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My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.


I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

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im 15 (girl) and my boyf is turning 19 in december...
i have no idea what to get him... any ideas??

You can make him a mix CD. You can get him cologne, a new shirt or two, picture frame with a picture of the two of you in it, gift cards, a book he wants, a CD he wants. You can bake him cookies or cupcakes.


-Laura (17-f)

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How do u make your bust size bigger..lol i have a silly question that i need answered..ok...here we go...one of my boobs are way bigger than the other and im scared i have a problem please email me at jennifer_jeanelle@hotmail.com or pink_starburst2004@yahoo.com

thanx

You. Cannot. Make. Your. Breasts. Bigger.


I don't know when you little girls will figure it out, but there is no way to make them bigger.


-Laura (17-f)

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Hi, I'm 14 and I have a problem...my boyfriend is really really short and I'm rather tall, I'm about 6 inches taller than him. Everyone at skool makes fun of us whenever we're together all all the stuff. And he sucks at kissing. My friends have told me to break up with him because of our height difference, but I'm very close to loving him. I like him alot and I really don't wanna break up with him, but I don't know if I can stand the jokes anymore. What should I do? And is it true that shorter guys have big dicks?

Just because your friends say to break up with him doesn't mean you should.


Just because you're taller than him is NOT a reason to even consider breaking up with him.


If you really, actually WERE close to loving him, you wouldn't let something like height get in the way. Part of true love is accepting the other person's flaws, and loving them regardless of their physical appearance.


Don't break up with him if you like him. Your friends suck for making you consider it. Just because he's short doesn't mean he's not a great guy. It's really not a big deal, or at least, it shouldn't be.


-Laura (17-f)

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okay soo im going out with this guy and hes soooooooo hot and really nice!! but theres this other guy whos on aim a lot more and hes really nice and really cute too and i kinda like him but i worked really hard to get my bf to be my bf! i have no idea wat to do!! plus the other guy is moving out of state most likely by the end of the summer and that made me like him even more!! i have no idea wat im doing HELP ME!!

I almost don't think you should be with either of them.


You see, when you started your question, you said "okay soo im going out with this guy and hes soooooooo hot and really nice!!" You didn't say anything along the lines of, "I like him a lot and I'm really glad we're together." To me, that implies you're not really into this guy or the relationship. I feel like you're more into the fact that you have a hot guy to show off, rather than a boyfriend you have genuine feelings for.


But if this guy is moving, I wouldn't try anything with him. Long distance relationships suck, trust me, I know.


-Laura (17-f)

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Okay, here goes it. I'm in marching band. Band camp has started, I love it, it's my life. I know I can count on any single person in the band. They're like my second family. I spend everyday with them during the school year and three weeks of summer with them, getting sweaty & muddy & nasty. It's an amazing opportunity, if one person in the band is upset, the entire band is, we have parties in the guys locker room before our home meets. It's amazing, I can tell anyone of them my problems & I know they will understand & give me amazing advice to fix it. so my question is: with a tight nit relationship with everyone in the band do you think it will be possible to start a deeper relationship (boyfriend girlfriend) with one of them? See, I'm falling for our drum major. I wasn't to close to him to begin with, we run in complete different social circles. However, seeing him direct us with the passion he has for music made me see the different side of him that I'm starting to like. Yes, we do talk, little sentences but not like 1 on 1 time, which i barely ever get him in seeming as he is always on the ball doing something to help the band in any way possible. What do you think I should do?

I think you should make more of an effort to talk to him. Get his phone number, and text him after band camp.


I think that sharing a passion for music will DEFINETELY help your potential for a relationship. Just get to know each other more and see where things go :)


-Laura (17-f)

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16/f

so me and my boyfriend had sex, and the condom didn't break.. it just leaked out from the bottom. and it got around my vagina... can i still get pregnant from that? and if i take after pills, would that help stop the pregnancy?

i know i know, i learned my lesson... i regret it.. but me and my boyfriend are awfully scared at the moment, i told my sister and she said if my mom found out then we're moving and i can't see my boyfriend away, and that if i want an abortion, then i'm going to have to pay for it myself for 300 dollars. and that i'm on my own. and he's telling his mom to help me get after pills. but i know one thing's for sure, i'm staying off sex for a long while. please help me!

If you HAD SEX (regardless of whether or not you used a condom and/or if it leaked/broke/tore/etc), you CAN be pregnant.


Sex = pregnancy.


-Laura (17-f)

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What is your favourite type of pizza?

