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I am 48 years old (yes that's old compared to some of you).
I have worked in nursing and/or healthcare management positions for 24 years. Primarily OB, Neonatal, Mental Health, Occupational Health and Geriatrics. In Jan 2008 I started my own business to board horses and do equine/human education. I am also a certified dog trainer.
I've been around the block so to speak and seem to be always helping others. I've been told that the reason people seek me out for advice is that I am approachable and caring. But on the same token even though I consider the person's feelings. I tell it like I see it. I've dealt with people in trouble with the law, dysfunctional families such as those with abuse & marriage problems. Not to mention problems with employees and employers.
I don't ever claim to know it all, and always keep an open mind.
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Alright i am a 15 year old girl. im pregnant. i have a great boyfriend. i dont get along with my dad or little brother. my mom and dad are getting a divorce. i choice to move with my mom. and my little brother choice to live with my dad. just recently i started cutting again. i no its not good and i talked to my boyfriend about it and ive been trying so hard to stop but there is so much drama. i just cry and i want to do it so bad. but i can i promised my boyfriend i wouldnt. my mom and i are moving out the end of the mnth. so i wont have to put up with my brother or my dad any more. but thats to long i cry everyday! and i want to cut everytime i cry or get angry. i need help!! and im crying out for help. i dont want to go talk to someone. i have a fear of talking to someone i dont know! so hopefully you guys can help me!
You are going through a lot of changes right now, and you deserve to feel better. Crying all the time is not good for you or your baby. Cutting would not be good for you or the baby either. This must be such a hard time for you, the hormones, the divorce, the urge to cut..it seems overwhelming to me, and I am not in your position. It is frightening to bring up such senstitive issues with strangers, but some strangers are only friends we haven't met. There are people who will understand your pain. I would suggest that since you are pregnant and probably under medical care you talk to your Dr or nurse about this at the next visit. Tell them you are asking for help, we in the medical profession are in the business of caring about others. Most Drs or nurses that I have known in my lifetime (and that is so many I can't count) would not condemn someone for asking for help. Over the length of your pregnancy you will get to know them well, so please don't consider them as strangers. Best of luck, and remember the sun will come up tomorrow in spite of how you feel today.
14/f i'm scared to try tampons again and its not because im scared they will hurt or anything because the last time i used them (when i was 13) i couldnt feel anything. anyways when i was 13 i was wearing a tampon and i was supposed to change it at 4 or something and i totally forgot and i ended up changing it at 6. its just that whenever i wear them i always forget to change them because i can't feel the tampon inside of me and im scared because i dont wanna get TSS or anything. can somebody please help me on how to change them sooner? thanks soo much
Once you get into a routine, it will be easier. Think of it in terms of Before school, at lunch, and after school, and before bedtime. It is recommended that you wear a pad at night. You might try a schedule such as 8-12-4-8 also.
Okay , so i babysit this sixth grader three days a week. & let me tell ya .. IT IS SOOOOO BORING OVER THERE! All that i ever do is watch t.v., eat, & talk on the phone. Oh yeah ... and i also get on the computer. Any ideas on what else I could do over there? He always goes over to his friends houses all the time , so its not like I can do anything with him. Grrrr , HELPPP!
Since school will be starting soon and if you are still babysitting, take your homework along. Perhaps you can also help the boy do his assignments. As a parent of a 7th grader I would pay you extra to do that! While it's not fun, it will pass the time.
You said that you eat while your there, perhaps you ask his parents if you could try to cook some fancy things for their supper. Try out some new recipes, or even bring your own ingredients and leave samples for them, and bring some of the food home. All of my kids like to cook and they have kids cook books that have easy and creative recipes.
My puppy is almost 9 months and we can't potty train her! We've tried everything! We take her out every hour, or half hour. Sometimes shell go outside for three days then out-of-the-blue go on the floor! HELP!
