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I'm Jessie. I've been on here on and off for about 7 years. I'm 22 :) I am currently in my final year of college studying English and new media I'm from Ireland I dye my hair way too much. I've been blonde,brown,brown with blonde,black,red,and blonde again!I love helping people I found advicenators when I was just 15 and didn't understand the world! I feel I have matured with this site. The people on here are amazing and I love coming on here in my spare time to be there for people in need. I won't tell you what you want to hear because that's not advice it's just fooling yourself. I try to help in whatever way I can I try not to judge and try to relate to a situation if I can. :) If you don't like honesty then you won't like my advice.
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hey so i'm that girl who asked you all those questions about getting back together with my boyfriend over the summer and going on vacation with him. (we started dating aug. 11.2008 broke up april 26th 2009 then started going back out july 20th 2009 and now broke up again november 27th 2008 :/)
okay so tonight he dumped me. again. i can't sleep, i can't eat, and theres this huge hole in my heart. i told myself i would never get this attached but its too late, because i am. it is impossible for me to get over him....three months wasn't enough i feel like its going to be longer this time if we don't end up getting back together.
he said he broke up with me because he feels like i contribute way more in the relationship than he does and he feels like its not fair to me. but then he said he loves me and cares about me and doesn't know what to expect after we break up....i said to him "i want to be sure this is what you want because i'm not coming back this time"....he said "yeah i know..id be a jerk to ask you out again" he said that ill always have an effect on him because its the first love kinda thing with both of us.
its really weird too because like a week ago he was telling me how the first time we broke up he was a mess and thought of me every night thinking that it would go away but it didn't for 3 months. so he asked me back out and things were good but then he said that he felt like he didn't want to hang out with me sometimes and wanted to be with his friends but thats understandable because i do too. ugh i know i said i wasn't coming back, but deep down i know i am if he will....im so crazy abot this guy....
and one more thing, everytime he says "i love you" like a couple months later we break up....i've mentioned this to him and he seems afraid of it...he says he meant it and i'm positive that he meant it becase i can tell especially the way he looked into my eyes but he says he doesn't want to be like an old married couple already and i think the words "Ilove you" remind him of that.
what do you think is the best way to play it so we can get back together? should i tell him all of this? he said he wanted to try the friends thing so we can hang out after a little awhile. but we hung out last time we broke up by ourselves and we ended up getting back together...he said he wanted to start hanging out in groups first though so that doesn't happen...but i secretly want it to :/ when should i call him/text him? like how long should i give it? i know i should wait until he texts me first but he told me to let him know when i'm ready to hang out again. this is seriously the hardest thing i've ever been through.
i want him back so badly. im trying the best i could to stay positive but things aren't going so well. i'm so in love and this is eating me from the inside out. i want him back. i know he loves me. he's just so confused and he has family problems going on at home (his mom is cheating on his dad overseas) and i want to be there for him i love him so much and i honestly think he's making a hugee mistake. how do i get him back? please help :(
Hey there so sorry for the long wait I was busy with my christmas exams ugh.
Anyway Im also sorry to hear about you and your boyfriend :( break ups are the hardest thing ever I know.
Okay first thing Il say to you is you cant be living in the past things happen and people change and grow apart it sucks so much but its something that we have to learn to accept and live with sooner or later.
Ok so you guys broke up the first time and you asked was there a chance you could make another go and I said yes because from how you described things it did seem possible and hey it happend,but I hate to say it and I know its the last thing you want to hear but do you really want to put yourself through all that again not knowing if it will last? trying so hard to make things happen that are supposed to naturally? like you said and he said the spark is lost more often then not people never get that back but you should try look at it positively and think well at least I got it back for a while.
at the moment there are differences between you,he obviously has major commitment issues and thats the problem. He cant seem to make up his mind which in the long run isnt fair to you at all..you said to him is he sure because your not coming back..you have to stick to that.
