide to turn away and look. If you need to chat more by all means feel free to email or message my inbox. Good luck and I'm sorry it wasn't what you had wanted to or hoped to have heard.
"When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us."
--Helen Keller.
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my friend is moving soon and i avoided her for a while because i was really sad that shes moving but when we talk a little and when i say bye i hug her so tight like shes leaving tommrow and she says"dont worry im not going anywhere yet...." and next day i talked to her a lil bit and i was gonna hug her like as we always do but she just turned around and refused to hug me and slowly stopped talking to me after this what do you guys think about this situation?
I'm not sure to be honest because I don't really know your friend but my guess would be that she is doing the exact same thing you are/were doing. No doubt she is also taking the move really hard and it always is hard when you see friends move but you both have to remember one very important thing and that is friendship is not weighed by the distance between two friends but by the love they have for each other. If you both are really good friends it won't matter how far either of you are it's not going to change the fact you are both friends. I would suggest you try and talk to her because she may also be trying to distance herself from you in the hopes that it will hurt less when she leaves. It's really bad to hear when people do this in a way to try and lessen the pain becuase I've seen a similar thing on here before. You are both friends and one is moving away so don't kill off what you have by distancing yourself more than you both already will be - give each other the support they need and reassure each other that it won't change how much you both care about each other as friends. Don't lose the small amount of time you have left to be around each other by avoiding each other and such - spend it together so when she leaves she leaves with fond memories and you are left with the same. Just because she is moving it doesn't mean you'll never see each other. That will only happen if one of you decides to stop caring and bothering with each other.
"Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow. Don't walk behind me, I may not lead. Just walk beside me and be my friend."
--Albert Camus.
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15/f
Theres this one girl, at my school who is amazinnggg, she is like sooo popular, and so pretty, i mean shes absoulty gorgeous, and shes so nice, unlike all of her friends, but still. and were kinda friends, kinda. but shes just soo nice. i mean for her birthday, her mom bought her all this stuff, and then gave her like 5000 dollars, and she went to the mall and like bought all these clothes, and gave them to the poor! shes always thinking of others, and she just so sweet! i just want to be just like her. i mean honestly, i dont know how she can be the way she is. i mean shes like the richest girl in our town, and she doesnt act like it at all, shes always thinking of others. and shes really smart, and i mean, i just want to be like her. how can i? shes like a freaking saint, she doesnt talk behind anyones back, shes not stuck up, bbut thne yet she has so much confidence in herself in everything she does.
I WANT TO BE JUST LIKE HER.
how?
Well to start with you dhould do what she does - which is be herself. You cant be someone else. That wouldn't really be you that would just be a fake. Being nice to people, respecting people, wanting to help... these things are all things we all choose to do just like she has chosen to do. If you want to do things like that then by all means do so but don't do it because you want to copy her or be like her - do it because it's what YOU want to do. As for confidence, that comes with time. If you lack confidence you just have to be more sure of yourself. I mean everyone fails at something or another (it may seem she's perfect but no-one is ever that perfect). Don't waste your time trying to be like someone else, honestly. I mean the last thing you want is people seeing you and saying, "oh wow! She's just like blah blah." No, what you want is them to say wow aren't you a really nice person and someone who's caring etc, etc. Why would you want people to say you're like someone else when you can be your own person?
"Popularity, next to virtue and wisdom, ought to be aimed at; for it is the dictate of wisdom, and is necessary to the practice of virtue inmost."
--John Adams.
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one of my best friends, let's say his name is michael, has been dating another one of my friends for a very long time. his girlfriend is gone for the summer but comes back in a couple months. me and him flirty like CRAZY. everyone sees it, the things he says to me, the way sometimes he touches me, it's usually us two drinking or something together. i dont' know. i really really like him a lot, and i don't know what to do. and he flirts with me SO much, i can't ignore it, anddd, he's one of my b est friends, i'm with him every single day. just the only thing standing in the way is his girlfriend, who i really adore. i knwo they won't break up any time soon, i knwo that for a fact. id on't konw. i hate it, and i want to know what to do.