It depends on the dog, but I used a schedule and a crate and had a 2 month old Golden trained in two weeks. This link explains how I accomplished that.
http://www.barkbytes.com/training/house.htm
My boyfriends wants me to send him a picture of my pussy to his phone. I don't really want to. How can I tell him I'm not going to without making it seem like I don't love him?
Love has nothing to do with it. If you don't want to, tell him "NO".
You can tell him this little story if it will help...a 15 year old left her cell phone in an 18 year old boy's car. Instead of telling her Mom it was in the car, she said the boy stole the phone. When the police came to his door, he searched his car for the phone and found it. He handed it over to the police. The police officer started paging through the numbers to see if he'd used the phone and found nude pictures of the girl, and pictures of people smoking pot. The phone became evidence, and he is being charge with possesion of child pornography and she is being investigated for drugs. So my advice is not to consider doing so, it may end up in the wrong hands and be used against you or him in some manner.
I have a lot of hair that grows on my neck, and it's really embarassing. I usually wax it, but it takes a long time and is pretty painful. I know I shouldn't shave it, so that's not an option. Is there any quick and possibly painless way to remove it where it wont grow back very fast?
Thank in advance
Sally Hansen Makes a facial hair remover cream, it seems to work pretty good. I think it would be gentle enough for your neck also. You can always try a patch and see what results you get, if it's good then do the rest.
im 13 and my brother is 17 and my sister is 20. My brothewr has friends over all of the time and he drimnks with them and my sister joins them. but when I want to join they tell me im too young,its not fair. I mean i dont want to drink or anything but i want to hango out with them and not feel alone and too young, what do I do?
Well, to be honest, they are too young to drink too. The most difficult thing about being 13, is you are at a between stage. Too old or too young. Life is hard at 13 I remember it well. I think you should develop some new hobbies, or join a sport or a club where you can meet friends your own age. Then you can hang out with them and not feel lonesome. You should also tell your parents the way you feel. It would only be right that big brother and sister can take you somewhere or spend time with you a couple of days a week. I know it doesn't help right now, but this will pass.
Well i was thinking in working in a clinic, a childrens clinic, its a walk-in, and takes appt. but they are open from like 6-8
so i think that would be perfect
could i start off at someplace like that
It's possible yes. If that is what you will be happy doing, go for it. Most Dr's are going to prefer experienced nurses first, so you might need to gain some hospital experience before you work in a clinic. In addition the day jobs are harder to get,,,and the better hours are the pay off, but you won't get rich doing clinic nursing.
When your pregnant, do you still have periods? What about if you breastfeed?
If there is any bleeding during a pregnancy, it is abnormal and not considered a period. It does not always mean that there will be a miscarriage, but that is something that should be ruled out by a physician.
Just to clarify a few of the things that were posted by others as an answer. The bleeding that occurs in the postpartum stage (immediatly after delivery) is not a period. If the Mother is not breastfeeding a normal menstrual cycle should resume in 6-8 weeks. Breastfeeding does suppress the period yes, so most women will not have a period during this time. The exception would be if the Mom does not nurse on a regular basis, or when she starts to supplement with foods or a bottle. This will cause a change in hormone levels.
The "padded bra" answer and a "little" leaking, sure brought back memories.... and I wish it was that simple! Any mom's on here who have given birth and breastfed or not, knows that the 'let down' reflex is a powerful thing. They make nursing pads that are inserted in the bra, but most of the time it still soaks through. Sometimes it litterly runs out!
Just so you know, women can get pregnant again during the time that they do not have a normal period, either postpartum and or during breastfeeding.
i see your a nurse. I'd like to know about the schooling for that?
I want to be a pediatric nurse and just work with children . 0-18 that is.
I wanna know everything you gotta tell me thanks!
Great! I am glad to hear from someone who wants to choose nursing as a career. There's a lot of opportunities out there, but you must be prepared to work all different shifts, long hours and weekends at an entry level. The older nurses (like me) often move on to managment positions. Usually one takes all the regular nursing classes, and then specializes in the area of their choice through on the job experience and continuing education. There's really too much to tell so I will give you some links where you can research this career. Best of Luck!
http://www.discovernursing.com/jnj-sectionID_3-dsc-section.aspx
http://www.choosenursing.com/options/index.html
http://www.nursingworld.org/nursecareer/
Hai i am 21yrs old my foreskin is not opened.
is there any problem with the foreskin?