I know how hard it is trust me ive been in a position where i kept going back too.
you dont want to give off the impression to him that he can have you break up with you then have you again so you HAVE to stick to it.
so basicly what I really think in all of this is that its time to live,and let go. I know exactly how you feel in all what you said some days it nearly kills inside and all you wanna do is curl up in a ball and cry and think about the good things. but what good is that realisticly? its stopping you from living and having a good time,enjoying life.
youve gone through alot with this guy and for the momment I would strongly advice you to stick to your guns stay strong and keep trying every day to move on,I know it doesnt feel like it right now but each day gets easier and the pain eventually does pass just keep yourself busy and distracted.
If youve tried twice already and he still has trouble commiting after he says I love you how can you be sure he will ever be ready? your just setting yourself up for an even bigger fall the next time think about it.
Dont waste all your engery in a relationship thats not giving the same amount back its not worth it no matter how much you love him right now.
Again there is the other issue of a test and I dont mean to sound judgemental at all here but a solid relationship shouldnt have to withstand tests and your bf shouldnt put you through that,and as far talking to the guy friend they are like us girls believe it or not they will tell everything lol.
so in my opinion its a bad idea.
I really think its time to do your absolute best to get over him no matter how hard you think it is its always do able millions of us girls have had to the same and weve come out the other side ten times stronger :)
hopefully in time youl be able to see him as just a friend,or even maybe when he matures a bit and sorts out his problems and commitment issues you might be together in the future but as for right now id say concentrate on you your friends and fun.
I really wish you the best of luck in this and of course its up to you in whatever you decide to do! this is just from my point of veiw. but please do consider it.
Much
are there any songs, male or female artists, about wanting someone but never admitting it. preferably NOT country, but anythin else is fine:) thanks !
hey there hmm the first one that came to my mind when reading this was
cobie caillat falling for you
heres the youtube link I loved this song when I first heard it because it was ideal for my boyfriend and I's situation before he asked me out I felt this.
I hope it relates :) let me know what ya think!
Much
i have a really big crush on a boy in the year above me in scool and he knows that i have liked him for ages, but yesterday i founout he had a girlfriend who is like 17/18 or somehing an he is only 14, its preety obvious he dont like me the way i like him. and now i really wont to stop loving him because it gets me down all the time an to be honest ive had enough, but i cant stop loving him, my heart just wont let but i really wont to stop an give up on lads for a while becasue they really annoy me sometimes. what should i do? please help. :(
hey there :)
ugh I understand exactly where your coming from as do many other girls id say. we all have gone or have to go through this at some stage its never nice when a guy you like has a gf.
Its good that you want to try get over him now it takes some people so much longer. you say you want to give up on guys for a while which will help you even more. ok so heres what I think you should do is do your absolute best to keep busy and stop thinking about him,any time you do distract yourself with some other activity.
also go out with your friends more and have fun just being young careless and single :) concentrate on all the other great things in life and before you even realise it youl suddenly wake up one day and have no feelings for him and trust me that feeling makes you never stop smiling :)
im not saying its going to be really easy theres days when youl feel crap and it will be hard but do your best to stay perked up and positive the trick is time really.
but yes I thinking moving on is definately the best way forward you dont want to be sitting around depressing yourself over one guy that you hope will one day realise he likes you. unfortuntely for a lot of us life doesnt work that way :(
so just surround yourself with friends and keep busy with things to do and maybe then youl feel like you want to be around guys again and meet one who deserve and likes you back :)
Hope I helped much
Can anyone tell me some code thing for putting pictures as captions on myspace? I tried but I can't figure it out.
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heyy there :)
I think this website should help it has heaps.. :)
http://www.cherrybam.com/myspace-picture-captions.php
hope I helped
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So I've liked this kid, let's call him Chris, for about three months. I talk to him every day in math class, and we seem to get along pretty well. Last night, there was a dance at my school. A girl, call her Melissa, was dancing all slut-like with him (and pretty much every other guy). At one point, they were next to me dancing said dance. While they were dancing, I glanced over at Chris and he was looking right at me. We made eye contact for a few seconds, and I know I should have held it longer, but I'm shy, so I looked down and away. This happened again about a minute later. To me at least, it wasn't normal eye contact. It was probably just a normal glance for Chris, but it made me catch my breath and when I think about it I get a warm feeling in my stomach. But could it mean anything that he was looking at me while he was dancing with another girl?