I would suggest you just move on and let him and his girlfriend be. There's not really much else you can do other than jump on him, cause a problem between him and his girlfriend and get them to break up so you can have him to yourself. But then afterwards you may wonder what he's up to when you go off on a holiday somewhere - I mean you may come back only to have another girl all over him and him flirting with her. :] Some guys flirt (I flirt with a lot of my friends) and it's usually nothing, just a laugh. Unless you know he means it all you can do is get over it and get on with things. If he is searious about it then it's unfair on him stringing his girlfriend along when he can't even decide who he wants to be with so maybe he should make a decision and stick with it. You said yourself though that they won't be breaking up anytime soon and I'm guessing if you wanted to break them up you'd have made your move already to do so. All I can really suggest is just oving on and finding someone else. If they break up then fair enough but there's no point in waiting around - wouldn't be fair on yourself.
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Okay, when one of by bestfriends get a boyfriend Im so happy for them. But when my friend Rachel started going out with Kile, my excitement was short lived. They'd been going out for two weeks when Kile came over my house waiting for rachel(yeah my house is the place to be my parents love kids so its okay) and we went im my attic(game room) and he started flirting with me.And it obvious he was fliting because we started playing pool and everytime i bent over to shoot he stared at me(wonder why??) and when I kicked his butt on that I started watching tv and he practicly sat on me and rubbed my leg and I flipping out on him saying dont touch me! And he didn't do anything.. Well that was like a week ago and sunday I got a message by him saying 'firty things' and I dodn't think he was kidding so i messaged him that the next time that he talks to me in anyway I don't care who he's going out with Ill either kick his ass myself or have Rachel do it for me. And yeahh some of my guys friends hit on ym im usto it, but I never knew this kid until rachel started going out with him personally I can't stand him but im nice to him because Rachel likes him. I didn't tell rachel just in case it was some joke she was pulling on me. But a couple nights ago I had Eric over waiting for Rae and Kile to go to the movies. Well when they finally showed up it was only Kile he said Rachel had to babyset so let's wait to go. Im like yeahh maybe tomarrow but I didn't want Eric to go home just yet..:) and we all started hanging out and Kile kept eyeing me and I was playing foose ball with Eric he grabbed my ass, and this wasn't brush on accident it was a full handed grab so i smacked him and he told Eric to control his Bitch. Well me and Eric no arent going out but everyone thinks and wants us too (long story) well Eric ended up kicking the crap out've him.. not that im sorry for him.. And online rachel asked why and I told her everything and she was like are you serios? and shes not the kinda person that would take his side, She has always said Friends First no madder what. I told her I waited so long because I thought he was kidding with me and I didnt want to hurt her, she understood and sad to say I wasn't there to see her yell, I heard and it wasn't pretty, well Kile's friend Josh(which I did go out with him for 2 months I think) told me that Kile wants to go out with and we like all went to the movies and Kile showed up and gave me a box of chocolates. I as like wtf.. leave me alone and Rachel got all upset with Kile and I was like I see your face anywhere near me or Rachel and ill personally kick your ass leave us alone! And now Rachels over with icecream and a broken heart and im helping but Eric wants to kill him, and now Kiles sending me messages that say I wanna find one person who thinks your hot (my default name is Not even hell is hotter than me from the spill canvas my fav songg and that one of his shirts cost more than my whole outfit and just dumb crap I dont want Eric to hurt Kile because I know he will and I wanna help Rachel she really liked him I told her I was sorry about everything and she just jokes about it saying neither of us knew he was a pig and crap. Well how do I get it across Kiles mind that I hate him, make sure Rachel wont hate me, and Eric not killing him..
Im 14 Female and Friends come first..
