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the right thing to do
currently, i am in a really good relatioship with my boyfriend. it wasnt always so good, about a year ago he got really mad at me, broke up with me and then somehow his cousin got my number. his cousin started talking to me and soon, i was hooked on him, but more because i just wanted someone to talk to, after my boyfriend ended things but then i got more attached, for bad reasons. he was into drugs and alchohol and i didnt have a problem with that, but for some reason i felt like he needed me, when obviously he didnt. i recently realzied i had to get rid of him once i fixed things with my boyfriend, whose been nothing but supportive in my ventures to stop talking to his cousin.
one night, my boyfriends cousin said something to me that hurt me a lot, i havent told my boyfriend about that night because i know he would do something he would regret. but since that night, three months ago, i haven't talked to my boyfriends cousin. he texts me, emails me, and calls me all the time and i just don't answer. recently i've been feeling like i should explain myself to his cousin, and i have an email saved as a draft explaining how i felt and why i stopped talking to him.
and i was wondering if anyone had any advice on weather or not i should do something like that or what the right thing to do is? some days i feel like i owe nothing to him, but at the same time i feel awful not answering. i just need help, i'll take anything i can get.
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Hey there,
Ok firstly you sound alot like me haha I think I would be feeling the same in this situation,I think about the other persons feelings too much sometimes even though they were the ones that hurt me.
Think about if what he said was really so hurtful that you dont want to speak to him or have anything to do with him then dont. dont explain yourself either becuase you shouldnt have to and he should be smart enough to realise..but if hes been apologising to you in the emails and stuff and feeling remorse then maybe consider it but in my opinion he seems like bad news to begin with you dont need somebody being verbally abusive towards you.
If you dont want to talk to him but still feel the need to tell him why,then send the email and include something like I think you know why I havnt spoken to you and if not heres why..then your reasons.
its really your call but if it were me and he said something horrible I wouldnt forgive him unless he was truely sorry and prooved that to me then id give him a second chance.. if hes had chances before then dont.
sorry if it seems like ive mummbled abit,anymore questions please inbox me hope i helped in the slightest good luck
much <3
Jess 16/f x
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