hey there :)
ok I can completely relate to this as Im sure many other girls can who have been in similar situations it happens us all at some stage or another.
anyway what I would say to you is simply this you really like the guy right?
eye contact for more then a second doesnt usually happen unless two people are initally attracted to one another so id say its safe to guess yes he may have feelings for you he may not. but the only way to know for sure is to get to know him & talk to him more and more establish a deeper friendship read signs carefully and flirt like theres no tomorrow :) then once youve worked up the courage tell him how you feel youve got nothing to loose and a whole lot to gain. think of that way its always scary but we have to face it sooner or later :)
as for this other girl you said shes quite slutty I wouldnt be worried. girls like that never go far. He probably saw it as nothing more then a dance..hes a guy after all arent they all nearly like that lol? so dont over anaylise that girl too much. just get in there and make sure no one else does first if hes giving you butterflies he sounds worth it :)
anyway I hope I helped in any way at all thanks for inboxing :) anymore please feel free to ask,
Much
okay so, boy crisis.. last night i was with my boyfriend and we were umm, awkward sorry, being intimate lets just say, and well obviously i wasnt completely paying attention to what he was saying but then all of a sudden i heard, or at least i thought i heard him say "i love you" so i was like 'omg omg omg' in my head and said it back, cause well, i kinda do..though i did so rather quietly, but then he said/asked me something random that made me think he didnt actually say it..so now i'm really freaking out for many reasons..
1. did he say it!?
2. if he did, did he hear me or said the random something to avoid the silence and non-response?
3. if he didn't, did he hear me say it, and that's why he said the random something cause he doesn't?
4. i can't just ask him "hey, did you say 'i love you' last night?"
5. did i just completely scew myself over with this!?
heyy there,:)
ok this is an awkward situation! I had a similar experience with an ex we were doing the same and I thought I heard him whisper or mouth i love you,I didnt respond though just pretended I didnt hear,ha ok anyway.
I can see your probably killing yourself replaying what happend and trying to figure it out so I would say to you honestly to avoid the sheer awkwardness of bringing it up just let it go stop torturing your mind over it.
If he said it quietly he probably didnt have the guts to say it out loud yet,so chances are he will say it again,if he didnt say it well then he will say it eventually and if he did great it will happen again :)
look at it that way and just completely put it out of your head unless he brings it up again :)
Hope I helped! dont stress yourself,
Much
i'm 19/female.
i talk really fast .. i don't mean to i just do and i hate it because when i talk i basically mumble then and nobody can understand me. i feel like if i try talking slower i'll feel like a robot or something and people will be like ... why are you talking weird? is there any way to fix this? bascially everything i say, i have to repeat because people are like.. what?
Hey there :)
okay I sometimes have the same problem!
alot of people naturally talk fast,what you need to do is basicly think before you talk so it doesnt all come flying out in one big blurb youd be suprised how much this can help. also people wont think your weird if you talk slower it will be your mind thinking that because youve gone from talking so fast to sudenly slower it will sound weird to you in your head but i promise other people wont think that.
just make sure your not practicly spelling out a sentance. Just relax think about what you want to say and speak clearly to people.
when you repeat yourself people must understand so its all about training your mind before your mouth basicly and getting yourself into the habbit of talking a tad slower.
Thats all the advice I can really give you try doing that and if it doesnt work why not try going to see a speech/langguage therapist? :)
Hope I helped in anyway!
Much
Hello, i am 13 female and i was wondering if there were any household items that can increase pleasure in orgasming without being painful or harmful to me. i do masturbate and feel wierd asking this question... Just something like a comb or stool (just stupid examples) lol or something that can be used? if you could tell me the object and how to use it that would be great. PS: THE ORGASMING IS IN THE CLITORIS SO NOTHING TO STICK UP IN THERE LIKE A DILDO. JUST SOMETHING TO RUB OR SOMETHING... IDK.