Firstly I'd say 'nice one' in slappin that guy one after he grabbed your ass - he so deserved that! Guys seem to think acting like sleezy assholes toward a girl will make her like him for some stupid reason. :/
Anyway, I think you've nothing to worry about with Rachel hating you - she already seen how much an ass Kile is so you've no worries there. Just be there for her though. :] As for controlling your friend Eric, tell him to stop acting picking fights - it'll come back and blow up in his face eventually. Also, I think it's been made quite clear that beating up Kile isn't going to make him stop otherwise he'd have stopped already so Eric needs to stop wasting his time and energy (as well as how he can get into deep trouble if Kile decides to do something about it). I've had my fair share of run ins with guys like Kile and the only thing that stopped me from breaking their teeth was that they would afterwards go crying to the cops about assult and *I* would be the one getting in trouble, not him. It's the wrong way to go about it.
Lastly, about getting your message through to Kile. I'd say it's safe to say you've made it very clear already (I mean when a girl tells me to stay away or she'll kick my ass I generally get the impression she doesn't like me and it's not some new flirt technique) so I think the guy is just messed up in the head (figuratively speaking obviously). I would suggest letting him know one more time if he persists and without using offensive words or shouting just tell him, you don't like him and you and your friends want nothing to do with him so to leave you all alone and not call or try and contact any of you again. If after this he still persists then speak to an adult to take appropriate action. I don't like using the word but he almost seems obsessed and when someone crosses that line it's time to get adults involved to have it dealt with. One way to do this would be to have your parents call up his parents and TALK to them about the situation and basicaly just ask them to have a word with their son and to tell him to leave you alone. Asa las resort that should do it hopefully. Good luck. :]
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hey. i have a problem. OKay, so I always use my dad's $400 ish camera when im with my friends and when I go to the mall just to take random pictures. its 2 years old and is a Nikon.
2 days ago I was at the mall with my friend and i dropped all my stuff. I didn't notice that my camera had dropped, so i just went home. Today I was wondering where it was and I realized I had DROPPED IT. and my friend even saw it but she thought it wasn;t mine.
So basically I LOST my dads camera. and if i tell my parents, they will get so mad at me for it, since it contained a lot of my dads business pictures that he needed. My mom will definately start yelling at me of how irresponsible I am. My dad probably will get mad at me too just not as much as my mom.
I feel really bad. I have about 73000 in YEN(japanese currency), which is about $670 ish. and i have $50 in dollars. I dont care about paying them and getting them a new camera at all. I'm just mad at how stupid I am, and how irrespondible my parents are going to think i am.
my parents don't know yet. and soon they will start asking me for the camera. I seriously don't know what I should say. I dont wanna say i lost it.really.
How should i exchange my money (besides airport).
I don't know...I just feel really bad.
I don't think I could have said it any better than rollergirl66. :] Go to them first, it shows you're willing to take responsibility. If you wait until they ask you for it then they will just assume you were intending to hide what happen from them and they'll just be more angry. Replacing it, although a good idea, may not work anyway. For one your dads pictures will not be on it and your dad may even realise it's not his own camera (especially if he's had it a while). Don't feel so bad about what happen either. Honestly, it happens to all of us (I've lost so many things including about 4 cell phones) so honestly, it does happen. Try not to be too hard on yourself about it but let your parents know but don't wait for them to bring it up first. Good luck. :]
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Okay well I use to like this guy and well I told my best friend and this other friend she found out too. But now I stopped liking him and like another guy and so my best friend knows but my other friend doesn't and she keeps emailing me, begging me to tell her. And truthfully I don't really like her. I don't hang out with her too. But she is so nosy that she will torture me to find out who I like. If she gives up she will pick one guy and I know I don't like him but she will think I do so she'll go and tell some other guy. Or she will blackmail me with it and say I'm gonna tell this guy if you don't tell me who it really is. And I really don't want the other guy thinking I like him. And if I tell her who I like then she will tell him. She is the most untrustworthy friend ever. Please help!
I think you should just ignore her. If she keeps on bugging you let her and just brush it off. If she tries to blackmail you by telling some rndom guy let her - I mean seriously, what do you care? If that random guy asks you do you like him just tell him the truth and say no, your 'friend' is just being stupid so to ignore her. Seriously, it doesn't matter and it's not a big deal. The only reason she will try to blackmail you is if she knows it'll work (has she done that before and you caved in?) so DON'T let her blackmail you again. Tell her do whatever she wants to but you're not telling her and that's the bottom line. She'll eventually give up when she sees that nothing she does is making any difference to you. Just don't give in to her blackmailing.