Please tell me how to make the foreskin to go back and to make galas to look out?
my penis gets erect when in pleasure it sizes upto 4inches to 4.5inches rock hard.
Is there any problem with the size of the penis with the foreskin?
tell me how to enlarge the penis.
Please answer to me
You didn't mention if you are circumsized or not, that information is important, but I will tell you about both things here anyway.
If you are not circumsized this condition is typically called phimosis. It is because the foreskin has become adheared or (attached) to the glans.
If you are circumsized this can be caused from adhesions, meaning two raw edges (the foreskin and the glans) grew together.
Typically both of these conditions can be caused from lack of hygiene. The foreskin should be retracted and cleansed daily. Sometimes it occurs in infancy because parents don't know that this should be done. Other causes are due to type 2 diabetes in adulthood, but don't panic, it's not likely that is what it is from. I am just giving an example here.
The adheared foreskin will only extend so far with an erection and could quite possibly affect the appearance of the size. The potential for full length is there, but is restricted by the foreskin.
The best advice is to see a urologist and he can explain what can be done. He may suggest a circumcision or repeat circ...which ever. This can be done under anesthesia, but there will be some pain during recovery which can be treated with medication. You need to weigh the benefits and risks with the Dr.
my boyfreind are thinking about sex. and we know we are both ready for it so please dont say anything along the lines of "you might not be ready".
but anyways. we are going to be safe about it. but my boyfreind doesnt want to buy condoms, he just thinks its embarssing. and isnt that supposed to be the guys job?
I agree with a couple of others on here, birth control is the responsibility of both partners. The only choices are "no sex" "pregnancy" or being "embarrassed" for 10 minutes...
ok...well there's this guy right...he is soooo nice 2 me! We even wen't out 4 like a month.
But my best friend started talking 2 me saying stuff like"oh you and bryan don't even make a good couple...not that i like him or anything but he`z just 2 ugly 4 you and it's not that i like him" and stuff like that.So then like 2 weeks ago we broke up.He still likes me and want's to give it another try but i don't know if i want 2=/
It's like hes a great guy and i love him but it dosen't feel like love love more like friendship love or something...i don't wanna hurt him and i know my "best friend" likes him because she would always be jelous when i talked about him.Bryan keeps asking me y we broke up but i dont know what to tell him i mean i can't just say oh because my friend likes you....but then i think maybe they can love each other......altough it kindah makes me a lil well let me say ALOT jelous lol.What do i do???
Why would you be jealous if you only love him as a friend? Your best bet is to allow them to be together and be happy...because that's what we should want for friends. Tell Bryan you can't love him like you should because you think of him like a friend. He apparently is not the right person for you if you broke up with him. Give it some time and you will find the right guy that will be all yours..and yours only, because your friend will be occupied with Bryan.
what do cramps feel like. i havn't had my period yet. i think it may be coming soon, i have arm pit hair, hair "down" their, and some what breast development. so i need to know what cramps feel like, when i should be expecting to get those cramps and where exactly are the cramps?
thanks soooooooo much
Not everyone has cramping before or during their period, so don't automatically expect to have that as a sign.
Sometimes it feels like a dull ache in the lower abdomen, or it feels similar to gas pains--but usually lower (about four inches below your belly button). You may just feel more tired than normal, or your legs and back could ache instead of having cramps. Or if you are one of the lucky few, you will have no symptoms of an approaching period at all.
um im 14/f, && my boyfriend just started fingering me. sometimes he fixes his boxers because of well ____ something. anyways, im scared if he was doing it too me, and somehow when he fixed his boxers he may have gotten some sperm on it and then when he fingered me, he got me pregnent, only because i dont have my period, and i was due a week ago, and also i feel sick alot lately. PLEASE help, im begging you. im really really nervous. please help im really scared.