-embarrassed thanks!
hey there,
haha k firstly dont be embarassed theese are questions alot of us girls ask from time to time.. the most common one i think people use is an electric toothbrush.. i know that sounds digusting and extremely unhygeinic obviously you wouldnt use it afterwards :P but yea thats one you could try if you have one.
another one ive heard to be good this might sound weird Idk i havnt done it but anyway its if you use ice,itd be extremly cold starting off but i think as it melts its supposed to be very stimulating!
anyway thats all I know of really, hope it helped a bit.
much
i know this sounds stupid but how DO you get a boys attention? I don't mean in a stupid way but in a way that is going to make him want to be around you more. You know what I mean?
Please and thank you!
hey there,
ok firstly its not a stupid question all us girls wonder that at some stage :)
the key.. i know it sounds cliche but seriously be yourself first of all.
and TALK to him more =) dont think your going to get his attention by overtrying and blatantly trying to be someone your not it almost never works and he will se right through it.
just smile at the guy alot bring up a topic of convirsation get talking be flirty..your probably thinking like what on earth would we talk about,well just think about stuff youd talk about with any friend and remember to relax.
be fun calm and down to earth,once he sees all that he will want to be around you more :)
so dont go changing yourself or dressing all slutty or anything like that which some girls do to get attention,in the wrong way never works.
Anyway hope I helped good luck :)
Much
I am 13 female and i want a boyfriend... Or atleast a kiss. Is it bad that i JUST want a kiss and maybe not a relationship YET? But i have no one to kiss. I don't want it to be anyone at school though. And where can i go that's DECENT. I have never been kissed and have never had a boyfriend. Is 13 too young to be kissed? thanx!
Hey there okay I agree with the last answer completely :)
There is soo much pressure on people your age today to have bfs and kiss guys etc. it was the same for me and im 16 now.
My first kiss I think i was 13 or 14 (see how I cant even remember!?)
and I was basicly forced into at a disco it was horrible not a good thing to remember.
Dont put too much pressure on yourself and dont let anyone else do it either.
your still only 13 trust me you have laaaods of time.
start making more friends with guys and devoloping close friendships first then when your not wanting so bad or expecting it to happen thats when it will. you might devolop something more with a guy.
please dont kiss for the wrong reasons or rush into a relationship take your time and enjoy being young have fun cos with all the fun stuff in a relationship it does require a huge amount of effort and time and its not all perfect all the time!
I hope I helped much
if you fell in love with a guy that was your friend and he doesnt want to talk to you after you broke up with them and he calls u a bunch of names that you dont like what do you do?
hey there,
ok break ups are alwayss hard but even more so when you guys were friends first.
I think its clear the relationship didnt end well and its sad that hes treating you like this,but I think its time to throw in the towel.
The least he could do is remain civilised,if this was me Id say ok its time to move on.
I dont know the circumstances of the break up if hes acting this way because u broke up with him well then id say hes just feeling sad and angry and he will probably come to his sense and come back apologising. if it was the other way round well then why would you want anything to do with him?
I would say judging by his behaviour your better off without him in your life at this stage but its hard to say because you have been so brief.
but I hope I did help
much
My sister is 18 years old. I'm 22 years old and recently moved back with my family after college.
She is ruining our lives. We live in a small apartment (It's me, her, my mom, and my brother). Everyday she creates a mess. There are clothes everywhere. She saves trash for some odd reason, which has caused a rat to come inside. I went into our closet and found rat poo everywhere because she had saved old food in there. She was supposed to go to college, but she lied about getting a scholarship there. They wanted us to pay $5,000, which we couldn't afford because we didn't know. We really want her to leave. I'm doubtful she will go to college. She steals stuff from me and my mother. I have things my friends gave me that she destroyed. She totally destroyed an expensive Chanel bag someone gave her. My grandmother passed away and left us a blanket she made, she destroyed that.
The biggest problem is she doesn't realize what she is doing wrong. She thinks she is doing nothing wrong. She gets mad and me and my mother, if we throw her trash away. She really makes everyone in out home mad. She constantly starts fights. We are perfectly happy when she is not home.