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alrightt so
i havent known this guy for very long
but we talk online like never only sometime
but we text everynight for like 2 or 3 hours
weve never hungout, but i know him through my friend
yeah i know that sounds weird and like your pathetic for liking him, but i just cant help myself.
he is seriously the nicest person ever
but we are kinda opposites, well not really
hes taller then me, which is plus cause no good guys are ever taller then me
but im more preppy/vintage and hes more skater
but we listen to the same music
but i dont really care about that
but hes so cute and he always cheers me up
he just moved away like 1 hour and 45 min away
but hes coming back up here i think this week
and were are suppose to see a movie and im really excited
and he always says how he wished she can hangout more and when he gets his license hes gonna come up here way more
i was just wondering if all this is a friend kinda thing or more of a crush?
I would think it was quite obvious this guy has some kind of interest since I don't text any friends for 2 or 3 hours a night. :/ However, that said, you may be puting way more into this than you should especially sonsidering you don't actually even know him that well. Everyone can seem great in a text but it's what he's actually like when you're with him that counts (and even then it could be nothing more than an act - I mean I don't know any guys who go on a date and act like a jerk as a way to get together with someone they like). All I'll say is don't get too attached just incase but otherwise have a good time and such and get to know him (if it turns out he does like you then you may want to make sure it's not just a hook up and nothing else). Good luck. :]
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on aim, i sent someone two messages in a row. i sent the first one, then waited about a minute and sent the next one. i got this message,
ATTENTION (8:42:28 PM):You are about to be rate limited. Please wait a few seconds before sending, to avoid being rate limited.
ATTENTION (8:42:36 PM):You are no longer rate limited, and you may now send messages.
what does this mean? i have never gotten this before.
thanks!
I don't use AIM much and haven't done so in a long time but by the looksof that message the system may have been under the impression you are spamming someone (sending a high rate of messages to someone) so they prevented you from doing this by limiting the number of messages you can send at any one time i.e. you can't send message after message, you have to wait a certain time between sending messages.
This may have been set by the person you were messaging or the AIM system, I'm not certain because, as I said, I don't use AIM. All I can suggest is don't message bomb people (send a stream of messages, one after the other) to people to prevent being rate limited again.
You should be able to see an explination of what it is as well on the AIM web site somewhere.
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Okay, I'm Joel and I'm a 14-year-old boy/teen with a problem. See, I had this weird dream a few nights ago and it was that I came face to face with my "DARK SIDE" One of the things that are involved is the Yin-Yang symbol. Now, I don't know what it has to do with me and my evil side. Plus I want to know if people DO have a dark side, like someone inside ourselves who lives in our shadow. I really need help, please.
I don't follow any one religion (even though I am Sikh) but every religion has something to offer which explains things just a little bit more about ourselves and the universe and Ying/Yang is one of those things. One cannot exist without the other and in the same way everything in the universe has it's opposite - one thing can't exist without the other. In the same way it's true of us as well.
Our dark side could be considered to be our more uncontrolable and primal selves that we as the human race have managed to supress and push aside deep inside ourselves over the many centuries of evolution. It could even be our very essence which is what makes us good or evil - no one can really say for certain but I can say that we all have an evil side to us. To deny this would be to just lie to ourselves. We all have it in us to be able to commit acts of evil even though we may feel we could never do something considered evil. We don't get to choose much in life at all - like when we are born, when we die and such things but the one thing we do have a choice in is whether we are good or evil. But picking one will always mean the other side of it (yin/yang - you can't have one without the other) will always linger and be there. Looked at logically there's no way anyone can define what 'good' actually is if there was no 'evil' to compare it to. For example, we appreciate life but we only do so because there is death. If there was no death then life would have no meaning for anyone.
Sorry if that was not able to really answer your question more directly but I hope I have given you a little something to consider and think about.
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