It is possible that you got pregnant in the manner you have described, although the chance will be lower than if you had actual sex. Since your period is late, buy a home pregnancy test and find out for sure. If it's negative at least your worry will be over and your period will probably start very soon. If it is positive, your next step is to see a Dr.
One of my molars Are chipping & it has a hole like right in the middle and another hole right next to that one.
I brush my teeth about 3-4 times a day.
Is this something i should go to a dentist for?
And do they pull teeth for situations like this. because i broke a diff tooth ( it didnt look like this one does) a few years ago with my toothbrush & he had to pull it.
If you need to know im 17 f
Yes, this is something you should go to the dentist for, and you shouldn't wait. If the hole in your tooth hasn't allowed decay or bacteria into the root, the tooth should be able to be repaired with a filling. If you wait, and it continues to get deeper, a root canal and a crown may be needed. You don't want to end up with an infection of the root, because this will affect the nerve in the tooth and cause extreme pain. In addition, people have been seriously ill, and even died from an abscessed tooth!
The dentist will probably talk to you about prevention, but you may want to ask him about brushing techniques. If you brush too often and too hard--you could be ruining the enamal on your teeth which will cause them to be more fragile than normal.
im going to be sixteen in 3 weeks.
ive been wit h my boyfriend(17) a long time. and well you know were teens we party and drink. one night it got outta hand and we had sexual intercourse, the condom broke.
here are the signs that im pregnant::
firm breast.
moody.
bloated.
hungry.
frequent urination.
cramps.
spotting.
im really scared because i havent gotten my period yet either.
what should i do.
It would have been helpful to say when your period was due, or when the last one was. I'm surprised that someone else didn't pick up on this, but feeling bloated, cramps and spotting are not normal signs of a healthy pregnancy. They are all signs of your period approaching though. If your period is late (depending on your cycle--but usually they are 28 days apart)You need to take a home pregnancy test. If it's positive do not wait to see the Dr. Go to ER if you can't get into the Dr's office right away. Cramps and spotting could indicate a serious problem. Others may not agree with this, but I have a lot of experience in this area and am giving you sound advice. In addition..you said you "party and drink" If by chance you are pregnant..please stop doing those things.
sorry if this is long but i really need advice ok i live with my dad, and i need to get bras, i need/want a cupped bra, but
1. i don't know wat size i am and i dont know how to figure it out.
2. and i dont know which 1 would be right for me
i would like to have 1 regular sports bra, 1 regular cupped bra, and 1 sports bra that is sorta cupped. how many bras do you think i should need? how do i get those bras with my dad?
as much advice as possible plz help me!! thx
Try this link http://www.blooberry.com/bformfaq/measure.html
The advice about going to JCPenney is good...the ladies there will certainly help you. Perhaps you can tell your Dad that you need to go shopping for "girl stuff" and would be embarassed if he was in that department with you. If he won't leave you in the store alone, at least he might go to another department while you shop for these "personal items".
I have a cut high on the bridge of my nose that will not heal because it keeps getting iritated when i exercise or my glasses rub on it a little. i really have tried everything. Liquid band, vit e. I have not sure how to get the skin strong enough not to get cut. Any ideas?
I think the best thing you can do is use a clear occlusive dressing called Tegaderm. You will only need to change it every 3-4 days, it sticks really well and will protect your cut from the friction of your glasses. You may use sissors and trim the dressing to size before you peel off the backing. This dressing will not be noticable either..which is a nice benefit if it has to be on your face.
i burn my face realy bad like i cooked off 4 layers of skin out of 7 it kills and i put stuff on it to make it better but it makes it hurt worce my skin is realy gross so i was wondering will it get back to normal befor school and thats in a little over a month. is there anyway to make it heal faster because im always crying because it hurts soOOooOOO bad
If you are in a lot of pain because of this, and of course worried about how you look when school starts. My advice is to see a doctor. There is a prescription burn cream that will help heal the skin at a much faster rate than anything you can buy over the counter.