We don't know what to do. She won't leave, we can't force her to live on the street. People think she's nice, but they don't realize how much she has ruined our life.
Hey there,
Ok firstly I understand where your coming from and that situation would most likey irrate the hell out of me too but have you and your mom and the rest of your family stopped to see it from her side?
have you ever sat down and had a one to one talk about it with her?ask her why shes doing stuff like that how shes feeling how it makes you huys feel. Because to me it sounds like a cry for help on her part that somethings bothering her and its most likey a cry for attention also.
kicking her out is only going to make the situation 100times worse she is your family after all whether you like or not you have to stick by and support each other and work through the problems.
tell her the behaviour has to stop that its really upsetting you guys then maybe she will start to see what shes doing and open up more..you say she doesnt even realise it sometimes i honestly dont think this is intentional from what youve said.
Im sorry if this isnt exactly the answer you were looking for but I think you guys need to really have an open and honest discussion about this,if you have already and things are still going on like this well then I would give her a warning if she doesnt shape up and pull her weight & stop messing things up then shes gonna have to find somewhere else.
I hope I helped in the slightest,
much
currently, i am in a really good relatioship with my boyfriend. it wasnt always so good, about a year ago he got really mad at me, broke up with me and then somehow his cousin got my number. his cousin started talking to me and soon, i was hooked on him, but more because i just wanted someone to talk to, after my boyfriend ended things but then i got more attached, for bad reasons. he was into drugs and alchohol and i didnt have a problem with that, but for some reason i felt like he needed me, when obviously he didnt. i recently realzied i had to get rid of him once i fixed things with my boyfriend, whose been nothing but supportive in my ventures to stop talking to his cousin.
one night, my boyfriends cousin said something to me that hurt me a lot, i havent told my boyfriend about that night because i know he would do something he would regret. but since that night, three months ago, i haven't talked to my boyfriends cousin. he texts me, emails me, and calls me all the time and i just don't answer. recently i've been feeling like i should explain myself to his cousin, and i have an email saved as a draft explaining how i felt and why i stopped talking to him.
and i was wondering if anyone had any advice on weather or not i should do something like that or what the right thing to do is? some days i feel like i owe nothing to him, but at the same time i feel awful not answering. i just need help, i'll take anything i can get.
Hey there,
Ok firstly you sound alot like me haha I think I would be feeling the same in this situation,I think about the other persons feelings too much sometimes even though they were the ones that hurt me.
Think about if what he said was really so hurtful that you dont want to speak to him or have anything to do with him then dont. dont explain yourself either becuase you shouldnt have to and he should be smart enough to realise..but if hes been apologising to you in the emails and stuff and feeling remorse then maybe consider it but in my opinion he seems like bad news to begin with you dont need somebody being verbally abusive towards you.
If you dont want to talk to him but still feel the need to tell him why,then send the email and include something like I think you know why I havnt spoken to you and if not heres why..then your reasons.
its really your call but if it were me and he said something horrible I wouldnt forgive him unless he was truely sorry and prooved that to me then id give him a second chance.. if hes had chances before then dont.
sorry if it seems like ive mummbled abit,anymore questions please inbox me hope i helped in the slightest good luck
much
idk if i am in love how do you know if you are??? helpp
Hey there okay well this is hard to tell because nobody on here can tell you how your feeling.
you firstly need to determine that for yourself.
The feeling of love is different for everyone.. classic signs are like you get butterflies in your tummy everytime you see him or he touches you, you miss him all the time, you hate him but you love him if he annoys you sometimes,he makes you feel really special and like the luckiest girl ever your always smiling you can never stop thinking about him.when he texts you,you get excited and your eyes light up.
stuff like that generally i know some is a bit cliche but like i said things along those lines I hope i helped, when you love someone you dont have to think about it you just know. :)
Much
My best friend is a freshman in college and I'm a senior in high school. We used to call each other every night and talk for an hour, but now its an occasional text and we have run out of things to talk about, and we are definitely not as close as we used to be. How can I try to fix this and make it work? (both girls)
hey there,
let me firstly say I know exactly how you feel..my best friend moved schools this year even though we live really close I dont see her as much and we texted more when she was in my school!
what you have to do is tell her how you feel you have recognised there is a problem and hopefully she has too and wants to sort things out.
