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why do i get called the whore?
ok there's these 3 girls. one of them is two faced so when its just me and her we're friends but when she's around the other two shes a bitch. a long time ago one of the other girls spread a rumor about me and thats how i stopped being friends with her. the third one i'll get to in a minute. alright here's a little backround on the first two. girl number one, the two faced one has made out with 3 guys in one week and doesnt realize they don't want relationships with her because, well she's easy. the second girl has never had a boyfriend...ever but she's done everything except vaginal sex with several guys. a few months ago i gave my best guy friend a hand job because we were friends with benefits i guess. the third girl is his ex girlfriend but they're still best friends i guess. this was the first time i did anything with a guy who wasn't my boyfriend. normally i won't even kiss a guy unless im going out with them. alright so i told my best friend about it. back in february this guy also felt me up and i told one of the slutty girls about it back when we were friends. she thought i lied about it because the guy denied it so she spread this huge rumor that got around to the entire school that im a liar. i lost a lot of friends because of it, but i never lied. anyway my best friend was defending me against this slutty girl who spread the rumors and she told her that i gave this guy a hand job. of course now that got around to everyone and those three girls are telling people im a whore. how do i get called a whore for being with one guy and they're just normal for being with a ton of guys? i want to say something to them that's really going to shut them up. slowly i've been telling people the real story and getting them back on my side so i've been getting more and more friends against them but i really want to say something to them. what should i say? i want it to be harsh, witty and something that says "dont mess with me", i don't have a threatening appearance so it cant be like "im gonna kick ur a$$" because they know i wouldnt be able to do it. so help me please!!!
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The biggest question is why do you even care? Who cares what they think? I don't. I doubt your friends would (the real ones that is). So as I said, why's it even matter? People like this will be something you'll need to put up with all your life (sad people who have no life basically). So they need to spread and talk about other people behind their back so they have something to do. I generally ignore it and my friends do the same. At the end of the day if they do hear something they come to me and ask me about it and not judge me by something some people said who don't even like me in the first place.
You're right though that you're not a whore - far from it. They seem to not have learnt that, "He without sin cast thy first stone." Their in no position to be calling you a whore after the stuff they have done but then that's something that happens all the time. If a guy 'does stuff' with a dozen girls in a week he's looked upon as a stud but when it's a girl who does the same she's sudenly a whore. I guess it just proves people are stupid and judgemental and fail to see theirown short comings before being the first to point out everyones elses. Just ignore it. As you said you got most your friends back but even after that I would question just how much a friends they really are if they decided to believe everyone else about a pathetic rumour instead of coming to you to ask you about it. If you really need to say something then by all means point out what those two have done compared to what you did and who now seems more the whore. :] It should shut them up. Otherwise I think you should just ignore it and get on with more important things instead of worrying about pathetic people like that. :]
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you cant fight fire with fire...you can only fight fire with ice...ignore them...sure they'll start rumors but the fun dies when they find that it doesn't upset you...trust me...these 2 girls at my school started a really nasty rumor about me and at first it really bothered me...people kind of exiled me...but I started ignoring it...they tried making up new stuff but I never showed that it got to me...they stopped doing it because they saw that they weren't making my life as miserable as they were hoping to...the people who left me out in the cold I realized weren't my friends to begin with or they would have stood by my side and I made all new friends who always have my back. the same will happen for you...your best friend was there for you thus proving her loyalty as a great friend...it's those who stood behind you the whole way you need to hold on to. ignore the rest...give it a little time and it will stop...no matter how much it bothers you don't show them it bothers you and it will all be fine
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