Deep dish with extra cheese. I'm from Chicago, so deep dish (Chicago style, of course) is really the only way to go ;)


-Laura (17-f)

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what does bj and hj mean?

HJ = Hand job.
BJ = Blow job.


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-Laura (17-f)

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So I am 20 and crazy about my best friend. He knows I like him, and he admitted that he has feelings for me too. Unfortunately he has a girlfriend. He was having serious problems with her though and kept telling me he was going to break-up with her. We weren't planning on dating when he broke up with her....at least not right away.
I was talking to him today and he said things were going a lot better with her, and now they probably wont break up.
So I am totally bummed now. I just feel like crying. How do I get over him?

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=564711


I hope that helps you feel better.


-Laura (17-f)

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hi i'm in love with a girl but my friends keep telling me to stop liking her cuz i'm a girl.so wa to do?

Forget what your friends say. If they were real friends, they would support you. Whether you love a boy or a girl or a zebra.


-Laura (17-f)

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my boyfriend and i just broke up after 9 months, i broke up with him.

well before i dated my boyfriend my ex and i dated for 8 months and i broke up with him to, and he was devestated and i know he really loved me and he was heartbroken for months and i told him it was because i just wasn't feeling it anymore but i was.. i left him because i was scared to get my heartbroken because i honestly loved him and ive had my heart broken before that and i couldn't stand to have it happen again and so i guess i broke up with him before he could brake up with me, but i don't know why because i know he loved me and wouldn't have broken up with me, we never had one fight the whole 8 months we dated well now im single and so is he and we've been talking again and i want to be with him so bad but i dont know if he would ever date me because of what i did and i told him it was because of other reason why i did it and not because i was scared i mean i was 16 and in love and it like.. just scared me because i was so young im 17 now almost 18 and i dont know i feel like im ready to love again it sounds corny i know but its just how i feel, how do i talk to him about this? im afraid to say i want him back because i dont know how hes going to react and i dont know, does anyone have any advice?

I think that if it's still eating away at you and you still have feelings for the boy, you need to tell him. I think you need to tell him the TRUTH, and not make up reasons as to why you broke up with him.


Life is WAY too short to not take chances and risks once in a while. Why sit around wondering what could've been, what would've been and what should've been, when you can answer all of those questions and then some by being honest and telling a boy how you really feel about him?


-Laura (17-f)

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ok so i started gettin my peirod when i was like 12. im 14 now and i have never had sex but my peirods stopped. what does that mean?

When was the last time you got your period? Like Christina said below, the first few years, you will be really irregular and all over the place. But it should start becoming regular after the first 3 years or so.


-Laura (17-f)

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We are expecting our first child and need baby name help. My husband and I have chosen not to find out the sex of our baby until he/she has been born. We have some names we like, but we aren't 100% sure on any of them. We thought maybe someone could suggest some that they really enjoy and let us know what they thought about some of ours.

Baby names we like so far...

Baby boy names:
Michael David
John Patrick
James Paul
David Austin

Baby girl names:
Grace Anne
Madison Faith
Anna-Claire
Elisa Grace

Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

We like sweet, old-fashioned names, and traditional names mainly.

Thank you.

I like David Austen the best from your boys list, and I like Madison Faith and Elisa Grace best from your girls list.


As far as other names, I like:


Boys:
- Christian.
- Ian.
- Dylan.
- Connor.


Girls:
- Hayden.
- Noelle.
- Jacqueline.
- Lily.



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-Laura (17-f)

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19/female. my best friend is 18/m

i have a lot of love for my best friend!

we've been friends for like 6 years now.

i have a crush on him too =p

but anyways! how can i tell him that i like, love him. i'm not IN love with him, but i love him as my best friend!?

i don't want to just say like "i love you" because that will probably come off wrong to him.

i hope you guys understand!

Jack is absolutely right. Heck, I tell Jack I love him sometimes, but that doesn't mean I'm IN love with him.


I don't think it's a big deal if you say it in a friends way. It's actually kind of nice (to me, at least) when my friends tell me they love me (in the friends way, of course.) But like Jack said, if you mean it romantically, I wouldn't just spit it out at him.