It will require more effort on both your part but you both have to be willing to work at it and make it happen,this is what me and my friend did like we both realised we had no level of communication at all anymore going from being insepersble,its sad but were both so busy with different things.
so what il say to is promise to both see each other on a weekend when shes back home maybe? make things to talk about ask her whats happening and going on with her tell her the same about you sometimes the best way to get back to how you were is talk about old times which gets you both laughing and remembering the good times and youl both soon realise that you dont want to let the frienship go.
If you do all this and really try but it looks like its going no where then I really am sorry to say that I guess your just going to have to accept thats how things are,sometimes friendships fizzle out we just have to remember the fun times and move on.
I hope thats not the case though! & I hope I helped
Much
so i was with this kid for a year. then he went to college and we broke up shortly after, basically because he wanted to be single but he said it was cause i deserved better. we tlked for a little while after we broke up but eventually i told him it was too much and i just needed to stop talking to him for a little while so that i could get over him and be ok on my own. he asked to get back together the other night but said that if we get back together i have to deal with the fact that when he goes out and parties girls are gonna dance on him and grind on him and its just the way it has to be. so i said no and said i dont deserve that and didnt go back to him. so its been a few days and im a complete wreck. its now been two months sense we broke up and i cant get over him. i dont know what to do. no matter what i do, i cant get over him, i cut him out of my life, and i still cried myself to sleep about it every night, and i still missed him everyday. i dont know what to do. i want to get over him, and i want to stop loving him, everyone says it just takes time but its been two months.. i just want it to stop hurting.... help me please.. :(
Hey there,
I agree with the last answer, healing takes time I know you probably feel like its been forever already and each day feels like a year but you have to stay positive and try even HARDER to get over him.
everyone who has a break up goes through the stage where they think im ok im fine im over him and you genuinely believe you are until he comes walking back into your life like that and stirss up those feelings you thought you had long buired trust me been there done that.you were dead right to say no to him you dont deserve that and if he really cared for you he wouldnt allow girls to grind up on him and crap.
what you need to do is just keep yourself busy and distracted whenever he enters your mind avoid it call a friend go shopping call a friend anything. keep going dont let him keep you down and make you cry like that every night start to live your life again enjoy it and have fun. dont let yoursel be stuck in this rush i promise you you WILL stop hurting everyones different it takes some longer then others.
surround yourself with your friends and you will make it out of this :)
I hope I helped ever need to talk or vent and my inbox is always open
much
18/f i got the worst present ever off my bf of 6 months. I actually am so embarrassed by it and my parents thought it was completely wierd. It is a real boyish type thing aswell, its something he likes and i have no interest in at all.
He was so excited to give it to me and i pretended i liked it but i really hate it and i cant even look at it without feeling embarrassed and disgusted. Im pretty sure he wants me to display it but i havent and im not going to. I am so embarrassed. What should i do? just pretend i still like it or tell him and hurt his feelings?
please help.
hey there,
ok this is a tough situation for anyone to be in but it happens to nearly all of us sooner or later.
its very noble and considerate of you to spare your bfs feelings by pretending to like this but you need to think of your feelings and how it hurt you.
If I were you I would tell him in the nicest way possible don't display the item and if he asks why then you start to explain to him that while your sure he had good intentions and everything but you dont paticularly like the present try not to sound selfish or ungreatful let him know you aprciate him and his efforts but you feel this present would be more suited for him and not you and you really have no use for it.,or interest.
im sure he will understand and most definately should apriciate your honestly with him,itd hurt more to find out yould been lying about it,but its totally up to you thats how I would approach it anyway good luck and I hope things work out!
