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i want my ex back
ok hi im jenny
im 15 years old and i have been having a terrible 5 months.
ok so i dated this kid who is 2 years older than me for 2 years. He also lives across the street from me. I also would like to believe that we were in love once or so I thought. He really seemed to love me and i sure as hell loved him. Then after about a year and a half of dating i felt like i was kind of getting tired of him and so were my friends, so i broke it off. I dated another guy that was his age and it made him terribly jealous. He would still call me every night and I would talk to him. Every night he would tell me he loved me, even when i was dating someone else. But the bad part about that was i told him "i love you" back, because I really did. Your probably wondering why I did'nt just break up with the boyfriend I had then and go back to dating the one that I really loved. Well, I thought he wouldn't take me back and that he was just messing with me. So I dated that one guy for a few months making my ex jealous and then I finally broke it off. When i told the guy that i like that I broke up with that one guy he seemed happy, but that was it. After that we didn't hangout as much as I would have liked to and he didn't call me every night like he used to. I was so depressed. We kept talking occasionally and sometimes we would hangout, but rarley. Then one night I was going to introuduce my friend to him so we went outside and met up. He was acting VERY strange..he didn't give me a hug or even say hi to me, he was in a terrible mood. So my friend and I were not going to stand for it so we went back inside. I was SO MAD! I stayed up all night waiting for him to call me, but he never did. Then the next day he called, but being stubborn I did not answer thinking that i would call him back later. And yes i did call him back way later that night, but no answer. I kept trying and he never answered, so then i knew something was wrong. Now on this very day I still love him and want him back, and it has been 4-5 months. Oh by the way he has a new girlfriend that he is in LOVE with and he wont talk or even look at me. I REALLY NEED ADVICE and im sorry if this is confusing or too long but please read it all.. i want advice. just answer me back or email me if you have any questions. BUT PLEASE DONT TELL ME TO MOVE ON..TRUST ME I HAVE BEEN TRYING BUT HE LIVES RIGHT ACROSS THE STREET I SEE HIM EVERY DAY!
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the only addive i have for you, bcause i dont wanna say move on, cuz i know thats hard. but the best i can say is that i have a similar problem, and from what the guy finally told me (after he stopped calling every night and ignored me) is that he needed to try to get over me, because he felt there was no chance nemore. i talked to him about it and he relized he cant be stubborn. instead of constnatly calling him becuase obv he dont answer, try going to his door so he kind of has no choice. or if you see him outside go outside and be like i just want to talk for a second. explain to him how you feel, and atleast still want to be fr4iend.(then move to more then frienfds). good luck, sorry i couldnt say nemore.
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I know you said you didn't want this as an answer but it seems the only thing you really can do is move on - as hard as it might be. The thing is I'm not saying to forget about him or forget how you feel about him becuase that's not really something that can happen over night but you do need to move on.
I'm not sure why he was acting the way you described since I don't know all the details but it might have been because at that time he was already dating this other girl? Which is why he avoided the hugging you and such. Or it could just be he has finally decided it's time to get over you and has moved on which is why he just plain ignores you. He probably doesn't want you getting in the way of his new relationship so has just decided to blank you out completely. I'm honestly not sure but I would suspect it's one or both those reasons.
If he has decided to be this way though then there may not be any way to change his mind since he has decided to move on. All you can really do is try and push forward and move on and more importantly, get on with things instead of waiting on him. I know it's hard to believe now because of how strong your feelings are still for him but you will find someone else and they may well even be better. You won't know until you actually decide to turn away and look. If you need to chat more by all means feel free to email or message my inbox. Good luck and I'm sorry it wasn't what you had wanted to or hoped to have heard.
"When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us."
--Helen Keller.
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I know it's confusing and hard, but he IS your ex boyfriend, you know? You have to let him go eventually in your lifetime. Let that relationship make you wiser and more knowledgable. You'll have more men in your life to love.
He has another girl that he's "in love" with just as you'll have guys that you'll be in love with, too.
You ARE at a disadvantage for him to live so close to you, be be strong about it.
I'm not telling you to move on. I'm just telling you to live your life and don't let anyone get in your way.
He is your past. Live for your future.
Jen
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oh :[ that makes me so sad to hear, I know how you feel, its so hard to stop loving someone like that. I never did. sometimes someone can be so mean to you and you still love them.. why? well thats just how it its. I understand how special he is to you, I really do... it must be hell to see him every day.. that is so hard. well I think the only way to really solve the problem is by talking to him... you have to make him. find a way. call him non-stop go knock on his door, write him a letter, somehow you need to get him to listen to him, and when he does you need to express all the feelings you still hold for him. I know how hard it is to move on. so I think you should talk to him and try to get some kind of understanding, even if you don't have a dating relationship with him, any relationship is better then what your dealing with. so I think you need to attempt to gain back some of what you lost :] im really sorry, I hope I helped you and I really hope things work out for you. let me know if you need any more advice
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okay so i had close to the same problem i dated this guy that i want to chuch with and we saw a lot of each other and we said i love you too well he left me but not for a girl at first but he wanted me back and a played around to long and lost him well now he is tired of the girls his with and wants me back and im not going to take him back but you might want to take yours back i dont know and o ya it really helped me to show up some where looking cute of maybe if you were to tan on your yard were he could see you or show him what is i missing .... guys want what they cant have that is why the hole time you where dating the other guy he was all in your space and stopped when when you let the guy go right now he is just doing what you did to him !
good luck
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It seems like he planned that hole thing out. He got you to believe that he wanted you back so you broke up with your boyfriend and now he isn't jealous. He wants you to be jealous of him now. He was an asshole for doing that might i say. Someone who messes with your heart like that isn't worth it. He has a girlfriend now and he doesn't want anything to do with you. All I can say is you deserve much better than that and by the way he did that to you should pretty much prove that you need to find someone else and all he's going to do is try to make your life more hurtful and dramatic.
Good Luck!
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Yeah, um. If his family won't talk to you either, then there's a problem. Can your parents talk to his parents about how sad you are that he won't talk to you? Or if you're gonna talk to his girlfriend, become her friend first. Don't just come out and say anything about him. If you're her friend, she'll know you better. Then jjust come out and say that you miss him as a friend and he won't talk to you, etc.
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Sorry I couldn't help more.
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You've gotten to the point where you need to talk to some people he sees regularly. If you have talked to his mom before, try to explain the situation in a way that she'd understand and i'm sure she'll talk to him about it. If you feel uncomfortable doing that, befriend his new girlfriend and go from there. If she sees that you're nice, and finds out what he's been doing to you, she'll surely say something to him about it.
If you really love him, don't give up. Just go to his house and ask him about this, tell him you miss him and want to be friends with him.
I hope everything works out for you.
Get back to me if you need any more help.
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