-Laura (17-f)

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Okay, my boyfriend of almost 3 months, he's kind of my first kiss, but not. because I don't count my first, since it was 2 seconds with my ex, I hated it, and was pretty much forced into kissing him. The first time I kissed my boyfriend, he didn't pressure me, knew about what happened with my ex and like, it was amazing. I was about to leave his house and i asked hi what he was thinking about, he said, "you." and i said, "what about me?" and he replied with, "just you." then i said, "what do you want?" and he said, "I want to kiss you." then he lifted up my chin up and kissed me. it was always how i wanted my first kiss to be :] [technical first kiss haha] then i got up and so did he and i put my arms around his shoulders to hug him and he kissed me again, then he picked me up and kissed me in the air. hahaa, it was amazing :] but anyways so we hung out again and we cuddled on his couch and just layed around. so like he kissed me again and kept kissing me, and like, I couldnt help but smile or laugh/giggle afterwards, he just makes me so happy. so he goes, "you're so weird :]" [when i was laughing after like each kiss] hahaa and i was like, you're weird too, thats why we're compatible with eachother hahaa :] and like.. we dont liek make out with tongue, i know he wants to, but im scared. but we dont just peck either, its like kissing without tongue hahaa. if you get what i mean, and when i turn my head to stop kissing, he always kisses my sheek and forehead a gazillion times :] :] so here are my questions..

1. is it bad that I laugh and smile and giggle after we kiss..?
2. uhm, i dont know what to do about the kissing, because I'm freaked out by the tongue thing, i dont think i'll know what to do, it seems scary and what if i find it gross ? hahaa.
3. when we kiss, i know im breathing, but it feels like im not ? hahaa is that weird too ?
4. how do i know if he liked the kissing ? and how do i know he's thinking about it as much as i am ? haaaha.

okay well thats about it, oh im 16/f by the way, and hes 16/m. thanks so much in advance!!

1. No. It's totally normal. Most girls do it.

2. It's not gross. But if you're not comfortable with it, don't do it. I'm sure he'll understand if you tell him that you want to take things slow.

3. I've never really paid attention to this when I'm kissing a guy. I don't think I get that feeling, but it's probably totally normal. Haha :)

4. He'll be smiling after it and he'll want to do it again.


-Laura (17-f)

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Hi guys, my friend (girl) is turning 16, and is having a party. What are some good cheap birthday gifts? We are friends, but not best friends if you know what I mean, so I would like something not pricey at all. Something under 20 dollars...under 15 if possible. 10 dollars would be great haha. Thanks!!!

Gift cards.
New tote bag.
Sunglasses.
Picture frame.
A book.
A CD.


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You can always just give her the money, too.


-Laura (17-f)

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I saw something on TV talking about how hot this Lollapalooza in Chicago was this year. It was crazy because they were saying how the summer festival still went on in Chicago's Grant Park even though the heat was pretty bad in combination with the humidity. I was just curious if anybody knew how hot Chicago was during the Lollapalooza festival?

A ton of my friends went, and they said it was HOT. I was at work (in the suburbs about 45 minutes outside of the city) and I was sweating disgustingly because we have no air conditioning.


Chicago gets hot during the summer, really hot. And like you said, the humidity makes it even worse.


-Laura (17-f)

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I have a little bit of acne on my face and I want a good acne wash to get rid of it. I don't want something over-drying or anything though that will cause my face to lose that glow I have :)

Any suggestions?

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=568739


There you go :)


-Laura (17-f)

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my boyfriend sent me a text saying, "btw really random but you have the sofest lipes ever created"

... hahaa so is that good ?

Yes. That's a compliments. Compliments = good.


-Laura (17-f)

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my boyfriend and i's one year annivarsary is ina week and im not sure what to get him. i have $70 left to spend. i was thinking about getting him a guitar but i cant find a cheap yet good one. shud i get him that or somethin else? he does concerts and is amazing at many different instruments so i dont wana get him a beginners one. i also wanted to customize it, like write on it or draw since he loves my art but what shud i write? we really love eachother and he goes threw soo much for me just an example, i have had cancer and ben hospitalized so many times for bein psycho and it hurts him so bad as hes ben with me threw it all.. we're both 15 nearly 16

Thanks for inboxing.


I think a guitar would be cool if that's what he really wants. But, if you're on a tight budget, I think you should just get him some small stuff instead of one big thing that might not be of the best quality, you know?


Or maybe you can start by making him a mix CD that has songs that remind you of him/his favorite songs/etc.


Then you can get him concert tickets to go with it. Or maybe instead of the tickets, you can get him a really plain picture frame with a picture of the two of you, and you can decorate the frame with song lyrics or something? :)


If you do go with the guitar, though, then you can write song lyrics on it. Maybe from his favorite songs, or cute love song lyrics. If you need love songs, let me know and I will totally hook you up ;)


Hope this helps!


-Laura (17-f)


EDIT:
I think a song you wrote would be awesome! It would be personal, and one of a kind.


As far as actual love songs go:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=545691\


:)

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