Much
im 15 male and gay and early this year i started at a new school and ive made some friends still getting to know people and i really would like to have a boyfriend i feel lonely sometimes and i would like to find a guy to love and have a relationship and not sure how to go about it i still dont know a lot of people that well yet i really would like to have a boyfriend what can i do?
hey there,okay firstly let me say your totally not the only one to feel like this.
everyone gets those feelings of lonliness where they just want to be with somebody.
unfortunately all i can tell you is to just be paitent,i know everybody hates hearing that but its true good things come to those who wait trust me i know.
okay so you want to find someone well then get to know guys as friends first and establish a friendship and common ground get to know some of the guys in your school more,of course this situation is a little bit more complicated seeing as you have the hard old task of trying to determine if a guys gay or not,but just be open and honest get to know people and the right guy will come your way,just be careful not to come off desperate.
keep yourself busy join some clubs or take up a new hobbie or something you never know where you can bump into people :)
I hope I helped sorry this is all I can tell you!
keep your head up and just make a good surround of friends so you wont feel so lonely when you least expect it thats when it happens.
Much
13/male and recently i started masturbating and the other day i started masturbating in my room i had my pants off and my sister shes 16 just walks in and she caught me i just had my underpants on i was really embarrassed im nervous around hoping she doesnt day anything i worried abou getting caught again what do i do?
hey there,ok you have nothing to worry about this kinda stuff happens aall the time to people at some stage in their lives, my sisters oftern walked in on be sure its a bit embarassing on both parts but its a natural thing and i can almost gauruntee your sister wont want to bring it up she probably just wants to erase it from her mind lol.
me and my sister make light hearted jokes about stuff like that now so just act normal and dont worry and if she does say anything she is only going to tease you about it so brush it off and turn it back on her say something like as if youve never done it :)
anyway hope I helped seriously dont fret,happens everyone
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19 female. i fell for a younger guy. he will soon be 18. whatever, the age difference doesn't bother me AT ALL.
but my problem is that .. he doesn't treat me very well :( i mean he doesnt physically abuse me or ANYTHING like that but he emotionally drains me. he's basically a player and has a way with words urrrgh sucky for me. we are close friends and i think thats just what i want to remain. i think it would be the best for me.. i'd rather be a good friend than just another girl. i didn't even tell him i liked him but i know it shows everytime i see him. i should be upset with him for what he put me through and acting like he "cared" about me more than a friend but he's just one of those guys you cant get mad at no matter what. i want that to change. i hate being SO nice. i'm sick of being stomped all over and beaten down because i'm like that. i always give in. everytime we see each other i fall for him all over again and i give him all the attention.. which is what he loves. he flirts with me tooo .. and its cute but i can't take it anymore. i guess i have a hard time though because i have a flirty personality.. bad. its how i am. i don't know the difference between acting like a good friend or having a crush on someone. how can i just act like a good friend around him without seeming standoff-ish and like i'm ignoring him. i know if he starts flirting with me i will do it back because i also love the attention but i wish i wouldn't. ugh i have a problem. how can i fix this.
Hey there,
okay i think you have literally just described my relationship with this guy dean.
if anyone can relate exactly to how you feel trust me its me.
right so how to fix this,its the worst way but its the best way. simply distance.
thats what i did,i distanced myself from the guy for a while until i was able to see him as just a friend no feelings or anything attached,im not gonna lie it was soo hard at times hed come into my head and id find myself thinking of like the nice times and when he wasnt being a jerk,then hed text me or soemthing to make it worse but the trick is will power determination and time dont let yourself think of him. distract yourself and before you know it youl be over him and litteraly you will just see him as "that guy your friend"and youl have no desire to flirt back with him.
what happend with me is the guy dean didnt like the fact that i wasnt eating out of the palm of his hand anymore,he used to have something over me but it was like the roles and switched and he wouldnt stop chasing after me it felt great it really did.
so theres your answer you dont have to be bitchy and cut off all ties or anything just say you need a little space and use that to get over your feelings for him.
I know this doesnt seem like the best advice but trust me it really does work I hope i was of some help :) and good luck..if you ever need to talk or have anymore questions or just wanna rant about him to me my inbox is always open lol
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